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"We make war so that we may live in peace." -aristotle"If you judge someone right away, you will not be able to learn to love them."
I'm Hayley, I'll try to help you as best I can. I'm 18, and a senior in high school. I like art, music, and clothing. I'm a vegetarian abd have been consistent with it for four years. I have two dogs a westie named misty and a Maltese/poodle mix named mally. I know a lot about dogs because any time
my dogs get a scratch, I research and call the vet haha.
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14 about to be 15/F (Grade 9)
Okay, so i'm going out with one of my ex's, and I don't know if it was just a spur of the moment type of thing, but I hung out with him Friday night, it's now Sunday morning. And I don't really have the same feelings for him.
Now my other ex, the one that i'm compleatly in love with, we never stopped loving eachother.
I really want to be with him, and I know he wants to be with me.
But my BF now, before we started going out, said that I better not dump him 4 another guy.
Anyways, I have kind of a bad rep right now at school.
People think i'm a hoe just because i've been out with a lot of guys, BUT I'VE NEVER DONE ANYTHING except making out.
I just want to break up with my bf now,and get my ex back.
HOW DO I DO IT????
Please hurry .
And thanks in advance =)
Thats like tottaly gay. Hes like telling you what to do. Just dump him & go out with the guy you really wanna be with... just make sure, he truly does like you. Like did he say it to you? Hmmm. Just tell the guy, you wanna break up with be like.."Look, your cool & all, but..I really like this other guy better..sorry, I hope we can still be friends."
Who cares, about what the people in school think. If they wanna talk, let them its making you famous. (: haha, old qoute. But, people talk about me alott too, but because they think I'm mean, & can do whatever I want because I'm like pretty & richh. So, I think that basically just proves.. people are retarded.
I hope everything works out, kbye(:
Ok so here's the thing I have a lot of acne. I tried everything proactive clearisil but it just won't work my mom doesn't want to buy me any expensive products. So I get teased in school. Any ideas?. Also I get teased because I have big lips. Any help?ideas?
Differin. Go to the doctor, its like a perscription thing. I don't know. I had it. Its cheaper then proactiv & that junk. Like ALOT cheaper. I think we only paid like 10 dollars? Just go to the pharmacist or something & ask for it. It bring it all out to start which.. which i hated. But, in like a month.. it was ALL gone. I mean like alllllll gone. hahaha
so, i hoped that helps. kbye (:
I have this friend...lets call the friend C. C is one of my bestest friends. C's so fun and lively and gosh, you can't tell that theres anything bad going on in C's life. C's one of the two friends that I have that are always cheerful and happy. Well, yesterday when we were being idiots and dancing in the hallways b/w class(don't ask) I saw that C cut itself on the top of C's hand and was concealing it with C's sleeves. I can understand why since C hates C's little brother, C's mom and dad are divorced, C's not all that rich, and C hates his stepdad. The thing is that I cut too... and do not lecture me on that fact. I haven't told ANYONE at my school that I cut and I want to keep it that way. I want C to stop and not cut though. I know it sounds weird and hypocritical but I wnat C to stop. I know it's a dangerous thing to do and can turn fatal at any given time. That's why I wnat C to stop. Isn't it weird that while I do the same thing I don't want C to do it? What is wrong with me for thinking that way? Why am I thinking that way? What are things I can do or say to stop C from cutting? If I try to talk about it, he ignores me and stops the conversation say he doesn't want to talk about it.
Well, the reason you want C to stop, is because you care more about them.. then yourself. Its good that you wanna help C, but why not help yourself too? I once tried to cut myself, & it hurt like hell. So, why do you do it? Its not like it feels good. Well, I mean you probaly do it.. because of your home life or school or something, I don't know you well enough, to go into that. But, what I do know, is you should help yourself, & C. Cutting yourself, is no fun.
