HI!!im caramella,id love to give advice for those who need it.You might not always like my answers but i dont care about ratings,cuz if i tell you something you want to hear all the time,and i get rated high and you end up making a big mistake,rating aint gonna solve the problem then.I want to tell you guys to think before you act and look before you leap in order not to make misttakes,if you have made mistakes NEVER regret it,regrets are a waste of time and happiness and wont change what happened,BUT it will give you expereince and teach you not to do it again and refine your future^_^regret over wasted time is more wasted time.
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I am a 14 year old girl, and up until about a week ago I never had a boyfriend, had never been kissed or anything. But last summer I knew a boy from camp, and I liked him then, but I didn't see him again till this summer at the same camp, when he said we should hang out. Soon enough he asked me out, I said yes, and this was all before we actually hung out since camp. He invited me over, his friend was there and I brought a friend of my own. But before I went he put me on the phone with his friend, and his friend asked me if I wanted him to be the first guy I made out with? I said sure we'll see how it goes I guess. And then pretty soon he just took me inside and we made out... but like a lot... it was kind of ridiculous that we didn't even really talk much. And a couple times he did it in front of my friend and his friend which bothered me. There was one time though he kind of uh tried to touch my chest so I just kind of backed away, he asked me if it was too fast, I said yea and he said it's cool and stopped. Then he tried again later, I didn't really know how to stop him but I tried and he stopped after a little. A while after I left, he texted me and said he had fun and asked if I did. I said yea but asked if we could take it a little slower. He said yea no problem my bad, and that he was also trying to show up his friend. That's probably not good even if he was telling the truth. I feel like I should give him another chance... cause I really do like him. But I don't think he likes me - I mean he's telling me he loves me but I know he definitely doesn't, he doesn't even know me that well. He says I'm hot and I think that's the only thing that matters to him, but at the same time I feel like there had to be a reason that I waited a year for this guy and then it turns out that he asks me out. I honestly don't even know how I feel about it... I think I should go see him again, but probably with more people this time, and see how it goes from there. I feel really bad about myself though, how fast that went... I've been upset the past few days and I lost my appetite almost completely. What am I going to do? (link)
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Woman,this guy dont love or like you BUT he loves and likes your BODY!!What makes that true is when he tried to touch your boobs.He tried to get you turned on so you can have sex with him!!Next time,dont make out with him or anything like that till you get to know him better.
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me and my boyfriend have been going out for a while and he doesnt let me go and see my guy friends. and if i talk about another guy he gets really jealous. and if i bring up the subject he says if you were in my shoes you would understand. how do i tell him that he needs to be less protective and not as jealous without makeing him flip out?? (link)
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awwwwww,thats so CUTE!!His jealousy means that he REALLY loves you!!You should be happy about that!!Just try telling him that you want to see your guyfreinds and that hes the only guy you will ever love and youd never look to any other guy and stuff like that.
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So me and my bofriend haven't had sex and are both virgins. But we do have sex play. He's the first guy I've ever done anything with besides kissing. He's waaay more experienced than me and he says he's been close to having sex before. Which could mean he's made sexual contact with other people, and I'm guessing he probably has..he's been doing that for awhile..[before we started dating] I don't know how many girls he's been with or whatever. But..I want him to get tested. The problem is, I don't know how to ask him to do that or anything. Because I'm afraid if I do he'll think that I think he's like disease-infested or something. And I don't. But the truth of the matter is you don't have to have sex for STDS to spread and anything is possible I mean half the time people don't even know they have like a STD or whatever...soo...IDK how to talk to him about this. We can talk about other stuff like sex, pregnancy, or whatever. But if I asked him to do this I'd feel kinda mean or whatever...IDK what to do. What should I do?
