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I've been away for a while due to a serious illness and subsequent health issues. Favourite quotes of the moment:
The children of Israel wandered the desert for 40 years - Even in biblical times men wouldn't ask for directions!
Humankind has not woven the web of life. We are but one thread within it. whatever we do to the thread, we do to ourselves. All things are bound together. All things connect. - Chief Seattle.
We spend the first 12 months of a child's life teaching them to walk and talk. We spend the next 12 years telling them to sit down and shut up!
As you slide down the bannisters of life, may the splinters never be pointing the wrong way.
May you be in Heaven half an hour before the devil knows you're dead.
I've been very happily married since August 1980 to a wonderful man and have beautiful twin girls, now aged 31. Both are married to wonderful young men and one of our girls has recently made us grandparents to a beautiful, smart and feisty granddaughter. I studied geology with the Open University. I am retired from being a manager in a large UK based insurance company which I actually quite enjoyed. (How sad is that?). I love anything to do with the environment and wildlife and try to do my bit for preservation and conservation. I would like there to be a decent world for our grandchildren to inherit. I also have CFS so find life a bit of a challenge at times but always hope for better health in the future.
I have a deep interest in the spiritual and the paranormal worlds, having experienced several incidents myself, and have been involved in meditation groups and groups that (safely) explore the paranormal. There is more to this life than we would normally credit, so an open mind is always the best option. You're not so likely to get caught by surprise!
I have a deep fascination for anything to do with Ancient Egypt, as you can probably tell by my name. I have statues and paintings all around the house. As my hubby has a similar interest in Native Americans, we tend to have a lot of unusual wall decorations, like a tomahawk.
I love cars, especially vintage ones, but my all time favourite has to be the Bugatti Chiron, what a car!
I have had a lot to do with animals over the years. I have fostered many, helped to set up a wildlife charitable hospital and raised a diverse range of young animals from bats to fox cubs and different species of birds, even a baby deer! I have had great pleasure in sharing my life and home with a number of animals over the years, most of them rescues. I am currently sponsoring an Amur Tiger, they are such beautiful cats and desperately need help, there are so few of them left. I was lucky enough a couple of years ago to meet some Aye-Aye's and Livingstone's Bats, a truly wonderful experience. We now have three cats, Oliver and Mollie, a brother and sister, he's a ginger and she's a tortoiseshell and a black and white called Daisy. She arrived in a taxi and was left on our doorstep in a cat carrier with the message that 'they knew we loved cats and would be good to her'. She has settled down well and gets on wonderfully with the other two.
If you have a pet that is showing ANY signs of illness or distress, please, please, please take it to a vet! Even if finance is an issue, work that out later. It is cruel to leave an animal suffering for any reason. Most animals do not show signs of illness until they have been ill for some time, basic instinct tells them it is a display of vulnerability, and certain death in the wild. Their instincts have not caught up with domesticity.
I do feel that we should all treat others as we would wish to be treated. Bad karma comes back to haunt us.
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Hey everybody! I'm 14/f. Well, I have a fear of dogs. It's just that when they get close to me I'm so afraid and start to take off. Once when I was a young kid, my next-door neighbor's dog Kiki was chasing after me and I literally thought that it was going to kill me. I don't want to be afraid of dogs because I think they are the cutest things ever, especially puppies. Does anyone have any advice on how I can overcome my fear of dogs...I would really appreciate it! Thanks.
I have a phobia so I understand your problem. I also love dogs so I would like to try to help you become unafraid of these wonderful animals.
You do need to start small, a pet shop with puppies, a breeder that is sympathetic with your problem, or someone you know with puppies. Make sure they are old enough to be handled and that the mother is in a different room, just in case she senses your fear, and misinterprets this into thinking her pups are in danger. It is more difficult to be scared of tiny pups. Just stay in the same room initially, watching them play. Then, if that's ok, try sitting down near them. The chances are that they will come over to you to see if you're a potential playmate. Let them sniff you, this is their version of shaking hands. After this, if you feel confident enough, throw a toy for them to chase. If possible, put some food down for them. You don't have to do all this in one visit if it's too much for you. Go at your own pace and whatever fits in with the owner of the pups. Eventually, you should feel ready to hold one. Try to do this after they have been fed and have played with, as playful pups tend to be a bit nippy. This it is not badly meant and rarely hurts, so it is better to do this when they are tired. Having a sleepy, cute puppy cuddled up to you is a very special feeling.
