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Why do guys think it's attractive to gag/choke on their penis? (link)
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To start off, not all guys like this. Secondly, don't be scared off by guys that do. It's not a mean thing, even though it might seem like it at first. Guys don't literally want you to have a bad time or be unable to breathe (unless they are crazy). Most guys that say they want you to choke on their penis because they are getting into a mood. The mood that they are looking for is one where they feel like they are in control and that you are trying to do what you can to please them. But, the key point here is that it's a GAME. They don't literally want you to be out of control and feeling awful. It's a bit of acting, just to make the guy feel like he's in charge even though in reality, you are two equal partners. This the type of thing you should find fun yourself. You can't be doing it to please the guy because then the fun is lost. You have to be doing it to PRETEND that all you care about is pleasing the guy. In reality you can enjoy the attention that comes from having someone watch you perform a sexual act on them.
Hope that helps.
Your pink pal,
Miss Piggy
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My name's Melisa im 15 and my best friend jose is 16. We have been friends for seven years and im starting to like him. Last year i told him and he didnt feel the same way. Now i really like him and he always holds my hand, we walk each other to class and we always make each other laugh. Im confused weather he likes me or not. We are really close and cant go on without each other. Does he like me? Im afraid to ask him because i dont want to get rejected again. (link)
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You can ask him again if he is sure that he does not want a relationship. If he doesn't it is quite possible that he is homosexual. A guy that will hold your hand but not do anything else? He is probably into guys. But still, try and see if he is into you. If not, enjoy the friendship.
Your favourite Muppet,
Miss Piggy
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Ok so I have became and extremely needy girl towards the guy I love we have only been a thing for like 4 months in the beginning everything was good then i took things way too serious i text him all the time and always ask him if we can hang out... he knows he has me whenever he wants so he takes advantage of it..if i back off and stop texting him and let him make the moves will this keep him more intersted? (link)
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Believe moi, all relationships go through this phase. You need to figure out what compromises you two can make for your relationship. Some people need more space than others. I personally need less space and my frog needs more space, so I understand how you are feeling. It sucks to be the person who needs less space because it makes you feel needy! But don't worry, you are not needy, you are just a person who likes to socialize more than your boyfriend does. Also, if he doesn't want to see you as much as you want to see him, you might begin to feel as though he doesn't care about you as much as you care about him. But, don't worry, he's probably just a person who likes his space.
Talk to to your boyfriend about how much space he needs. Ask him how often he would like to hangout, talk, text, etc. Listen to the answer. Then come to a compromise. If you want to see him every day, but he wants to see you every week, try to see each other a couple of times a week. If you like texting all the time, but he doesn't try to send each other a good morning/good night text and then cool it during the day.
Compromises like this are very important to a good relationship.
Don't invade his space. Likewise, he needs to be more attentive to your need for contact.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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Should I let my wife have a threesome with another man (link)
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Not if you are asking the question.
Make sure you are 100% comfortable before you say yes to anything like that.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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He has a baby on the way by a girl he got pregnant before we set boundaries and he has had money issues and i helped im with him every night and im happy but i just feel,for myself, i need that commitment especially before the child gets here to feel that security and have that commitment..i deal with a lot dating him and this situation and i feel i deserve at least that...but i dont want to feel im forcing anyone to "be" with me..although im always with him, his family knows about me, etc...do i wait it out or stand my grounds about having his all or nothing...
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Stand your ground. Have a conversation with him about commitment. Don't let him string you along.
Toodle-oo,
Miss Piggy
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Hi.I am in a relationship with my guy for almost 9 months.We have our ups and downs but now adays , we've been having our downs only.It's like , we had sex 4 months ago and now , we just don't have a place where we can have it.I am absolutely okay with it , but he's all horny and devastated.We've been having so much fights lately.It's just so bad!I just love him so much and he does too.We end up leaving each other after every fight but we get back together and have a fight all over again.I cannot live without him.I try to fix the fights and they do get fixed but we have a fight all over again.I don't trust him anymore.He describes how horny he is every single day but I can't do anything about it.We don't even have privacy when we meet , it's just public places.So we can't really do anything.And his ex lives near his place , she always pops up out of no where and that girl is extremely horny aswell , he doesn't talk to her much and all but lately he has been talking about her a lot.I try to keep my cool but she sent him a text asking him to go at her place to go get some songs and shit with using all the winking emoticons.So I was like "So go to her place ;)" and he just went like "yeah" an then I was like "Have some good sex with her maybe" and he went like "If I tell her she will do so" and it pissed me off so much!I expected a different reaction but I was like wow!and then I went like "If you're trying to make me jealous think what would you have done if I told you something like that regarding one of my ex" and he was like "I was just telling you what she said" and so I didn't answer his text anymore and he just sent me another text saying "Just dont talk to me if you can't behave properly!" I mean like what the hell?!And so later we fixed the fight and I told him what I expected from him and he just went like "I am devastated and horny but I keep calm and I didn't expect you to ask me things like that , I was shocked" and so I told him that "That doesn't even make sense , I don't even trust you anymore!" and we ended up having a fight again.
