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20F.

So I've been to the gyno about four times the past couple months and she asked the first time if i was sexually active .. i said no. then after that she would just say you're not sexually active right? I said right.

Well i had sex for the first time about a month ago and I'm going back to the gyno on monday. If she asks if I'm sexually active I say yes right? Even if I've only had sex once?

Yeah, even if you've had sex once and quite recently, you should tell her you're sexually active. Just in case she notices anything and so on.
:)

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20F.

So for some reason I'm terrified of giving a guy a blow job or even a hand job ..never done it before! But I've had sex ..yeah a little weird. I feel like I've lucked out because I've only had sex with two guys and neither of them have asked me to do that to them before sex. Then I was talking to my guy cousin and he was like you gave him head before you had sex to make him last longer right? Now I'm worried I should be doing this before sex. I just love having sex though and would rather not give a hand job or blow job. Is this normal?

You shouldn't worry about this. I've given head once or twice but I'm not really into it.
Besides, my boyfriend and I have a lot more fun doing other things in bed...and the blow job isn't really needed.

You should only ever do what you're comfortable with, and if there's a guy you really wish to pleasure like that, then you should let him guide you; you won't be embarrassed.
Take it easy :)

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what is that french song called where its a french guy singing and it sounds like he's saying "i love dance" but i'm not sure if that really is what he's saying.

"Alors on Danse" by Stromae

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VHoT4N43jK8

:)

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So i need some freaking sweet music. I listen to pretty much anything, so any suggestions? Thanks guys!

Wednesday 13
Stone Sour
HURTS
Static X
Buckcherry
The Boggs
Down
Esoterica
Godsmack
Intwine
Homicide
Kyuss
Mortiis
Pain
A Perfect Circle
Rob Zombie
Saliva
Sonata Arctica
Turmion Kätilöt
The Zico Chain

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so I'm 13 and a female. this older guy (16) started talking to me a few days ago. we flirt a lot now. sometimes its sexual but i dont mind. he knows i won't go any farther then making out. he has sorta stopped talking to me. what does this mean??

To be honest, it may sound harsh but it sounds like he was just looking for some sex.
Obviously he's not going to get any, and guys tend to lose interest fast, when something is given to them too easily.
As in, you two started talking to each other a few days ago, and you're already flirting sexually.
If you're too easy to get, but aren't in for the sex, he's got nothing to want any more.
Sorry, it's just the way it is.

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Is it normal for when my male cousin stays the night and we go to sleep on the bed that we made that I get a boner?

It definitely isn't right.
Basically you're saying that you get aroused by sleeping next to your male cousin, in the same bed.
Do you not see what's wrong?

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Hi there! I just recently got the internet back at my house! I was wondering what are some fun and interesting sites!?

Please and thanks!

www.stumbleupon.com
You literally get to "stumble" through (safe) sites on the internet, on different topics that you can choose from.

8tracks.com
Good playlists.

yayeverday.com
Can be very interesting.

Notalwaysright.com
Funny stories about idiot customers.

fmylife.com
Funny real life stories when life is a b*tch.

mylifeisaverage.com
Innocent brother site of fmylife.

http://audiomap.tuneglue.net/
Discover music with a fantastic map.

http://www.notquitewrong.com/rosscottinc/
Funny comics.

explosm.com
More funny comics...

failbooking.com
Facebook fails.



This is about all I have in my bookmarks, in the folder "procrastination"

Hope it helped :)

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i want a little book to keep with me so i can write down things in it throughout the day. i'm gonna call it a "little black book" but really i just want a small book like this one
http://elsallydor.files.wordpress.com/2007/02/lbb32r.jpg
but it doesnt have to say little black book on it. anyone know where i can get one? (preferably in a store rather than online.. i live in CT if that helps)

Moleskine seems perfect for this.
I bought one for the random drawings I like to do whenever. They have a lot of different types.

http://www.moleskine.com/

They sell them in a lot of different places.
Check the "Where to buy" section, since I live in Europe and don't really know examples of American stores that sell stationary and so on.

Hope this helped a bit :)

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How can I clean my room faster without geting mad thanks.






If you have a laptop or a computer open with MSN/FB etc, close it. I know from experience it slows things down by distracting you. If you have a tv on, switch it off, because you'll notice how you're constantly stopping to pay attention to it.
Turn on some music, and gather all the loose things in a pile in your room. Preferably in the middle. Empty our your bins, organize your wardrobe, discarding any things that you don't wear or if they're dirty, put them in the wash. Organize any shelves and drawers too. Make your bed up properly.
Now the pile of stuff in the middle of your room, if it has a place, or is useful put it away. If you haven't used it in at least six months, throw it out. If you're not sure about something, think realistically, will you really need it? Or can you live without it just fine.

