im always here to help im really good at giving advice mostly about teenage problems not like my computer software crap! look im not supa smart, ask me questions that i'll know. but other than that im great! that doesnt mean i wont have questions of my own im still learning too so if i dont answer a question of yours than dont get mad b.c i havnt been through it. im very honost to people so if u ask i will certainly tell thats my motto! Just one more thing people if you dont like the way i type then get over it. thats how i am and its not like im typing to some important person. well you are but not that important!
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So my cousin lives with me.But she's jealous of me - saying how get all this stuff when she has it.I've never done anything to her.She touches my stuff like all little sisters and siblings do.She's very rude and gets into trouble at school.But no Im so upset that Im crying because she took some of my jewellery and broke it and then took something of mine which has sentamental value,put it under the wheel of bed and started scraping my REAL jewells of and everything and she dont know whats it like for me -sharing a room and being the girl whos being hated.How do i control my stress because all I want to do is runaway and everything i own - really nice stuff i ALL GONE - and she denies it well shes admitted to it but she still lies (link)
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if i were you i would have beat the shit out of her. no one can do that to you thats so wrong. what you should do is if she does it again you take something nice of hers and do the same thing then go how does it feel. shes just a littile brat. you need to tell someone. you already have then your on your own of handling this if your the only one who sees what she does make her scared of you to never ever touch your stuff. but if you perfer something doesnt resolve in violence then tell her that everytime that she does like uk taking stuff tell her shes gona have to give something of hers to you or pay her money!
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he says he deserves repsect from me but i think i do from him.
he cusses at me, and hes uber hypacrtitical.
he says i have to change if i want to live in his house.
uhm HES NOT MY REAL FATHER !
and there is no fucking way that im going to change for anyone, especially him.
so. i kinda cut. /: (link)
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aww i feel so bad for you dont cut yourself it doesnt help at all i felt so stupid when i did that to myself. it only hurts yourself. your stepfather seems like a real ass. but thats how some are. one way to get through to them is by talking. when hes yelling at you to respect him ask him how am i not respecting you (dont yell it out though) ik hes not your real father i know exactly how you feel. its none of there business how you do things where you do them they cant tell you what to do. talk to your mom about this and how you feel. she will talk to him and maybe you guys will have a better relationship! hope i helped any more questions just ask me!
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i cant get un sad after my bf dumped me do you know how to get me back so i love my life again even though i still hate it because people make fun of my acne and im in school now i get a free day but i need help bad ive been so sad ive been crying everynight because my life and my ex bf my life i hate it (link)
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dont hate life. life is good your life doesnt suck because you have acne and your bf dumped you someone else out there will be out there waiting for you. but if you want people to stop raging on you because of your piples then you can go expensive and use proactive or go cheap and get clean and clear (it works) its only like $5.00 its not that much go to Walmart for that.! and ne ways poeple shouldnt be all worring about what you like its what inside thats important. what you do is take a deep breath and think of all the good things about you like you mite say you have great hair a beautiful smile great body any thing that doesnt make you think of what makes you depressed!
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is equate like slim fast drink? (link)
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ahh i know those its a type of a diet drink my mum uses it. just check the claories on it.
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From the age of five until the age of fifteen, I was seriously depressed. I didn't function normally and I attempted suicide frequently. I got help and for the last couple years I've been making constant progress--but that's created a new set of problems. The friends I once had to depend on to save me from myself don't know how to deal with me as a happier, healthier person and friends I've made more recently don't understand when I have an occasional relapse and can't be the bouncy, happy girl they're used to. I'm afraid that I'll end up completely alone and that I'll end up backspinning to the way that I used to be, but I don't know of any way to make people understand the changes I'm making. Any suggestions? (link)
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o please dont use suiside as a souliton ever. trust me on this there are people out there who probally really care about you and if you did such a thing then problems would go on them. so think of others. dont worry about anything at all you wont be alone and if you need pople to talk to just tell them if they are BESTFIRENDS and you can trust hope i hepled!