Talk to your parents, talk to C. & get some helpp. & I gurantee you'll be even happier (:
ok i am 14 and a female and i am dating a 16 year old he is very nice and we have been going out for 3 weeks i have known him for like 2 years and he is one of my best friends brothers and all my friends are kool with it and everything but ok i have made a decision that if we are together for a while i am probably gonna give it up to him if u no wat i mean so ya but he said that he doesnt want to do it til im ready
(this isnt really a questions its more like i just want an answer on wat you think about this please right bak
I don't know where you live, or what your home life is like. Or any of that.
But, if your not inlove with him, don't do it. Its not special, if your not.
Now the risks.
-STDs [ I don't know, he could have it. aha]
-Being called names. Like a major slut, helloo. I wouldn't want a bad reputation, if I were you.
-Gettnig pregant. Ew who would want that, I'm 14 & i'm not read to have no kids.
-The fact, of him dumping you.. getting hurt by him, when he breaks up with you... something like that.
-Your parents finding out. OMG. don't want that. & even if you say they won't, they eventually will.. uhh, I don't know about your parents, but my parents would freakkk out.
Is it that important to you, that you have to do with him? Is he really truly that great? I mean, I don't know about you.. but I have alot of confidence in myself, to the point where I know.. i'm a whole lot better.. that I don't need to sleep with a guy, to make him stay with me, longer or something.
Those are just SOME things that I could think of at the top of my head. I'd think about what your getting yourself into, before you jump into things.
Hope I helped kbye.
f/14
my brother died about four years ago on a motorcycle accident
i still get sad over it and i dont like it i dont feel like being sad all the time i know it happened a long time ago but sometimes like at night i start to think abbout things that we used to do and he used to do and i just start crying
at times ive been up crying up till 5in the morning on school nights
im sick of crying myself to sleep every night
plz help or just say something !!!
anything !!!
keep it zen !!!
thanx !!!
I know what your going through, one of my best friends, died of cancer, last year. On october 3rd, it will be a year actually. I've gotten alot better since then, thanks to my friends & family. When it first happened, I cried myself to sleep every night too. What I did, was I told people how I felt, I talked to my mom & all my friends, they really helped me. Have you done that? You could also see a therapist, my friend did that. & hes still out of it. But, hes moved on alot, since it. So, yeah I'd try that.
I hope I helped kbye (:
well, im living with my dad and my grandmother because I went in to a mental hospital because I couldnt tell my family about it because my familys are christian so you see I would be cast out and they wont except me for me so im stuck on a bit of a perdictament and its just that my grandmas both dont want me to be gay please email me ASAP
Thats hottible, i'm sure your grandmas & everyone will understand. Christians arn't suppose to be against gays, just against gay marriages. I know that, because i'm christian.
So I would tell them that. If they really care for you, which I think it sounds like they do.. because, there obviously worrying about you, about what type of person you are. So tell them slowly, & just try to make them understand.
I hope I helped (: kbye
My boyfriend and i have been living together for 8 months now.We decided to do this so that we could help each other through school and with other neccesities.I his girlfriend finished college first and already got a job,he is yet to finish,we have kept our living together a secret as we do not want our parents to find out that we are living together before marriage.We plan to formalise our marriage when he finishes college and gets a job.The only fear we both have is for me to get pregnant and we have tried to abstain or use condoms any time we wanna make love.Do you think we are doing the wrong thing?
I think your right, fot letting you both wait till your done with school. Thats a smart idea, & what I plan on doing. Try birth control. The only thing, that is a little ehh risky, is your parents finding out. But, besides that.. its all good. & your doing fine. The only thing bad, about not telling your parents, is the small chance of them finding out, but not from you. From someone else. I'd want to be the one to tell my parents. But hmm. I don't know.
Good luckk.
kbyee
ok so here is the deal i am 15 and a girl. me and my bf have been going out for a year and we love eachother dearly. we were sleeping together but then we stoped because i was uncomfortable and we told our family about it. now he is jealous of his friend because they can go do stuff with their gfs and he cant with his. he says i am cheating him out of the realationship because all he ever does is make me happy and i dont in return. i would willingly do whatever to make him happy but have sex. i dont know what to do.
