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I joined this thing because I thought it would be interesting to help people and give them some advice. Basically, I'm a crazy, freakishly weird, extremely blunt, unpredictable, lazy, fatass at heart, funny, random bitch. =P And you're probably wondering; "Why in the hell would I want advice from THAT?" lol ^_^ But trust me, I'll give ya some useful advice. On the otherhand, I enjoy playin guitar, music[anything except country], writing, laughing, open-minded people and so forth. If you want to chat, hit me up on my AIM screen name.

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Iam 18 years old and just got into a new relationship with an older guy. Hes 22. Im still a virgin and he isnt. He told me when and if Im ready to have sex with him then that will be an issue that we sit down and discuss. Iam very mature and know exactly what I want out of life. Im a great person..so Im told. I really do think that I am emotionally and physically ready to have sex. Its just that Im so self concious and think that I wont be any good. Not just at sex, but kissing and oral sex. I havent kissed a guy in 4 years and Im terrified to mess up. How should I handle this? How can I make myself feel better about this?

First of all, that's good that you actually thought this problem over. But being self-concious is hard. However, just flat out tell him that you're terrified you won't be "good" at anything. If he really loves you, the sex shouldn't matter. Sex is an ACTION of love. Just ask him to guide you. You'll be fine. :] Good luck, babe.

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i love all my friends dont get me wrong but i really like one of my friends and he knows i like him but he has a girl freind and i think he likes me but i really dont know what to do??

If he really like his girlfriend of his, I don't think you should really interfere with them. If he ALREADY knows you like him... what did he say? I guess, all you can do is wait and see what happens. Sorry hun. Good luck!

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I am in a long distance relationship with this guy I really love. The problem is.. i feel like he's going to cheat on me. When he lived here, he cheated on me once cause he got drunk and stoned. I just afraid he will do it again and I will find out about it. I really want to trust him but its hard.

Is there any way to convince myself that he's not cheating on me.. or that he won't cheat on me?

**I know it sounds kind of stupid, but it really bothers me**

Honestly... you shouldn't have to convince yourself. HE should find a way to make you gain his trust back. If he really loves you, he needs to do something about it to make you NOT feel so insecure anymore. Talk to him about it and see his response. And if he gets drunk and stoned all the time... then I think you should look things over :/

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is it normal for me to be crying over little things when i get my period??

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Definately. When you have your period; you can get really emotional or moody. It's just your hormones and what not. Don't worry about it too much, it's all natural. :]

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Well, I'm really good with guys when we're not going out. I can think of anything really quick to make them laugh and to have a good conversation. But when we start dating I freeze up. i even try to pretend that I'm not dating him and he's just my friend so I can act like I was before. But i get so speechless! its like i dont want to say anything stupid or embarassing..

Haha... just be yourself as you were. That's probably what made him like you in the first place! Whether you say something stupid or not; I'm sure he'll still like ya :P

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I'm really into writing Dark Poems, REALLY dark poems. But the weird thing is, I'm a REALLY happy person who leads a good life with a loving family and lots of friends. o.o; I don't have any depression or anything and I'm not going through Teen Angst. Is something wrong with me? o___O;

haha. I don't believe anything is wrong with you. Dark poems are exremely profound and expressive... in many ways. I like reading and writing them as well, and I don't have much problems. There's nothing wrong with liking sinister poems at all, hun. :] Have fun, kiddo.

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My boyfriend hangs around more with his "girl" friends then me. At the end of the day when we are waiting on the bus, he'll go and talk with his friends (girls) and not me. It makes me sooo mad! One of the girls is his ex girlfriend! and the other ones really like him. He's being a jerk! What's his problem and what should I do about it? Thanks so much! I RATE HIGH!

Well, of course you have the right to be somewhat jealous, but if you really want to see what's up, I suggest you just talk about it with him. Be like "I understand that you have girls that are friends, but I just feel neglected and you seem to spend time more with them than me. I don't want to sound like a bitch or anything, but I just wanted to tell you." Something like that, I suppose. I mean, you don't want him to think you're insecure about him having girls that are friends, but you also want him to know how you feel. Afterwards, see how he treats you. If the problem persists then that's kind of bad. :/ Anyway, hope I helped some. Good luck, sweetie.

