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Long Distance Relationship
I am in a long distance relationship with this guy I really love. The problem is.. i feel like he's going to cheat on me. When he lived here, he cheated on me once cause he got drunk and stoned. I just afraid he will do it again and I will find out about it. I really want to trust him but its hard.
Is there any way to convince myself that he's not cheating on me.. or that he won't cheat on me?
**I know it sounds kind of stupid, but it really bothers me**
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for girls it is very hard to trust another guy after they have been cheated on. He knew he was cheating on you when he was drunk or stoned...otherwise you didn't mean nothing to him. either way he knew! Im a guy i know these things. If you are absolutely clear that he wont fuck up again then go for it. otherwise find someone else
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Honestly... you shouldn't have to convince yourself. HE should find a way to make you gain his trust back. If he really loves you, he needs to do something about it to make you NOT feel so insecure anymore. Talk to him about it and see his response. And if he gets drunk and stoned all the time... then I think you should look things over :/
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of course it would bother you, he cheated on you once, you should confront him on how you feel and maybe he could clear everything up! dont worry bout it so much, <3 hope everything works out <3
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aww wel liif he cares about u as much as u care about him then u should trust him other wise jsus talk ta him
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A wise friend told me once "If you love someone dont doubt them" Love all has to do with trust, and thats what a relationship is really built on... Just try not and think about him cheating on you, when you arent talking to him keep yourself occupied so your mind doesnt wonder back to the whole "is he cheating on me thing?"... it'll be hard you just gotta trust him...
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sweetheart, long distance relationships never work.. he may or may not cheating on you.. if hes crunke.. hell most likely cheat on you again. but if you like him soo much like you say you should trust him and know that hes not cheating on you and he would never when hes sober..
-xXoBrianna
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It doesn't sound stupid!! (lol) I know how you feel, been there before. Anways, sweetie...he loves you and you are his girlfriend. You need to trust him because without trust relationships tend to slip. If you're really concerned just tell him about it. You love him and you should never feel afraid to tell him whats on your mind. When you hear his voice and it sounds honest you'll be convinced. I don't know you or this guy personally, but he loves you for a reason and why would he cheat on a girl he truly loves you? You most likely stood out from all the other girls, so I don't think he would find another girl with all the same and wonderful qualities you have! Just give him a call and tell him everything, because if he knows that you're afraid he can reassure you himself. Don't worry hun, everything will be okay!! Love Always, Mandee
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This isn't a stupid question.
Now, there is no absolute way to suddenly make yourself trust someone. Initially, it's taking a risk - you decide to open yourself up to another person. It's up to that person to continue to earn and keep your trust.
This guy broke your trust, and it's natural to doubt his actions. How did you feel when he cheated on you? How do you STILL feel about it? Is it worth it to live with these doubts and hurt feelings - all for a guy you don't trust?
It's your choice, and I wish you the best. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is listen to your brain/heart and do what they say, but that's usually the only way to make sure you'll be happy.
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It's not stupid at all! Eh..thats a sucky position to be in though. If I were you I would just be completely honest with him, and ask him about it! Tell him to be honest with you no matter what!! You can always tell him not to drink or smoke w/o you...but that doesnt always work! How long have u 2 been together? After a while your trust will grow!! But just make sure you tell him to be honest with you about EVERYTHING! =)
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