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Internet Boyfriend
Im sorry its quite long but i really really do need help! I know its kinda bribing but I will give you 5 if its any reasonable answer! lol!
I have a friend, lets call her Hobbit because she is very short. Now she is, not that im being mean, rather unatractive but quite a nice person. She met this guy on the internet, we will call him Ent because he is very very tall.
Ent and Hobbit got together when he asked her out about a week or 2 after they started talking. He is 21 and she is 17. Quite a lot of her friends didnt like the idea of this so she told them she had dumped him but was actually still going out with him. I didnt really like the sound of it but i knew someone would have to stay on her good books to help her if things went pair shaped. Anyway, she met up with him for the first time last saturday and I came too because i wouldnt let her go on her own because he had been sounding more and more freaky by the day. When i met him though i thought yeh maybe he is alright, but i have discovered recently just how tempremental, slightly peverted and freaky he really is, oh and he also likes to mess with peoples minds for fun.
How can I convince someone who thinks the world of him, who falls for anyone who comes her way, that he is bad news and that i am scared for her, i have tried explaing to her but it just wont get through and im really really worried for her.
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Whoah thats pretty scary =
I would def. point out main reasons you don't like him to her and ask her "you're really okay with him ____ (doing whatever he does)?" if she still says yes, you tried to warn her and do everything you can. You could contact an adult and let them know such as her parent or your parent but she might get mad. But if you are concerned and you think she is in danger def. tell someone!!
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Well done you for sticking by your friend. It's important that you continue to be there for her.
Are you absolutely positive that you fears for your friend are justified? The age gap is quite big but not totally unreasonable. If you are legitimately concerned for her then keep bringing it up with her. Try not to sound to negative of bossy because it might alienate her.
This might not be what you wan't to do but it would be a good idea to tell certain other people about the relationship. Maybe a sympathetic family member or some close friends. They should be able to help you keep an eye out for your friend.
Good luck, I hope that helped.
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Tell her that him being 21 and her being 17 is bad news. Unless she is almost 18. If not then if he tries anything he can go to jail because he is considered an adult and she is underage. That one should do the trick. :)
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I'm so sorry I have to tell you this, but you may have to go to drastic measures... you may have to... tell her mother/father/guardian/friend/SOMEONE WHO KNOWS HER WELL! lol! I know you may not feel right about it but it's the right thing to do to prevent her from getting emotionally/physically hurt by this grown man, whom she barely even knows! This is a dangerous situation. She may be in trouble and if she won't listen, it may be up to you to get her out of it. Trust me on this. Her mother/father may forbid her from seeing him and she may be upset but when he goes to jail for raping someone, she'll thank you that it wasn't her! Please trust me on this. I take this very seriously because there are internet predators pretending to be thirteen years old and all cute when really, it's a 44 year old man with bad B.O and 5 warrants! lol. Seriously, there are more internet predators today there ever were and it's getting worse. People will track you down and go to your house. It's pretty scary and you don't want him to hurt your friend, O.K? Email me if you need more advice or just want to talk. It's O.K with me. Email me at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com!
Best of luck!
Hope I helped!
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~~~Kayla~~~
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How can you convince her this guy is bad news? Not easily. However, no matter what happens, you can continue to be a supporting, caring friend.
Let "Hobbit" know that you care about her, and that you're not trying to prevent her from having a boyfriend. Explain why you don't like "Ent." Use specific examples, not just "I have a feeling" or "I don't like him." Describe what things have creeped you out. Write out a list if you have to.
Now, it's likely she won't listen.
If it's really scary, you could consider talking to her parents. Do they know she's dating a 21 year old she met on the internet? Have they met him?
If she's not listening? Still try to keep an eye on her. Let her know, and show her that, you care. Be a friend. As long as she still has good friends like you in her life, she's got a chance.
(I'll admit I don't usually answer this sort of question, but I liked the LotR nicknames :) Yes, I'm a geek)
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well it sounds like her love life usually isnt so great so shes just excited to have an acutal 'boyfriend'. if this guy isnt physically dangerous and threatening to her, then i would just let her figure what an ass he is for herself. its really good that your scared for her, but it sounds like youve already tried and you cant get through to her. if they go on more dates or whatever, try to make it into a double. dont let her go alone if you can! just give her time and hopefully she can figure it out!
hope this helps- :)
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