I don't know what to do.I love him.Mom knows about us , my cousins know.I don't want us to end.But I don't see any options either. (link)
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Don't be so passive aggressive. Rather than saying things like "So go to her place ;)" or "Have some good sex with her maybe" be direct. Say "I don't want you talking to your ex anymore". Don't try to test guys. In general, they are not very good at catching subtle clues. They will fail the test every time. Instead be clear about what you want. Don't be afraid to say what you mean. The clearer you are, the easier things will become.
As for the fact that you fight, that is the way it goes in relationships. Most relationships with have arguments. This does not mean you need to break up.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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i have been single for almost two years not literally single but i haven't had any serious relationship, its either the guy likes me and i don't or i like him and his not ready, or he has a girlfriend... so i would call it two years of being single since my last relationship i work in a company were i was introduced to a guy. His exactly what i want in a guy. he acts really nice to me, for example when i needed a flash to get movies and i asked his colleague who had offered to give me a flash earlier and didn't latter, he offered his own without my asking, and told me that i could use it for as long as i like, whenever he comes to work he smiles at me and sometimes i catch him staring... i like this guy, but i don't know if he feels the same way, his currently out of the country and would be back next week, i recently found out that he is single.How do i initiate something that would lead to what i want, without seeming desperate. we not so much of friends, neither do we talk frequently and his a very busy person. (link)
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Start by becoming friends. Add him on facebook, like his pictures, invite him to hang out in a group for drinks, etc. Just keep it casual. Then start flirting. Eventually he will probably ask for your number. Wait for him to text you first, and continue with the casual flirting. Eventually he will probably start asking you casual questions to see if you like him such as: What do you look for in a guy? Are you looking for a relationship? Answer these questions honestly, without playing games. You have already shown him your fun side, now you need to show him your serious side. Eventually he will probably get to the million dollar question: Would you ever date a guy like me? Tell him yes. Presto a relationship. You are welcome :)
WARNING: Do not hookup with him before you two are officially a couple. If you do, chances are you will become friends with benefits and not a real relationship.
Trust me. Moi has a charm that is lethal to men.
Miss Piggy
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This is soooo frustrating I can't even . Ugh. My face is the pimpliest 7th grade face you'll see. It's soooo frustrating nothing is working!!!! I am eating about 11/2 -3 fruits a day, exercise 30 min - 2 hrs a day, and getting about 9 hrs of sleep! WHAT AM I DOING WRRRROOOKNG? I have 2 pimples next to each eyebrow ,1 one my chin, a hive on my forehead, and acne across my cheeks. I don't want to be that girl that is gross cause of all this acne. I've tried using tea tree oil once a day and washing my face. I've tried doing fruit blended ice treatments on my face too and NOTHING IS WORKING !!!! My parents won't take me to a dermontoligist bc they have their doctorates degree and r like " just exercise , sleep, and eat right and they'll go Away" well they haven't! And I'm not putting too much stuff on my face cause I've tried not using anything for a while which once again DOESNT WIRK I don't think it's not my hormones bc I haven't gotten my period so WHAT IS IT????? What can I do to treat it (link)
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You need to go to the doctor and get prescription medication. You parents are wrong. Some forms of acne can be treated topically, but others require you to take pills. This is because while some acne is caused from not taking care of yourself, other acne is caused by a hormonal imbalance. This has nothing to do with your period, because it is not the female hormone that causes acne. It is the male hormone. If you have extra testosterone, you are more prone to acne that does not go away without prescription drugs. I know for a fact because I also have acne. And I hate to tell you this, but I have had it from 6th grade up until now, and I am 23 years old. At first I tried the natural route and it did nothing. The only thing that worked for me was prescription drugs. My doctor said this is because I have extra testosterone in my system. He said that the acne occurs due to a testosterone imbalance can only be treated internally (i.e with pills). I started taking acne pills. Now my face looks clear and lovely. But, I have tried going off the medication just to see what would happen and the acne comes back. Some people really do need medication. Your parents are wrong, and I doubt your acne will get better without prescription drugs. Beg your parents for a dermatologist.