Stay positive, and don't get distracted, work hard for an hour or two, and it'll all be done quickly, and you'll feel a lot better about your achievement.

:)

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18/m
I really want to get a tattoo, but I can't think or find the right type of symbol. I m joining the airborne in a few months so i want something that wont piss off any drill instructers. Also i want it to revolve around death or dying. If anybody knows any latin that means something along those lines or knows where on the web i can find some pictures off tats like that then by all means please let me know.

http://www.bmezine.com/media/photo/tattoo/

Get inspired ;)

Bmezine's a great place, it's good for finding experiences too.. if you're unsure about the process.

Good luck :)

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what does it mean when you make out with someone and they get a bonner and they get all horny what does that mean we werent doing anything but make out thats it and he got a bonner do guys always get bonners when make out?

If the guy gets turned on by making out, then yes, he'll get a hard on.
It depends on the guy, some don't get aroused by making out but some do.

It also depends on if you get physical during the make out session or not.

Just be happy ;) It can sometimes lead to better and funner things, depending on if you're close with your boyfriend and at that stage of the relationship.

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I am looking for a camera that I can afford and is good. I'm not a professional or anything, I just enjoy taking pictures and editing them later on. There are SO many digital cameras and I just dont know where to start.
I'm in Brisbane, Australia and my budget is no more than $1000. If there is a really good camera for a couple of hundred more, I dont mind chipping in.

I just want a camera that takes really good pictures, like sometimes when you take a picture of yourself or a thing or friends, it doesnt come out the same in the photo. Real life looks better than memory photos. I want to change that. I want my photos to capture the beauty that I see with my eyes. Does that make sense?

I've spent loads of money on crappy digital cameras that suck in all aspects except for the megapixel. I'd like one with the focussing and the high quality output.

Thank you so much.

Go for a Nikon Digital DLR camera, you can get a basic but a very good one for under a $1000 already :)
Or a Canon Rebel, they're good too.

http://snapsort.com/

This site will be a lot of use. It's what I used recently to get some camera ideas.

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i'm 16/f.
i've been with my current boyfriend for 7 months, and sometimes, i feel that he's too controlling. extremly controlling. and sometimes it get's out of hand. i've never really had a boyfriend, so i don't know if ALL relationships are like this, or if my boyfriend is just a jerk.he alllways ask what i'm doing. which, isnt bad, i can understand that, but he makes me tell him EVERYTHING i'm doing, and everywhere i go. he's constantly keeping tabs on me, and has even had some friends of his watch me at school to make sure i'm not flirting or talking to other guys. if i don't tell him when i leave the house to go somewhere, he gets mad, and starts a fight. if i don't tell him i'm leaving somewhere to go somewhere else, he gets mad, and if i don't tell him i'm home, he will. i can understand him wanting to know what i'm doing, so i'm safe, but i really do feel like it get's out of hand.i'm not allowed to talk to ANY guy. if i do, i have to tell him everything that was said between us. i have to tell him when and if a guy text me, and he starts asking a ton of questions when one does. i'm not allowed to text back, and if i do, it can only be about school, and i cant delete the text. i'm not even allowed to be around a guy, if one's around me, i have to move.he's always telling me what i can and cannot wear. i'm not allowed to wear shorts, or vnecks. if i ever do wear a vneck, or shorts, i have to be around him. it'll be 100 degrees out, and i can't wear shorts, he makes me wear jeans. i have to send him pictures of what i'm wearing, and if i wear something he doesnt like, he gets mad.he wont let me hang out with friends. i havent ever since we started dating, and i'm loosing touch with them. i don't really ever talk to anybody, and if i do, even if it's a girl, he ask what we talk about. if i text anybody else but him, he gets reeaallly mad.he's always talking bad about my friends, saying i shouldnt hang out with him, because their whores. i think that he get's jealous that i want something to do with somebody else besides him. he always talks about how their whores, but he's honestly done tons of worse things than them, their not even sexually active, or anything. so i really dont think he has any room to talk. if i EVER want to go out and do ANYTHING, he tells me no, and threatens to leave me if i go.if he ever gets mad at me, he calls be HORRIBLE names. and sometimes he does stuff that he knows i can get hurt by, like if we're in the car he'll slam on his brakes while i'm trying to get my seatbealt on. he tells me to look at him, and if i dont, he'll grab my face and make me. he even gets controlling about little things, he get's mad if he's not my background picture. things like that. he loves me, i can tell he really does, and he can be the biggest sweetheart sometimes, but i don't know if i'll be able to take any of this much longer. i can sometimes understand why he's like this, he's had his past 3 girlfriends cheat on him.i can go into alot more stuff, but i don't want to make this question too long. soo, are ALL relatoonships like this, or is this really unhealthy? maybe relationships just arent for me?

