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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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do you think that giving a hj as a freshman is slutty? because some of my friends have.. not my close ones but i know that a lot have. and i have a boyfriend that i really love and like i want to but like a lot of my close friends would consider that to be slutty. like i really dont think its that big of a deal.

If you wanna give your boyfriend one, then do it. And who cares what your friends say. Do what makes you happy. If it's not a big deal to you, then it doesn't matter what people are saying. It's not slutty at all. There are probably more than 10 girls in your grade who have done it a ton of times.

Does anyone have that survey for your ipod where you like, put your ipod and shuffle on each different question?

http://www.xanga.com/xsurveysxarexFUNx

She has some like that.

i have this idea to like buy a carnation for random kids at school that normally dont get appreciated. i dont want to tell my friends and such, so they dont tell others, so that they'll expect it.. then it wont be the same. like i'll buy 1 or 2 roses for like the kids, and the people will give it to them. i read it in a book called "chicken soup for the teenage soul" or whatever, that someone did that and it like changed their life. so do you think this is a good idea? :]

I think it's a great idea. =)

So there`s this kid Nick. We`ve been really good friends for a long time and now im starting to like him. We were joking around today..and talking about making out and we were like "yeah we should totally do it tomarrow" and so I told him I would. I really like him..but im nervous since I`ve never made out with anyone and he has. Should I really be nervous? Or will everything just happen like I know what I`m doing?

Usually, it'll happen like you know what you're doing. Don't be nervous about it. Because it comes totally natural. =)

How much food should I be eating? I am 4'11 and 130 pounds.

PLEASE:
WHAT SHOULD MY DIET CONSIST OF.

p.s- i dont do veggies

Vegetables are a huge part of everything. They're very healthy for you. The only ones I like are peas and corn. Try to eat those. I don't like any of the other ones. Exercise for 30 minutes a day 30 times a week. Drink 8 glasses of water a day, and drink 4 glasses of milk. Don't eat after 8 pm, and don't eat before bed. Run a lot, lift 5-10lbs worth of weights. Eat 6 small meals or eat 3 medium sized ones. Eat fruits, meat & breads. Pastas are good too. Stay away from soda, & junkfood. Anything high in sugar is a no no. If you eat take out [mcdonald's, burger king, etc] do it once every 2-3 weeks. Same for sweets. If you do eat them don't go overboard. Just do what I recommended & you should be fine. =)

How much food should I eat in a day? I am 4'11 and 130 pounds.

PLEASE TELL ME WHAT MY DIET SHOULD CONSIST OF!

Well here's what I would do:

Eat 3 meals a day. Or 6 small meals a day. Drink 8 glasses of water, and 4 glasses of milk. Eat healthy things like meat & pastas & breads. And vegetables & fruits. Don't eat ANY junkfood. Stay away from sodas & juices high in sugar. Exercise for 30 minutes a day 3 times a week. Don't eat before bed. Or after 8pm. Don't eat a lot of food. If you eat a ton of food, you're gonna gain a ton of weight. If you eat takeout [mcdonald's, burger king] eat it like once every 2-3 weeks. Sweets are okay every 2-3 weeks as well. Just don't go overboard. If you do that, you should be fine. =)

has anybody used any of th v.s's hair care or makeup products...if so how satisfied were you.

I've used their hair products, body products, everything. They're amazing. =) It's worth the money.

what are some really sexy things i can SAY to my boyfriend to get him hott? thanks.

Haha, dirty talk him. Tell him you're gonna do everything he's ever dreamed of to him. Haha, that'll get him hot. But actually do them because if you get him hard & then don't please him, you'd be a tease & he'd probably be pretty pissed off.

guys say that when they get erections it feels incredible. do girls get those feelings too? i mean not like from an erection or anythin?

Orgasms=incredible feelings.

yes, i have a bf but i also have this friend who like watches every move i make i can never do things at my own pace cas she always gets hers and her bf's nose in everything...i really love my bf but i want to go at my own pace not hers....wht should i do???

Talk to her about it. If she doesn't listen, go by your own pace anyways. You shouldn't have to wait for her to catch up or whatever.

I'm going to get a limo for my sweet 16 this summer. I was wondering what you even do when you get a limo .. do you just drive around? What are some ideas on places to go or do besides going out for dinner? Thanks!

Go to all the fun places you know about in your city. Basically, when you have a limo, all you do is drive around. You can listen to music, talk, drink whatever's in there. Stop at the store, do whatever. Whatever you tell the driver to do, he'll do. =)

i met one of my best friends last year in school & he was one of the most nicest & helpful people i've ever met. this year, his parents got a divorce & he's been acting very different since this happened. i don't know what it's like because my parents aren't divorced but from what i hear, it's devastating. another problem is my friend has a heart problem, too, & he has seizures at times & he could even die. i try helping him & asking him to hang out with my & my friends like any other good friend would do but he always pushes me away & he started hanging out with a new group of people. they're not bad or anything but he tells them that i'm annoying & he doesn't hang out with my group anymore. i've done nothing wrong & the only time i've talked to him was to ask him to hang out with us. so now we're in a huge fight & i'm not backing down, i don't know what i have to say sorry for. does anyone have any advice on what i should do? i rate high for anything. thank you sooo much. - 16, female.

I would just try to talk to him about it. If he keeps being a dick about it, still be there for him because he's going through a rough time with his parents & his heart problems. Tell him that even though you guys don't talk so much, you still care & you're still there for him. But just leave him alone for a little while & let him cool off.