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Ok, i'm 13/f and my neighbor is 14/f, we were talking one night and it was like 9:00 so it was dark, so i went in the basement and he followed, i was putting the laundry in the washer and he came up behind me and put his arms around me, i liked it so i turned around then he kissed me and we made out, a lot. we went in the very back yard on the picnic table, no one can see it cuz its too far back, and he layed on it and i sat on his tummy, he had his hands on my ass and we makeout more then he fingered me and rubbed my boobs, and we made out more then we had to go in cuz it was 11:00, we were going to do something like that again but i went on vacation, and now i havnt seen him, should i bring it up or never do it again? was it wrong of me? we have also talked about sex, i want to but i dont want the condom to break, what shold i do about everything??

First of all... don't you want to have sex with a guy you truly love and care for? Obviously, you don't love and care for this guy. Just for your sake, I don't think you should do it again. MY honest opinion. It's just going to lead to sex, and you're way too young to have sex. Do you think a 13 year old is emotionally, physically, mentally, and stable enough for a child? Didn't think so. If that's all you do with him then I honestly think you should stop. Kay? Good luck, kid. :]

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Heres my problem:

9th grade I talked and all but not to o much and was sorta shy and now schools starting again and im in 10th grade I just dont wanna be shy nemore and I know that its gonna be hard and all because Ive tried before to stop but it didnt help that much and like what will I talk to the people about I dont just wanna be like oh hey whats up even though I dont know you like in my english class what do I saw to the person by me and all so if neone can help me w my problem and actually my problem please answer back w some advice niot just stupid answers please thanks!

Being shy just comes along naturally. That's just who you are... you can either overcome while you hit some certain growth spurt or just be like that. It's okay to say "hey, what's up?" to any person. It'll just show that your NOT shy and you actually want to social. Just be yourself, babe and open up more! Good luck, kiddo. :]

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I have a problem with opening up to my friends. I've been a big flirt for like my whole life! I even won biggest flirt at my middle school. But I havent really DONE anything if you know what I mean. Like I kissed but didnt make out. ANYWAYS i have two best friends and they havent done that either! But I have a secret. I actually have gone farther than that a couple times... I'm not comfortable telling them about it because they asked me what happened when "john" came over to my house and I told them NOTHING! so then they would know I lied to them. I dont want any answers saying something like "be honest cuz thats the best" blah blah blah!
I just dont know what to do....

Haha. Who said you HAD to tell your best friends what happend. And if you're considering these people your "best friends" then you should be comfortable talking about it with them. I mean, if you really want them to know tell them straight up [like the other chick said] and if you don't then just keep it to yourself. Even if they know or think you're lying; it's your buisness. Good luck, babe.

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okey the boy that i like is soo shy..he is one of the shyest boys that you ever would meet but like only when it comes to girlfriends and doing stuff other than that he is like outgoing and my best frend..he knows i like him and he sed he dno wat hed do if i kised him because he doesnt make the first move..i have thought it over allot and he sed he wudnt pull away so tomorrow morning when he comes to wake me up while were laying in my bed i am going to say "heyy can i show you something" hell sey ya and im going to kiss him not an all out hook up but i am going to kiss him a little bit..and then see wat happens..were best frneds and we flirt all the time we always act like we like eachothr but we are both shy..its just like i cant wait any longer and i am going to make the first move..do you think that its a good idea? what else could i do?

Heh. If ya'll are best friends and stuff, ya'll should be really comfortable with each other. So, kissing him might actually be a good idea. Just go for it! Don't be scurrred. ;) Good luck, kid.

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how can I stop being so SHY!?! Guys only go out for me because of my looks and not my personality because I sorta freeze up around people I don't know well or aren't friends with.

That's just how you are. If you really want to change... then you can. I used to an extremely introverted and shy little girl... even my own mother thought something was wrong with me. But I grew out of it. Either you're gonna hit some certain growth spurt and get out of it; or that's just how you're going to be. Just open up more to people, babe. :]

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Hi my name is jessica my friend and i have known each other since 2nd grade now she thinks i called her a jerk so now its a big fight between us i tld her sorry but she said that it didnt cut it so i really want to be friends again what should i do

2nd grade? Wow. And ya'll are in an arguement because she THINKS that you called her a jerk. Can you say immature? I'm sorry, but just because she thinks you called her a jerk your friendship is in jeopardy... it's not worth losing companionship over that. Especially if ya'll were friends THAT long. You should just tell her that this is all stupid and it's not worth losing ya'lls friendship.

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Why does everyone hate emo so much? I'm not complaining, I'm just curious. I personally like emo bands, certain bands, not all. And if you are going to respond to this question, don't just say "Cuz its stupid" I want an honest response, and on honest opinion. Your response is greatly appreciated.