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On Saturday, my best friend *Carly* went to a party with her boyfriend. She didn't want her parents to know that she was going, so she lied to her parents and said that she would be hanging out with a girlfriend. She told me that was what she was going to do. On Saturday night, or Sunday morning rather, around 12:30, Carly's sister called me and asked if I knew where she was because she was supposed to be home at 12:00. She asked if I knew the person she was hanging out with.
I was worried about Carly. I didn't know if maybe she got drunk or if she was hurt so I snapped and told her sister that Carly was really at a party with her boyfriend. I made her swear not to tell. I only did it because I was worried something happened to her.
Carly didn't find out that it was me that did her in, but her mom made her break up with her boyfriend the next day and she is devastated. I feel horrible. If I would have known that would have happened I wouldn't have done it. It's all my fault and I don't know what to do.
Did I do the wrong thing? (link)
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you so didnt do anything wrong if that boyfriend of hers is taking her to partys late at night doing god knows what then you actually saved her. she could have been seriously hurt. she will get over it. tell her that he was going to hurt her anyway and that you deserve better or maybe you shouldnt lie next time i dont want to see you like this. but yes there mite be some guilt but you did good!
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my room mate has really bad breath she has for awhile (a mutual friend and i have noticed) but recently all of our friends are starting to say things and noticing it . She is sensitive about most things so i don't want to say something that will hurt her feelings or make her mad but i think she needs to know rather than hearing it from someone randomly. what should i do? and how should i do it? (link)
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well this mite sound a little out of the ordinary but what you should do is always hand her gum (mint) then after giving her that talk about how you saw in the news or newspapers that brushing your tounge will help you from diseses(sry cant spell rite today) and if she still isnt getting the message just go to her and tell her : look ive have noticed something about you.... everytime you talk your i can smell your breath and it doesnt smell so nice.
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ok my glasses just broke and im tired of it. i want to get contacts but i want to know the pros and cons of them first before i spend my money on them. would it be better to just get my glasses fixed and what is the best place to get contacts. also i am 14 f and i have to pay for them myself so i need cheap one's ( but good quality). my friend said go to walmart and get them. is that ok? i just need help intirely! please help me... (link)
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of course go to walmart! CONTACTS are great you will love them. So much better than galssess, that are always in your way. when you try to rub your eye there they are. when you are watching tv are reading a book you have to situwate your glasses to stay comfortable. If they get drity then you need to clean them. Contacts still can get dirty and the only bad thing about them that you need to wash your hands everytime you are about to take them out and in and if you dont feel like putting them in trust me its no big deal its a 3 second thing to do in the morining and nite. The first time they will take a while to get used to but you will and loosing them is another thing i have had contacts for 4 years so i started using them when i was 10 and i have only lost 1 its ture if your careful they stay along time. and doctors may say to get new ones every 6 months or weeks i for got but really you dont have to if they are still good. Oh and contacts can still bother your eyes but if they are just take them out there mite be fuzz in it or hair or its just not in the rite way or you just need to clean them. I got mine for $100 its not that expensive but really the saloution to put them in is what you really need to concentrate on i would say you should ask your doctor whats best to buy!
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alright well i'm a 14 year old girl and i'm like 5'5 about 126 lbs. i want to lose like 20 pounds by summer and i think its going to be impossible. i go to the gym at least 5 times a week but i can't seem to have the displine to eat right. i really don't. can someone help me tell me how i can adviod those foods? my friends do not diet but i wanna look amazing this summer and i'm going to a new school. just i need something to keep me from eating badly. (link)
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if your that tall and weigh that much you really dont need to loose anything loosing 20 pounds for you would make you look grossly skinny and yes mabe you want that but its not a look guys like. trust me on this. Besides your still growing and if you loose that much you period could loose its course and well that wont be good. when your around 16 17 your going to loose loads of weight by doing nothing. becuse your getting a womens body and not a 14 year olds body. im 14 too. i have an eating disorder thats getting worse. i hate it and i have lots of problems with my body my sister who is 17 lost weight and she did nothing she still eats what she wants everyday and i am starving my self every day. If i eat like a boal of cearel and then lunch i feel like some fat ass but really you are supposed to eat that much and everyone is telling me i dont eat and i think i do all the time so i work out i do sports not for the fun of it but to loose wieght im dreading the summer and the spring vacations becuse i dont want people to see me in a bathing suit. my mom knew about it once before but thinks im not doing it any more. at school i dont eat lunch my boyfreind just thinks its becuse i dont like eating in front of his friends. and i dont eat breakfast on most days. and if i eat someting when i get home its a tiny snack, so please dont change anything your skinny , im guessing beautiful. be smart dont do what i do.