PLEASE HELP ME!
ooh love, your not wrong at all. Tell him, that you just don't feel comfortable with it, & arn't ready, you love him alot & all.. but your just not ready for that. Tell him, if he deeply cares for you, he'll understand & wait.. because you're that important to him.
Don't ever do anything, your not comfortable with. You made the right decision, by stopping the first time, before it got worse.
Talk to him & tell him how you feel.
I hope that helped, kbyee
I used to have two outdoor rabbits, but they died a few years ago. Me and my sister would really like another pair of bunnies, but if I asked my mum Im sure she would say no. My dad says he'll get me two, but he doesnt live with us, and hes only saying that to uspet my mum. Ive been dragging up the topic about rabbits all the time, and drawing them, whenever she sees me on the computer the screen says 'rabbit', or a picture of one. Have you got any ways on persuading her to let me have two?
Did you take care of them, the last time you had them? Was it none of her responsiblity? Do you have the money, to get another rabbit? If you don't have the money, to get a bunny, thats probaly her reason why.
If you didn't take care of it well, then that could also be a reason.
If she had to take care of it in anyway, that is also a reason.
If none of those answers fit anything, then.. this is what i would say..
I'd start off, about asking her if you guys had money.. i'd be like..."mom do we have money?" & then if she said "yeahh" then id be like, "so then why cant i have a bunny?"
Just plain ask her why, is an option too.. by the way..
Tell her you'll take care of it.
Tell her she will have no part in taking care of it.
Just keep nagging her, she'll give in eventually.. but i'm sure theres a reason, why she won't buy one for you.
Well, hi everyone..2days ago i bought diet pills...Do they help?Is there danger???Is there danger???Illness mental or...?I love myself and i am not fat i just want to be better.So i don't want to be badly affected by those pills...I think that i will continue "using" them but if i will notice something strange i will stop...What do you suggest????Please answer...
If your not fat, then just go for a walk everyday, its an hour out of your time. & drink lots of water. Diet pills are dangerous, i'm not intirely sure, what the dangers are, but ohh i'm sure they do some damage. Also, some diet pills, they can make you gain weight, instead of lose weight. It depends what you buy, & such. Its alot healthier just to work out, or not eat as much.
i hope i helped.
okay so me and my ex broke up about a month ago and we still love each other we just broke up because he had to concintrate on school and football but he said well get back together when hes figured things out..and like i was always number 3 on his myspace and then i saw two days ago it changed..his friend who was a girl became before me..and i mean it kinda hurt because im thinking maybe his feelings changed or something.But he told me that hes been friends with her just as long as his best friend (whos a guy) and he said that shes his best friend too and like that they skate together and that hes been always with her(not in a love relationship kinda way)and that people always say that they are together and stuff but he said that if i dont believe him fine because no one else does.And i do believe him i guess..but i mean he switched me and her sometimes but only like twice..and i was number 3 for a long time soo now if hes been best friends with her for a long time then why all of a sudden change it so shes before me? why wasent it like that before you know? i feel silly feeling like this but the orders do mean something..so what do you guys think about this? do you think he likes her?
It could mean something, or nothing at all.
My one friend, thats a guy, moves me around all the time, sometimes I'm not even on it, but its not like that changes his feelings for me as his friend or something, you know? I usually put my friends, according how important they are to me, or the same place that person has me, but whatever.
This one kid I know..he doesn't even have me in his top eight, but hes like inlove with me, but he has like 3 girls, in there.. but there all just his friends. Apparently, there too ugly for him to date, but there cool. Maybe thats how he thinks of that girl, just as a really good friend, but he has no attraction, besides in a friend way.
