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hey guys..my column has been the same for soooooo long now...so im gunna change it up a bit! any ideas please let me know! anyway..heres the ordinary junk...im kayla, im 14, i like in md close to dc, i go to rhs - home of the rams! yay haha, and i dn i just love helping people!

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my x-b/f tried to make me sneek out of the house to go over to his friends (to watch porn) w/ him and his hommie . he made the commentthat anything he say or he got his hommie would see and get. i alreaddy broke up w/ this boi but im scarred that he might try to rape me. what should i do?

its simple..dont sneak out...

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Hey Id like to try a new look this summer but I'm not sure what to do. Does anyone know webistes with cute hairstyles, and websites with different ways on how to do your makeup? If you have any pointers please leave em. My hair is thick and a little wavy. I have lightly tanned skin. Thanks so much, I rate.

www.makeup.com or try any magazine websites like www.twistmagazine.com or something. go to your favorite magazines websites. or google something! with your hair you could straighten it or get a perm, highlights, lowlights, cut it, grow it, or dye it. with make up, you could try going more natural, or more eyeliener, less eyeline, two-toned eye shadow, lol theres soo much you can do. xoxo

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Ok, I'll have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 weeks, tomorrow. I've heard rumors that if his g/f wont have sex with him that he dumps them after a month. And I'm 13 and I don't want to have sex. He is having a party next weekend and invited me to it. Its a pool/birthday party at his house. If my mom lets me go, I'm going. But if that rumors true...he well might wanna ya know. What should I do?

no one can answer that for you. just ask yourself one question, are you ready? the answer to that is what you should do. just be honest with yourself. one last thing..if its true..do you really want to loose your virginity to someone like that? gl hun

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Alrighty...here i go...well i was supposed to graduate this year but like a week before graduation my guidance counselor calls me and says that i don't have enough credits to graduate...so im not...she said i would have to come back next year...I ABSOLUTELY HATE MY SCHOOL...i get in fights and everything bc i have a bad temper and ppl just piss me off...i was seriously thinking about dropping out...but i dont know...i need some help....

i wouldnt drop out, i mean youre already sooo close. try taking some credits in summer school, or just stick it out for one more year if you want to walk for your diploma. or maybe you could take the courses you need as douible period so you can get them done in one semester insted of two. talk to your guidance counsler about your options. sorry that happened to you hun!

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AHH ..Im sick =/ because i get dehydrated and water isnt working!! What do i do?! i have my period so i cant take a bath right now and im home alone and thrwoing up..im afraid if i pass out no one wil know and no one is available to help me..what do i do?! I dont have Air conditioning.

put ice on your head, drink gatorade, and put in a tampon and get in a cool bath that way you wont leak in the water. feel better dear!

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When in doubt, pick Random Weirdos.
Um, so I'm REALLY pale. Like, my skin GLOWS when it gets in sunlight.
I've tried to tan, and all that happens is I burn a little, or nothing happens. I was at the beach with my friends, in sunlight the whole time. I had sunscreen on - just a light coating of SPF 25- 'cause I didn't want to burn, but all I got was a little pink on my shoulders.
Also, I have a tan line from my watch from last summer (never went away). Is there a way to get rid of that naturally?
Oh yeah, I CAN NOT use any self-tanners or sunless tanners, and I can't "go tanning". My mother is allergic to like, everything, and I'm still living in my house at the moment.
How do I get tanner without burning, and without "going tanning" or using sunless tanners? I'm kinda sick of being all pale.

the watch tan will just have to even out through summer. also, with most people they have to get burnt once in the beginning of summer then theyll just tan. its kind of like your skin has to get used to the sunlight. also, even if you do burn a bit, burns eventually turn into tans. iv neve rbeen burnt but every single person i know that does, it just turns to tan after a few days. try tanning OIL instead of lotion, because it attracts sunlight better. also its better to be in the water than to lay out b/c light reflects off the water. good luck & have a great summer!! ♥

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IM STARTING HIGH SCHOOLL!!!


What are osem ways to get really popular?!?!

be nice to people and walk up to new people and start conversations! ♥

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I normally do not ask questions about guys on this site, but I just have no clue what to do.

