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Q: i see someone already asked a name question

but you see i am having a baby girl and need a cute name but something beautiful at the same time! any ideas?
Oh my gosh!
I actually have an answer for THIS name question! LOL. I have a LOT of cute girl names that you can have but my FAVORITE name is Lynessa. I LOVE that name. If I have a daughter, that's what I'm naming her. Hahaha. So here are some names.
1. Lynessa
2. Vanessa
3. Catrina
4. Ashley
5. Natasha
6. Nicole
7. Meghan
8. Jasmin
9. Michelle
10. Miranda
11. Jennifer
12. Madison
13. Becka
14. Kayla (my name!)
15. Brittany
16. Leanne
17. Tiana
18. Kaitlyn
19. Emily or Emma
20. Paige
21. Mandy or Mindy
22. Here's an unusual name but my mom's friend named her baby girl Diamond but I think it's really pretty.
23. Kaelynn
24. Katie
25. Coressa

Q:
is sally a cute name? or is marianna better?
Personally,
I think Marianna is a cuter name because Sally... it's just too... old. Haha. It's an old name. It's a name that someone back in 1872 would have thought of. But if you're thinking of pet names, Sally is better but for people, Marianna is a really pretty name! If you want to talk or need more advice you can send me a question in my advicenators inbox or email me seperatley at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K?
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Q: I found out that someone that my brother knows smokes ciggarettes and i think im just going to stay out of it but i want a second opinion!
Well,
it all depends on how old he/she is. If he/she is under 18, you should take action by either talking to your brother about it or telling that person in person. You can also tell your parents and they can help out someway, maybe by talking to that person. You shouldn't let this overcome you. You need to do something about it. My aunt (she;s not my real aunt but I call her aunt Paula) DIED of lung cancer and I'm trying to convice people to STOP smoking and it makes me mad everytime my mom buys some cigarettes because my aunt was an innocent 40 year old woman and her life ended horribly and you DON'T want the feeling I had when I found out she was dead. You need to prevent this person from smoking however you can. Buy this person a patch or the smoking gum that helps you quit as well. If you want to talk about something off topic or need more advice you can ask me a question in my advicenators inbox OR you can email me seperately at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K?
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Q: ok theres this kid that goes to my school and i really really like him i walk home with him everyday and people always ask us if we go out because we are constintly flirting and i always say no well one of my friends on her science book is all pictures of her friends and im on it and i borrowed it once and i wrote things next to them and just playin around i put sexy on mine and so he had the book the next day and he scribbled the comments i wrote on other peoples pictures and put something bad but on mine he underlined what i wrote and my friends thinks he sweats me and i really like him but id feel stupid if i said somethin and he didnt but theres alot of stuff and i think he does but im not absolutley positive what should i do
and i dont kno how to just go up to him and talk to him about if he likes me or not?
Well,
tell him how he's been giving you some hints that lead you to, "He likes me." Tell him how he flirts with you a lot and tell him that everyone thinks he likes you. Ask him if it's true but make sure to tell him that you won't say anything if he DOES like you and if he says he DOES like you, you won't feel so embarassed to tell him that you like him too and if he says he DOESN'T like you, (which probably won't happen)then just say "O.K. That's cool." and continue to be his friend. Then, maybe one day, he'll start liking you more and more as you get closer and closer and closer to him. If you want to talk about something off topic or need more advice you can ask me a question in my advicenators inbox OR you can email me seperately at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K?
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Q: im 14/f and ive never really had a true relationship. i think its because people just see me as the nice girl. plus, im not the prettiest thing in the world. what should i do to get guys to notice me?

