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my step dad
he says he deserves repsect from me but i think i do from him.
he cusses at me, and hes uber hypacrtitical.
he says i have to change if i want to live in his house.
uhm HES NOT MY REAL FATHER !
and there is no fucking way that im going to change for anyone, especially him.
so. i kinda cut. /:
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aww i feel so bad for you dont cut yourself it doesnt help at all i felt so stupid when i did that to myself. it only hurts yourself. your stepfather seems like a real ass. but thats how some are. one way to get through to them is by talking. when hes yelling at you to respect him ask him how am i not respecting you (dont yell it out though) ik hes not your real father i know exactly how you feel. its none of there business how you do things where you do them they cant tell you what to do. talk to your mom about this and how you feel. she will talk to him and maybe you guys will have a better relationship! hope i helped any more questions just ask me!
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Well I think you should talk to your mom about it. I dont think it is right for him to be doing that either. Its not good to cut though. Theres always another way through it but cuttin is not the way. Talk to your mom about it and get her tell him something or maybe you can even sit you step dad down and talk to him about it.
<3 Kristy
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Hey. Even though you may be upset now that he's not your real dad and he's still telling you what to do you're going to look back years later and realize that it was foolish to hurt yourself over this. You may not realize it but you're cutting yourself to get attention so that he'll leave you alone and be kinder to you even if he doesn't know yet. But even so you're acting this way to get attention and believe me I'm not blaming you because I see why you're upset. But years later you will be even more angry that you cut yourself over him and you will just become more hurt than if you took responsibility and told him how you feel. I know how angry you are that he's acting this way since he's not your real dad but believe it or not if you don't fight him or talk back to him he will stop nagging you. He will be nicer and it may take a while but eventually I bet he will be. I know, I know, you're shaking your head at me right now but it's true. You don't have to treat him anything like your real dad by any means but just treat him as someone you're respectful to and if he's still mean to you then you have to talk to your mom. Write a letter if it's easier. But PLEASE don't cut, you're going to be even angrier that you're hurting yourself over this man. Whereas if you're the nice, responsible one, and your stepdads still mean you can realize that he's the bad guy. But I bet he'll change if you just be curtious. There's someone out there who cares for you and that person really doesn't want you to cut, and although I don't know you, that's me. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
Chrissabelle<3
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you shouldn't get upset over he's not your real father, he is trying his best to bring u up, as if he was your real father. he is an adult that's only trying to help you. you dont have to like him, but give him a chance.however, you DO have to show him respect like any other adult
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Don't cut yourself over somebody else. I learned that the hard way, and sometimes I regret it. Anyways, if he doesn't respect you, then don't respect him. You're absolutely right. I don't understand how somebody could want respect but then give you none in return. Which is hypocritical. Talk to your mom about it. He's not your real father, so he shouldn't treat you that way. But until he starts repsecting you, disrespect him.
Fuck that "YOU SHOULD ALWAYS RESPECT YOUR ELDERS" shit. If they don't give you respect, then they don't deserve it themselves.
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