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My name is Kristen, and I'm seventeen years old.

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I have a bunch of pimples on my chin and under my lips. I really hate them bc even with the tons of makeup i sover them up with they still pop out all gross and red. I would really love something that could make these DISAPPEAR!!!

Wash your face with an acne face wash, such as by Neutrogena. Try an acne cream with salicylic acid in it. Don't touch your face excessively; just try to leave the pimples alone.

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ok first of all, please dont say go google it or yahoo or whatever. doesnt work. does anyone know the artist name or song title for this, im really dont know much of the lyrics so ill try. also im pretty sure the group starts with the letter "A". it usually also plays on the semi-emo station. so heres some of the words i remember, its teh chorus:
"wanted to be something that's different. wanted to see the change in me..."

sry i know its not a lot-thanks a lot!

The song is called Different, and it's by Acceptance.

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I have a problem. With my jansport backpack, I have 7 folders and notebooks, and I cant seem to fit all of them. The backpack is pretty good sized, but I mean, I can only fit my binder (medium sized),7 folders, and like, 3 100 pg notebooks. What should I do? I mean, dont just tell me to try to fit everything in there and then try to zip it. Believe me, I tried that. So..what should I do? Is there anything I can do??

You can just hold your binder, and get a bag to carry it in. Another option would be to get an even bigger backpack.

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Does anyone have any tips for how to redecorate your room with very little money? I don't want to paint it or anything, but I want it to look less plain.

Look in places like Icing, Walmart, Target, and Claires. They have cheap decorating ideas, like chairs, beaded curtains, and pillows. You can just put up posters of your favorite bands, movies, celebrities, etc. Something my friends and I like to do is make collages out of pictures and sayings from magazines. You can get a camera and take a bunch of pictures of your friends and put them around your room.

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I have long straight hair and I part it on the side and I want to get sweeping bangs. I want them short enough to be able to leave them out when I put the rest of my hair up.. but I don't want them to get in my eyes and be annoying. So how long should they be?

The end of your nose might be a little bit too long. Try to the bottom of your eyes or your cheekbones instead. If you're really not sure though, talk to the stylist when you get your hair cut, and see what they suggest.

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okay so i'm 14, and my brother is 12..
my mom ALWAYS sides with him on everything, landing me in trouble. he gets to do things that i never got to do when i was his age and younger. my parents let him go over to his girlfriends house all the time, but they barely trust me at all to hang out with guys, or even with girls, because they think i am "secretly meeting guys". my brother is always in my room going through my things and stealing money, and beating me up. as of a couple seconds ago he punched me in the side so hard it knocked the wind out of me. this sort of stuff happens regularly but my mom doesnt care and insists i bring it on myself, when infact i dont becuase i just try to avoid my brother as much as possible. my brother lies to my parents telling them i'm off sneaking out to hang out with guys and kiss them, when i'm not. he's really ruining my life by beating me up and telling my parents lies so they dont trust me.

i am so tempted to try cutting, because i've heard it really does help, even if you need help. i'm trying to hold out, but i'm using up everything i've got. its 3v1 here, with my mom, brother, and step-dad against me. HELP ME PLEASE!

To start off, please don't cut. Trust me.. it makes you feel even worse about yourself. It ends up hurting you, rather than helping.
You need to sit your parents down and tell them exactly what's happening. Tell them they need to hear you out no matter what. You don't deserve to be treated like how you are currently being treated. Your parents need to learn that you are really not doing anything wrong. If it helps, try talking to a counselor (guidance counselor, anything like that). They will be able to really help you with what you have to say. Good luck! Please feel free to talk to me anytime you need to.

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im not concited. but i am well liked at my school. everyone thinks im...
exsperienced such in the kissing section. well ... im not... when you come from my elementry u are like a goodie good. not that i am but what ever. so anyways i havnt had my first kiss cause im not a hoe and im saving it.
is that soo wrong. and if i do kiss someone. would it all just come soo much more naturally?

You're not wrong at all. There's nothing wrong with saving your first kiss for someone special. When you do kiss someone, it will come naturally.

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im goin out with sumone right now and have been for 3 months he askes me if im ready to have sex but i have no clue what to say because im scared and at a young age (14) my body feels like its ready but i dont know if i am he says hes ok with whatever my choice is!i want to but i dont know if its the right moment sometimes?what should i do go on with it and deal with everything or forget about it???please i need some advice?

If you are not ready, then don't do it. You should never let a guy pressure you into doing something you don't want to do; it's your body. Don't just give into it because he wants it. You've only been with him for 3 months; you should get to know him better before anything else. Plus, you're only 14. You're probably not ready for any consquences that come with your actions. If you're feeling doubtful, it means you are not ready yet. Feel free to send me a message if you need someone to talk to.

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ive been looking everywhere for that nair shaving stuff does anyone know where to get it?

Walmart, Target, Walgreens should have it. It should probably be located near the shaving things.

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ok I have been doing about 60 situps a day and now my stomiac hurts in the bottom of it. REALLY BAD to. Whats wrong and whats going on. I will rate all 5'd 4 good answers. (Please exuse the misspelled words) Thanks

You just pulled some muscles.. You're straining them more than you usually are. Just rest for a little while before doing more, and try to stretch a little before the sit ups next time.

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I have a guy friend who I've always been very close to, but recently I moved a long ways away from him and I feel like we're drifting apart. There's just nothing to talk about anymore. I don't want to lose him because he's a really great friend.

