I'm Victoria. I haven't been on this site in a while. If you have received advice from me before and liked it, please feel free to ask more questions.
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A father finds his son praying at night. 'God bless Mommy, Daddy, and Grandma. Ta ta Grandpa.' The father finds this odd, but doesn't think too much of it. The next morning the grandfather dies. The father remembers the night before, but doesn't say anything. That night, the son prays, 'God bless Mommy and Daddy. Ta ta, Grandma.' The father hopes that nothing happens to the grandmother. Sure enough, the next morning the grandmother dies. At this point the father gets really scared. That night, the son prays "God bless Mommy. Ta ta, Daddy". The father stays up all night long, frightened. Early in the morning he goes to the doctor to make sure everything is fine. When he comes home, his wife is waiting frantically in the driveway and yells "Honey, come quick! The milkman just dropped dead on the porch!"
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"Cowards die many times before their deaths: the valiant never taste death but once. Of all the wonders that I have yet heard, It seems to me most strange that men should fear, seeing that Death,a necessary end, will come when it will come."
-Caesar Act II line 31-37
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" So our stories have made you sad, you tell me. Yes, this I can understand...but tears are not the right response. For every painful story there is one of beauty, one to learn from...You must never forget the art of enjoyment, otherwise the pain of survival will crush you."
-Gasper, a guerilla with the Guatemalan National Revolutionary union.
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Ok, well I have REALLY dark circles under my eyes! I don't how to get rid of them , and i get almost 9 hours of sleep! Ive tried falling asleep earlier, but it wouldn't work even if i could actually fall asleep earlier. I hate them and they look so ugly! Any ideas of how i can get rid of these ugly things, or at least cover them up? (link)
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Drinking more water helps, it could be that you are slightly dehydrated. See if that works, other than that, I have no ideas for make-up tips, sorry.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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Does anyone know where I can listen to songs from the movie "Chicago" without buying the actual movie? (link)
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Get the soundtrack. Go to Target or any other store that sells music.
MAd love,
Victoria
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ok, so i imed this guy i liked 2 days ago, and he was talking a lot and asking me stuff..and he usually never does this so i was excited. And i wanted to ask him to this dance for friday..my friend talked to him at lunch and asked him if he wud say yes if i aksed him and she sed that he sed "prolly yes", and that he seemed enthusiastic about it. So then today, i imed him and he didnt say word...and then put an away up.. Should i not ask him, and do you think that he doesnt like me? Thanks. (link)
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I think you should ask him to his face next time. When you IM people and you talk about somehting serious or ask them a serious question, to me, its very impersonal. You never see the facial expression or anything. When go to school friday, look him in the eye and ask, that way, you'll get a definite answer.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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I need some good advice. I am homeschooled and I would like to get into something like football. This years been rough and im considering going back to public school for 10th grade. If I go to public school though my parents are afraid that my attitude might change to match the people around me (which is very true and might happen and it'll be worse). Should I go back to public school and stay caught up, play sports, and be around other people. Or should I stay homeschooled and not be influenced by the people around me? (link)
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Well, you can be homeschooled and play on a sports team. Talk to the schools and see what they can do. I've seen kids do that before. So that way, both you and your parents are happy. You may have to talk to a counseler, but I'm not sure.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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How do I get rid of my writers' block? (link)
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Try not to dwell on it too much, thats what usually works for me. Relax, zone out, listen to music, just let the thughts come through your head freely. Sometimes, it may take an obscene amount of time, other times, BOOM! the idea is right there, the most important thing is to be patient when it comes to writing.
MAd love,
Victoria
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Are girls scared of erections? I mean if you're making out and they feel one, would they be freaked out? (link)
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Well, it depends on the girl. If I was making out with a guy and I felt his erection, honestly, I woould be REALLY turned on. Some girls may honestly disgusted, but...If a guy gets an erction while making out, thats expected, don't worry.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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when do you start showing when your pregnant?? and does anyone know how much tests at planned parenthood cost? (link)
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Well, for every women its different. Some women start to show immediately, other women don't show much at all. My friends mom didn't know she was pregnant until her third month, because she wasn't really showing at all. Call up some of the planned parenthood places and ask. Make an appointment if you have to, depending on your needs and only they can tell you. If you're a teenage girl, the cost may be less, but I'm not sure, I can't give a positive answer.
MAd love,
Victoria
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I want a completely new closet full of clothes for high school - but I want to have clothes that aren't sold around here. Can someone give me unique websites that aren't in a lot of malls, or in stores at all. Price really doesn't matter, so cheap and expensive sites are fine! I want something with a funky, yet classic style- basically anything.
Please don't suggest Ebay, Alloy, or Delias. Thanks! (link)
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Thrift Stores like the Salvation Army have pretty good stuff, most of the stuff is new, but people donate it anyways. i don't have any websites because I do the same thing you do, I don't buy from mainstream stores. But the best bet is thrift stores and garage and yard sales, I forgot to throw that in, too.