If all this works and you become confident with puppys, try to move on to small adult dogs. Try to avoid any of the terrier breeds to start with as they were bred to hunt and can be a bit nippier than 'lapdogs'.
Shih Tzu's are a good breed to try, they are so soft and gentle, but stubborn, they are ideal for people who are worried about dogs.
One final thing, dogs chase! They are hunters by nature, and instinct will make them chase anything that seems to be running away from them. That is why, however hard it sounds, it is better to stand your ground, wait for the dog to come close, and then say in a loud but commanding tone 'NO'. This should take them by surprise, and stop them in their tracks. Your neigbours dog, all those years ago, probably got the hunting instinct started by chasing you, you then running inflamed this. I know it is great to be wise after the fact, but it might help you in the future.
I do hope this works for you and I wish you the very best of luck.
ok my boyfriend has high blood pressure and is at a high risk for heart attacks and strokes. Twice this week he has like held his heart and started breathing slow and stuff and he was in pain during those, and everytime i ask him whats wrong he says nothing and for me not to worry about it. Does anyone know what this could be. im just really worried.
thanks.
You really need to persuade him to see a doctor, this is a potentially harmful condition. If it is also hereditary, the chances are one of his parents or another close relative has it, so if he is being stubborn about it, you could approach one of them to help.
If not, it may still be worth trying to casually mention it to his parents, he may be angry with you initially, but if it saves his life, he'll have to get over it.
Even if he is not in any immediate danger, it would help you to know more about his condition, as it seems that you are under a lot of stress about it. If you know what to expect and the background to his problem, you will know what signs to look out for, that suggest an impending problem and then you could relax a bit more.
It can't be much fun for you, living with all this worry.
Try to explain all this to him, if he understands how concerned you are and that you need to know more about this, he may stop brushing your worries off.
Hope that helps and the best of luck to you both.
do you know anything about foreign exchange students? i think i might want to be one but i need to know more about it! if you have anything please answer this question! anything will help! sorry i don't know wat category this goes under!
You don't say which country you are from, so different rules could apply. However, assuming you are from the USA, I have enclosed a couple of websites to get you started. If you're from a different country, come back to me and I'll try again.
The first one will take you the UK, Ireland, Spain, France, Australia etc. Whether it's Eco, Intern, Group, Independent, School to School, High School visit and so on.
The second one, you click on the country you are interested in and that will take you to a site with more information about it.
That's all I can tell you I'm afraid, the closest I have ever come to foreign exchange students is when, years ago, I used to take them in for a couple of weeks at a time whilst they were here.
I hope this will be enough to get you started and I wish you all the best.
http://www.cci-exchange.com/programs_abroad.htm
http://www.afs.org/AFSI/content/page.php?uid=11
I have a pet dog ( cocker spaniel/bishon frisée mix if that helps lol)and he randomly starts shaking, he tenses up and starts wheezing. My parents think it might be athsma but none of us really know what it is. He is an older dog, about 9 years old, so maybe its just a sign of getting older. I'm worried about him, he's been doing that for a while...
It could be asthma, then again depending on the type of wheeze, it could be a heart cough, especially with the other symptoms. Cocker Spaniels are inclined towards heart problems, the fact that he is a mix may give him extra strength in that area, but he really does need to see a vet to make sure.
Whatever the problem, the earlier he is seen, the more successful any treatment is likely to be.
Hope that helps and the best of luck to you and your dog.
There is this bunny sickness that has hit more than one of our bunnies. The bunnies become very limp and act like they have no muscle ability left, they just tilt to the ground. They have green liquids seeping from their nose and mouth but their ears are clear of all mites and visible infections. What is killing my bunnies?
They need to see a vet as soon as possible.
The symptoms sound as though it could be something like Myxomotosis or VHD (Viral Haemorrhagic Disease), which are highly contagious and life threatening diseases. They are both very painful for the rabbit and, left untreated, cause intense suffering before they die. If it is one of these, you will not be able to treat it yourself and there is a high mortality rate. The sooner treatment begins the more chance there is of saving the rabbit.
Even if it is not one of these, the symptoms are still serious and they need to see a vet. Rabbits, generally, are not that strong and it does not take much for them to get to a point where they cannot recover.
Your vet will be able to carry out a proper diagnosis and advice on treatment and prevention.