MizzNiceGirl
Honey,
true love doesn't REALLY start until you find someone that you think you can spend the rest of your life with. You SHOULD not pretend you're someone else, just to get attention from a guy. It' not right. You need to be who you are and just because you don't look the way a guy wants you to look, doesn't mean you aren't pretty. I don't want you to go around wearing thongs showing out of your EXTREMELY tight jeans and half shirts. That's NOT the way to get a guy. At least you haven't done that because other girls will call you names like slut and whore. You don't want that kind of reputation. Just because YOU don't think your pretty, doesn't mean a really hot guy thinks your not pretty. Everyone is beautiful to me. I think judging people on their looks is rude because how a person dresses reflects on how they're feeling and who they are. Some people dress in black because they like that color and people just assume they're gothic without even knowing them. I'm sorry to tell you that after all this reading, I have to tell that there is no specific way to get a guy to notice you. You CAN'T be something you're not, and you CAN'T change just because a guy wants you to. All I can tell you is be WHO YOU ARE and don't ever change because it's YOU that guys are attracted to, not your hair or your clothes. It's O.K to just be MizzNiceGirl. You don't have to be someone else... if you want to talk about something off topic or need more advice, you can ask me a question in my advicenators inbox OR you can email me at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K?
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Q: where do i put the code for a backgroud? i put it in the background url spot and it wont work. also id like to say thanks cause the site you got all your stuff from really helped me out.
{your column is so cute!}

Jodyfresh
You put the code in the spot for your biography, wherever you want it!
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~~~Kayla~~~
P.S. Thanks! :-P

Q: my father has alway been picking on me ever since i was small.. he denys he hits me. but aftr he does he says ssorry. i mean.. if he`s really that sorry why`d he do it. My friend is coming down from the states into canada for 2 weeks. She knows about him and stuff. just hopefully he doesnt do anyhting stupid. i ant her to have a good time here. any advise on how i can just calm down and think positive. i took walks. but im still paranoid. maybe this is just a fear right? o well thanks anywayz
Oh my gosh! Your dad cannot hit you. That's considered child abuse and is very serious, even if he says sorry. It doesn't matter. You can calm down if you tell your mom or tell an aunt or uncle and they can maybe take some action. That would calm you down and make you more confident about your friend coming down. You won't have to worry about your dad if someone is there, watching you and making sure he doesn't hit you. If he denies hitting you, he's not right and should do that to you. Maybe, if you get a chance, talk to him and tell him that you don't want him to embarass you or himself by hitting you and you don't know what to expect. It's going to be fine. If you want to talk about something totally off topic or need more advice you can email me in my Advicenators inbox OR email me seperately at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K?
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Q: Ok I have these 2 friends. I know them both really well. We are so close. Well today they played a trick on me. They made up a screenname and pretended they were this girl that I hate with a passion. They talked a bunch of shit. Well it got to the point that when the convo was over that I sent the convo to 2 of my other friends e-mail and told them to read it. Well i go to tell my friend about it and turns out it was her and my other friend..The thing that made me mad and pissed off at them is the fact that they said it was that girl and they know i hate her. They completly don't know what happened between me and her and shouldn't have done it. But my ? is .....What should I do about it? I mean it might of been funny to them but they don't know the whole story and it completly pissed me off...Should I tell them it made me mad and that I am still mad at them....But please tell me what I should do....
Signed ,,,,TrueHope10
Well,
even though it was a joke to them, it made you mad and if you keep this inside, you're going to bust sooner or later. You need to talk to BOTH of them at the same time and see how they react when you tell thay you don't appreciate them playing a mean joke like that on you, especially since they KNEW you hated that girl and they completelt used that to get you. That's not right. Don't be rude to them. Just tell them that you don't appreciate that and if they really want to talk and joke like that, they can do it to someone else but not you. You don't need that right now and you would appreciate it if they would stop. Tell them that and if they react immaturely, tell them that if they can't tke the truth and how you feel, they're not good friends anyway. If you want to talk about something totally off topic or need more advice, ask a question in my inbox OR email me at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K?
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Q: f/13
ohk so i've gone out with many people b4 ... some were crushes, dares you know your typicall 12 -13 year old stuff only like one or two i really truly loved . yes loved i would do anything for them. i have had my heart broken a couple of times and i have broken a few ... but why is it that all a sudden i feel like love can be/ is such a scary thing ?
Because love IS a scary thing, especially at your age. You get hurt a lot in your life and each time, it's different. Love is a scary thing to you because you haven't been through EVERYTHING when it comes to love. You really don't know what to expect from someone you love. I mean, you're thinking, "Is he cheating on me?" or "Does he really love me?" and you question so much. I may sound like I know everything about love but to tell you the truth... I don't. I don't know EVERYTHING but I know how it feels at your age to think that. You've been so blinded with all your other "loves" and now that you're more mature, you're starting to realize how important love can be. It will be like this until you get married andhave children. lol. Anyways, hang in there and you'll do great with your love life. Love won't seem so scary when you REALLY and TRULY believe that "He's the one". You'll feel relieved and comfortable. If you want to talk or need more advice, ask a question in my inbox or email me at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K?
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Q: f/13
ohk so i've gone out with many people b4 ... some were crushes, dares you know your typicall 12 -13 year old stuff only like one or two i really truly loved . yes loved i would do anything for them. i have had my heart broken a couple of times and i have broken a few ... but why is it that all a sudden i feel like love can be/ is such a scary thing ?
Because love IS a scary thing, especially at your age. You get hurt a lot in your life and each time, it's different. Love is a scary thing to you because you haven't been through EVERYTHING when it comes to love. You really don't know what to expect from someone you love. I mean, you're thinking, "Is he cheating on me?" or "Does he really love me?" and you question so much. I may sound like I know everything about love but to tell you the truth... I don't. I don't know EVERYTHING but I know how it feels at your age to think that. You've been so blinded with all your other "loves" and now that you're more mature, you're starting to realize how important love can be. It will be like this until you get married andhave children. lol. Anyways, hang in there and you'll do great with your love life. Love won't seem so scary when you REALLY and TRULY believe that "He's the one". You'll feel relieved and comfortable. If you want to talk or need more advice, ask a question in my inbox or email me at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K?
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~~~Kayla~~~