Mad Love,
Victoria
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Hey does anybody know any good april goold jokes? me and my friend were thinking of getting fake blood and pretending to fight in school! does anybody know where you can buy fake blood around this time of year?? PLez help! (link)
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Go to a Gags and Gifts store. Go on the internet and see if one is in your area. And if you can't find one, try red corn syrup, I hear that works just as well. I think thats funny, though. I have a friend who does stuff like that all the time.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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Okay, before I answer, I have to let you know one thing. I had a hard time reading your question, due to the format you wrote it in and the way things were spelled. I was compelled to delete the question entirely, but the only reason I didn't was because you asked me not to delete it and most of all you asked nicely.
Now, to answer your question. It depends on your religious beliefs first of all. Seeing as how I'm not Christian and I don't follow any of the Abrahamic books and i don't believe int he concept of Hell (even if I did) I don't think its a sin. Theres nothing wrong with masturbating, in my point of view, unless you do it in front of nuns, small children, you're masturbating TO small children, or you're doing it in public. The point of masturbating is to not only stimulate the sexual organs, but do what feels right. So, yeah, you can just touch the lips of your vagina, if thats what turns you on or you can also put things on your vagina. I'll try not to go into too much detail. Why should you hold your sexual feelings deep down inside? That only causes sexual repression. But, if you're still unsure about whether or not masturbating is a sin, the only thing I can tell you to do is...read your Holy Book. I hope I helped.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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I have three questions that i need to get answered their very random questions but id like to know the answer. -how do you give lap dances?-how do you have a three some (two guys, one girl) or (two girls, one guy)-how do you have a four some (two guys n two girls)? (link)
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Well, I'm sorry to say, but I can only answer one of your questions. I'm not sexually active or advanced enough for some of your other ones...but I can answer the lap-dancing question. Though I've never given nor recieved a lap dance, I did have a friend who was a male stripper. Just be sexy, and be...free. Don't restrain yourself, but most of all have fun. Be...sensual and seductive, but don't go over board with it. I'm sorry I can't answer the rest, and if I could I would, but I can't. Well, at least I answered one of your questions. One down two to go.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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Theres this guy he creeps me out every time I sign on he's on and he IMs me saying he's gonna rape me and crap and I'm scared...What should I do I'm 14 years old I need your help Allison please!!!!
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You can block and report him. Thats messed up. If this guy is really creeping you out, you're gonna have to go to the authorites.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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My boyfriend like to fidle around with my chest, and oh do I not mind, I think it is pleasureable and feels incredible, but he also will ask me to touch myself like he does. The thing is, I don't mind touching my breats like that, I like the feeling of me touching them and it kind of turns me on. Is this weird or wrong? (link)
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No, theres nothing wrong with that. Your boyfriend just wants to get the feel of what turns you on. He's learning. And if you like it, you like it. You're not doing anything wrong, and neither is he. Its mutual.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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I have very vivide dreams where I can feel everything is this normal? (link)
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Yeah, thast perfectly okay. Do you meditate? i have a friend, and whenever he meditates and goes to sleep right after, he has lucid, vivid dreams. I think you should write your dreams down, you could be the next Stephen King. But if they really scare you, you can get a dream dictionary to try to interpret them and see what they mean, or try therapy. but if you're like me and can't afford that, the dream dictionary is your best bet. they have them at most libraries or new-age book stores and Barnes and Nobles...just any place that sells books in general. But every dream book says something different, so...you may have to look around a little. Find one that suits you.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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I was just worried because I try and try to do my work but I still fail, and now I might fail the hole year, what should I do? Can anyone help me? (link)
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You should try going to tutoring or better yet, talking to your teachers. Depending on the teacher, if you talk to them and poitn out the fact that,yeah, you're not doing that great, but you always turn in your work on time and try your hardest, they may either give you extra credit, or raise your grade a bit. But your best bet, is to go to tutoring. Not every teacher may be as forgiving or understanding. You may learn differently. If you can go to summer school, you may not want to do it, but think about it like this, do everything you can so you WON'T be a grade behind and or screw up your gpa.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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Does anyone know where I can get some good quality (preferably with an underwire), but inexpensive bras? (like under $20) (link)
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Target is a good place to go. Kmart is also pretty good. Their prices range from $9-$12 The quality of the bras is very good. They have cute designs on them and plain ones, whichever you prefer.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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My boyfriend and i have been dating for the past 5 months. We go to the same high school, but next year he is going to a public school and leaving me at the private school we both go to now. He has had sex before and i havent. He wants me to but i tell him im not ready and he says he can wait. I love him so much and he tells me he loves me to, i just am nervous to have sex with him and then he will leave. and i dont want the condom to break and im stuck having a kid. Plus the main promblem is what will god think of me? Please Help!!!!!!!!! (link)
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I'm sorry to say, but if you boyfriend really loved you and respected you, he wouldn't force you to have sex. Have sex when your're ready, not when you're pressured. I'm being honest, and I don't want you to end up being hurt...but, I think he just wants to get in your pants. But you should sit down and talk to him and explain to him that you're not ready. And if hes a butt-hole about it, hes really not the one for you, because he doesn't respect your wishes or your body.