ALSO--he's in the navy so they require urine tests...would STDS show up? (link)
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I think that you HAVE to ask him.Ask him now before its too late.Just go like,i love you and everything but if you want to keep on having sex play with me then please go get tested.Its NOT meean,your saving yourself from getting all these diseases!!Its all about YOU when it comes to this kinda stuff.Dont risk your health in order to not make him feel bad with a simple question
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General question. I would like to hear everyone's thoughts on the true nature of forgiveness:whether forgiveness is possible, or whether it is a man-made delusion. Any concrete examples are much appreciated. (link)
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Forgiveness is a trait that only strong people aquire.You need to be strong in order to forgive people.If you cant,then they either did something REALLY bad,or youre just plain weak.
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I feel like I don't want to live anymore. I did NOTHING this summer and I hate myself for wasting my summer. I lost alot of my friends almost all of them. My boyfriend and I just broke up. My 9 year old sister gets treated like a princess by my parents and my parents ground me for everything that happens when my sister always does the bad stuff. My sister gets to go to my neighbors beach house every weekend and sleeps over EVERY weekend while my mom makes me stay with my grandma who hates me while my mom and dad go to expensive restaurants having the best time. I used to be the smartest person in school with straight A's but now my grades are slipping so much I almost had to stay back. I'm so lazy and never get anything done. I've gotten soo much acne and I've went to almost every dermatologist in the state and my pimples are still there and my face hurts because its irritated. My hair always looks unhealthy. My eyes are too small. My nose is too big and is covered in zits. My hair is dead and I use the best shampoo. And today I got so mad because my parents pissed me off so much I cut my hair with scissors and I just cut a HUGE chunk of the front of my hair so now thats screwed up. My hair won't curl no matter what I use. If you had to live that bad, wouldn't you feel like wanting to die? Everything about me and my life is screwed up. I'm so sad lately and no body and nothing can cheer me up. If I could feel good about my appearence and friends and life then I would enjoy living. I used to. But this summer everything is falling apart. I don't know what to do. It's probably just hormones I'm 13 and I don't have depression I'm usually really happy. I don't know what I can do so that I feel better about myself. Help?! (link)
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wow.this is going to be long so get ready.First of all about your sister,ofcousre they are going to treat her better shes younger than you.I get in trouble my bro does cuz hes younger than me.They dont know whats right and wrong.About your parents,i think you should tell them how it isnt fair that YOU get left wih your grandma while everyone eles has a great time.The only thing thats really going to help you is our education.Look,what do you want to be when you grow up.OK,to get to that you need to have a good college certificate and get straight As at school!!The future is in YOUR hands and its in YOUR hands to make your life better.If you sit alone crying about how bad your life is then guess WHAT,IT AINT GETTING ANY BETTER THAN THIS!!!You need to have an aim in life,a goal and steps to reach it.Imagine,becoming a successful person with all this money to get whatever you want.But a thousand mile journey has to begin with a single step at a time!About your freinds,so what?!Youll meet newer people!!One time i had this best freind that went off and told my worst enemy alll my secrets!!I didnt cry or get mad,i was GLAD that this happened so i can know who to trust.And after that i made new freinds!Happieness isnt having what you want,its wanting what youve GOT.Youre life is just a big misunderstanding between your family that you can fix,but the starving kids in africa,theyre life cant change and they pray and thank god about it.If you were to send me a pic of how you looked like,i could help you on your apperance.You also need to turn to religion more,Be happy for the life God gave you cuz if you dont,he can take it all away.Dont let these problems from becoming the rich successful person you want to be.
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I have a phobia of food poisoning and throwing up. I've already decided that the next time I throw up or ever get food poisoning, I will kill myself, and if that doesn't work out, I'll be anorexic to prevent food poisoning.
I already have a therapist, but she doesn't help with my phobia's. I've asked my mom to get me one that specializes in phobia's, but she chose this one to helpme with my depression (which I am over) and she won't get me a new one.
It's either give me a way to never throw up or get food poisoning, or I'll end up in a bad situation. (link)
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First of all,how are you going to get poisened through food??The food you eat is perfectly clean.Look,say it does have food poisining in it,if you take a risk by eating it,you might get sick,but if you dont take the risk at all,you will have already lost because you will be unhealthy and you might die of throwing up everything you eat!!Look,just try this...eat an apple(start off with the small things) then sit for a half hour without throwing it up,if a half an hour passes and nothing happens to you,then your fine!Because food takes half an hour to get transfered through your body.Food poisining is really rare and besides,if it happens in a resturant,you can sue them!!Just calm down,eat the apple and youll see for yourself how its ok,then you can start by eating other things!
