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I am 48 years old (yes that's old compared to some of you).
I have worked in nursing and/or healthcare management positions for 24 years. Primarily OB, Neonatal, Mental Health, Occupational Health and Geriatrics. In Jan 2008 I started my own business to board horses and do equine/human education. I am also a certified dog trainer.
I've been around the block so to speak and seem to be always helping others. I've been told that the reason people seek me out for advice is that I am approachable and caring. But on the same token even though I consider the person's feelings. I tell it like I see it. I've dealt with people in trouble with the law, dysfunctional families such as those with abuse & marriage problems. Not to mention problems with employees and employers.
I don't ever claim to know it all, and always keep an open mind.
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about 9 weeks ago, my horse bucked me off. and since then, my tailbone still hurts, i cant recall if i actually landed on it, but i might of bruised it/cracked it. I didnt notice that it hurt so badly until i went back to school, which was about 1 or 2 weeks later. And it still hurts, I try to exercsise to lose weight and some of the exercises are ones where you sit back on your tailbone, and they hurt. My mom wont take me to a doctor or get my back xrayed. She says it wont do any good. And I continue to ride horses now, like 3 or 4 days a week. So are there any exercises or therpy exercises that i can do for my low back and tailbone? My mom wont take me to a chiropractor either, obviously. So for MY benefit, I would like to get my back better =]
Thanks!
15/f
You could have fractured your tail bone, but the only way to know for certain is with an x-ray. The good it will do going to the doctor is, you can get some appropiate pain medication and he can tell you what activies you should limit to allow the area to heal. Actually at this point exercise may make it worse and certainly riding horses won't help. So insist to your Mom that you need to see a doctor. If she still won't take you talk to the school nurse, maybe he/she can write a note.
My dog : http://i35.tinypic.com/e0llc8.jpg
She's only 8 months, and i know you have to discipline/train a puppy so i was just wondering if there's an effective quick solution to her problems. She's very hyperactive and when we leave her alone she barks, cries, poops/pees on the carpet, and most importantly: she destroys anything in sight of her. At night we have to keep her in the cage, in the day we have to keep her outside. I hate it, especially since we're close to winter. Me and my dad are most likely going to fight about this. He's already yelled at me for what she did last time (She tore of some of the old couch from the basement). He told me next time it happens he's going to take the dog away:(
So, anybody know any nice effective training methods to stop my dog from biting and chewing things she shouldn't? She's already ruined a whole bunch of my teddy bears >.
Hello,
You didn't say what breed the dog is. Training methods may vary between breeds and their "chew" or preditor instincts may differ. Also certain breeds take longer to outgrow this behavior.
I always recommend crate training. I know you said you kennel her at night, but I would recommend it during the day and in the house. Putting her outside all day will not help housebreak the dog...as every where is the toilet. They do not learn the rules too well that way.
http://www.inch.com/~dogs/cratetraining.html
To stop chewing. Yes you can get substitute chew bones, ask the pet store which is best as some are not actually good for the dog. In addition I found that the toys that one can put treats inside of work very well. Chewing is a sign of teething and boredom both. Exercise the dog first then bring her in the house and tempt her with objects she might like to chew on, then place them in one corner of the room and make her sit and stay away from the objects...in otherwords demonstrate that they are off limites.
For the couch and bigger objects, try bitter apple chew stop spray. It works for most dogs, but you have to reapply it.
I was diagnosed with chronic depression a few years ago. My doctor and I tried quite a few different treatments, including medication and counseling, but it didn't help and the medication made me more suicidal than I already was.
So, I went off the meds and I was able to keep it under my own control for the past year, until recently.
I haven't been able to do much lately because I have felt so tired, I feel like everything is going wrong, and that there isn't anything here for me, but I know in my heart and my head that this isn't true.
I feel as though I am losing my mind over this and I can't seem to remember the little things, like conversations that I had with my bf just a few minutes before.
Or I'll remember something that happened 2 weeks ago and I'll randomly start to laugh or cry about it, however it made me feel at that time, I repeat that action.
I have no idea what to do and I feel so lost.
But I know that I can't take the medication again because of how it makes me feel and the extreme side effects that occur, so any help would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you.
