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forgiveness
General question. I would like to hear everyone's thoughts on the true nature of forgiveness:whether forgiveness is possible, or whether it is a man-made delusion. Any concrete examples are much appreciated.
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My idea of forgiveness means releasing a person from the bondage of their offense. When someone wrongs us, we attach various thoughts and feelings not just to the action, but to the person. Forgiveness separates oneself from the offender, whether or not that person ever owns up to or apologizes for the hurt. Forgiveness does not condone or justify the offense, but it unbinds the hold that a grudge would not. You can forgive someone, and still believe that they should reap a natural lawful consequence for the violation. Forgiveness cannot be given in falsehood, but is easily bestowed when the perspective of self is in alignment with the connectiveness of the universe.
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forgivness is in your heart it is only real if you chose it to be real everyone has the choice to forgive but it is whether you chose to or not hope that made sense
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Is forgiveness a man-made delusion? Possibly- It had to be made up somewhere along the line. But whether it was man-made or not, it is a good thing to forgive. It's a feel-good thing and a way to let it go for good.
Is it possible? I think it is, though it is often times hard to do. They say it is easier to forgive than to forget- I believe that too.
There are people who have wronged me greatly in my life that I know I should forgive, but I just can't do it at this point, though I hope to be able to someday in order to really put it behind me. However, it was something I learned a big lesson from, so I will never be able to forget it.
Another thing I think is that not forgiving someone should never be confused with hating someone. Hate is a feeling much worse on your inner well-being than unforgiving ever could be.
I don't know if my example was concrete enough for you, but it is details I don't want to say and you don't want to hear.
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My friend once told me he doesn't forgive. He just forgets and moves on.
and this is something I've now found myself doing.
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Forgiveness is a trait that only strong people aquire.You need to be strong in order to forgive people.If you cant,then they either did something REALLY bad,or youre just plain weak.
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We often think of forgiveness as something that someone who has done us wrong must ask of US. There is always another way of looking at something. My thoughts on forgiveness suggest that you focus on offering forgiveness TO the person who has wronged you. To not forgive them is like taking the poison (continuing to suffer for what they did or didn't do to you) and expecting THEM to die!
Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. It is not something you do FOR someone else. It is not complicated. It is simple. Simply identify the situation to be forgiven and ask yourself: "Am I willing to waste my energy further on this matter?" If the answer is "No," then that's it! All is forgiven. (i found this on the internet. I believe this and the following even more so than the first
Mat 6:12 (TEB) "Forgive us the wrongs that we have done, as we forgive the wrongs others have done us."
Luke 6:37 (NIV) "...Forgive, and you will be forgiven."
Mat 6:14-15 (NIV) "For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But, if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins."
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Personally I am a strong believer that forgivness is possible. Its that forgetting is not possible. For example in my line of work there have been numerous occasions that I have been assaulted sometimes including breaking of bones, now I forgive these kids because violence is often all they know, BUT I never forget that they assaulted me, I keep it in mind and try to make sure that I am never off my guard again.
Forgiveness is a choice not an automatic and it is not a choice that everyone makes.
Hope this helps.
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I think forgiveness is very much possible.
You may have people in this world that once you hurt them forget about it. They may live their entire life ignoring you & you may never see or here from them again.
If its something serious like Someone robbing your home and taking everything you own. Then yes you have a reason to neverrr forgive them again.
--my dad had a affair with a woman that he worked with. My mom found out about him having sex with her before he even left her house. I dont know how but she did. My dad got the woman pregnant. But my parents are still married.--
You should forgive but you dont have to forget.
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I think forgiveness is definitely possible but you have to want to forgive. People need to look at a situation and say, is it worth holding a grudge? Most of the time it isn't so you decide to forgive someone and move on with life. Yeah, some times it takes a while to fully be able to forgive someone, but MOST of the time you should forgive.
Now of course, some things are unforgivable. Murder, rape, anything extreme. Those things just never go away.
But if a friend betrayed you, said something to hurt your feelings, or even stole your boy/girlfriend all those can be forgiven. Again, it might take a lonnnng time but it should happen. Even if you choose not to be friends with that person anymore, it's still important to not hold a grudge over them.
Same with relationships. If your significant other cheated on you with say, a person you cannot stand, you may choose to have nothing to do with them anymore because it hurt you that much. You shouldn't however, go through your how life saying *Man, I hate that guy/girl! He/She broke my heart and I can't stand them!* Life's too short for that.
Anyway, that's just how I feel about forgiveness. I'm always the first one to say *Hey, I know we got into that huge fight and said some things but can we talk about it so we can get over it?* Things happen, people make mistakes, life goes on.
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