My situation is that my boyfriend went out with this girl from his camp last year (they broke up b/c they wouldn't see eachother for a whole year). Well, this year he is going back to camp (she is too), and the camp holds a hotdog/hamburger barbeque thing where everyone pretty much has a date (although it's not neccasary to have a date, but everyone does have one). He asked me if he could go with this girl from last year. He told me that he "sort of" wanted to go with her (I'm guessing this is my language for "I want to go with her but I don't want to seem to eager about it b/c it will probably make you mad"). My problem is that I am afraid he is going to start liking her again, and I won't be able to do anything about it (after all, I will be miles away; I won't be able to stop them flirting or anything). I am just scared of losing this great guy.

My question is- am I being jealous and should I let him go with this girl to the barbeque? Or do I have a good reason to be worried?

Thanks I appreciate any answers!

only you can answer your question. i mean, do you trust your boyfriend? if you do trust him, you should have no reason to be worried, but if you dont, thats a bad sign. think about his history, does he do stuff like that alot? i mean, you cant stop him from liking someone else even if youre right in front of him, if its going to happen its going to happen no matter how much you try to stop it. i think you should let him ask her, and if he still wants you by the time he comes back, thats fantastic. if he doesnt, thats something you need to know anyway. i know this probably wasnt what you wanted to hear but i hope it helped somewhat. i really hope everything works out for you!

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ok im 13 and ive been seeing this guy that is 14 for about 3 weeks and like i never get the chance to see him but i talk to him on the fone alot. the one time i met up w/ him in person i was really shy and like didnt even talk to him. im going to see him this weekend and i wanna make it special but how can i get the nerve to talk to him.I really wanna like kiss him and hug hin and stuff but i cant even talk to him. got ne advice of ways that i could flirt w/ him?

alot of nervousness with flirting comes from fear of rejection so just remember, you guys are dating. he WANTS you to kiss and hug him and stuff, so remember that theres no chance of rejection. and if you keep not talking to him in person the relationship might not last too long, so just be confident and remember he wants you to do that stuff! just have fun with him! hope this helps xoxo

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I will be a senior now in highschool and I have no clue what I want to go to college for. Its summer and I dont have a job, all my friends and my boyfriend have summer jobs. I don't want to be stuck at home all summer bored to death. I have been looking for a job but my mom is so picky she wont let me have a job at a fast food restuarant and some other places. How can I figure out what I want to with my summer and my life??

for a summer job, try looking for one at the mall! it seems like it would be fun [im not sure though because i work @ a food place] but if you work at a clothes store, pick one you really like because most of them give their employees a 10 percent discount! for your life, when you get to college, just dont pick a major as a freshman. do alot of different minors and eventually you will realize what you like to do! also take some different electives as a senior as opposed to cooking lol. ill be a sophmore next year and im taking journalism, and over the summer id like to volenteer at a hospital, just to see what i like and stuff! just try getting into different hobbies that could lead to a career! hope this helps xoxo

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Me and my old not quite boyfriend got in a fight because i had hickys on my neck and i said they were from one of my g/fs and he found out i wAs lying and he wont talk to me.. Should i give him a call and tell him im sorry? Or what should i do i miss him.. And i made a huge mistake..

call him and apoligize, i mean you probably broke his trust and if you did then you need to understand that it might be quite a long time until you get it back, because trust is something that people dont play with. but you definitly should apoligize, then he will see that you're making an effort and it will be easier for him to forgive you. just don't expect too much from him at first. i know its probably not what you want to hear but im just trying to be honest..good luck dear xox

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I've realized how alot of girls are asking how to loose weight and such. Everyone wants a flat, toned tummy, and it really bothers me because we think we have to be like all of these models and stars so guys will like us. Guys, honestly, do you want a stick for a girlfriend or a little cusion for the pushin? I mean back in the 70s and 80s people werent so judgmental and didn't look at someone and say, "your fat". I mean can i get an AMEN! Im sick of people saying they are fat, and saying they need to loose weight when they dont. Think about it! Leave comments and explain why you want to be a stick.

i dont really have that problem because im happy with myself the way i am, but what iv heard from alot of friends is they just seem to be happier when they're thin because not only do they get more attention, but they have more self confidence and for anyone, being healthy just feels nice! i think what alot of people dont realize is there is a difference between healthy and thin/skinny. xxo!