Right now, trying to help others and taking on their problems will most likely make your depression worse. You must take care of yourself first. Sometimes we pick up on the "negative" energy of others and it drains us. If your reserves are taxed anyway, this will only make matters worse. It's not possible for everyone to own a pet or an animal, but that is what helps me get through the tough times. Also a lot of fresh air and exercise, even such as walking can be of great benefit. Perhaps a support group that can give feedback on your progress will also help.
http://ezinearticles.com/?Want-To-Be-Happy?-Be-Kind-To-Yourself&id=375454
So I got back from a long trip only to find out that I have mono. I'm not really sick anymore, just realllly tired all the time- just walking to the bathroom makes me exhausted. How can I speed up the healing process and get more energy?
Already drinking water and taking vitamin c.
Thanks.
I've been there. The only thing that helped me was a lot of rest. The fatigue is overwhelming, in fact I was so tired I couldn't have even been forced to exercise. A good diet, rest and a lot of fluids will help you more than anything. When you do feel better, add exercise little by little and build yourself back up slowly.
16/f
ok so i had a bit of bad razer burn "down there", then it got really itchy and got even worse from me itching it. Then it got kinda irrtated from my sweat and stuff from my soccer preseason. What is the best way i can get rid of this rash? I have been putting baby powder on it, but i need something that will make it go away so i can shave again.
During the day, or when you might sweat, try using cornstarch, and not baby powder. Sometimes the scent in the powder makes a rash worse. At night apply a 1% hydrocortisone cream, and wear loose cotton pajamas, no nylon underpants. (keep the area as clean and dry as possible). Be sure to ask a doctor or a pharmacist if you have any doubt about using over the counter medications. If you notice an increase in symptoms, increased redness or swelling you may also wish to call the doctor because you could have a secondary skin infection.
I'm not looking for an excuse but my friend won't drink with her boyfriend. They did just start going out (2 months ago) but she never drinks with any of her boyfriends.
What would be the reason to why she doesn't?
Guys you might know the answer more but then again I'm not sure. Please don't say go ask her :)! Thanks!
I would also say it is a control issue. Your friend wants to keep in good control of her mental status so she can deal with her boyfriends with a clear mind. Good idea!
I have had two goldfish for five months now... they seem to be doing just fine. One of them, however, developed what looked like a big white spot on his head (it was almost as big as his head). Today I noticed that it turned completely red and looks like a big spot of blood.
I am really concerned that he might end up dying from this..any information on what this might be, and how to possibly treat it?
Here's a link with some information:
http://www.goldfishinfo.com/identify.htm
I had a goldfish with something similar and it happened to be an embedded worm. Eventually the worm did break through the skin and a friend of mine removed it with tweezers. That fish lived a long time afterwards, but we did have to treat the tank. The pet store could give you info on that. Basically though, other than for fungus and certain inbalances of the tank, it is hard to treat fish for diseases, and such things as tumors.
Sub: Erection Problem
My age is 48 (Weight 75 Kg.)
I have sugar (Type I) Range between 125 to 225
I had hand habit from my age of 13 (some time now
also)
I am not getting continue sleep for 6 hours. I am
working has a Technical Assistance. Working hours 6
hr.(not having hard work). Working inside A/C room.
My weight is not increasing. My weight was 85 before,
it is decreasing little by little.
Last 4 Years I am living out side India, Every year 2
month coming to India.
Last two year I am having erection problem
( I am not getting hard erection)
Note: During Sleeping Time I am getting hard erection.
When I wakeup I am noticing the penis having hard
erection, then it is coming normal.
Please advice and refer the suitable medicine or
advice to me.
Thank you very much in advance.
Best regards
e-mail: amjamalmohamed@yahoo.com
Even if it is available, do not take Viagra without the advice of your physician.
You should have a complete physical at a Dr. because this tells me that you may have circulation problems (which can lead to other disorders that are more serious).
Many men experience the same thing, and there is hope and help avialable, but the exact cause needs to be determined.
In addition if you smoke cigarettes or drink alchohol, stop. Do your best to get plenty of sleep, and try to keep your blood sugar in the lower range. The blood sugar will be most important for avoiding other complications such as kidney or vision problems.