Q: Okay so I'm going out with this guy. He cheated on me with my "friend" at a party, and I found out. The thing is, I don`t think he would have told me if I hadn`t found out. I still love him so much, but nothing can ever happen between us because of what he did. He has apoligized and I`ve just been really mean to him. What the hell do I do???????
PLEASE HELP.
Oh my gosh! Personally, I think you're doing great! Keep doing what you're doing and keep being mean to him. He doesn't deserve ANY respect from ANYONE. And about your "friend"! What kind of friend does that with your boyfriend!?!?! Sbe is DEFINITLY not worth stressing over, either. You're way better than BOTH of them and you'll meet someone else that you really enjoy being with and love dearly. And if those two want each other, let 'em have each other. They BOTH don't know what they
re missing because you're OBVIOUSLY a good friend and a good girlfriend and you would never betray your best friend or cheat on your boyfriend. Be mean to your "friend" and your EX-boyfriend. If you need any more advice or want to talk about something totally off subject, you can send me a question in my inbox or email me at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K?
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Q: hey well I'm going to go on a diet and I dont really know what type of foods to get for when I go to the grocery store. Any ideas?
Well,
lettuce, so you can make a salad. Get whatever else you need for a salad. Also, a little snack can be a DELICIOUS, juicy apple. lol. You can also get that cereal with the G on it. That's the kind I get because it's good for you but it also helps you lose weight. Also, a tip on how to stay slim and healthy: Don't eat and eat and eat and then go to bed. You can eat and eat and eat and take a walk or exorcise but if you eat before going to sleep, none of those calories are burn and all that fat goes STRAIGHT to your hips or stomach and stays there until you burn them off. Exorcise a lot and stay healthy. Eat lots of fruit and vegetables. You can still have meat and stuff but make sure you exorcise too. Best of luck!
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Q: I want to get highlights, but I don't know what would be a good color. I have darkish blonde hair. Thanks!
I think you should get a light blondeish color, you know? That'll make your hair look really good if it's dark blonde, almost brown. That's what I currently have!
:-)
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Q: hey i was wondering if it was nomal for me to wt=rite songs at my age we'll just say(11-13) lemme know
Of course. I used to write my own songs and currently, I'm taking voice and seeing this guy. I'm hoping to write a new song and record and have it played on the radio! I wrote my first song when I was 12 and have 17 more since then. My second one was written at the age of thirteen.
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Q: Ok so this summer I'm taking Tennis camp with some friends from our school and some other kids who dont go to our school. I met this guy named Grant. I mean we met in the most freaky way. We met when he accidentally hit me on the head with his racket while doing a serve. I never really noticed him till then, but when he hit me and looked back at me and smiled, i believe that it was love at first sight -- for me, at least. During practice, we'll tease eachother in a friendly way, racing eachother, and trying to hit eachother with tennis balls. Only two of my friends know about me liking him. So here are my questions...