In the meantime, keep trying different face masks and stuff. Even if they don't work, they are fun to apply and leave you feeling fresh!
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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So... I have been having this issue going on for some time now. I have been with my boyfriend for a few years and my mom has not liked him for a while. I first thought that it was a phase. Then, I thought she would grow to like him eventually. But, now it is worse than ever. He was away for a few months for something that he needed to do for school. Those months were pure bliss with my mom. I finally remembered what it was like to love my mom again because we weren't butting heads. We were just friends. I'm 23, by the way. I live with my mom and grandparents at the time because I cannot afford to move out. I live in an expensive city and I'm a teacher, so I don't make very much money. I had a plan to move out, etc. when I had some more money just so that I could have peace of mind. But, it's not happening right now... at least for another couple of months. This summer, like I said, my mom and I re-kindled our relationship.
Upon his return, it was like everything I ever saw in him was different. Things that I took as a joke now seemed serious and rude. For instance, today, I was running late or wanted to slightly change our plans and he told me that my mother was a psycho liar and that I should never believe anything she says. PS, he doesn't know how she feels about him. He was just saying so because she was part of the reason I had to change the plans. Then, I told him that we have all had to sacrifice our plans at one point and I gave him the example about how we both left town on my birthday (to the same place) and didn't see each other because he was with his family and I was with mine. He could have chosen to come with me and I could have chosen to go with his family. But, it was my birthday and I wanted to spend it with my family. I was just using it as an example. I wasn't implying anything about it. This was months ago! And he said that it was my fault that he didn't see me because I decided to go with my family. We were in the same city! He could have certainly made an effort to take a cab or even send some flowers to my hotel... i don't know. I'm not saying something huge. Just an effort to know he was thinking of me. I've excused his behavior since I've met him. Now, I look back and see that it wasn't so nice of a thing to do. And before summer, I would have excused this too and say "he's just frustrated." Now I see how quickly his anger escalates and I don't like it.
There have been other situations that have happened in the past. Like, how he got angry at me because I didn't have cash to pay for parking when he had a wallet full of cash. If we've had a difference in political views, he turns bright red in anger and has pushed me away. One time, he was fighting with someone over politics and I thought they were just talking until I walked through the middle to throw something away. They were at a reasonable distance away from each other so it wasn't like I was cutting through them. He got angry both at me and the other person, but grabbed me and bent my thumb to my wrist. It was throbbing till the next day. I have excused it all. It was like I was under some weird spell. And now, I see how wrong it is.
So, this question is going to be broken down into a few pieces. First of all... I wouldn't even know HOW to end it. I feel like I still care. It's not like I'm a ball of fury. It's just that I think that I deserve to be happy. I want to feel loved. And I have felt loved before, so I know the difference. I don't always want to feel scared that I've offended him. And I can only see this getting worse. Imagine... bending thumbs now... how about when we are married? How about by the time we hit a 20 year anniversary? Do you really think it's going to get better? But, it's just hard. It's like I'm not ready... even though I know this is necessary. How can I get over this? What do I do?
Secondly, I have some issues with my mom that need to be addressed too. She turns into a PSYCHO when he's around. When he's not, she's my best friend. When she's around, she wants to throw me out of the house and tells me that she hopes I know that if I'm with him, she will never be a part of my life and she won't want to meet her grandkids. As much as I love my mom, this is unacceptable behavior from a parent. She is in no way providing a safe environment for me to come to her with real issues that a mother is to help her daughter with. Instead, I feel fear. Then, I burst into anger because I get angry at the fact that at 23, I need to live in fear. And then I feel even angrier because if it weren't for financial issues, I would be able to move out. So, it turns into a whole circle.
I don't want to be deciding this for my mom. I just wish someone can extend a hand and just say: "I think this is what you should do." An objective person. Someone who is not in this situation at all. I am crying out for help. Please answer!
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It may well be that even though you love each other, you aren't soulmates. If that is the case, now might be a good time to say goodbye and find someone who is better suited to you. I personally think this might be the best idea, judging from what you have written.
But, if you do not want to break up, the other option is to get him some professional help with his anger issues. Could it get better? Of course it could. People change for the better all of the time if they put their minds to it. It could also get worse, though if he refuses to make any effort to change. You need to talk about this with him.
As for your mother, your relationship is not her business. I suggest you tell her to mind her own business and stop being overdramatic.