If hes telling you, he doesn't like her, then believe him. If he wanted to like her, he would ask her out. But, since hes telling you he doesn't like her, then he wants you to continue to like him.
hmm, thats what i think. kbye (:
hope it works out for youu.
ok me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 4 or 5 months now. And like all my friends say he loves me soooooooooo mcuh, and i feel the same way. He is sooo sweeeeett to me, but like when in 6th hour i have alot of friends in there and he doens't really have nay in that class, except me, and he flirts with me all the time when im with my friends, but like when hes with his friends, he just totally ignores me, like he will look at me then walk away, and i feel like h doesn't wanna be around me. A few ppl said i should get rid of him because i don't deserve to be treated like that, but would talking about it to him help? And if so, what would i say? and like other night i wanted to cry because we went to a football game together, and i only got to talk to him once because he left me for his friends. And like i would feel stuped if i was crying over that, cause what if we did start talking about it and i started to cry....just help me!
I'd talk to him about it, asap.
Just be like, "why do you always ignore me, when your with your friends?"
Maybe hes like embarressed to be by you? Because like if they don't like you or something, yano?
Ask him, before I jump to anymore conclusions.
If he says hes embarressed by you, or something mean.. ditch him. Hes not worth your time.
I found out that quite a few classmates of mine have tried marijuana or weed. This really shocked me because I didn't think highschoolers did that sort of thing, or that drugs were even available. They told me that the drugs really aren't that bad, that they're actually safer than cigarettes, and that they aren't addictive. Are they right? How many highschoolers do drugs usually? Am I naive to have believed that?
Yeah, highschool kids do it. I'm only in the 8th grade, & I know a few kids that like smoke ciagarettes, & a few kids that sell it. Actually, not many highschoolers do drugso or anything like that at all, its just some kids believe 'everyones doing it' & thats why they do it. I'm not entirely sureee if marijuana is safer then cigarettes. I forget. haha i took a class on this & did a report, & I can't remember, its all bad though. Just stay away from them.. its not anywhere near good. There stupid, & don't know what they are talking about.
my mom gave me the option of not entering high school. i really want to do that because i dont think high school is for me. i dont want a GED either.
what do i tell my friends? what will i do until im old enough to do anything (work)?
Why would you not want to go to highschool?
I mean, okay I'm not in highschool yet, so I can't say it was the best years of my life. But, like everyone tells me it was for them. Are you failing or something? Do you have ADD? or something where its hard for you to learn?
If its not, then thats crazy.
Like, do you want to be working at mcdonalds all your life? or like be a grocery person? or put tape around windows? [haha, the girl that lives next door, that dropped out, does that, ahah]
Seriously, stay in school.
If you get atleast Cs you can then get like a decent job. I'm not exactly sure if your a boy or girl. If your a girl.. well, theres not much you can do, to make good money when your older. If your a guy, then hmm. If your good in construction, then thats always an option.
Why did your mom say that you don't have to go to school anymore? Doesn't she want you to do something with your life?
I don't exactly, know where you live, or what your life is like, but.. I never heard of anyone, not wanting to go to school, or their parents telling them they don't want to.
hmmm. hope i helped kbye.
ok well my parents have split and my dad wont takl to me.He said that it would be best if we didn't talk Bu thow am i supost to life without talking to the one other person who gave me life?
Whoaaa. I can never imagine, my dad saying that to me. If your parents just split up like recently, then maybe he just said that because hes going through so much. & he just needs some time to think or be on his own, yano? Give it awhile, & he'll come around. Also, don't like i don't know, go saying something to your mom, like if they did just split up. Because, shes probaly going through alot too. But, like when she seems like happier [is shes not like right now or whatever] then tell her, that he said that to you, & you don't understand why.
I hope I helped, kbye.
My boyfriend keeps telling me he wants to have anal... he says its a good way to calm his hormones when im on my period. im scared its gonna hurt so bad im gonna cry!
IS it a good idea or not?