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I like my boyfriend a lot but he seems very apathetic about the relationship to the point where I'm craving affectionate touch, etc. What should I do? (link)
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well you should touch him first. start down the leg then work your way up slowly see what he does.
ik it is i was telling you if you do that then maybe something will happen not my fualt your bf doesnt like touching you!
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So lyke omg there's this boi.
Just kidding. Kind of.
There's this guy, one of my best friends. His name is Matt. We're pretty close. Anyway, I'm starting to develop serious feelings for him. We usually get to our French class early, and so he'll walk around the room hugging me or he'll pull me up out of my seat to do the tango. He doesn't really do that to any of my other friends, but my personality is pretty different from my other friends. I'm more spontaneous. Everytime he touches me (a few times per day), my heart flutters, and I get really happy.
The thing is that he thinks of my as more of a little sister, I think. Today, he wrote me a note asking me if I liked someone named Donny (shut up, it was the first name I could think of) because he saw us talking and thought that we were totally like in love or something. Anyway, he misread us. I'm pretty flirtatious in general. He was warning me because this kid has a bit of a reputation and he didn't want me to get hurt.
On MySpace, I took a Top 8 survey, and it asked if I had ever slept in the same bed as number 3 (Matt). I said no, because we haven't, and he messaged me with, "What are you talking about? We sleep in the same bed all the time!!" I think he was just being him, but should I read more into this?
Anyway, I'm wondering if you think that he'll ever like me as more than a little sister/friend, and if you think I should be a little more flirtatious, or if you think he's just an amazing friend.
I love him a lot, it's just a matter of whether it's going to go anywhere. Like, I respect him soo much and he respects me a lot, too, and I know that we'll always keep in touch, but I want to marry this guy.
Sounds kind of desperate, huh? (link)
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ok when a guy says something like he has a bad rep. that means that he doesnt want you to flirt with any other guy but him. but if you want to know if he really likes you then talk to him by saying. there is this guy that i really like and i dont know if he likes me? what should i do? and if he replys like o i bet that guy isnt for you or something like that then he likes you. get it? then when he asks who it is then you lean in and whisper in his ear, YOU! it seems like he likes you too. and your not desperate your just in love and thats great! you guys seem like you will last a long time.
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Currently, I'm 16. When (if I can) I go to prom, I'll be 17.
Let me start off with saying I have VERY strict parents. To give you an idea of how strict my parents are on me, I'll give you a few rules that they have on me:
-I can't spend the night at ANYONE'S (besides family) house. I never have.
-I can't let anyone besides family ride in my car.
-I can't go to any friends' house.
-I can't ride in anyone else's car besides family.
I want to go to prom with my boyfriend this year (it's his senior prom, I'm just a junior). Nothing mischievous is going to happen between us that night. No drinking, drugs, sex, etc.
Regardless, my parents don't seem to be very trusting of he and I. I'm not sure why since we've never done anything to break their trust. NOTHING. I've been dating my boyfriend for over a year, so they've been able to get to know him.
Now you can imagine how strict they are on me. How would I ask them about going to prom? I prefer to approach my mom first and then let her talk to my dad about it. I need to find out if I can very soon so I can start dress shopping. (link)
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wow your parents are strict! well ya go to the mom first hahah just say mom my boyfriend asked me to go to the prom i was wondering if i can go ill be back home at 11 or what ever time you think is resonable. I would love it if we went to go buy a dress together!
