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do you think that giving a hj as a freshman is slutty? because some of my friends have.. not my close ones but i know that a lot have. and i have a boyfriend that i really love and like i want to but like a lot of my close friends would consider that to be slutty. like i really dont think its that big of a deal.
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who cares what your friends say. if you want to do it, then do it. it's between you and your boyfriend. i don't think it's slutty if he's your boyfriend. if you have a relationship with him, obviously you're going to want to do sexual things with him. if you're worried about what your friends are going to say, then just don't tell them. they don't have to know what you and your boyfriend do anyway. hope i helped. =]
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ok well the person below me basically summed up that whole thing. haha but i am also a freshman and no it's not slutty i mean some people may think that in your school, but mine just blows it off. and if your friends will think that's slutty just don't tell them. maybe tell one to get it off your chest. and if you don't want to get it out tell your boyfriend the same thing, maybe tell one of his very close friends just to get it off his chest.
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First of all the word slut refers to prostitutes and or promiscuios women. What you are asking about is a normal sexual act that many people do. It does not make you a slut for wanting to do it or doing it to your boyfriend or having him do the same kind of act to you.
Secondly, why do you care what your friends think about what you are or are not doing sexually? It's not any of their business really. Why do they even know about these private details of your life anyway? It is always going to be your choice alone to decide whether you want do this or any other sexual thing with your boyfriend and not there's.
Keeping initimate sexual or relationship details to yoursel and not talking to your friends is essential. It's your choice to do this based on whether or not you feel ready and you do not need anyone else's approval here. Even if they did find out you did this so what? If they called you a slut you could laugh it off as you know what the word means and they have no clue ;)
I would talk to your partner about all of this and your fears and then get a sense of whether you are completely comfortable doing it before you go about trying it. If you still feel nervous or like you shouldn't that's perfectly okay.
I'm sure if he loves you he will understand that you just aren't ready to do that to him just yet. If you want to do it as you said you did above go about it and relax. Your friends won't know unless you or he blab to them about doing it.
If they did find out (which they likely wouldn't) just tell them that their business starts and ends at their nose. For good measure talk to your boyfriend now about keeping intimate and sexual details of your relationship to himself and not tell friends about it and pledge to do the same as a condition of engaging in anything remotely sexual. The potential problem would be solved I would think.
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it isn't that big of a deal..i mean it would only really be slutty if you were giving hj's to more than one guy but its your bf for cryin out loud hehe but about your friends (have they ever) if not they r probably jelous that u have the chance and they don't...if they have then i don't know wht in the world is there problem.
much love
Caitlin........hope i helped =)
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not at all i have a friend who is sexually active and does thing like that and shes only in 8th grade and i don't consider her a slut. If you really love your boyfriend and you've been going out for a while i wouldn't consider that being a slut. A slut is someone who does sexual stuff with many guys. If anyone calls you a slut its because their just jealous
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like, oh my god, giving a like, handjob is like, so not slutty. seriously, like, who told you that?!
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if you are going out with him then thats not slutty..so if you want to do it then do it..its not like your friends can say anything b.c you are going out wit em
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Oh in my opinion it's not slutty.
1. hes your boyfriend
2. you can do whatever you want
I was in 7th grade when i starting giving head and handjobs and what not. He was my boyfriend and still is after while. It would only be slutty if you went around giving handjobs to just any guy. It isnt a big deal. High school is rough. And if your friends are really saying that it would be slutty then..
1. they are sluts since they've done it
2. they aren't your friends for saying stuff like that
But I say do it if you please. Have funn.
Hope I Helped :)
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Just do what you want. If you want to give your boyfriend one, then do it. The word slut means a girl that has sex with alot of guys. I dont consider other girls in your grade "sluts" ether, Its not like there going around having sex with everyones boyfriend. You are defienetely not a slut considering you havent had sex and it is your boyfriend. If people think you are a slut, well screw them.
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If you wanna give your boyfriend one, then do it. And who cares what your friends say. Do what makes you happy. If it's not a big deal to you, then it doesn't matter what people are saying. It's not slutty at all. There are probably more than 10 girls in your grade who have done it a ton of times.
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Nope, its not sluttyy. I bet you more than half the people in your grade have done wayy more than that at least 3 times..I would say go for it =]
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I don't think there is anything wrong with them... as long as you don't tell anyone... not even your friends. Keep it between you and the guy and you're not slutty. <3
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I think it is if your not engaged or married and no im not religious...its just my opinion..but its whatever your comfortable with...just be prepared for repercussions if you do such as it getting around that you did it and future guys thinking thats how you are or manipulating you to get that,embarassment,being considered a slut,being used,or just plain regret...just know that not everyone has your best intentions in mind and if you cant be proud of it then dont do it...Also dont think its something that you have to do to get or keep a giy.
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If you are not worried about your bf telling anyone and that is what you really want then go for it. However please know that if you do it and he tells people then yes it will get around QUICK that you are "easy" and it takes a long time to get rid of that status. And also be prepered that if you give a bj then he will probably want more, that is almost a certainty. Good luck, this is a decision that only you can make but please think about what your reputation means to you.
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Its not slutty. And honestly alot of people around you have done that to guys. Probly even some of your friends that claim they havent. If you care about your boyfriend and you guys feel that you want to start doing stuff like that then you can. Your friends dont have to know what you and your boyfriend do behind closed doors.
kim:)
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