I cant sleep during the night. My body wont let me sleep until 2. And i have no idea why. Im tired. My minds tired. But i just cant. i have to get up and babysit at 6am. So thats only 4 hours. Its makeing me sick. I cant think straigh or anything. I feel like im going to puke. My heads killing me. Like today i was babysitting. I kept falling asleep during the day. But once i tryed to sleep, i couldnt. My head started to hurt and everything. Please help. school starts soon. Also, im going to start taking sleep aids. But i dont want to become dependent on them. And i have no had sex no there no way this has to do with being preg. Btw, im 13/f. Please help.
The over the counter sleep medications are basically just benedryl and sometimes that plus tylenol. It doesn't really solve the problem though. It may be a good idea to see a doctor and get checked out.
If you do drink or eat anything with caffine, try not to after 5:00 PM in the afternoon. Keep your room dark and cooler which will stimulate the natural production of Melatonin (the sleep hormone) So no nightlight/hall light or street lights should shine in your room.
You may be stressing about getting up so early--and actually that is preventing you from going to sleep. Turn your clock backwards and don't continiously check it. If you normally go to bed at let's say midnight, start going to bed an hour to a half hour earlier for a week, then the next week earlier than that, and so on. Some people need to program their body to sleep at certain times. Also if you can, try to keep the same schedule on the weekend or your days off.
hi, i'm 14/f, and i live in boston. i play sports, a different one every season. i consider myself a popular girl, and i usually have a boyfriend. but recently, i have been doing some seriously dumb stuff. like 2 months ago i smoked weed for the first time with this really hot kid. then, a month ago, i got rly wasted but i got caught. my friends figured after my month long groundation i wouldnt be doing stuff like that anymore. i thought so to, until i woke up this morning and went downstairs. my brother and his best friend (both 16,) were rolling joints in the kitchen (both my parents at work) so my brothers friend kept telling my brother to let me smoke with them, even tho i didnt ask to. i ended up smoking a lotttt, and i got intensley baked. a half hour later, wen i was still super high, my friends mom picked me up to go shopping, and i think they could tell i was high. things were akward all day. now, i dont no what to say to them, i know their really disappointed, and i need to know how to make things right with them. thanks in advance..
Hi,
Perhaps just talking to your friend "if she is a good friend" and not her Mom will be enough. You don't really have to talk about the day you went shopping because if they noticed the friend will probably say something during this conversation.
Just tell your friend you've tried weed a few times and now you've realized it was really dumb--you didn't like it and you will stop. Then seriously mean it and do stop.
If not you risk losing a lot of things, including friends and I suspect you are not wanting to jeopardize friendships so that is why you are asking how to make things right.
To make things right with them, you have to first make things right with yourself and the rest will fall into place w/out really doing anything else.
Best of luck.
I haven't really even given this much thought in a loooong time, but this keeps coming to mind and it's annoying, so any help would be great.
I'm not sure how old I was, probably around 9--I'm much older now. But I was over a friend's house, she was probably 2-4 years older than me. So we were just playing, and at some point she started mentioning how she wanted to 'do things', and I know I was nervous and didn't want to but I have no idea what I said. So she ended up getting me to take my clothes off (I'm pretty sure she said she 'wouldn't play with me' if I didn't--as sad as that sounds) and ended up touching/getting me to do the same to her.
The thing is, was this my fault or was I responsible or what? I have no idea how to analyze this, and I never really mentioned it to ANYONE, so ... yeah. Any thoughts..?
I think it would depend on her age and mental ability.
But a couple of years older--like 11, would make her just at beginning puberty and curious about such things. I know there are some that would disagree with me, but playing house or playing doctor and examining each others bodies even to the point of touching is often normal to a certain degree. If it went further than that apparently she had been taught something beyond what she should know at that age, and maybe had been molested.
Don't look at it as anyone's fault, and you were certainly not responsible. You were just going along with her because you didn't know any better at that time. Of course you think about it now like "Why did I do that?" but many many children go through the same thing.
If it were an adult--of course you would not be responsible but it would certainly hold an entire different meaning to it.
ok i had read that you own dogs. my question is if you know how to get them not to sense your fear or like how to get it not to go near you because i am scared of them.
No, not a rude question. Dogs usually sense when people don't want to be near them, but if you are doing it out of fear that's a different story.
Something that you could try to do is appear very confident, hold your head high, body upright but most importantly relax--smile if you can. Also do not look at the dog, don't talk or touch them. Keep your head turned and or back towards them. Dogs can smell fear because our bodies let off a certain hormonal scent that we can't smell, but they also read body language very well.