I hope this is of help and that your rabbits make a full recovery.
my boyfriend (24)and I(20) have lived together for over a year we live with a roomate who happens to be my friend . just recently last friday actually we got in a big fight and he shoved me into the closet door, our roomate heard it all and said something to him and he got in her face screaming and pointing his finger in her face so i ran flailing my fists aqnd i caught him in the nose , i didn't punch him but i did hit him though and his nose started bleeding which i instantly started bawling and trying to clean away the blood , i knew what i did was wrong and felt horrible anyway we both agreed to forgive each other but then this past tuesday i had to get all 4 of my wisdom teeth out and he was the one with me getting all the post-op insturctions and then after we got home we got into a dumb fight and he said "i can't take getting beaten anymore" and he left me i havn't heard from him since tuesday and now he is at his parents house I don't know what i should do because i am stuck here with all the memories and i am crying everyday I just want him to come home but at the same time i don't know if i should let him come home i need help!!!!
It sounds as though there are anger issues here. Possibly on both sides. The question is, is it both of you or just one?
If he pushed you into the door and you get back together, it is quite likely that the next time you have an argument, he will do something worse. The way he reacted to your friend intervening should be a red flag. Yes, you perhaps should have been more careful with your fists, but in a stressful situation like that, you are going to act first and think later. Also, the way he is using the accident of you catching his nose against you, seems to suggest that he would drag this out every time in the future that you have a disagreement, and use it to his advantage.
What caused the fight after your operation? This was a time when you needed peace, quiet and understanding, not a row! If you've just had anaesthia, your emotions would be a bit skewed anyway.
If you also have anger issues, try to get to the bottom of it. Has it just been since you were together? Or have you had a problem for some time? The same questions will apply to him.
It does sound as though, however painful now, you would be better off apart. You don't need all this stress in your life, and there will be someone out there who will appreciate you for who you are, and not throw past actions in your face at every opportunity.
I hope that helps and I wish you all the best for the future.
my dogs is throwing up blood and I can't afford to go to the vet, Please give me advice on what this could be . I feel really bad as I love my and she is not an out door pet, and is only fed good dog food. She is part husky and collie.
There are many reasons for this happening and most of them are serious.
Are there any other symptoms? How much blood is there? What colour is it? Tenderness to the abdomen or it appearing to be bloated. A bulge in the throat area. Not eating and/or diarrhoea, blood/parasites in stools. Drooling more than normal, bleeding from anywhere else. Is she on any medication that could have upset the lining of her stomach? Has she been anywhere that could give her access to rat poison? Has she swollen a foreign body or been ill with something else that has made her vomit to the point where she could have torn a blood vessel in her esophagus. If she's getting on in years, it could be a stomach ulcer. If it looks like coffe grounds it's probably coming from her stomach, if it is bright red it could be coming from her throat area. Generally, the further the blood has to travel the darker it tends to be. Even if it is bright red though, you cannot afford to take any chances with her health. This is just a list of a few of the possible causes of this problem.
However, as I, and everyone else has said, she must see a vet as soon as possible. Blood loss in an animal can be serious, not only from the cause of the problem, but also because it doesn't take much loss for the animal to be beyond help.
Is there a parent or other relative that could help out financially? If not, you could approach the vet and see if they do a payment plan. You could then stage the repayment. Or try your local animal charities to see if they can recommend some method of assistance.
I hope you are able to get this dealt with quickly and I wish you and your pet all the best.
I just plugged in my iPod to my other computer and somehow, I exidenetly deleted all of my songs. I know I can't get them back, but I have other new songs on my iTunes and now I want to update it and put it on my iPod but when I click on update iPod it's gray and I can't click on it. How do I fix this so I can put new songs on my iPod? Do I have to register, and if so how? Thank you!
I may be wrong here but it sounds like you've put the music onto your ipod through itunes on one computer then connected it to another computer, which presumably had a blank version of itunes on? if this is the case im guessing the itunes setting were on automatic update. in which case as soon as you connect your ipod to the computer it updates your ipod to match your computer. so if you have deleted a song from itunes, it will delete it from your ipod. or if you add a song to itunes it will add it to your ipod. therefore if you connect your ipod to a blank itunes, without turning off the automatic update (i cant memo the exact place for this but if you go into help you should be able to find it) it will delete everything on your ipod so it is also blank.
if you can access the original computer, with the original songs on itunes, you should just be able to reconnect and it will add the songs back again. if you then want to take them to the other computer you can try using this software
http://www.copypod.net/download.php
to transfer everything on your ipod onto the computer.
with the new songs because they are on itunes they should be ok to transfer across to your ipod but i always find it is best to make sure you keep a backup file of all your music just incase you have problems.
im thinking that also the reason that you are having problems with the ipod updater is that, that piece of software is for updating the software on your ipod to keep it working well.Once you have updated it im pretty sure it stays grey and you cant click on it again unless you reset your ipod, or download a later version from the Apple website.
