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my boyfreing wants to sleep with me

Question Posted Monday September 18 2006, 2:01 pm

ok so here is the deal i am 15 and a girl. me and my bf have been going out for a year and we love eachother dearly. we were sleeping together but then we stoped because i was uncomfortable and we told our family about it. now he is jealous of his friend because they can go do stuff with their gfs and he cant with his. he says i am cheating him out of the realationship because all he ever does is make me happy and i dont in return. i would willingly do whatever to make him happy but have sex. i dont know what to do.


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MummuM answered Monday September 18 2006, 9:28 pm:
You can be in a happy relationship without having sex. What he is saying to you isn't right. It sounds like he is in this relationship for sex and sex only. Since he isn't getting any he's being immature and crying about it because his friends and their girlfriends have sex and he isn't. Just because other people have a sexual relationship, doesn't mean that he has to have a sexual relationship with you too. If you told him you didn't want to have sex, he should understand and at least respect your decision. If he truly cared about you and/or loved you, he'll wait until you're 100% ready. You shouldn't do anything you're uncomfortable with. I suggest talking to him about this and if he still doesn't see your point-of-view, he seriously isn't worth it. Find a guy that will respect your thoughts and will stick by your side. Someone who will be there until you're 100% ready and understands your decision(s).

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holahayley56 answered Monday September 18 2006, 8:36 pm:
ooh love, your not wrong at all. Tell him, that you just don't feel comfortable with it, & arn't ready, you love him alot & all.. but your just not ready for that. Tell him, if he deeply cares for you, he'll understand & wait.. because you're that important to him.

Don't ever do anything, your not comfortable with. You made the right decision, by stopping the first time, before it got worse.

Talk to him & tell him how you feel.
I hope that helped, kbyee

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karlyndarlin05 answered Monday September 18 2006, 8:30 pm:
welll if he thinks that he just wants to be with you because he wants to have sex with you then.
a. he most likely doesnt "love you"
and b. he is probabley only in it to get some.

sit him down and make him realize that you will not be pressured into having sex with him until you are ready, which may be in a long time. Let him know what you are willing and not willing to do. this might be hard. but after you do it, it might make him realize that hes not gonna "get any" from you, or he might come to his senses and not be a jerk and actually be a good boyfreind.

hope things work you

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t0xicParadiSe answered Monday September 18 2006, 8:28 pm:
If you are not comfortable having sex with him, then you need to tell him. What kind of relationship is there if you can't communicate with one another and tell one another how you feel about certain things? Talk to him about this. Tell him that you would do whatever makes him happy but he has to respect your decision about certain things. Don't let him pressure you into things you aren't ready for.


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