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Should I let my wife have a threesome with another man
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Despite any pre-arranged limits and agreements about involvement and so on, despite each open-mindedly agreeing that 'they are OK with it' it VERY RARELY has a happy ending for the relationship in the longer term I'm afraid. I guess because if either is thinking about and the other thinking about permitting it (or even activiely encouraging it), there is something already fundamentally flawed or broken in the relationship. In all likelihood realising this desire will be a big game-changer for the relationship, and not in a good way. Quite simply, would any marriage guidance counsellor ever suggest 'How about letting another man have sex with your wife...you could watch and join in too?' And when you committed to each other, did you really foresee the day she would want it and you would allow it? Think about this decision, and think beyond the sexual activity itself.
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The word, "let" implies that your wife has asked you about this already. And you were taken off guard. So you wanted to get opinions of others. Our opinions in this matter do not count. It's what happens to be okay with you. And even if you are willing to give her a chance, chances are you may have some strong feelings come up about this after getting into it, and realizing you feel jealous, neglected or whatever. You both have to agree ahead of time if you both are willing, to stop if either of you changes your mind along the way. If she did indeed bring up the subject, its actually normal. I used to attend a club with my ex and I asked the couples there, whose idea it was to attend the swing club for the purpose of threesomes or swapping and it in majority of cases, the females admitted they were the ones.
Now, there can be two reason for the female wanting a 3 some. She may feel she is bi-sexual and want to have opportunities with other females. There are many men who have adjusted to having a wife who is bi-sexual and he has no worry that she will be attracted to any men sexually.
The wife could be wanting to add some spice to the sex life by adding in a 2nd man to have 2 working on her. You'd have to be able to feel comfortable being nude in close proximity with another man even though you may have rules to not do anything with each other unless that was your plan to begin with. Another thing that can happen is 2 men on one female, is that after a while, the husband feels the wife is getting all the fun and he feels left out so they might decide to try swapping/swinging as a couple. This brings in another whole dimension. While you might have felt no jealousy with the other man, she may discover she feels jealousy if you are having fun with another woman. These kinds of situations can stress a marriage and if one partner does not want to quit these practices, then the marriage breaks up. I have a past with my ex in such things and no, he's not my ex because of what i just mentioned.
Now, on the other hand, if your wife has not brought up the idea of doing a threesome and this is something that you find exciting on a sexual level to think about, and this is all your idea...then all the same I just said applies but your would have to find her willing to do so too, not just to placate you, or please you but because she is willing and wanting to explore. It may take her time to agree. I never did the first time he asked. She may never agree. If that is the case, may I suggest you work out your fantasies on a site called Second Life. One can live the life of a Bank robber, or Texas ranger in the Western venue, enjoy a nude beach, go to a fairy land, sci fi land on a foreign planet, or even engage in sexual fantasies as either sex and the program is very detailed. A neighbor friend of mine plays and believe me, you can get caught up emotional and find certain fantasies fulfilled in the experience.
I hope this answers all you needed to know. If not, let me know how I can help further.
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Do you want to?
Does she want to?
Is this something you have discussed over a long period of time, and are both excited about?
There is inherently nothing wrong with a married couple engaging in group sex play if everyone involved is keen and happy about it.
But since you are asking the question here, on an anonymous advice site, with no details besides the basic sex act, you are probably not a married couple who has spoken deeply about this and made a decision you are both happy and secure with. So no. You and your wife should probably not have a threesome.
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Not if you are asking the question.
Make sure you are 100% comfortable before you say yes to anything like that.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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