You need to end this.
He is over the top controlling, and abusive.
Granted, he might have had a bad history with relationships, however, this is too much.

You seem like you know how to be in a relationship though, just this guy is not right. In fact, with that behaviour, he's not right for anyone at all.

Move on, and you'll meet a nicer guy soon, I promise!

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I need some great up-beat summer songs for a party, and just for driving around in your car.

Pump it up- Buckcherry
Crazy Bitch- Buckcherry
Drain The Blood- The Distillers
Anyone- Moving Units
I Turn My Camera On- Spoon
My Little Japanese Cigarette Case- Spoon
Taper Jean Girl- Kings Of Leon
Breathe Underwater- Placebo
Dare- Gorillaz
Feel Good Inc- Gorillaz
Next To You- Buckcherry
Banquet- Bloc Party
Girls Girls Girls- Mötley Crüe
Dr. Feelgood- Mötley Crüe
Glass Danse- The Faint
Good Times- Finger Elven
Filthy/Gorgeous- The Scissor Sisters

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17/f
So, me and this guy have been talking for quite awhile now. We hang out and act just like couples do. The problem is, he never texts me. Sometimes we go all day without texting and it urks me so bad! I text him and he will write back maybe once or twice and thats it, unless he askes me to hang out.I just hate how he dosent text me that much. I know we don't have to talk 24/7 but i dont wanna go all day without talking to him. Ive mentioned it to him 3 times and all he says is "im sorry." I really really like him but i dont know what to do. :/ Help! Should i text him first, not text until he texts me or what?

I'm sorry, but this sounds a little clingy.
If you say that you've been talking for quite a while, then there's no reason why you should insist on spending the day texting each other as well.

I know so many guys who hate texting, and sometimes I do see why. As long as you still talk, and he isn't ignoring you, things are fine.
Just get used to and don't turn something insignificant into a fuss. I know it is frustrating, but some things you just have to accept, instead of forcing him to do something he doesn't want to do.

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anyone know any cool music videos?

Danger! High Voltage by Electric Six
Beautiful People by Marilyn Manson
I Walked With A Zombie by Wednesday 13
Tomorrow, I won't Remember by Estoterica
My Home Sweet Homicide by Wednesday 13
B.Y.O.B by System of A Down
Living Dead Girl by Rob Zombie
Mr. Wobble's Nightmare..I forgot the artist. YOU MUST WATCH THIS! :D
Coming Undone by Korn
Through Glass by Stone Sour
Synthetic Generation by Deathstars
Saints Of Lost Angels by Mötley Crüe
Check Your Head by Buckcherry
Too Drunk by Buckcherry
Granite by Pendulum
Windowlicker by Aphex Twin
*any video by The Bloodhound Gang*
Technologic by Daft Punk
Gay Bar by Electric Six
Relax by Frankie Goes To Hollywood
Over and Over by Hot Chip
Redneck by Lamb Of God
The Dope Show by Marilyn Manson
The Fight Song by Marilyn Manson
The Nobodies by Marilyn Manson
Can't Stop by Red Hot Chili Peppers
Dani California by Red hot Chili Peppers
Pretty Fly (For a white guy) by The Offspring
Poor Leno by Röyksopp

Alright, I can't think of anything else anymore :D enjoy ;)

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Okay, so I want one song. It's called "Goodnight Sweet Girl" by Ghost of the Robot. But the stopped selling the CD years ago and there are a few they're selling on e-bay for $300. It's not on rhapsody or itunes and I only want the one song. Does anyone know of a way to rip music from youtube? Or a way to get the song elsewhere?

I presume you know the link to the video on YouTube.

Just paste it here, select "High Quality", have a bit of patience (it's quite fast though, I use it frequently) and you'll get the mp3 file to save to your computer.

http://www.vidtomp3.com/

Enjoy :)

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hey,
i have a macbook laptop
and i want to delete a friend of facebook.
does anyone know how to do that with a macbook?
its all really confusing for me haha
so some simple steps would be great! XD
thanks

We get it, you have a Macbook. Honestly? It doesn't change anything.
Go on that "friend's" page, scroll to the bottom of the column on the left, where their profile picture is, friends, albums etc.
You'll see "Share" but also "remove from friends".
Click there, and you're all set :)

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Does anyone know where I can find a cheap digital camera? I want to buy my mom one for her birthday but I have limited
money (100) and she doesn't need anything fancy.

Good camera; reduced to $99
http://www.walmart.com/ip/Fujifilm-AX250-Silver/14220562?povid=cat133277-env203316-module290714-rLink1

Also a respectable one; $84
http://www.walmart.com/ip/Kodak-10.2-MP-M340-Silver/10928392


Hope it helped :)

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where do u live? please i need help!

I wonder why...

I'm in Brussels, Belgium :)

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