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Help! how can I start moving forward?
Hi there, I am from Philippines.
Here's my case:
We just met here at work.
We became close and good friends. Sweetness overload. And we are starting to fall BUT he has a girlfriend.
I know our status in the first place but I made a decision to still push this feelings and what we have is totally indescribable. We're like lovers which is open to every one. Hold hands, kisses, hugs, sms & calls. We decided to think of what makes us happy and what we just have for now and at work and don't mind what he have with his gf at home.
Everything went well and smooth for the past 3 weeks. Happy and unmindful of the future. But something just changed.
He is now not sure of getting this cloudy relationship to keep going. He said he cannot fall for me because of his status. But we both admit that we're already getting there, falling. And we both decided that we need to lessen being together, those sweet nothings, text messages and start to think that we are now slowly cutting this off.
I am totally getting hurt! I am trying to do the same thing but it really hurt. I miss him so badly, its been 4 days now that we hardly talk and see each other.
What should I do? I am totally lost. I'm used to be with him. At some point I am still sending him messages, calling him, I cannot continue to really break what we had. Its hard. Specially we are both in just one environment.
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If he has a girlfriend, you two do not have a relationship.
What you are doing is not okay. Think of how you would feel if the person who you trusted and loved most in the world stabbed you in the back. That pain is what you are inflicting on someone else. But you think that is okay because it makes you happy? That is selfishness. I know what you are thinking "I can't help what I feel". Neither can pedophiles. Neither can people who like having sex with animals. It's still sick and wrong. Hurting someone else because you want something is sick and wrong.
I know our society pretends that it's fine, and that if the relationship were good, he wouldn't cheat. In reality, it's the other way around. The relationship is no longer good because he's a liar and a cheater. It is never a woman's responsibility to cater to her boyfriend's every wish so that he does not cheat with the woman from the office. Men need to man up and stop lying to people. As a woman, you should be ashamed for helping yet another man hurt another innocent woman. I know you have probably heard that she is not a good girlfriend. But, you do not know that. You are not in their relationship. What you can be 100% certain of is that he is a terrible boyfriend.
What he is doing is not okay. He loves his girlfriend. He does not love you. You are some fling from his work. That is why he is staying with this girl.
I urge you not to continue to bother this couple. This guy obviously just thinks you are a cute turn on, but his heart is with his girlfriend. If you really care about him, you will stop him from screwing up his relationship.
Toodles,
Miss Piggy
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First of all sorry for you. This is really a hard situation. Try to find out how actually he feels for you.Does he really love you? And he is doing all this because he is committed already. If he truly loves you and cares for you then he should confess every thing to his gf. If you both love each other then you shouldn't give up just because of someone else.But if he doesn't love you now. Then dear you have to accept it. You shouldn't beg someone to stay when he wants to leave. However, the end of love is not the end of life. It should be the beginning of an understanding that love sometimes leaves for a reason, but never leaves without a lesson. If someone truly loves you, they will never give you a reason to doubt it. Anyone can come into your life and say how much they love you, but it takes someone really special to stay in your life and prove how much they love you. Sometimes it takes awhile to find the right person, but the right person is always worth the wait.
Good luck my dear!
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hey there...i understand this is very hard for you especially with you work together and you have to see him on a daily basis. my advice to you is to hold on tight and remember that everything has a reason and if your truly meant to be together he will realise that soon enough... try find your original rythm, personal routine helps.
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