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Do you think guys prefer girls who show alot of skin, a little skin or no skin at all when looking for a girl to start a serious relationship with? (link)
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I think guys go for girls that DONT show a lot of skin,cuz it leaves them thinking,i wonder how THIS girls body looks like.If she shows off a lot of skin then shell just be considered a whore that dresses like this only to get in bed with guys.If a girl is covered,guys will get the picture that shes respectful not like the others.
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My best friends told me about a month or two ago they were both bi. About two weeks ago, they started "going out" I was cool with them being Bi before, we just went along being friends. But now that they're going out its totally ackward, gross, and I just can't stand being around them. Me and them have really drifted apart since the summer started cause they got into it with guys who are big into sex and weed. Is it time for me to get new friends? How do I go about doing that, I don't want to look like a loner. (link)
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Just talk to new people,and trust me,its better being a loner for a couple of days then hanging out with people that will influence you in a bad way.Talk to people that are your freinds but you didnt get to hang out with them alot.Good luck.
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my friend thinks she is a few days pregnant...she keeps punching her stomach because she does not want the baby. does this hurt the baby or cause her to have a miscarriage? (link)
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Yep,it sure does.But when she had sex,she knew this would happen so shes probably regreting it now.
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My boyfriend is 18, he is out of school, has a GED and a job. I'm 14, in the 9th grade. All of my friends say that he is too old and that I'm "turning into a whore". He says he loves me and that he only wants me to be happy. Hes really sweet and I dont see what the problem is. My mom knows about the age difference, and she really hasnt said if she was ok with it or not. Do you think its ok? Also, I really love him and he says he loves me, is it possible to find your "true love" at 14? (link)
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Its only 4 years difference.Whats so bad about that?The older he is,the more mature he will be and the more he will know how to treat you.Its better than dating a guy thats 14 that doesnt even know how to treat a girl.Tell your freinds that.I think that since your mom didnt say anything about this,she might be thinking about it.
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Is it haram to go on the pill for period cramps? (link)
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No.Its not haram to take the pill that relieves your period cramps.:D
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I think I may be bi... I never really thought about it before a few days ago, you see my friends and I were playing Truth (it's like truth or dare without dares)and "David" asked what my deepest, darkest secret was. I said that it was that I used to make out and do other things with a girl that used to live by me. Then I realized I do a whole bunch of other things, like look at women's faces and breasts. I never really enjoyed doing things with her, but it felt nice... sorta. I don't really want to be Bi (no offense!!! I'm an activist). Do you think this was just a phase or do I truly have feelings for women? I haven't had any feelings since and I don't intend on doing anything with girls again.
Thanks...
P.S. I have a boyfriend. (link)
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Since you have no intentions on doing things with girls again and you have a boyfreind,you probably arent bi.When you made out with that girl,you were probably going through a really confusing moment of your life and didnt know what you were doing.You might have been through a bad break up that moment and didnt know what to do so you turned to girls.Dont worry,im pretty sure youre not bi,cuz if you were,you would be still wanting to do things with girls.
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yesterday a peson i no... kinda a friend more of just some 1 i get along with.. told me that my boyfirend is cheating on me with his ex girlfriend. but i dont know if i should believe him because my boyfriend is always telling me that he loves me and thhat he doesnt want me to ever leave him.
my boyfriend and his ex are still good mates and hang around with eachother quite alot. and they are both very flirty people. i know i should talk to him about it but im scared that im gona get the reply i dont want.
later today me and my boyfriend are goin on holiday with my family (only camping) for the weekend. when should i speak to him about everything. becase i want to be able to talk to him when no one else is around. also what do i say?
some one please help me figure out what to do. i dont want to lose him because i love him so much and im very happy with him.
any advise would be brilliant.
thank you.
xXxXx (link)
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You HAVE to ask him and find out truth,he might deny it though.You might not hear something you want to hear but its better than finding out later on that his ex girlfreind is PREGNANT!!!Somethings can be fixed early but if you ignore this now,youll regret it later on.