Usually when you first get your ipod it will ask you to register it and will come up with a quick and easy form to fill in so i would have thought you would have done that already to allow you to be able to use it properly so you should be ok now.
I hope this helps, but if you want any more information or help feel free to ask!
My trainer's doggy passed away yesterday. He was an awesome dog, who loved everyone and everyone loved him. Well, the girls at the barn want to do something special for my trainer to say like we care about you and we want you to be happy even in your greiving time. After all, she does so much for us, it's the least we can do. But, do you have ideas for gifts or anything like that? Also, things to say to her because I know it's going to be awkward.
I am so sorry to hear of her loss, it is always so painful when a loved pet dies as they do become family. She is lucky to have you all for support.
When one our pets or relatives passes we always buy a plant for the garden in memory of them. If it was an animal we try to put it in their favourite place. Then when it comes into bloom, it reminds us of all the good times we shared. We also try to buy a plant, where possible, as close to the lost ones name as we can. If we are not able to do that, we just rename the plant.
With talking to her, just try to be natural, forced conversation always sounds worse in these situations. Tell her how sorry you all are and that you will miss him as well. Then she will know she has your support and understanding. In time she may want to talk about him and reminisce, at that point you could go over all the funny, cute, loveable etc, things he used to do.
She is unlikely to be happy for a while, but it should be a comfort to her to know she has your support.
Hope that helps and good luck to you all.
What is the difference between love and lust? and how do you really know if a guy loves you?
Love will last, lust will pass. If you can't bear the thought of anything bad happening to the other person, they make your day just by being in it, and their thoughts and opinions are really important to you, there is a fair chance it is love, but not always. It is a really difficult thing to describe or understand, but you will know it when it happens to you.
Also, despite the advice below that suggests that a guy loves you if he says it, I would dispute that.
A lot of young guys will say they love you to get what they want. It's the ones who say they love you and show they respect you by not trying to get you to do anything you're uncomfortable/unhappy doing that generally mean it.
Hope that helps and good luck.
my dog is 12 and a golden retriever. she all of a sudden started shaking really hard out of nowhere and i don't know why but it really scared me. does anyone know what this could mean?
She does need to see a vet.
It could be a neurological problem, her heart, a seizure, poison, back injury, viral etc, etc.
The sooner she is seen by a vet the more chance there is of a quick relief.
Any abnormal behaviour in an animal should be checked out by a vet. Most animals will try to cover up symptoms of illness for as long as they canm as instinct tells them any signs of it will make them appear more vulnerable, so more open to attack.
Hope that helps and good luck with her.
My daughter wants to dig out some plants that bloom only one a year, but her husband likes the plants. I don't know what they are but they get big blue flowers on them. She wants to plant something that will always be green and that will grow tall and not require any maintance--any ideas on what they should plant????
It depends on the area they live in and the type of soil they have as to the best one to get. You could suggest they go to their local garden centre and ask for advice on the most suitable plants for their requirements.
I don't know what the big blue flowers are as there are quite a few that could fit that description, but if they take one to the garden centre they should be able to ask someone there. If your son-in-law likes the plant, is there room for both? Then both of them would be happy and he could look after his plant.
Hope that helps and good luck to them.
Ok. For around two weeks EVERY night I've been having bad dreams. And it sucks.
It'll either be a new dream, a dream I've had before, or a combination of a couple dreams.
I've had this one for 3 nights in a row, seriously. I walk into a room, and look in this mirror. And there is this half-dead ten-ish year old girl with a bloody KNIFE standing behind me. But when I look behind me she's not there, she's only in the mirror. Then there is this other one where I get put into a coffin and I'm buried alive.
So...
Would there be a reason that this is happening ??
What can I do ? I HATE it....
There could be several reasons for the dreams.
Have you been watching horror films?
Are you feeling quite stressed at the moment?
Have you suffered a trauma recently?
Has something happened to make you more aware of your own mortality, like a death in the family or a pet?
If it's due to horror films, stop watching them. If it's stress, you need to learn some stress management, eg, relaxation, having some fun, talking your problems out to someone who will take you seriously etc.