Most important of all, I think you need to spend time taking care of yourself. Have a bubble bath or eat some nice chocolate. Treat yourself a bit. You deserve it after all you have been going through.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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This would be a bit long, but I need serious advice...I work in a good company with a guy I met I knew back in school, we hit it off real quick bcos we were attracted to each other, until he told me he had a girlfriend, but that the relationship was on the edge, she lives in a different state, and he said they have communication issues if he doesn't call, she doesn't call. He never told me if he was seriously committed to her. we went out on our first date and it was good and ended up kissing. After two days I thought about it and told him how I felt about him having a relationship and what he was doing with me, I told him that I don't want a situation where I want more and it doesn't work out... we talked about it and then we went on a second date, after the date we ended up making out we didn't have sex, when we finished he called his girlfriend and said "hush! I want to talk to the boo".. I felt so disrespected I was mad I wondered why he would do that right in front of me, so we ended up arguing and not talking to each other for weeks. After that we began talking again this time I stated that I cant hang out with him or do any shitty thing with him and I deserve better and I needed to move on. he would always bug me always wanting us to hang out. we fight every week especially on Fridays, its either he says something disrespectful, and when I react he gets angry and it becomes a quarrel we wont talk throughout the weekend till Monday when he comes to apologise.. This time around I had taken enough he was about leaving, and he begged me to walk him to his car I reluctantly agreed, while we were at the car we started talking normally and he kept bringing up the hanging out thing. I told him I didn't want to go out with him that I needed to move on, and that he has a girlfriend and nothing can come out of what ever we do, then he said well its true and that nothing can separate he and his girlfriend then he asked for my phone and he said that he wants to check my contacts to see if there were other men I could date.. I just took my phone and walked out.. then he sent me a message telling e how rude I was, I told him that he knows I have feelings and he capitalises on it so much on it and talks to me anyhow. I told him that I needed him to stay clear away from me. then he replied saying I should free him, I should never say hi to him or else he would embarrass me, he also said that if he ever comes back to beg me that he is not a man he said I had issues and he was tired of dealing with it. I replied "okay and thank you" its been 2weeks and we haven't talked, I bump into him almost everyday, in the kitchen when i'm there he talks about his girlfriend and how he loves her so much, how she is the only one he spends his money on. everytime i'm there it hurts me so much because I felt so cheap and so easy to get, I should never have hung out with him when he told me he had a girlfriend I should never have kissed or made out with him... what do I do I keep seeing him everyday and the pain worsens please I need an advice (link)
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Right now, your attitude is this: I met a guy who seemed nice. He told me he had a girlfriend, but he said there were problems in the relationship. He seemed nice, so I gave him the benefit of the doubt. I started seeing him and he ended up treating me like shit.
That is what you tell yourself, right?
But there is something wrong with that version of the story: you seem to view yourself as a victim when you are not. You seem to think that this guy misused you, when in reality, you invited his poor treatment into your own life. This situation is no one's fault but your own. I do not say that to be harsh, I say that so that I can help you fix the situation.
You may not know this now, but as a woman, there are always going to be men that are attracted to you. In fact, most men will be attracted to you. These men will come in all shapes and sizes and with all kinds of unique baggage. It is your job as a woman to pick and choose from the men that are attracted to you. From what I understand, you have not been picking and choosing. You just said yes to the first guy that asked you out without thinking.
This is literally what he told you: I have a girlfriend. But you dated him anyway. And now you are upset that he says he loves her and will never leave her? That's not him being an asshole. It's you being an asshole. He told you he was in a relationship and you agreed to be the other woman. Now you are upset that you are not him main girl? He never offered you that position. He never said "Will you be my girlfriend?". He said, "will you see me even though I already have a girlfriend?". He never wanted to date you.
I'm guessing you thought you could manipulate him into leaving his girlfriend. But, I guess you can't. This doesn't make him jerk. If he left her for you, that would make him a jerk.
Your point of view is way off. You need to look at reality. Rather than blaming him for messing things up between you two, blame yourself for volunteering to be the third wheel. Learn from the situation and promise yourself that you will never be someone's fun on the side ever again. You deserve better.
Also, as a woman, you should be ashamed of yourself for causing another woman pain who has done nothing to you. His girlfriend has never hurt you. You have hurt her. You should never speak to him again, not because he is a jerk but because you should regret hurting another woman the way that you have.
