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Old memories.
I haven't really even given this much thought in a loooong time, but this keeps coming to mind and it's annoying, so any help would be great.
I'm not sure how old I was, probably around 9--I'm much older now. But I was over a friend's house, she was probably 2-4 years older than me. So we were just playing, and at some point she started mentioning how she wanted to 'do things', and I know I was nervous and didn't want to but I have no idea what I said. So she ended up getting me to take my clothes off (I'm pretty sure she said she 'wouldn't play with me' if I didn't--as sad as that sounds) and ended up touching/getting me to do the same to her.
The thing is, was this my fault or was I responsible or what? I have no idea how to analyze this, and I never really mentioned it to ANYONE, so ... yeah. Any thoughts..?
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I think it would depend on her age and mental ability.
But a couple of years older--like 11, would make her just at beginning puberty and curious about such things. I know there are some that would disagree with me, but playing house or playing doctor and examining each others bodies even to the point of touching is often normal to a certain degree. If it went further than that apparently she had been taught something beyond what she should know at that age, and maybe had been molested.
Don't look at it as anyone's fault, and you were certainly not responsible. You were just going along with her because you didn't know any better at that time. Of course you think about it now like "Why did I do that?" but many many children go through the same thing.
If it were an adult--of course you would not be responsible but it would certainly hold an entire different meaning to it.
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My opinion is that it wasn't your fault. You were young and you didn't know what was going on, so you just went with it. Don't feel guilty about it or anything, it's the past, it's unchangeable and it wasn't your fault. I really don't think either of you are at fault here, because you were young and curious and there is nothing wrong with that.
-Laura. (16-f)
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You were young, you had none, maybe VERY little, control over what happened.
She basically, sorry to say, in a way, took advantage of you. You were younger, immature, didn't know exactly what was going on.
You weren't responsible, it was HER fault. Yes, you could have yelled and screamed and said no, but as I said, you were young.
Blame her. =] It's not your fault.
hope i helped. let me know.
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