So me & tthis boy have been best friends for 3 years ` we tell each other EVERTHiNG about our personal life , problems , about his girlfriends , my boyfriends ; but everyone thinks we like each other & no matter HOW MANY TiMES WE SAY WERE LiKE brother adn sister . they still wont listen . its so damn aggervating` i swear . helpp ?

No one understands the relationship you & your friend have because they probably don't have a relationship like that. Either that or they're just jealous. Don't try to convince them that you're telling the truth. Just don't let it bother you & if they keey agravating you about it, tell them to fuck themselves.

KAyyyy. So I've been dating this boy
for about 6 months. And every once and a
while we'll go tot he movies and I'm not big on
PSA - Public Show of Affection. So, anyway.. we're not going to sit there and makeout. But whats some cute stuff I can do ? I remeber a couple weeks ago we sat there and laughed about each others dimples and he kisses my forhead when i say something silly.

Hold hands. Don't like deeply french him or kiss him, but at least kiss him a few times so he doesn't get the wrong idea. And if you want, laugh about each other's dimples again because it never gets old.

At school, I am always struggling to make friends. I go over and talk to people but they always walk off. I try to get their attention, like make random jokes, and give my class a laugh every-so-often. I am pretty outgoing, and I am never shy or mean around people. I love people. But at school, people treat me like I am invisible. I always have to sit by myself at lunch, and it's been so hard teachers tried to get me hooked up with new friends but of course that never lasts. On myspace I used to have like 200 friends (and yes, I knew them all), but now I am down to 80. It slowly went down through the months. I am always trying so hard to befriend people, but nobody ever thinks about walking over to me, and talking to me. I try making conversations, but like I said, they walk off and ignore me. What can I do?

And yes I asked if they are mad at me, but they said no. They always tell me that we're good friends, but later on they totally ignore me no matter how hard I try talking to them.

I hope I didn't confuse anybody or not make any sense (I'm trying to explain the situation as best I can) but please help out if you can. I would really appreciate it! Thanks so much.

Join a club or something. Or a sport. If people tell you that they're "good friends" with you & when you talk to them, they walk off. They're obviously not good friends & you shouldn't want them as friends period. Honestly, it's better to be a loner than to have friends. Friends aren't really dependable so much. They talk shit behind your back, backstab you, steal your boyfriend's...they do everything they shouldn't. Good friends are hard to find. Anyways, just keep trying & if people keep walking away from you, then they're not worth your time.

My husband and I had anal sex for the first time this weekend which we have not done in a couple of years. When I had my kids I developed hemroids and have not been able to rid of them. After we had anal sex my rectum bled lightly for about 24 hours after, I did not have any discomfort at all and yes we used LOTS of lube. Does this mean we should stop having anal sex or is a little bit of bleeding okay?

It's okay. If it continues for more than a day and starts getting heavy, then go see a doctor. But until then, you're fine.

what does it mean if his penis is or gets unerected.

He lost his boner?

15/f. So I kinda get picked on sometimes, not in a bullying-beating up kind of way, though. It's like some people I meet and barely know just don't like me and hold serious grudges against me..like, my dance teacher picks on me all the time and I can just tell that she doesn't like me even though I've never done anything to her. I can recall like 10 people who I used to be friends with but randomly out of the blue just start telling me they don't like me and just start hating me, i don't understand it! People in school pick on me a lot, too, they copy off of me and bother me and pretty much walk all over me, and I am totally sick of it, i know that people do this because I'm quiet and mature and other kids know i'm smart so they try to cheat off of me. I am tired of being walked all over and always taking shit from people when I don't deserve it, so how can I stand up for myself a little bit without being a total bitch or getting kicked out of my dance routine? (trust me, i've wanted to tell my dance teacher off for treating me-and everyone else- like crap but she'd hold a grudge against me and kick me out...)

Honestly, tell the kids at school who pick on you to fuck themselves. Tell the friends that started hating you to fuck themselves. Tell everyone who cheats off of your paper to learn shit for themselves & to get a fucking life. You're not gonna hold their hand to pass. Let them do shit themselves. If they try to look on your paper, move it, or just move where you're sitting. Just ask your dance teacher why she doesn't like you. If she has no answer, she's probably shocked. But don't bitch at her because like you said, she might kick you off.

today is tuesday and we have a school dance on friday its a sweethearts dance and the guy i was supose to go with i have been going with him since october and from what i heard he moved...
to houston...
without telling me....
should i call him ...?
i mean ...
help please i have to go he's all i think about and now he gone im acting as if he's dead and all he did is move what should i do?.?.?.
:-( :-( ;-(

Well, if he moved his house phone is probably turned off unless you have his cell number. Call him, ask him what's up. If he's moved, then go with a close guy friend.

ok so heres your typical boy question. how do i tell if he likes me if im not even his friend? all i know is he thinks im cute. or that im kinda cute. i cant remember what he said. and hes friends with alot of my friends and one of my friends told him that i like him and thats when he said he thought i was cute. but im not sure if he meant it. and like i pass him in the hallways today and like i was staring at him but i cant remember if he was starin at me. if he does its totally not obvious. this is just one of those stupid crushes. but hes just sooo cute. and eyes are my weakness and he has the most gorgeous bright blue eyes! im in love with them. so anyways how do i tell if he does if were not friends? everyone knows i like him or think hes cute. but like i dont know. and i foudn out hes going to florida with me and i was really happy. and of course everytime i talk about him hes always right behind me and when i found out he was going i started jumping up and down so happy. and im like yay!! so yeah.. lol

Well if he thinks you're cute, you've got a start. Just start talking to him. I'm sure he's not gonna think you're weird. He probably just thinks you're shy since you haven't been, but start talking to him. Build a friendship, and if things go well, don't be scared to ask him out.

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