The star of the Muppet Show,
Miss Piggy
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I'm 20 and I broke up with my first love a year ago. I loved him with every fibre in my being and did literally everything for him, even if it went against my morals. I spent all the money I had on getting him expensive gifts and I stuck with him, even when he couldn't care less about me. When we broke up because of the fact that he didn't wanna deal with commitment, at this stage in his life, he wasn't upset, not even for a day. It's been over a year and I've been the only one carrying all this pain and I've been holding so much hope that we could get back together, someday. We still see each other and he kisses me and that's what gave me hope that he still likes me. But last night, he told me that he'd never even think of marrying someone like me and that he needs a submissive kind of girl who doesn't pick up on the wrong things he does, like I did.I always picked up on all his lies and everything he hid from me. It hit me all at once, last night that he's been using me this past year and using my vulnerability. I cried in front of him for two hours straight and he kept saying the same things like "You're not my first love so I can't hold that much love for you" and "I told you I didn't want a relationship" "My first made me lose all my emotions" . I don't know why I'm so attached to him or why I'm even this devastated over a jerk like him. I just need someone to talk some sense into me. I worry, that I'll never be good enough for someone. What else can I do for someone to make them appreciate me? I allowed him to cross so many limits of mine and went above and beyond for him, and I get this, in return. How will I expect the next guy in my life to appreciate what I'll do for him and not break my heart again? (link)
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This is a hard situation. But I can tell you this: with the right person, you won't have to do anything to get them to appreciate you. They will just appreciate you. It won't matter if you do absolutely nothing to make them love you. The right person will just love you because you are you. So hang in there. You just haven't met the right guy yet.
The other thing I can say is that sometimes, the more you do for people, the LESS they appreciate you. If you give someone everything, the person tends to take it for granted. This is especially true with guys. The more you do for them, the less they appreciate you. This is because guys enjoy a challenge. I'm not saying play hard to get or be coldhearted or anything like that. I'm saying that you shouldn't cross your own limits for guys the way that you did in this relationship. Guys don't like you more when you make sacrifices for them. In fact, they think of you as less valuable because you are willing to give up so much for them. When you give up things for a guy, you are basically saying "my needs don't matter". If you hold firmly to your limits, you are basically saying "I matter!" Guys listen to that and they will treat you better as a result.
A great example is sex. The quicker you sleep with a guy, the less likely it is that the relationship will last. This is for the same reason as above. By sleeping with a guy quickly, you are basically saying "I am not that special. I don't require a lot of work". If you make the guy wait, you are basically saying "I am important. You are lucky to get the chance to experience my personality and if you are very very lucky you will get the chance to experience my body as well". Then the guy stays longer because you have basically told him that you are something special by making him wait.
The bottom line is this: don't worry about impressing men. They more you try to impress them, the less impressed they are. Instead, start believing that you are good enough and that any guy would be lucky to have you. Guys will pick up on that and be even more attracted than before! Oh, and try not to do anything but kiss the guy for the first two months. It's hard, but that really sends the message that you need to be won over by him and that he needs to treat you well in order to get any more physical affection from you.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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Good morning / Good afternoon advicenators, I`m 20/f and my bf is 22. I`m from India. We recently broke up a few months ago and decided to stay friends. We broke up because we had been in a secret relationship and finally he wanted to come out but I couldnt let it happen because of my family. The problem is I cant stop thinking about him and I truly still love him. I know for sure my family would never accept him so thats the reason we cant get back together. We still text each other and talk but I want to know how i can just love him as a friend. I want to be with him but because its impossible, I just want to learn how to stop thinking about him constantly without having to stop talking or texting him. (link)
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It's time to meet other guys! I know that you love him. But, if you really don't see a future with him why don't you try befriending other men that your family would approve of? Who knows, you may find someone you like.
If this does not work, than maybe you will have to consider disappointing your family.
Those are really your only two options.
Toodleoo,
Miss Piggy
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Hi there, I am from Philippines.
Here's my case:
We just met here at work.
We became close and good friends. Sweetness overload. And we are starting to fall BUT he has a girlfriend.
I know our status in the first place but I made a decision to still push this feelings and what we have is totally indescribable. We're like lovers which is open to every one. Hold hands, kisses, hugs, sms & calls. We decided to think of what makes us happy and what we just have for now and at work and don't mind what he have with his gf at home.
Everything went well and smooth for the past 3 weeks. Happy and unmindful of the future. But something just changed.
He is now not sure of getting this cloudy relationship to keep going. He said he cannot fall for me because of his status. But we both admit that we're already getting there, falling. And we both decided that we need to lessen being together, those sweet nothings, text messages and start to think that we are now slowly cutting this off.
I am totally getting hurt! I am trying to do the same thing but it really hurt. I miss him so badly, its been 4 days now that we hardly talk and see each other.
What should I do? I am totally lost. I'm used to be with him. At some point I am still sending him messages, calling him, I cannot continue to really break what we had. Its hard. Specially we are both in just one environment. (link)
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If he has a girlfriend, you two do not have a relationship.