If you have suffered a trauma the same thing applies, talk to someone.
If it's your own mortality, the fact that everything has a life span, this is more difficult to deal with. It's something most people have to face and accept at some point in their lives, usually around the early teens. You have to trust in whatever faith you have and learn to live as productive a life as you can, so that when your time comes, and it's probably not going to be for a very long time yet, you can look back on your life with satisfaction of having done your best.
This may be of little comfort at your age, but in years to come it becomes more important.
The nightmares will go, try to relax before you go to bed, listen to calming music, read something light and fun, have a relaxing bath. These things should help to calm you down so that you can have a more restful nights sleep.
Hope that helps and you are able to sleep properly really soon.
Is it possible to fall in love with someone who you have only met once? :)
I fell in love with my husband the first time we met in 1978, we married in 1980, we are still married and I love him even more now than I did then.
So, in answer to your question, yes it is possible. However, take care that the feelings you have are genuine love and not lust, lust will pass, love will last.
Hope that helps and good luck.
My maltese (about 2 and a half years old) has been acting a bit strange lately: not eating as much or going 'doing his business'. I also noticed that his nose has changed color, from black to a brownish pink. Is that normal? Should I take it to the vet or will it be ok after some time? Any help is appreciated, thanks.
Any animal with changes in eating, behaviour and appearance should be seen by a vet.
The nose colour change could be vitaligo, which is a loss of skin pigmentation.
The not eating and not eliminating waste could indicate bowel problems. Amongst the possiblities are that he could have swallowed a foreign body that has lodged in his gut and is not allowing the correct digestion or a viral infecton. There are many other reasons for his behaviour so he really does need to see a vet as soon as possible. If there is something wrong with him, the sooner he is seen the more likely it is that he can be treated successfully.
Hope that helps and good luck.
okkay well i have this smell...you know down there..and i need help on how to make it not stink or anything..i dont have an std or anything it just smells..lol
yeahh sooo help me pwease
thanks!
More information is needed. What sort of smell?
If it is a fishy smell, it's probably a yeast infection. But there are other things it could be depending on the type of smell. Will await more information.
i have a question. since you knew so much about what to do with my kittens lonliness problem i figured you might know this. if i let the water run and get my kitten used to it will she like baths when she is a cat? thanks
Jesser
Cats and water are not normally a good mix. They are descended from the wild cats that lived in the desert regions in Africa. The exception to this dislike is the Turkish Van cat who voluntarily will dive into water, swim and hunt for fish.
If your cat is a short hair, it should not need a bath and will be able to keep itself clean.
If she is a long hair or is likely to get particularly dirty there are ways to get her used to water.
You need to start while she is still a kitten, the younger the better. You can begin to get her used to water by just having her around it as often as possible without her feeling threatened by it. You have a good idea with the running water to get this started.
It's a pleasure, any time you need help or advice, let me know I'll see what I can do.
A sink or a bath could be more stressful as it is so big. Something smaller like a bucket or a small bowl would be less intimidating. Remember the size of a kitten to the size of a bath, it would be like you being put in an olympic size pool without being able to swim, scary.
To avoid the process being drawn out longer than necessary, try to have three buckets or bowls ready. The first has the cat shampoo in the water, the others have clean water. All the water should be as close as possible to the skin temperature of the cat.
Place the cat in the first bowl, gently rub her fur between your fingers, try using a small sponge for the face, take care not to get the soap in her eyes, unless you have a shampoo that does not sting. Let her keep her front feet on the side of the bowl or bucket as this should help to keep her calmer.
Then place her gently in the next bowl and rinse her off. Then the last bowl to ensure all the shampoo has been removed. Again using a small sponge to make sure her face is clear of shampoo.
When she is soap free, wrap her in a large, fluffy towel and gently massage her dry. If she is a short hair this should be sufficient. If she is a long hair, she may need to be blowdried. Come back to me on that one if she is and you need help. When she is dry, run a comb through her fur and she will be done.
Hope that helps, good luck.
well ive been on ma period for 2 weeks now is it normal?
Periods generally last only a few days. Stress can affect this, so if you have been stressed or worried recently, this could be the cause.
If it is light or spotting and the normal colour, it should soon clear up. If it does not stop in a week, you should see your doctor. You should also go if you have been under severe, prolonged stress as this can cause other health problems in time.
If, however, it is a heavy, continuous bleed, you need to see your doctor as soon as you can. There are things that can cause this to occur, not all are serious but they do need medical aid.