Do you want to do it? If you don't, don't. Tell him, he can suck it up. You shouldn't do anything, you don't want to do. If you do.. ehh, I guess do it. I don't know how old you are, but if your like 13 & under.. or even, maybe 14 & under, then I wouldn't do it. Because, you'll get a bad repuation. Which you don't want. Personally... I don't really think it hurts that bad. But, don't do anything.. you don't wanna do.
hope I helped kbye
Iwas just wondering if stuff like nail polish remover and permanent markers could get you high?
If they can.. dont you think its kind of dumb to have products such as that when they could probably easily develope something that isnt harmful?
Yeah it can get you high, alot of things can get you high. But, its only for like a brief second, you have to keep enhaling it & enhaling it, & then you'll also, lose brain cells. So, don't do it, ever. I don't really nesscarily think its dumb, because its not really 'that' harmful. I kinda figure it as, the people that enhale it are pretty dumb. The manufactors arn't responsible for peoples stupid descisions, yano?
Well, I want to loose 20 pounds by November 11 2006. My plan is ;
Breakfast- special K cerial.
Lunch- school lunch. witch is GROSS. so I will just drink water.
When i get home from school. - special K cerial.
Dinner- whatever my mom cooks =[. [usally healthy tho.]
walk a mile everyday
150 crunches.
only drink water. & diett drinks.
Thanks. I have been trying to loose weight for a while now.
2 healthy snacks during the day.
I can't brinng my own lunch.
Thanks =]
Thats not.. incredibly healthy. If I were you, I'd go on the Atkins diet. You just eat meat & like salads.. & in the first week, you lose like 10 pounds. & then like friday, saturday & sunday.. you eat normally. [because you can't eat fruit, on this diet.. so make sure on weekends, you eat fruit, so you have your potasium] Also, drink only water & walk a mile every day. drink 8-12 glasses of water, & love.. you'll lose 20 pounds, in two weeks, or less. I gurantee it. Check into that diet, ASAP.
Personally, I'd rather do that.. then, have to eat special k, everyday.. & all that. This is more, choice & i think easier. I don't know. Its also somewhat healthier too, i guess. kinda.
hope i helped kbye
oh yahh.. & if u like to dance.. dancing for an hour burns up 300 calories =)
Ok, so i moved from California to Ohio this summer, mid July, and i didnt really meet anyone during the summer because there wernt really any oppotunities. So i thought ok i will make friends when school starts, well i started wednesday. No one has even attempted to talk to me there, not even say hi. So when lunch comes around i sit at an empty table and eat by myself. I feel like such a loner. At my old school i had soooo many friends. What am i doing wrong? People tell be just be friendly, well of course im friendly but whenever i try to talk to people i feel out of place, like they are thinking, "Who is this weird new girl?" Im tired of not having anyone to talk to or hang out with, Ive cried all my tears and I just want to know, Is Something Wrong With Me!? Thanks for reading.
nahhh. nothings wrong with you... hey i live in ohio =) pretty sweet place, here, eh? anyywayyyss, we had a new girl this year, & she doesn't really fit in with us alot, because our school is very cliqueish. but.. i think she found this one group, that she fits in pretty good. all you gotta do, is go up to a group of girls you think are nice.. & say, hey im new here.. can i sit with you at lunch? or something like that. =) dont worryy youll have firends in no time.
If I look like this..(Im the one on the right)
http://s2.photobucket.com/albums/y7/waioluaiai/?action=view¤t=noo-1.jpg&refPage=&imgAnch=imgAnch1
What are some tips to make me look more like Jessica Simpson? Thanks so much!
aww. your pretty.
Jessicas hair is like ALWAYS so curly & like full of body. Try curling your hair with those big rollers.[sp? i dno.] & Herbal Essences, or whatever, has shamppoo, to make your hair more bouncy & such. Dying your hair, & making it blonde.. would really make you look like her. But, dying your hair, messes up your hair color. It did mine. & wearing your makeup, the way she does.. would also help.
I hope I helpedd, kbye