Well, I guess everyone has a different opinion on what "emo" music is. I think emo music is just anything with emotional lyrics. Something that affects you. Some just narrow it down to particular bands. I think people that do that; think it's whiny bullshit music. But yeah, that was a good question to ask.

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this is goin to sound REALLY werid and maybe distubbing but i need an outside opinon,
i have seen my cousin, 2 times in my WHOLE life, me and my family stayed there for a weekend the second time, me and him slept outside in the tent cuz there was no rooms in the house, seperate, or anythig so we jsut slept out there and he kept putting moves on me! and touching me like, ( a boyfirend ) would do, i was getting really uncomfortable then when i was goin to sleep he pulled nice in close to me, and then he started kissing me then we started to make out i then id stop and tell him this is wrong he said we barley see each other so its allright but i didnt' agree i went back to trying to fall a sleep and then he started goin down my pajama pants and he FINGERD me, for liek 3-5 seconds cuz i pushed him off, i don't feel comfortable to even talk to him on the computer anymore and i can't TELL anyone cuz they'll think im like discusting what do you guys think?

That IS disturbing that HE would do that. He's total family whether or not ya'll barely know each other. It was totally unethical of him to try to do that to you. I say, tell his mom or your mom so you won't have to deal with him anymore. Kay... hope it goes well.

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ok im 13, 5'4, and 97 lbs and a high matabalizm. my friends say im skinny, and i agree but sometimes i think im too skinny.. when im at school people make fun of me bcuz they think im anorexic but im not. i try to gain a few pounds but the more i try to gain, the more i lose. can you help me please! thx *Marielle*

Haha. You're only 13 which means you're still growing. Girls usually stop growing when they're 18. So, dont worry about it too much. I'm sure you're always going to be skinny because it's your genes. Just be happy with yourself. :]

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I'm in 1/2 of a band, and i have 2 questions here i guess..


1. We have only guitarist (myself) and a bassist (my friend.)...how can i find out if anyone is a drummer?

2. I'm kind of nervous to play guitar in front of people...and possibly sing if anyone thinks i'm any good....how do i get over my stage fright?

1. My friends are in a band and they needed help finding a drummer as well. One idea I thought of is you could possibly... make flyers of the requirements of what you want your drummer to be like. You could post the flyers around in your school, guitar center, neighborhood.

2. I think you should play guitar and sing in front of you close friends and ask them honestly what they think. Anyhow, just go out there and go for it. Just rock out with your cock out!!! Muhahaha. ;]

Good luck, kid.

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My parents both smoke... i dont like it at all and i know its killing the both the both of them! I dont want them to die and i dont want my lungs to suffer from it.. what can i do to tell them that they need to stop! I rate high.. please help me!

Ah. My mom smokes as well, and I absolutely hate it because it gives me headaches and what not. However, your parents are adults and grown people. They can make their decisions whether or not if they want to smoke. Although, YOU shouldn't be the one to suffer from it. I think you should just talk to both of them and tell them how you feel. Tell them that it's hurting you knowing that it's smoking is putting all of ya'lls life in danger. And if they're gonna HAVE to smoke; to not do it around you. Hope I helped a bit. :] Good luck, hun.

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I moved to Tennessee about a month and a half ago from West Virginia,and I am still in love with this boy in West Virginia.He tells me he still thinks about me all the time,but he also talks to this other girl,and I don't know what is going on in his head,and we have been out twice,but had some problems.I really don't know what to do,because I live in Tennessee now...please help!

First, I think you should talk to him about how you feel and how he feels. I'm sure you're still in love with him, but obviously he doesn't feel the same if he's talking to another girl. Plus, long distance relationships are hard. Honestly, I think that ya'll can still talk and be friends, but I really think you should just move on and date other guys to see what else is out there. :]

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Ok well i been wid mybf for over 9 months and i have been thinkin bout"IT" lol well i wanted to wait till i was like 16 but i dont think im gunna b able to wait that long cuz im 13 now turnin 14 next month but i feel im conforablen stuff n im almost definately positive my bf iz!! lol so my questions iz do u think i should or do u think im to young?!?!?!?! plz help!! thanx



~*~ Should I?!?!? ~*~

Oh gosh. You're so young. I think that people should have sex when they think they are prepared enough to support a child. ANYTHING can happen. Not only that, you should ask yourself are you physically, mentally, emotionally, and stable enough to have a child? I think not, sweetie. I can tell by your age. Just because you both think you're "ready and comfortable" doesn't mean you should have sex with him. Honestly, you shouldn't even be THINKING about having sex with another boy. I say no.

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