I completely understand what you're going through; the same thing has happened to me. Now there's different friends and you can't really talk about them.
The best thing to do is talk about old times, old memories that you had, movies, music, television, school classes, the summer. Try and get together a couple of times a month, just meeting each other halfway or something.
Good luck! Thank for the question, and feel free to send me something else if you need to.

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Ok I'm a sophomore and I've never been to a dance before..why? I'm embaressed and scared to dance...I don't know how! I have no butt so what's there to shake..(aha seriously!) When I move my sides, I look retarded...I don't know what to do with my hands, head, etc..very embaressing..I look so stupid..can someone teach me how to dance naturally without looking like I'm trying to hump something..ahh..thanks!

Try to go out with a group of friends on the dance floor and watch what they're doing. Don't try and do anything crazy; just move to the music. I know; I would never dance at dances. Then I just watched others and realized I could do that too. You just need to relax and don't think about it too much. Good luck.

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i have like horrible sleeping problems...like sometimes i dont even fall asleep till almost 3 in the morning. does anyone have any like tips or something to help me fall asleep?


thanks ♥

Try not to go on the computer, watch TV, or listen to loud music for an hour or so before you go to bed. That just stimulates your mind, and will keep you awake. Just sit in bed and read a book. Drinking warm milk and taking a warm bath or shower might also make you sleepy. Good luck!

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ok, well my parents are divoreced and i live with my mom. i see my dad like every other weekend. well lately hes been pressuring me more then usual to move in with him. he even plays guilt trips on me like if i lived with him then he wouldn't have to pay child support(niether would my mom, my sis would stay there), anyway i dont want to live with him cause i know like 2 people there and i'd leave all of my friends(the best in the world, great listeners, mostly). i dont want to hurt my dads feelings but i dont want to live there with him, is there any way i could kind of let him off easy? i'll rate high for good answers.

sorry this is so long.

You need to really talk to him, and tell him exactly why you don't want to move in. Tell him you have friends there, and you are currently happy exactly where you are, and that's where you want to stay. Tell him that you'll always visit him. Don't feel guilty about anything. It's your life, and you need to do what makes you happy. If you need anything else, feel free to come and talk to me.

P.S. Wouldn't he still have to pay child support if your sister is still living with your mom anyway??

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For a musical I am doing with a lot of dancing, I need to wear character heels. My parents are "opposed" for some reason against my character heels because they think it's a health problem for me, even though the heel is only one inch and the whole thing is built for dancing in. They want to buy me other shoes, but I need to wear my character heels! What can I do to convince them? They are CONVINCED that their way of thinking is right without listening to me, too.

Exactly, they are made for dancing. I've personally used them before for a whole act of dancing (ballet), and nothing bad has happened. If there is some sort of review you can find in a dance magazine or something, show them that to reassure them.
Tell them your director said that you have to wear them, and that you'll be as careful as possible in them as you can be. Good luck! If you need any more help, feel free to send me something.

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Hey All.

My boyfriend is coming over in a few hours, and we have to stay outside. He will only be here for about an hour. He has a car, and he can drive, but we can't go anywhere. What are some things that we could do? (like games or w/e not nasty stuff)

Thanks in advance!

I'll rate and leave feedback, if that helps!

Oh, Its our 18month anniversery today, too.

-SLeK-

You can have a picnic outside. It doesn't have to be a full meal, just a snack, or even ice cream or something along those lines. If you have a camera, take some pictures. See if you can take a walk around the neighborhood, and just talk. Have fun!

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well i have a problem... every one at school makes fun of me cuz i have like absoulutely no!!! boobs. i cant do anything about it but everyone makes fun of me like its my fault. i have no clue what to do. and the main reason why i have no boobs is because i havent had my period and its not like i can control that either! HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!

Exactly, it's not your fault. Just ignore them; they won't get the attention they want if you just pretend that they aren't saying anything. There's really not much you can do, except for trying a padded bra. Just try on lots of clothes that make you feel confident in your body.

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ok this school year is gonna suck because i aint gonna be able to buy that many clothes for school...we are broke and my mom has to buy school clothes for 3 kids so i know its hard for her..and shes a single mom...i was just wondering if yall knew any ways that i could make some money to buy my school clothes...i am only 13 so i cant get a job...please help!!...thanks a lot

There's really not much a 13 year old can do, except for babysitting and odd jobs for neighbors. Put up flyers for babysitting. Ask your neighbors if they need any help with gardening, or mowing the lawn. If you don't spend everything you make, you can definitely make a lot of money this way.
Definitely check out TJ Maxx and Marshalls for clothes. At these stores, shirts and jeans that would normally be very expensive are only between $10-$20.

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I just started having my period i've had like 4 or 5. this one month it didn't come.(that whole week i spent it at the beach)is it normal to skip periods when you first have them? please help and no smart ass stuff i'll give 5's!!

It is completely normal. Actually, the first couple of years that you get it will not be normal.

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Hey Everyone, Whats up?

You Know Jessica Simpson's new "Dessert line" Of beauty probucts? I was wondering, Can you Really eat them? Or Not? I read the back of a Bottle to see the ingredients and I really couldn't tell. Anyone Know?

(Are they worth the price?)


-SLeK-


(If it matters, I'll rate and leave feedback!)

You don't just want to drink a bottle of it, but you can lick it and stuff. I personally don't think that it's that great. I wouldn't pay $32 for shimmer powder.

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