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Ok i have 2 friends,call them A & B that are into each other a lot [[friend wise]] im excluded from some things.others not. But when ever im on the phone with them my friend A acts toottaallyy different!! Then A & B love to brag about what i missed and what happend!! today there like.. B says "were sluts!!" A says"lol ",which is not funny. they say to me "oh your to mature you wouldnt get it!!!" "your not a slut [[in my head im thanking that im not]] onyl WE can be" they want me to be jealous and its getting to me a little of there bragging!

**i rate to 5s!!**

just tell them that its pissing you off. you probably wont see this until after your party, but if they exclude you, bring that up when you talk to them. just tell them that its cool that they wanna talk about stuff they have done, but they dont need to do it all the time and rub it in. or if its NOT cool with you, tell them that. tell them you dont need to hear every little thing. hopefully htey will understand, but if they dont, thats something you should know about them anyways! i hope it works out for you!

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Ok i have a friend,call her Terry. Well she has a b/f and so do i.I wouldnt say im pretty,but she is very pretty.Anyways, her boyfriend wanted to see a pic of my b/f. She showed him some one SOOO NOT MY BOY FRIEND!! well Terry's b/f said "ohh...i woudlnt expect her to have a handsom boyfriend anyways" Terry did nothing about it but show me. I was sad,i dont no what to do,and WHY im feeling sad. Can someone give me help?
Signed ,
Ugly.

this probably isn't what you want to hear, but just ignore it. I mean, you know who your boyfriend is, and thats all that matters. And your friend must feel atleast SOMEWHAT threatened by you if shes trying to make you look bad in front of someone she cares about. So just let it go, its not like youre dating the guy who made that comment! Xxo! ps - im sure youre gorgous!

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okay ... you see lately my mom has been getting me all these babysitting jobs that i really dont want. i've asked her to stop and she has, but one mother wants my to babysit on a regular basis! she has three kids(2, 4 and 6) and i really cannot handle them. the middle child is pretty good, but the 2 year old cries a lot and the 6 year old is always being mean to the middle one and i cant take it! can someone please help me find a way to tell the mother i cant babysit for her regularly. thanks so much!

Just say to her that you have alot to deal with right now with school and stuff and you really need to concentrate on them and you would love to babysit for her,but you just don't have the time and you hope she understands. Hope this helps!

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My family is know for having a history of skin cancer/moles. I have a mole on my right cheek and i really dont like it.. everybody thinks its really pretty... but i dont see how... should i get it removed? i really wanna ask my mom... but im not sure how... any ideas? or should i leave it?

you kinda put two problems into one question so im not sure what youre asking...about getting it removed, if it bothers you on a daily basis to the point where it makes you self concious, then yes get it removed. if its just like "o man i dont liek it" every now and then, then id just leave it alone. if youre asking if it could be skin cancer...thats something to ask your doctor! hope this helps! xxo

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OK heres the dealio
i HATE showers...they just seem like a waste of time for me. Does anyone know any ways that will make showering fun?? no sarcastic answers please. Thanks

get a shower radio, try a bath instead of a shower, get a fun loofah or however you spell it, or change the pressure for how it comes out so it feels like a back massage! hoep this helps! xxo!

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does anyone know any websites with good ringtones and a good price? and i have verizon, so one with ringtones that would work on a verizon phone. thanks in advance. and i rate 5s!

http://www.jamster.com

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i'm 13/female and i've never waxed or shaved before. can someone please help me by suggesting what brands are good and what i should do and how you wax or shave and if it hurts or not and other info thx

what part of your body are you planning on waxing or shaving? if you answer that ill try and help!

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I have eczema, and have had it since i was born. It only comes during cold weather, why? i dont know. Does anyone know any over the counter things that help it go away?

lol hun everyones body is different, the reason it only comes in cold weather is something only your doctor can answer. there is a cream for it that you can buy @ any drug store...im not sure what its called but i saw it on a commercial and iv seen it in CVS and stuff. just look around the neosporin crap! lol xxo

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