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I am really hating my mom again. Everytime I do something in front of her she responds to me when she tells me something. Gosh I don't know what she wants from me because I talked to hotlines about this and all they told me was find a job move out talk to her. I cried it's hard i thought the hotline will really help me but it didn't. she tries to imitate the sound I have when I talk in my head when she tells me something. I am not a daughter in her eyes anymore she is brainwashed completely. I was around her reading this thing label then she got an idea from that. Like she observed and knew the thoughts on my brain. I don't think people should be doing that. SHe is so cruel to me and everybody else in that family. I dismembered my self from the family tree. I hate them they are so rude. No normal people will like them. Does anyone know how to deal with it or can give advice aside from getting counseling. (link)
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well here is an idea piss her off and then she will be like What the f*** is your problem then you yell at her telling her how she makes you feel if thats the only way to get through to her then yell until she understands how you feel start breaking stuff she will get the point across. Or you can wait until you move out and then just leave her and never come back to her.
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on march 18 i'm going to myrtal beach for cheerleading nationals. i'm not like fat but i've gained some weight and have huge love handles. i plan on going on a diet and doing a 10minute ab work-out everynight + cheerleading. the only problem is, i have trouble sticking to my plan. i need some good ones to stay motivated. any ideas? thankss. (link)
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well thats awsome how you have every thing worked out ! and to motivate you just have a picture of girl that has a body that you want then if thts not what you want then just think of how healthy you will be and what people will think if you dont do this. im sure your not that bad and couldnt of have gained that much so you dont have alot to worry about.
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my gf dumped me and im really upset because she dumped me because her mates were calling her a sell out and her grades were falling:( im really upset she said it wasnt my fault and shes really sorry but im still annoyed i keep gettin random outbursts of anger e.g i clotheslined the hardest guy in my school because he annoyed me not a gd idea i also punched my wall n craked it broke my light switch and kiked my door of its hinges im pretty strong so i can do alot of damage what can i do to calm my self down:( (link)
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well this is going to be interesting but masterbate i guess get your mind off her. trust me it gets the stress out. but... if you dont feel comforstable with that then
1.close your eyes
2.take a deep breath in and out
3.think of a happy place and the sounds in the back round
4.do this over and over
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okay me and my boyfriend were at church a few nites ago and we were gonna go down the stairs. okay there's this little space beside the stairs where two people can be alone and he pulled me in there and kissed me. he didnt talk about it for the rest of the nite but i know he's gonna bring it up next wednesday. i mean, it's not like i didn't enjoy it or anything, but i don't know if i should take it a step further (as in having sex) or keep it like it is.help? (link)
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well if you just started kissing him or just seeing him then i would not go a step further like sex i mean get to know him kiss him some more you know. if you do know him and have for a while im talking about like a year or a couple of months. if not then to early make it special. thats my opinion! but you do what feels rite to you!
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On an MP3 player how many songs will 2gb play? (link)
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500 songs
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its a good thing if you been heartbroken and you find another guy that know u can be happy with after 2 years and run awya cause u dont want to get heart broken again (link)
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No. thats not a good thing because what your doing is runing a good relationship and still being heart broken. and you hert that guy too by running away so go back to him live happy!
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Someone told him i liked him and so i had a friend go ask him if he likes me and he said he hates me. I still like him and the girl who told him is my friend. What do i do?
13/f (link)
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aww im so sorry. i feel really bad because my friend is going through the same thing! well your just a little heart broken i can understand that. boys or just well you know boys and they cant look at a pretty girl with great personalilities if it was shoved in their face. My friend is pretty and shes funny i have no idea why that guy doesnt like her. hes crazy for not liking you. im sure your a great person! just get over that guy hes not good for you if hes going to be a jerk to you like that ya know? get a better guy trust me its worth it!
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I am 15 years old and my ex boyfriend is 16. I just had a baby he was born January 2nd. Before the baby was born my ex and i decided the baby would not go to his dads house (not is biological dad) because his father does crack in the house. he called me a whore and a bitch and other names. he said awful things about the baby before he was born and after.
He also says rude things about my family. Who has never said anything wrong about their family. Anyways the father of my son wants to take the baby away for a weekend but he does not hear him at night when he cries. he never feeds him correctly (gets him to finish the bottle) my question is i dont know what to do (link)
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ok. first of all you dont have to let your babay go with that guy because he is not responsable! just tell him why your not going to let the baby die this weekend im sure hell understand if not call the police!
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