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is there anyway to get rid of bacterial vaginosis besides going to the doctor. i'm very embarrased to show the doctor "down there" so is there anyways to treat it at home??? THANKS (link)
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i suggest you see a doctor but if you REALLY dont want to go,check out this website http://www.webmd.com/hw/sexual_conditions/hw53194.asp
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I have had discharge for a very long time. About two day ago I started getting some werid brown stuff on my underware am I getting my period or is it an infection or something? (link)
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Yes you are getting your period.But the brown stuff is the discharge you get RIGHT before you start your period.So expect it any moment.
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ok i know this is bad but my bf is 20 and im 13 but im vietnamese and i went over there and thats where i met him apparently age doesnt matter over there but now im back here and he lives over there which sucks but every1 says hes using me but he says he wants to marry me when im 18 which im not sure about yet since im just 13 but i dont know what to believe or what to do about the distance i can only see him once a year and i can only talk to him like once a month i dont know what to do should i keep going out w/ him? and i dont know if hes using me or not but i love him alot ahh im soo confused help! (link)
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I usually say that age doesnt matter but your hell to young for this.DUH hes using you,how can you not see that?He wants to marry you when your 18 thats FIVE years from now,how do YOU know youre going to be with him next FIVE years???And besides,hes only using you cuz he wants something to brag about to his freinds.No offence but what makes you think hes going to leave other 20 year old chicks with gorgeous,completely developed bodies and go to you?And what makes it WORSE is that he sees you ONCE a year!How do you know hes not looking at some other chick??Hes using you cuz he likes it when a lot of girls like him,he likes the attention.Hes saying that he wants to marry you when your 18 so he can get you to like him for another FIVE YEARS and then when the time FINALLY comes and your 18 hell be like,sorry im seeing someone eles,you were never there for me and i barely got to see you.Im telling you,dump him now and be hurt for a couple of months better than having HIM dump YOU after 5 years and youll take more than a YEAR to get over this.He might seem like an angel and all honest but people are NOT the way they seem,especially in YOUR circumstances.NEVER judge a book by its cover.
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i am 15 female.
one of my bestfriends just lost her virginity to her boyfriend and she'll be 15 in a couple of days. i know the guy she lost it to and he's very sweet at times. she told me that his penis was big and fat. wow.lol. she told me it hurt like hell and im really curious about if it should even hurt because i heard only when you're nervous it hurts but she claims she wasn't nervous and wanted to loose her virginity to him right away. why, i have no clue? Could anyone please tell me stories about thier first time and every feeling you had.
to be honest i kind of feel pressured to have sex because everyone around me has either lost it at 12,13,14, and 15. But i know who i am and i know that loosing my virginity won't make me a betta person than i am now..but still im curious about sex...please tell me everything i should know!! thanx in advance (link)
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ok honestly,do you think its right to be 12 and not a virgin?i think its completly sick to lose it at that age.im turning 16f and never had sex oooooh big deal.its not going to make me any smarter,prettier,definetly not healthier.its just going to make me a slut because obviously if i did it with my booyfrind and broke up with him then got another boyfreind and did it with him and we broke up by the time im married,my reputation will be like,"oh that girls a slut,she did it with everyone god created,"people that are 12,13 and 14 that do it barely even know about it.they do it because their freinds do it and they feel pressured.dont make the same mistakes they do because they end up depressed and regreting it.you can get std's and even hiv wich leads to aids!!!hiv gets transfered when you do it with someone that already did it 27893798 times before(obviously he has the disease and is passing it to you!)i prefer virgins over people that lost it because they are more modest and disease-free.
