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help!
me and my boyfriend have been going out for a while and he doesnt let me go and see my guy friends. and if i talk about another guy he gets really jealous. and if i bring up the subject he says if you were in my shoes you would understand. how do i tell him that he needs to be less protective and not as jealous without makeing him flip out??
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Just sit down with him and explain to him that you love him and you wouldn't be with anybody else and he doesn't need to worry. Tell him that you DO understand what it'd be like to be in his shoes, but you need to talk to your friends and hang out with them. And also ask him if he talks to his friends that are girls, and that you don't m ind if they were to talk and everything. Maybe even set up a hangout. Just invite a few of your guys friends and have your boyfriend and just all hang out together and maybe they'll all become friends. [ Unless you think he won't, then I suggest not ]. But you also need to think, it's kind of sweet. Because that obviously shows he cares about you alot and is afraid of losing you, but I can understand. But if he continues this way and is "not allowing you to hang out with your friends", I might wanna consider breaking up with him. You shoudln't have to stop hanging out with people or changing yourself for some guy. I hope I helped. <3
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awwwwww,thats so CUTE!!His jealousy means that he REALLY loves you!!You should be happy about that!!Just try telling him that you want to see your guyfreinds and that hes the only guy you will ever love and youd never look to any other guy and stuff like that.
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Does your boyfriend have friends that are girls? If he does, then ask why you can't hang with your friends while he hangs with his.
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You need to sit him down and tell him that it really bugs you that he can't understand that you talk to your guy friends. If he can't accept the fact that you are true to him and aren't being with anyone else...he isn't worthy of you.
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i used to date a guy like that && he ended up being Obsessed with me. You need to tell your boyfriend that he needs to let you talk & see anyone you want too. You never change your life for any guy. The most important thing in a relationship is trust & if he cannot trust you then the relatioship will probly not last. You need to tell him that you need him to trust you & that you can talk to anyone you want.
And i bet that he still talks to his female friends. right? if he continues tell him that you want him no where near his female friends. itll give him a taste of his own medicine & i bet he wont like it.
kim:)
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You tell him exactly what you just said. Tell him straight up. You should never let a guy (or anybody, besides your parents, of course) control you or make your choices for you. You are you for a reason. Just sit him down and really explain to him how he's posseive ways make you feel. Be open and honest. As long as you are just hanging out with your friends--nothing more, he has not reason to tell you no. Yes, he could feel jealous, that's natural. It sounds like what y'all need is more communication and trust. Tell him that it's pushing you away that he's acting like that and it hurts you that he won't trust you enough. Explain that you understand where he is coming from and wouldn't be crazy about him spending time alone with another girl--so compromise. Hang out with your guy friends in groups, or with 1 or 2 more friends--or even bring your boyfriend. Just be calm and mature and you'll get through to him. :)
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well, it seems like he's possesive and gets jealous very easily. he doesn't seem to trust you when you want to see other guys friends.
Tell him this:
-You're my boyfriend for a reason and it's because I like you in this way and I don't like the other boys in this way
-Relationship builds up on trust and if you can't trust me to hang out with other guy friends, it's implying that you think I'm gonna cheat on you and you think I'm a dishnoest person
-You need to meet with my other guy friends and not get jealous. I won't ditch you for any of them.
-If I talk to you about other guy friends and you get jealous, I become confused. I'm talking about what they did and when I'm around them I talk about what you do for me that they can never do because they are not my byofriend
Do you get my point? Assure him with the fact that you'renot gonna cheat on him and that trust is a necessity in a relationship
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