Some people have a certain anxiety about dogs--some due to past experience, and some for no known reason, so you are not alone. Perhaps working with a counselor could help you overcome that. Not that you have to like dogs, but if you are not afraid, the dog will have a different reaction to you.
ok. i HATE IT. when other people fart. i think it's the most disgusting thing ever. well. my mom thinks it's fcking HILARIOUS when she farts and watches me freak out. well today, she farted. right in the middle of the kitchen where we were making breakfast and i calmly told her that it's not funny & that it's RUDE as well as disrespectful. at first she was laughing, and then she started crying. see, she has a disease and the medication makes her really emotional. she thinks she she can just start crying whenever she wants & she'll always get her way. and i hate it. i know it's horrible of me to say that. i love her and all but she takes advantage of the situation. so she starts crying to my poor, poor dad that everyone always "gangs up" on her when i CALMLY told her that it's rude. nothing i do can ever make her stop. she always does it, and starts laughing hysterically, and if i start freaking out, she starts crying. except i didn't even freak out today! i stood up and i told her that it's disrespectful for everyone around her. can someone PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE? I'VE TOLD HER countless times that i don't like it when she does that and she's always like yeahhh okay whatever -- SORRRYYY in a sarcastic way. ugh! it pisses me off! she never taught me any manners. she farts and burps and she's NOT a lady at all. even at restaurants she'll burp - out loud, but quietly - and people will glance at her and she says NOTHING. it's SO rude. can someone give me some advice regarding her farting? it's just plain GROSS!!!!
Sometimes due to internal problems and/or medications people can't help burping or passing gas. But she should obviously say excuse me or leave the room, and I agree, I fail to find it funny. But I have been around many people that do it on purpose and laugh.
Obviously saying something to her doesn't work. So what I would suggest is just getting up and walking away. Or politey look at her and say "Excuse You" and then drop it. She expects some kind of severe reaction out of you and probably keeps egging you on for the heck of it...
not nice.
Me and my best friend have been close for about 7 or 8 years now. We have had a pretty good friendship, with the occasional argument here and there, but very seldomly. Anyways, me and my boyfriend(my child's father) broke up 3 months ago and he moved out. 1 month ago, he moved back in and we are trying to work things out. Now, when my boyfriend was gone, me and my best friend pretty much talked on the phone everyday for hours at a time. Now that he's back, we don't do that as often. She used to come over every single weekend. She is also the god mother of my son. Now that my boyfriend is back, obviously, it is not right to still have her over every weekend. My boyfriend and her are fine with eachother, except my boyfriend feels she shouldnt come over every weekend because me and him both work all week long and weekends are more like "family time" and relaxation to him. I understand that, however, would like to see my friend as well. Even if I try and talk on the phone to her, and he just walks in from work, he gets upset because I don't stop to give him a kiss and say how was your day? Me and my best friend have talked maybe twice in 2 weeks, which is a DRASTIC change. She just told me tonight that she's done trying to call me and hear all my excuses lately as to why I don't call her or why we can't hang out. One, she lives 20 mins away and gas is expensive. Two, I work overnight AND have a 6 month old baby, so time to sleep and still get things done is precious at times. And three, I honestly do not want to argue or deal with the stress of my boyfriend and hearing him say he would like to spend the weekend spending time with me, but does it EVERY weekend. What should I do??
Friendships change when we start having a family. Especially if she is single and doesn't have children, it will be hard for her to understand. Also he's over reacting a little, you should be able to talk on the phone when you want and to whoever you want. But you still have to divide up your time and that's hard. Maybe you could spend a Saturday a month with her outside of home, such as shopping, going to the mall or even inviting her over. If your BF is real understanding he will take care of the baby for you. Perhaps she can then babysit one evening a month so the two of you can go out. It's really hard to balance it all but with some creative planning it can be done. It would sure make it easier on you if both of them were more understanding. Perhaps a heart to heart talk with both is in order.
What happens if the 4mth. yr old baby starts to choke on somthing?
This would depend, is the baby choking on formula or a liquid? If so you wouldn't want him/her to aspirate, so either sit the baby upright, or turn him/her over so the head is to the side.