What you are doing is not okay. Think of how you would feel if the person who you trusted and loved most in the world stabbed you in the back. That pain is what you are inflicting on someone else. But you think that is okay because it makes you happy? That is selfishness. I know what you are thinking "I can't help what I feel". Neither can pedophiles. Neither can people who like having sex with animals. It's still sick and wrong. Hurting someone else because you want something is sick and wrong.
I know our society pretends that it's fine, and that if the relationship were good, he wouldn't cheat. In reality, it's the other way around. The relationship is no longer good because he's a liar and a cheater. It is never a woman's responsibility to cater to her boyfriend's every wish so that he does not cheat with the woman from the office. Men need to man up and stop lying to people. As a woman, you should be ashamed for helping yet another man hurt another innocent woman. I know you have probably heard that she is not a good girlfriend. But, you do not know that. You are not in their relationship. What you can be 100% certain of is that he is a terrible boyfriend.
What he is doing is not okay. He loves his girlfriend. He does not love you. You are some fling from his work. That is why he is staying with this girl.
I urge you not to continue to bother this couple. This guy obviously just thinks you are a cute turn on, but his heart is with his girlfriend. If you really care about him, you will stop him from screwing up his relationship.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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A few years ago I had a fling with a guy from school but it was just a fling and never came to anything special. Last year he got with an old friend of mine and they have been together ever since. Me an him are friends an bump into each other occasionally and we have chemistry with each other but recently we ended up getting rather close and things happened but now all my old feelings have come back and I do still love him but he's with her and now I'm stuck for what to do. (link)
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Get some self-respect. Hooking up with guys who have girlfriends is not okay. Find someone who isn't attached.
You are being selfish and childish. You are basically saying "I know this will hurt someone else, but it's what I want. I can't control what I want!" Except for yes you can, because you are an adult. You can wait, and you can refrain from taking what isn't yours.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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I am 20 years old girl.I am from Bnagladesh. 2
years ago I met a boy on facebook.He was from
the another city of my country.I never add
unknown people. Actually I was searching
someone from his company. And I sent friend
request to him. But after chatting I came to
know that he was not the one. I decided to
remove him. But from his old status I came to
know that he lost his mother last year. I really
felt bad. And decided not to remove him. We
became friends. We used to chat for long time.
He shared a lot of things with me so did I. He
was a nice boy. He cared for me. I forgot to take
my medicine. He asked me everyday that I took
my medicine or not. He asked my opinion about
his business card. I mean he gave me priorities.
But after 2 months don't know what happened he
started to change. He didn't reply me back like
before. I didn't ask why. And I started to realize
that I liked him. I felt bad about it, how I fall in
love with someone on internet!. I decided to
move on and not to talk to him anymore. But
that time it seemed very difficult to me. I
decided to remove him. One night I knocked him
and told him something about my family and
then told him that I am going to remove him. He
said please tell me the reason. I told him and
removed him.But still I used to message him and
he replied me. That time I came to know from
other source that he hided things from me. He
didn't told me that his father got married few
days ago. He told me that he had a girlfriend for
one year but he never loved her. But I came to
know that after that he also had a girlfriend
almost for 3 years. But he didn't tell me anything
about it. After one months I added him again. He
accepted friend request and talked to me like
nothing happened. Everything became normal
again. I gave him my number. We started to chat
on whatsapp. Almost like before. It was my
birthday. I asked for gift. He asked what I want. I
told as your wish. He told me to ask for
something. I told him that you won't be able to
give me. He asked me what. I didn't want to tell
him. But he forced me and requested me to tell
what I want. I told him that I liked him seriously
and I really wanted to spent my life with him. He
told me that we didn't meet each other ever so
we shouldn't think about it. After that I didn't
knock him. After one day he knocked me and told
me that he added me on his new facebook id.In
which he refused me to add before, he told me
that this account was for his family.one day i
called him and we talked for the first time. That
day he told me about his father marriage. We
talked for 20 minutes. And he was nice. After
that we used to talk. His birthday was coming I
decided to send him a gift. I asked for his
address but refused to give it to me. But I knew
his addressed already so I sent the gift. And he
accepted it. There was his another female friend.
She also liked him. She also send him gift but
he didn't accept it. I came to know from
someone. And on his birthday he called me and
said that I am crazy. But he was happy.Every
thing was going well. One day I knocked him on
whatsapp and after sometime he replied. Like he
always does. But I felt something is wrong. Don't
know why!!! But my mind telling me that
something is wrong. I felt that he was not
replying me. Someone else was doing it. And the
person tried to insult me. I knew that he couldn't
talk to me like that. I ended the conversation. I
was so upset that he allowed someone to reply
me by his phone. After 7 days I knocked him and
asked about the matter. He told that it wasn't
he. I asked who it was. He told it was his
colleague. But he didn't tell the name. I got very
angry. He tried to explain me that it wasn't
international. But I didn't pay any heed to his
talk. I asked him how could he allowed someone
to message me. He said that his colleague
borrowed his phone for some work and I knocked
that time and she replied. She also deleted the
messages but told him what she wrote. And she
did it for fun. I was so angry. I shouted at him.