Hope that helps and good luck.
My mom and I used to have a great relationship. This might be long. I'm sorry, but I need advice. 13/f.
I was never embarrased when she would come and have lunch with me, including hugging and kissing me in public. Now, over a period of time, I feel like we're slowly drifting apart. One minute, we can be laughing, the other, we'll be arguing over something like clothes. I'll give you a scenario. We're at the store and I like this shirt, so my mom buys it. A couple weeks later, I'm wearing an older shirt that I had before the new shirt to a restaurant, and my mom completely flips out and tells me that I should wear the new shirt that I bought. Now, I have two problems. I can be selfish at times, and I will say 'Mom, I don't want to wear this shirt to the restaurant'. And she'll complain every day and give me a lecture about how I never wear clothes that she buys me, and that she's afraid to buy me any other clothes because I will forget about them. Sometimes, I put on a fake smile and say that I love the shirt, but I'm putting an act for my mom, to save the arguments. It seems like we're fighting every day now because of a shirt that I don't want to wear. I hate myself for being so stubborn and ungrateful. Sometimes, I feel like I can't even talk to my mom. I talk to my stepdad about boys. I'm so scared that I'll get punished for even thinking about boys since I come from a strict Russian family. My 20 year old cousin doesn't even talk about boys around her family members, especially her mom, my second aunt, who will probably yell at her in Russian. I don't want us to drift apart and not even speak to each other when I'm older. I want us to remain close for as long as possible. I've tried talking to her and telling her that I appreciate what she's doing for me and how hard she works. I just don't know what to do now.
I've been through exactly the same thing from both directions.
When I was your age my mother would buy me clothes and be upset if she did not see me in them nearly all the time. It would be either that she had bought me something she thought I would like but didn't, or something I had seen and liked but not enough to ignore everything else I had. I felt awkward telling her as I did not want to hurt her feelings and possibly start an argument.
Now I have two grown daughters and found myself doing what mine did and still does occasionally. I now know that it is not always that the item is not liked. However, it can still hurt if it feels like your gesture is being rejected. This may be why your mum is questioning why you are not wearing something she has bought you.
It also seems that this is about more than a shirt. You are growing up fast, maybe too fast for your mum to cope with easily, you're not her little girl anymore and she may feel a bit lost and unsure how to communicate with you now. Although you're not yet an adult, she no longer has a say in every decision you make and it is difficult to back off and leave you to make your own mistakes.
Boys are the biggest threat as far as a mother is concerned. More so in some cultures than others. They are the potential enemy that threatens to defile their precious daughters. Dramatic? Absolutely, but the maternal instinct is one of the strongest around and you just can't mess with it. Mothers generally, will lay down their lives for their children. It sounds as though this is something you will just have to accept for now. Continue to talk to your stepdad about boys if this helps, give your mum time to come to terms with your maturity and show her in little ways that you can be trusted. Over time the trust you build up will affect other areas of your life, and she should become a little more relaxed. In a few years, after getting through this difficult transitional stage, your mum and you will be the best of friends again.
Just remember it is difficult for your mum as well, carry on telling her you appreciate her etc, and give her time.
I wish you both the best of luck.
i have a kitten. i have had her for about...9 days. she is 7 weeks old. whenever i put her down and leave the room. she starts freaking out. like running around and meowing like crazy. when i go back in a pick her up, she falls asleep, starts purrring and calms down. can anyone give me any advice on what to do??
She is quite young to have been separated from her mother, ideally it should be around 10 weeks of age, however, most seem to be rehomed before this.
She is missing her mother and siblings and you have taken the place of them in her mind, therefore representing security in her world.
Try to play with her a lot before you know you have to leave her, so that she is tired. Cats generally sleep up to 16 hours a day, so it shouldn't take long.
Ensure she has a catbed or a blanket to snuggle into and place a ticking clock next to or under it, (alarms switched off!), as the ticking mimics the mothers heartbeat. If the weather is cool enough, try a warm only hot water bottle under the bedding, this will make artificial body heat which will be of comfort. Leave a radio on softly in the background, on a talk only station if possible, as this gives the impression of company.
In 3-4 weeks this phase should pass and she will be more settled. Kittens do grow up very quickly, so make the most of this time with her. Also the more you play with her now, the friendlier she will be when she is older and she will be easier to handle.
She appears to love you very much already, so you must doing all the right things for her, so carry on and good luck.