If the choking involves a solid object:
Instead of reading the directions on how to do first aid for infant choking, it might be a good idea to take a class. In this area the red cross and american heart has classes. Anyone who babysits should have this class, and parents would approve and feel more secure.
This was half of your answer:
A couple of things you could do. Hide the tickets and leave little clues here and there that will allow him to find the tickets by surprise, sort of like a map to a treasure hunt--he of course won't know what he is looking for.
QUESTION: what type of clues could i leave so he's surprised and maybe i could try to grab his swimwear but how would i grab it or even know what it is without making it obvious...i have about 3 days for this to be all ready.
I don't know if you live together or not, but assuming you do or assuming you have access to all this stuff.
Here's an example: Start the search with a note taped to the bathroom mirror or some obvious place that says: I love you I really do, for a nice surprise look in your white (Nike) or whatever shoe.
Then on the inside of the shoe have another little poem or clue.
Then lead him to another clue with the same concept--like tape a note on the back of the remote, point him to a coat pocket with yet another clue, put one in the fridge, then a drawer, then maybe the glovebox of the car, then back in the house---you could have him running in circles.
Instead of words you could draw a treasure map to each item with a new map to the next place. Finally in the last place such as a sock drawer have the tickets placed so when he opens the drawer he sees them right away. Might drive him crazy, but it will be fun watching. You could also record him on video....which would be funny. Let me know if you do that. LOL.
i bought my boyfriend and i tickets to wild waters this thursday bc we are both off and we get paid that day.
i want to pick up our paychecks (we work at the same place) and then head up to wild waters which opens at (i believe 8am or 9am).
i want him to be surprised that i have these for us.
so anyway i could surprise him (other then just saying surprise we are going here) :)
if we do go anywhere i cant tell him to close his eyes till we get there bc we will go in his car and i cant drive it because its a stick so any ideas.
im 18, hes 20 if that matters :/
thanks a lot!
A couple of things you could do. Hide the tickets and leave little clues here and there that will allow him to find the tickets by surprise, sort of like a map to a treasure hunt--he of course won't know what he is looking for.
Or wrap the tickets in a small box, then put that in a bigger box, and a bigger one after that. So he really has to work to get to the real present.
Tell him you want to go somewhere else--such as out to eat or somewhere near Wild Waters, and don't tell him until the last minute or you are driving by that you have tickets (but of course let's hope he has his swimwear) so that might not work.
okay so i've had my period for a little over a year now and my mom makes me use pads because she says tampons arent healthy.
im a cheerleader and i hate the feeling of the blood leaking like how can i tell my mom that i perfer wearing tampons?
How about finding information to show that they can be safe if used properly and printing it out for your Mom?
Perhaps you can address the issue with your physician or school nurse too, to hear it from another adult might help.
I would really like to get a cat, but the problem is my fiancé is allergic to cats (it's not TOO bad with hives or anything, but his eyes really water and he sneezes quite a lot around cats).
My mother says that she used to be allergic to cats, but got one and her allergies went away within a year-- but only to that one cat. She still had reactions while around cats other than the one she owned.
Can a person really become immune to a certain animal if they are around it enough? Or should I just make my fiancé get allergy shots?
I believe people do develop an immunity of sorts to certain allergens, but it doesn't happen with everyone. I have seen the same thing with people I know with specific cats, just like you mentioned. I think this is a similar reaction to what allergy shots would do (inject the allergen to build a tolerence to it). On the other hand, some people get worse with increased exposure (mild symptoms at first and a full blown anaphylactic shock at another exposure)
If you absoulutly cannot live without a cat, and he likes them too, there's steps to take to minimize his exposure and treat the symptoms. So it wouldn't hurt for him to see an allergist.
I haven't read much on it, but there is a product called Allerpet that can be applied to the cat to help prevent an onset of symptoms in the human.
http://www.allerpet.com/
http://allergy-info-net.com/tips-for-pet-allergies.html
im underage. if i were carrying a bottle of alcohol in my car, but it WASN'T open, and i got pulled over just say at a road block of something, and they found it, could i be in any kind of trouble? i've heard that if it's not open, they cant do anything about it.
im in Georgia if it makes a difference.
Hi,
Yes you'd be in trouble. I am not aware of any state that doesn't have a "Minor in Possesion" law. If it's open then you'd have even more problems. So yes they can do something about it, open or closed.