1) Do you think he likes me?
2) Should I ask him out or ask him if he likes me?
3) when should i ask him?
4) should I ask him face 2 face or have my friends ask him?

I appreciate all the people who took the time to read this...i rate 5's for any answers that help me a little. =]

--crushed.
Well,
he DID look you straight in the eyes and smile, which COULD be a sign of love but not necessarily. You have to really know the guy to know if he likes you or not. I think he likes you, unless he flirts A LOT with other girls. Other than that, your answer is yes, he most likely likes you. I think you SHOULD ask him if he likes you. That way, if you say "Do you like me?" and he says "No", you can cover it up and say "Good! I don't like you either!" Hahaha. That's what I always do! :-) You should ask him when you two are alone or talking on the phone with no one around. You should ask him after flirting a little to see if he flirts back. If he does flirt back and smile while he talks, ask him but if he kinda hesitates, don't bother. He's not worth it and you're better than him, anyway. I think you should ask him face to face because then, if you guys get married, you can say, "I asked him out on the first date and he said yes!" but if your friend asks him, you'll say "No. So-and-so asked him." and you definitly want to say you asked him. I think you'll do great! Don't get too nervous and act kinda... sexy around him. Like, talk with a little attitude in your voice like you know what you're doing, even if you haven't a clue. I think this guy will LOVE you and I wish only the best to you. If you want to talk or need more advice, ask a private question in my Advicenators inbox or email me at: kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K?
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~~~Kayla~~~

Q: My mom is an alchoalic..shes not the type that hits people but the type that gets drunk then lays down on the couch and passes out..but shes so embarrasing..like ill have a friend over and she'll be drunk on the coach and i dont know what to say! but my ? is how can i talk to her about her illness? and does anyone else have an alchoalic parent because i would really like to talk to some people and here there stories..so leave me your screen name so we can talk thanks!
Well,
I'm really sorry that you have like that with her! But you can tell her how you feel about her health and how embarassing she is to you when your friends are over. Tell her that you don't like it when she drinks because it worries you that one day, she could pass out and... never wake up. Tell her exactly how you feel. I DO have a parent that drinks... my dad. He goes out with his friends and is crazy when he's drunk but he only gets drunk every once in a while. He still drinks but not half as much as my nana. She gets drunk at 9:00 a.m. and when I was 13, she flipped me off and she hit me because I had two ice cream sandwiches. She slapped me across the face and my parents got REALLY mad and didn't speak to her for a couple years and then, she apoligized. She made me feel like I wasn't good enough. She called me ugly and called me names and once tried to kill me but I was a baby... I don't remember all that much. She's terrible. She's my "Step-grandma" but she calls herself my REAL grandma. I don't love her at all. I know that it's wrong to say that about my family but I don't. I used to live with her so I kind of know how you feel... it's a terrible feeling because she embarassed me, too. She would come with my mom to pick me up at school and yell my name out the window when she was drunk. It was so embarassing. I used to walk right past the car and pretend I didn't know her! Hahahahaha! Well, the point to MY story is to show you that you're not alone and even if it may seem like the most terrible thing in the world, it's not. Sure, it's embarassing and makes you worry. I mean, she's your mother for God's sake. But like I said, talk to her and see how she reacts to what you tell her. Email me if you just want to talk or if you need more advice. My email address is... kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K? Email me ANYTIME OF THE DAY. I check my email every day and I'm also on advicenators every day if you want to send an email to my inbox, as well. Either one is O.K with me.
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Q: OKAY.....Well i like this boy and he is really nice to me and I have his number but i am afraid of calling him how can i get over my nerves of this
i am afraid if i ask him out he will say no what should I do please help me

ThAnKs
Well,
if he GAVE you his number, he probably likes you, unless you asked him for it. If a friend gave it to you, you can never be sure. But... you have to take chances. That's how I got a boyfriend. You need to tell yourself that you will live, even if he says no. You don't have to ask him out the first time you call him. Just talk to him and get to know him a LITTLE better and chat a little. Maybe talk to him again and ask him to a movie or something. Then, when you do something fun with him like a movie or going to the beach, ask him out either in person or on the phone that night. If he likes you, he'll say yes. If he says "No." on going on the "date", DUMP HIM! He's nothin' but trouble and you're much better than him. He seems really nice and I think he'll say "yes". If you choke up and can't seem to get the words out of your mouth, tell a friend to call him three-way or on the same line and ask him for you. He'll surely answer him/her. If you need to talk or want more advice, email me at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com
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~~~Kayla~~~