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when is it the right time to have sex? like what age is it okay to lose your virginity? what's the avg age when people lse their virginity and would it be better to lose your virginity with another virgin or a more experienced person? (link)
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In my opinion,im only going to have sex when im married because if i have it now with a boyfreind,ill eventually break up with him one day then get another boyfreind and do it with and break up and so on,and by the time im married ill find myself with STD's.You also have to be sure that your not going to regret whqat you have done and know that you can get pregnant even if he uses a condom,they break sometimes.Well,im definetly against 12 and 13 year olds having it cuz they end up regreting it and they dont even know what they are doing.
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To start off, I apologize for my question being long, but I think it's necessary for you to know the history of this question so that you can fully try to help me. Thanks :)
The other day I had a tear-jerking conversation with my friend. I noticed scars and scabs on her wrists from cutting herself. I confronted her, and she broke down and confessed everything. Around springtime last year, she was sickeningly skinny. She honestly looked like a skeleton, or a concentration camp survivor. Then all of a sudden this year she gained a ton of weight, and now she looks healthy. She had reasons for being so skinny, (she's a vegan) but I always worried about her, but never confronted her until just now. She admitted to having been anorexic and only eating 500 calories a day. She's 5'6 and weighed 76 pounds. Now she says she doesn't weigh herself in pounds, only in kilos. She weighs 56. She says that the whole anorexic thing was never about being skinny (she naturally is thin) it was about being able to control her life, because her home life is very screwy. Her mom is a nutcase who is addicted to the internet and has a seperate family online. She says her mom hits her, not in a life threateningly way, but hard enough to leave bruises. Her dad recently lost his job, and her mom is waiting for him to get a new one so she can divorce him then make him pay. According to her, her parents never knew about her anorexia or depression. She told me she desperately wants help, but because of her family's financial situation, she's not sure if she can afford it. And on top of that,she tried commiting suicide once by taking a bunch of pills. Thankfully her plan failed, and she is still here. She says she's no longer suicidal or anorexic, but not yet healed. Cutting herself is a sure sign of that. I feel like a horrible friend because i wasn't there for her during this hard time. I've been sworn to secrecy, but for the safety of my friend I can't keep quiet. What should I do?
Worried in San Francisco (link)
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I think you should ask your freind to come sleepover at your house for a couple of days to get a break from her home life.Tell her that god created her for a reason and the reason is NOT so she can cut herself.Its not going to solve her problems,its going to make them WORSE cuz it can get her skin disease.Why dont you let YOUR mom talk to her mom about this?Im sure your mom would know what to say and convince her mom to stop,or if that doesnt work then,tell your freind to open up to her dad about this and about what her mom does.Since you didnt mention her dad being mean to her mabey HE can help.I think your freind can also go complain about this to a teenage hotline,cuz NOONE deserves to be treated like this.Did your freind try telling her mom how she feels?Hope your freind gets better.
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Well today i wen't to my friends house.I wen't to keep my best friend company because our friend(the owners house) was in her room with a guy and she called me telling me she felt uncomftrable.So when i got there like 15 minutes later the guy left and my friend came out the room. When we were all kicking it outside they started smelling their hands talking about they smelled like weed!I was so dissapointed in my best friend because it had been so long since we hung out together and i didint know she had started smoking that stuff!So i told her "when did you start"and she said "we tried it last week" and i said "i thought u were never gonna do it again"and she stood quiet 4 a while and promised this was the last time.Then when we were in the back they took out the pipe and started smoking it and asked me to do it.I said i didint want to and they just looked at me like saying wtf!But the truth is i know i should trust her but i know shes gonna try it again.I don't want her to start doing it alot because shes barely 14 but idk wut to do so she won't!wut would you do?? (link)
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I know you might not like what i would do but,since i warned her once twice THREE times and she didnt listen then you can try first by telling her if she does it again you dont want to be her freind,you shouldnt hang out with her she will influence you into smoking OR you can (if that wont work...you never know,she might do it behind your back so....) TELL HER MOM.yes.It might ruin your freindship but at least you did what is right and saved a freind from dying because of what shes doing.She wont talk to you for a while,but after that shell come thanking you like HELL.THAT is what i would have done.
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