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Am I ready?
Iam 18 years old and just got into a new relationship with an older guy. Hes 22. Im still a virgin and he isnt. He told me when and if Im ready to have sex with him then that will be an issue that we sit down and discuss. Iam very mature and know exactly what I want out of life. Im a great person..so Im told. I really do think that I am emotionally and physically ready to have sex. Its just that Im so self concious and think that I wont be any good. Not just at sex, but kissing and oral sex. I havent kissed a guy in 4 years and Im terrified to mess up. How should I handle this? How can I make myself feel better about this?
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First of all, that's good that you actually thought this problem over. But being self-concious is hard. However, just flat out tell him that you're terrified you won't be "good" at anything. If he really loves you, the sex shouldn't matter. Sex is an ACTION of love. Just ask him to guide you. You'll be fine. :] Good luck, babe.
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Well, your bf seems like a really great guy, so i think you could easily talk to him about this stuff. tell him how you feel and stuff
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*Calm down* this guy knows that u arent experienced obviously since he knows ur a virgin. He understands. Be sure to tell him erything u just said, but a lil different. Most older guys are more mature so it will be easier. I'm not saying eryone is but u know how that goes. He should love u more for who u are, not for how good at sex or kissing. Besides practice makes perfect lol :) So do nething that ur comfortable with. This guy seems to really care since he can wait to have sex with u.
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if he knows ur a virgin nd yu`r not all that experienced... it wuldn`t be a problem for him... he shuld expect that yu`r not gonna kno all tha r0pes... im sure he wuld be happy wit the fact that yu trust him enuff to show yu the ropes nd not think yu`r stupid if yu mess up some how... everyone starts somewhere... jus have confindence nd yu`ll wont worry about it as much... jus give it yu`r best... thas wha matters tha most -haley
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since he knows that youre a virgin, i dont think he will mind if you arent good at kissing or oral sex or whatever. rather, hed understand and im sure hed help you out with it. stuff like this takes time to make right and to be good at it. whenever you decide to have sex, just have fun and dont get self conscious. its usually when you get self conscious that you get uptight and nervous and hold back from enjoying things. instead just let go, the less you care, the more wild youll be.
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dont do anything you arent comfortable with! kissing comes naturally and then from there and wen ur more comfortable with the guy messing around wont be so weird but just wait til ur ready to do nething, dont let him push u!
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im sure youll be fine!! theres nothing to worry about.. every bodys bad the first time.. thats why you gotta learn.. and kissing, everyone kisses a different way! good luck
-xxoBrianna
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if you feel that you are ready then you are ready. But if he tries to have sex with you and you dont feel right about it then dont. Its all on what you feel inside
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Well, i'm only 16 but i'd sit down wit him and tell how u feel about it and try to make him understand.
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trust me youll be ready i kno lots of girls who always think they aint ready, and if u dont think u r u can ask yo man for help to when yall ahve sex i kno hell be more then gladd to,u can also practice kissin on other objects to get ya ready fo da big night good luck. $M$
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if you're self concious about doing those things with him and you think you won't be any good at it just sit down and talk to him about it. i know it sounds odd to be talking about a fear of being bad at kissing and oral sex but if he loves you and he respects you then he will understand and not pressure you into anything. you said that you really do think you're emotionally and physically ready to have sex but if you think that you won't be any good at it you're really not 100% emotionally ready just yet. i'm a virgin (of course becaus i'm 14) but i feel that if you truly love a guy and you want to be involved with him in that way and he truly loves you then he won't judge you on whether you're good or not. you're a virgin... you're not supposed to be experienced at that stuff! don't worry about it. just talk to him and you'll feel better! hope i helped!
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