Q: heres the thing me my friend shawn the guy i like david and this girl sharon went and hung out at mulligains it was all cool but then later that night i found out sharon was the ex of the guy i like david and my heart just fell how could he bring his ex on a date with me and not tell me about her well me and the ex had a talk and she said she wanted me to be happy and she knew that being with david would make me happy so i told david this and his heart fell he said he was gonna give up trying to get back with her and that he need time to get over it now i felt so bad cause of telling him this but he said hes happy i did and that after time that he needs he will then hook up with me what do you think?
I think it's O.K. because he's trying to get over his "last love" and he just needs time to think it over and stuff and he seems like a really nice guy. I mean, wouldn't you want time to get over your ex if a guy asked you out? I think it's a pretty fair call. You should know you like the right guy because any other guy would've probably just said, "No, I'm still getting over so-and-so." but this guy promised you he would go out with you AFTER he gets over his feelings for his ex that he used to have. I think it's O.K. for him. You may not want to wait but... give him time and he'll come out of his shell and go out with you. I promise. Here's my email address if you want t talk or need more advice: kitty_kats123@yahoo.com
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Q: Im sorry its quite long but i really really do need help! I know its kinda bribing but I will give you 5 if its any reasonable answer! lol!
I have a friend, lets call her Hobbit because she is very short. Now she is, not that im being mean, rather unatractive but quite a nice person. She met this guy on the internet, we will call him Ent because he is very very tall.
Ent and Hobbit got together when he asked her out about a week or 2 after they started talking. He is 21 and she is 17. Quite a lot of her friends didnt like the idea of this so she told them she had dumped him but was actually still going out with him. I didnt really like the sound of it but i knew someone would have to stay on her good books to help her if things went pair shaped. Anyway, she met up with him for the first time last saturday and I came too because i wouldnt let her go on her own because he had been sounding more and more freaky by the day. When i met him though i thought yeh maybe he is alright, but i have discovered recently just how tempremental, slightly peverted and freaky he really is, oh and he also likes to mess with peoples minds for fun.
How can I convince someone who thinks the world of him, who falls for anyone who comes her way, that he is bad news and that i am scared for her, i have tried explaing to her but it just wont get through and im really really worried for her.
I'm so sorry I have to tell you this, but you may have to go to drastic measures... you may have to... tell her mother/father/guardian/friend/SOMEONE WHO KNOWS HER WELL! lol! I know you may not feel right about it but it's the right thing to do to prevent her from getting emotionally/physically hurt by this grown man, whom she barely even knows! This is a dangerous situation. She may be in trouble and if she won't listen, it may be up to you to get her out of it. Trust me on this. Her mother/father may forbid her from seeing him and she may be upset but when he goes to jail for raping someone, she'll thank you that it wasn't her! Please trust me on this. I take this very seriously because there are internet predators pretending to be thirteen years old and all cute when really, it's a 44 year old man with bad B.O and 5 warrants! lol. Seriously, there are more internet predators today there ever were and it's getting worse. People will track you down and go to your house. It's pretty scary and you don't want him to hurt your friend, O.K? Email me if you need more advice or just want to talk. It's O.K with me. Email me at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com!
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~~~Kayla~~~

Q: i kissed my boyfriend on the cheek for the very first time and im thinking now its his turn, should he kiss me? my friend told him "kiss her!!" but he never did. i was thinking he was suposed to be the one to kiss me first but i realized he was too shy so i kissed him, should i be looking for signs of kissing? haha i guess....alright help.
Well,
when the moment comes and the guy is ready and his confidence is up more, he'll kiss you. You can bet your last thing on his mind befor going to sleep and the first thing when he wakes up. Wait for the right moment and if he still hasn't done it, try to kiss him on the lips and if he pulls away, he's not ready but if he lets you and doesn't like it, that's O.K too, maybe he;s not ready but if he lets you and likes it, you've achieve your goal!!!
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