And told him not to contact me ever. At last he
also got angry and told me that I was just a
facebook friend to him nothing else and he never
thought about me.
After that I found out the girls name. She is 1
year older than him. She also proposed him. But
he said no. I contacted him again almost after 3
months. He also did. One night he called me we
talked for so long. And after next day the girl
tried to commit suicide and admited into hospital
but he didn't go to see her. When I heard about
it I really felt bad. Its been 6 months. We don't
talk like before. He doesn't reply like before. I
also ask him that if he has any problem to talk
to me he can tell me directly I won't contact him
again. But he says he has no problem to talk to
me. But still he doesn't reply every time. I also
don't knock him like before. I come to know that
the girl comes back in his life.They talk to each
other.But they are friend. He never tell me
anything about the girl ever. I found it out from
another source. I still miss him. Want to talk to
him. But when I remember about the girl I
stepped back. And didn't knock him. Don't know
what to do.Should I contact him?Should I try to
fix things? And I still think did he ever care for
me? and still does? but unable to show it or I
am just a fool??? Should I move on? Should I talk to him? (link)
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You need to stop with this nonsense. What you are doing is stalking. Do not contact him anymore.
There is nothing for you to fix, because the two of you never had a relationship. You were never even friends. You were penpals and that is all. I doubt he ever cared for you.
Miss Piggy
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20/f
Junior in college
He is 22
Senior in college
The last week of my sophomore year, I hooked up with this guy. Ever since, we've been texting nonstop. When he's with his friends, when he's on vacation with friends, when he's with his family, in class, at work. He's a cool guy and I like having him around as a friend. We talk about anything, it's just so easy with him. We talk about how hard it was to become friends because or mutual friend didn't want us to be friends because she felt like she was being replaced to anything like him telling me why my battery in my phone doesn't last as long as his.
One day he was acting kinda different and we're friends enough that I can call him out on it and I said I just felt like he didn't really wanna talk anymore since we hooked up and I felt like that was all he wanted and he went into this big thing that if all he wanted to do was hook up, then he wouldn't have went through all the drama with our mutual friend to be friends with me.
I've slept over his place a few times, he's slept over mine. But only the last night I spent at his house, did he try anything sexual and I liked that about him, that he didn't rush anything, he waited til we've spent a few nights together to see if anything was there.
He tells me countless times when he's drunk at the bar, with his friends that he wants to cuddle and that I'm such a good friend to him because I pick him and his friends up from the bar and make sure they're all okay.
^^^This was all last semester from the time we started talking to the last week, that we hooked up.
We went our separate ways for the summer and we still texted every day but we never hung out because we live far from each other.
We've been planning this play fight all summer and he said the day we move back into school that it's happening. I joked that if I won, we aren't friends anymore. He asked what he gets if he wins and I told him anything he wants and he answered back "Huh. I'll remember that when I win."
A few times, he was cute this summer but nothing like before. Like, he texted me that he was watching a basketball game and I texted him something back with "that sounds pretty great" in it as a reply and he texted back "you know what would be pretty great? if my team wins and you were here to scratch my back." Because every time we would spend the night together, I would scratch his back.
School starts back up tomorrow but we've been moved in for about three days. Well, he's been, I'm commuting. We still text every day. Last night, I told him where I was going to hang out and he asked if he could bring his friends to which I said okay but then he said they can't come because his friend got so bad and they didn't want to bring her to where I was in case she would get sick and ruin anything. So, I joked with him that I'm never gonna see him because we're both busy and have our own friends and own lives and he said "you know, you never asked me to hang out over the summer, or we would have seen each other."
Even right now, as I type this, I'm texting him and he's complaining that he can't load his email at school because the wifi is so bad and I asked why he didn't have it on his phone. He said he couldn't figure out how to do it, so I tried to explain how to and he just answered "how about you just do it for me some time :)"
I know it seems like it's punching me in the face that he likes me but I don't know why he doesn't ever ask me to hang out or ask to just see me anymore. Last semester it was so easy that he would just randomly text me and say "hey, are you doing anything tonight, if not, come spend the night" or anything as easy as that. Now, it's like, I get nothing like that.. he tells me all the time that he's with his buds or going to the bar and that kinda thing. I know, class didn't even start yet and I'm jumping the gun but I'm jumping the gun so I know how to handle this.
