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What should i do?
Me and my old not quite boyfriend got in a fight because i had hickys on my neck and i said they were from one of my g/fs and he found out i wAs lying and he wont talk to me.. Should i give him a call and tell him im sorry? Or what should i do i miss him.. And i made a huge mistake..
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If you are genuinely sorry, then you can explain this to your boyfriend and ask for him to forgive you.
Before you do that however, it's worth doing some soul-searching and asking yourself why you behaved the way you did. There is probably some underlying problem in your relationship with your boyfriend that drove you to cheat, and if you don't examine that then you are likely to just end up similarly unhappy and making the same mistakes further down the line in the relationship.
You may have to accept that the reason you were making out with another guy was because you just weren't satisfied with the relationship you had with your boyfriend. Even if you do miss your boyfriend, if you weren't happy and that drove you to cheat once then getting back together isn't a good idea, and you should resist the temptation to call him and ask him to take you back, as otherwise you'll just end up hurting him more.
If on the otherhand you genuinely believe it was a one off thing and a mistake you won't repeat, then do tell him that and ask for forgiveness. There's no guarantee he'll take you back, and even if he does it won't be easy as there will probably be issues with trust, but if the relationship is that important to you then it should be worth the effort. All the best.
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ya I suppose you should. I don't understand why a "not quite" boyfriend would be so concerned. Maybe you should ask him that. Maybe he should be asking you to be his real girlfriend if he's worried about it. :)
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well you made a mistake by lying to him but hes the ones who should be calling you but if you miss him that much call him and ask him what his problem is he has no control or special hold on you you too arent dating
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lying in the first place is bad. but i have done something before,i called many times and he just hung up. so calling might not be the best thing to do. write a letter spilling your sorrys out for him. but don't over go. giveing a guy tons of letters gets him to be annoyed.
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Well first off if you know he cares for you never lie again. Second its not your fault. you wernt bf ang gf. To prevent this from happening again tell him you are sorry. And explain to him thatyou didnt know that you guys cared for eachother so much and now that you do talk to him about a comitment and becoming more than friends with bennifites. Catch my drift???...
well good luck to you and 9 hoe I helped
Bianca
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Definently call him and tell him you're sorry. but don't expect him to forgive you at first, because if someone cheated on you and lyed to you, you wouldn't just forgive them that quickly. tell him you'll never lie to him or cheat on him again, and just ask him for one more chance. if he really likes you and misses you that much he'll probably forgive you. hope i helped!
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Well you get some hickeys from another guy and lie to your BF about it and expect him to be okay? Girl, You should have thought of what would happen before you let that guy give you a hickey.
But, yes. If you want to try to salvage this relationship then call him and tell him the whole story and say your sorry. I don't know what he'll say and I wouldn't doubt that he doesn't take you back. Just be prepared either way.
AG
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Obviously you dont like him if your geting hickeys from other guys! If he wants you back then let him call you.
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call him and apoligize, i mean you probably broke his trust and if you did then you need to understand that it might be quite a long time until you get it back, because trust is something that people dont play with. but you definitly should apoligize, then he will see that you're making an effort and it will be easier for him to forgive you. just don't expect too much from him at first. i know its probably not what you want to hear but im just trying to be honest..good luck dear xox
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yes deffinatly call him and tell him, but i doubt he will care that your sorry, i mean what would you do if it was him that had the hickies and cheated on you. but just tell him that you care about him and it wonlt happen again, and dont let it happen agian.
hope i could help
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yes, you have to try and speak to him and tell him how sorry you are. there is no excuse so dont try to come up with one. i dont know the details so i dont know if you kissed anyone else but just tell him that you are so so sorry and that you love him so much and dont want to lose him over this. you lied to him which will have hurt him lots aswell as the fact that you cheated on him, or atleasty thats the way it looks. you will have to gain his trust again and make him feel like he is the most special person in you life and the one you want. we all make mistakes, so make sure he knows that this was a very huge mistake and that it will never ever happen again.
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It might be too soon to give him a call, he might be angry or depressed or sad or shocked right now so maybe its best if you wait a while.. but, If you really miss him I suggest you write him a letter telling him how you feel and why you did what you did, Tell him everything! Tell him you miss him and you love him. People make mistakes and by making thoes mistakes sometimes you find out, what you have, what you had, What you need, and what you miss. Everybody makes mistakes, and we all know that, it just might take him some time to figure out that its ok to forgive people for what they've done and trust that they will not do it again. Write in your letter that you are sorry and that it will never happen again and that by making that mistake you have found out what you had, and what you need, and what you miss, him. write and ask him to call you that way you both dont feel like your hounding each other. Then after 2-5 days after he recieves your letter if he doesnt call you back, give him a call. Hopefully things will settle in time and youll both become more open with each other and trusting. I hope I helped, If you need any more help just leave it in my inbox! Hope all goes well!
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