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He cheated on me..
Okay so I'm going out with this guy. He cheated on me with my "friend" at a party, and I found out. The thing is, I don`t think he would have told me if I hadn`t found out. I still love him so much, but nothing can ever happen between us because of what he did. He has apoligized and I`ve just been really mean to him. What the hell do I do???????
PLEASE HELP.
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well there are 2 aspects you should look at. first of all, you love him and im sure that eh does still love you. and no matter how hard things get, working through it, instead of throwing in the towel, is always the best, because both you and i know that good things come after working for them. even if it does take time.
but then there is the second aspect. he did cheat on you. perhaps the reason he wouldnt have told you was maybe because he was ashamed of what he had done, but maybe also because he thought he could get away with it with out any consequences and maybe later try it again. but really, it isnt my place to tell you which is the real, or right reason. i think you need to think about this one, after all, you know him better than any of the advice columnists on this site, all we know is the story that you told. use what you know. follow your heart.
take care.
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You break up with him. And I'm not trying to sound harsh here, that's the truth.
You love him, but you're being mean to him - is that what you want? Think about what is best for the two of you, not for the relationship.
And just because you two separate now, it doesn't mean you can't get back together. Besides, if you two aren't together, he will be able to be himself without regard to your relationship, and you can see whether he really wants to be with you or not. And, what I've found in my own experiences, people grow a lot more as people outside of relationships than in them, let alone in "soured" relationships.
So tell him you love him, but that you think that it's best if you two stop dating. If you want to leave the option open to get back together later on, tell him that.
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Oh my gosh! Personally, I think you're doing great! Keep doing what you're doing and keep being mean to him. He doesn't deserve ANY respect from ANYONE. And about your "friend"! What kind of friend does that with your boyfriend!?!?! Sbe is DEFINITLY not worth stressing over, either. You're way better than BOTH of them and you'll meet someone else that you really enjoy being with and love dearly. And if those two want each other, let 'em have each other. They BOTH don't know what they
re missing because you're OBVIOUSLY a good friend and a good girlfriend and you would never betray your best friend or cheat on your boyfriend. Be mean to your "friend" and your EX-boyfriend. If you need any more advice or want to talk about something totally off subject, you can send me a question in my inbox or email me at kitty_kats123@yahoo.com O.K?
Best of luck!
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~~~Kayla~~~
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sleep with his friend.
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Wow, I know exactly what your talking about. It happened to me a year ago. I still really liked my boyfriend, but I realized, even though he appologized, I'd hate to feel the same way I did when I found out he cheated on me.
Guys can act appoligetic for two reasons; They really DO love you; They just want you for their 'reasons.' If you really think this guy loves you, you can consider giving him another chance, but cheating isn't a good way of showing your girlfriend your love for her.
If he's never done anything like this before, and he's very into you and you know this for a fact, give him another chance. But never give a guy a third chance.
But if he HAS done something like this, even flirted with a girl a lot, I'd advise you to just let him go. Giving him another chance could be like giving him another oppertunity to cheat.
Sorry if I didn't help much, but I remember it was hard for me, and I hate to see people in the same crappy positions as me.
<3 Taylor
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