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hate my mom and family.
I am really hating my mom again. Everytime I do something in front of her she responds to me when she tells me something. Gosh I don't know what she wants from me because I talked to hotlines about this and all they told me was find a job move out talk to her. I cried it's hard i thought the hotline will really help me but it didn't. she tries to imitate the sound I have when I talk in my head when she tells me something. I am not a daughter in her eyes anymore she is brainwashed completely. I was around her reading this thing label then she got an idea from that. Like she observed and knew the thoughts on my brain. I don't think people should be doing that. SHe is so cruel to me and everybody else in that family. I dismembered my self from the family tree. I hate them they are so rude. No normal people will like them. Does anyone know how to deal with it or can give advice aside from getting counseling.
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This question hits home for me. I understand what you're going through, believe me. I'm 16 and am homeschooled but never really been taught anything, I work at the local McDonalds and dance. My mother hates everything about me, belittles me and tells me i'm a lazy, no good nobody. Sound familiar? If so, then here is the advice everyone seems to give me.
Get that job those hotlines advised. Save money, find a place. If you can't seem to take anymore of it do you have atleast one person in your family that you love or trust and could possibly move out?
You have to try to get through this, I have about year before I can get out and I sometimes wonder if i'm going to be able survive one more year. But I have to, so do you.
You may wonder why you have this life, you may hate your family but you can't give up and asking some 13 year olds on a advice site isn't going to get you anywhere. Make a journal, write your feelings out and get a job. No one else can give you better answers. You have to be the one to do it and we can't tell you how to make your mother change. She is how she is. Its your decision.
Good luck and I hope life gets better for you.
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well here is an idea piss her off and then she will be like What the f*** is your problem then you yell at her telling her how she makes you feel if thats the only way to get through to her then yell until she understands how you feel start breaking stuff she will get the point across. Or you can wait until you move out and then just leave her and never come back to her.
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Pay attention to see if there is a pattern to what seems to be setting her off if you notice one then avoid doing those things. Maybe you should just try calmly and logically in a normal tone start speaking your mind with out cussing even if she begins to and explain your self and ask why..if niether of those methods and you cant find any positive ground to walk on with her (i'm not sure how old you are) but maybe the best thing would be to move out and get a job its not really seprating your self its just loving from afar and that works for some people not all families get along and not all families click togeather.I think its odd that no one in your family is expressing any kind of concern for you at all or trying to talkto you but it does happen and that is the case maybe it is best you move out..not every one is happilyever after with their family and can just click by getting to geather but i would only suggest moving out if there is not one to talk to in your family or nothing positive with your mom or if you are 18 or older then maybe its time you spread your wings and have your own space.I myself am the type who can usually talk out problems but if the person is just irrational and negative whether they are family,friend,what ever then i just separate because theres no use.
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You sound like someone who is so overinformed in the subject of self help that you forget the basics. Talking about your problems will not fix them. Moving out will not help your relationship with your mother. You can never seperate yourself from your family because emotionally, you still care about them. I suggest you decide not to talk about your problems with your mother. If she starts to insult you, just walk away. Instead, start doing things together. Go on walks in the woods, see movies or go skating. If you start focusing on the positives instead of the negatives, your relationship will begin to heal. Don't give up. Let me know how things turn out :)
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