MAd love,
Victoria
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okay big health project and the question is what turns a girl on about a guy? (link)
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Well, it depends on the girl, but me? I'm turned on by a guy that makes me laugh...and has a nice smile, but most of all, personality. I don't care for looks too much. The guy I'm into now is about 5'5 and 180lbs and has a beard, but you know what? He sings to me and plays guitar, makes me laugh, and talks to me like a person...Plus, he's bipolar, so I find that oddly attractive, but I honestly feel that beauty is only skin deep, but personality, thats what you're going to remember most about a person....
MAd Love,
Victoria
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Hi, what I will address won't mainly be asking for advice, but for the input of the columnists on advicenators on a very controversial issue of morals against faith in the latter of sex.
I know that among some religions that premarital sex is sinful and highly prohibited without any exceptions, but what are your opinions?
I myself am a Catholic-Christan, and believed in the "sex until marriage" thing when I was together with my boyfriend. But as we got to know each other over the years, we got into intellectual conversations about this topic and if it's argument is valid and reasonable. I'm not saying that our relationship prompted a shift in mindset on this issue, but knowing him and being with him for so many years along with witnessing other married couples made me think about this a little more thoroughly.
I started to think about it as I grew older, and I began to feel differently. The divorce rate in the U.S. is at an amazingly high rate, and more couples are breaking it off even after saving the sex until marriage "policy". On some occasions I even think that these breakoffs are due to the quality of the sex. If the sex isn't good, usually lovers leave and commit infidelity. Unless the couple is really committed to one another, they will keep trying to make the sex work out.
The way I think about this scenario now is that I believe that it is acceptable to have sex before marriage, under certain circumstances. Because a couple must establish that intellectual intimate bond with commitment, devotion, loyalty, etc. Even then does that take years to accomplish, and the time spent shows respect to each other that both partners are willing to stick it out this long and wait for each other to take action that is of great importance. Also after all that is done, the relationship goes to the next level in the stage of sex. Having sex before marriage lets the couple know how how much they really love each other and how much they are willing to commit to each other. In a sense it tests us on how much we value sex and what factor it plays in our life. And if we don't pass the test in avoiding adultery, it was never meant to be with that person, so how can a couple get married if sex and passion got the best of them to steer them toward someone else?
To conclude, although you could say I'm going against my religion, it doesn't mean that I don't have faith. A lot of the "rules" that we have to abide by sometimes do seem unreasonable, in order to understand love and all the goodness that it brings, I really don't think marriage is enough to keep someone faithful.
In no ways am I encouraging premarital sex, especially on advicenators with teeny-boppers running around having sex with their semi-erect penises, but what I am saying is that before sex comes commitment, loyalty, devotion, understanding, civility, and vice versa. But I do believe that before marriage comes sex. Why because marriage is the highest level that a couple can go through to show their love toward one another for all of eternity, and how can you reach the highest level without sharing everything of yourself to your soulmate, including your most prized possession?
I apologize if I come off a little bias, but that isn't my intention at all. I'm not promoting anything, nor am I objectifying "sex before marriage." Those couples who are able to succeed through this lifestyle, I admire you, I really do. Especially in a society that is centered around sex nowadays. But I would like to know the opinions of others to better understand this controversial subject.
Thanks and sorry for the long read! I hope to hear a lot of responses! (link)
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Hmmm, you posed a very intelligent question, one of the best ones since I've been on this site. Let me start off by telling you when I think a couple should have sex. I people should have sex when both people respect each other and themselves, and there is some strong and deep feeling between the two of them. I don't believe in having sex with the first person you see, no matter how..."compelled" you may be. But, not having sex until you're married *sigh!* oh, boy! Its kinda like mind over matter, huh? I've never had relations of any sort, but I know that I'm going to have pre-marital sex. By the way, i'm not Christian, if you're wondering. It depends on the person. For example, I know that I'm either never going to get married or I'm going to get married a number of times, thats because of my personality, I'm not skanky or anything, but sometimes I grow weary of people, even those I love. True, this society does push sex on even the youngest of children, but people need to understand the difference between having sex and making love. Having sex is just, well having sex, but making love, there is emotion between the people involved, passion, something that many relationships nowadays lack. In todays society, if you're a virgin, you're equivalent to being a loser, which isn't true. But I feel that modern religions are well...outdated. I'm not looking to offend anyone, but please, hear me out. You have to look at when many of these Holy Books were written and also consider who wrote them. Mainly men, and in Biblical days, having a married a wife who was a virgin was a prize, I guess it showed it was virtuos. But many women who were not virgins were taken outside of the city and stoned to death...doesn't that sound primitive? In spite of some of the things I have said, I feel that sometimes virginity is pushed too hard in religion, I mean theres nothing wrong with chastity, but...I can't seem to find the words to explain to say what I mean... oh, tarter sauce! I hope you got something from my useless babbling.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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I use to love to read and get lost in it. now I jsut can't seem to becouse my mind keep wondering off, i can't seem stay fucus to read.. how i get my intress back? (link)
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Find some to read that catches your interest. One day, I'll be reading Othello, the next, I'll read about Bonnie and Clyde. Don't try and stick to one genre, that may be the problem. ANd if your mind wanders, thats alright, that happens to the best of us, don't force yourself to read, do it when you're comfortable.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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