Do you think there is anything there, feelings wise or attraction wise? Do you think he's waiting for me to make the moves now since he did last semester? I don't have a room on campus since I'm commuting so I can't really do anything about that. Why is it so much different now when he made it so easy last semester?
Thanks. (link)
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You are just friends. I'm sure he is attracted to you. I'm sure he has feelings for you. But, you are still just friends because neither one of you have made a move to be anything more. Moreover, you have given him signs that you are not looking for a relationship.You sent the wrong message by hooking up with him outside of a relationship.
Agreeing to date someone is a commitment. People need to think about whether or not they are ready to commit to developing a relationship with just one person. If you hookup outside of a relationship, you are essentially saying "Let's not think about the commitment stuff right away. Let's just go with the flow". Unfortunately, this casual attitude does not encourage either person to think about taking things any further emotionally.
The other thing to consider is that men are emotionally lazy. They like to do as little emotional work as possible. If you hookup with them outside of a relationship, that sends the message that you are happy with the friendship the way it is and that no more work is necessary on their end. Refusing to hookup outside of a relationship motivates men to take initiative ato begin a relationship. Why did he make it so easy last semester? Simple: he had to in order to catch your eye and to get you to progress physically. Hooking up with him made you seem like you require less work than he had originally anticipated.
I'm sure he is still interested in you, but you are going to have to change this casual attitude he is taking towards you. My advice is to continue the flirtatious texting. This guy clearly enjoys talking with you. But, during your conversations, don't ask him to hang out. Don't ask why you haven't hung out. Play a little hard to get Let him come to you. On the other hand, if he asks you questions such as "Do you want to hang out?" "Are you looking for a relationship?" or "Do you like me?", etc. you need to answer them as honestly as possible. If he asks you a question, be direct. That is NOT the time to flirt or play hard to get. Serious questions need serious answers.
If you let him come to you but remain honest about your feelings for him when asked, you will end up dating him. If someone else doesn't get to him first.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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Do you guys think that it is wrong to kiss someone if you feel that there might be something more than just friends but after youve kissed the guy... U just didnt feel anything? Was i wrong to kiss him and now hurt him by having to tell him i dont feel anything for him more than just friends ? (link)
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You don't need to "feel" anything. A kiss is just a kiss. You do not owe him a romantic relationship. He should be grateful for your friendship. You kissed him, you didn't marry him.
The star of the Muppet Show,
Miss Piggy
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Hi,
So I have a boyfriend, and I know that he talks to another girl late at night. One time i found out that he talked to her until 3 am... I don't know how to feel about this. Like I don't want to restraint him from being friends with other people, but I feel that in this kind of situation, wouldn't he want to talk to me late at night ?? What do you think ? Would you mind if your significant other did that to you ? (link)
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He is not being a good boyfriend. I would kill my frog if he acted this way. It's fine that he has other friends, but talking until 3 am is beyond excessive. A ten minute conversation should be good enough. Anything longer than that and he is literally choosing to spend time with another girl over you.
Here is a good way of seeing if he is interested in this other girl or if he is just accidentally taking things a bit too far. Tell him it hurts your feelings when he talks to her so long because you feel like he should be talking to you. If he apologizes and agrees to stop talking to her, then it was all a misunderstanding. This shows he values your feelings and just wasn't thinking. But, if he threatens to break up with you or calls you jealous, that is basically him saying "I do not care that I am hurting your feelings. This other girl means more to me than you do. Don't bring this up again." If he does have a harsh reaction, you may need to re- think the relationship. What girl dreams of a boyfriend who stays up all night talking to another girl? No one that's who.
Believe moi. Moi has a charm that is lethal to men.
Miss Piggy
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There is a girl at school that lets me feel her boobs and ass. She is super hot and way out of my league. She curvy and skinny, im fat. When she bends down to get books out of her locker I rub her ass. She'll turn around smile and feel my man boobs. We do this all day sometimes I start it sometimes she starts it. I just want to know why she doesn't mind. (link)
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You don't know if she minds or not because you haven't asked her. Some girls are just too shy to tell perverts to screw off. On the other hand, she could be interested in you. Ask her out and see what happens.
Your very own,
Miss Piggy
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So I've been with my boyfriend for awhile and I'm not afraid to touch his penis but I don't like him touching me down there for some reason idk if it's just because I'm embarrassed about getting wet or what but plz help! (link)
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Tell him you don't want him to touch you down there. As a side note, there is no reason to be embarrassed for how your body reacts to being touched, though. Wetness is normal.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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