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i need advice, when i sit down a smell something from my vagina,it smells horrible and when i urinate it smells bad, and when i wipe my self i see dirt. i think it's because i might be dirty but it cant be because i tok a bath 2 weeks ago. also when i scratch my neck there's dirt in my finger nails, what is this? what should i do?

LMAO.
Take a bath every day. That's disgusting.

i need the 411 on this seeeing im 13 and still do it because my friend makes me laugh, i dont entirely pee my pants but enough for people top see! so i could use some exersises that can prevent this happening in public even though i do a pretty good job hiding this.i can really use help!

Kegal exercises (or pelvic floor exercises) will tighten up your muscles.
Basically all you do is contract your muscles and release.
Which muscles you may be asking..? Next time you wee, stop the flow of urine. Hold. and release. That is what muscles you should be using.
BUT.. don't actually carry on doing this as you urinate - I only stated it above so you understand which muscles I'm talking about.
Do this when you aren't urinating (any time is fine, like sitting down for example).
Do 10 sets 3 times a day and gradually increase how long you contract each muscle for. Start with around 3 seconds and work your way up.

Also.. Control yourself when you laugh! If you feel you're going to have a little accident, sit down and concentrate on breathing.

A long time ago, when I was six, (Very long time!) I got hit in the mouth with a golf club, and I got 10 stitches, 5 on the outside, and 5 on the inside of my mouth. I lost TONS of blood. Ever since, I've been freaked out at the very mention of golf. Is this normal? And how do I get over this?

Of course it's normal. It must have been a very traumatic experience for you.
but you must remember, although accidents do happen, the chances of it happening again are around 0.1%!
If I were you, I'd actually face my fear, because sometimes it's best to be thrown in at the deep end.
Watch golf on TV, go and watch people play golf.. you'll eventually realize it's nothing to live in fear over.

me and my boyfriend don't really hang out outside of school. like only a couple times we have. well my question is how can I get it so he comes over to my house or to get him to invite me to his house? we've been going out for a month on the 24th. and I just wish we could hang out outside of school cause all couples are supposed to do that! well thankyou in advance!

Just ask! It's not a bad question or anything. Maybe he's just a little nervous about asking you first.
A simple "you should come over on ______" should work. :) Good luck!

whenever i curl my eyelashes before i put on mascara they curl perfectly but then once i put on the mascara my eyelashes go back to normal for some reason... and i only put on one coat so im not sure if its because the mascara is weighing down my eyelashes or not...

and whenever i curl my eyelashes after i put on mascara even if its fully dried my eyelashes stick to the curler so its hard to curl them and it makes my eyelahses all messed up and makes my eyelashes look clumpy from the mascara...

is there a specific type of mascara or brand or something that will make my eyelashes stay in place after i put mascara on them?? thanks!!

What type of eyelash curler do you use? Invest in a more expensive one because they are alot better. Also, if you've had it for quite a while and it didn't come with any replacement bits, it's time for a new one! Old ones don't work as well, obviously and the cheaper ones just plain suck. Also, make sure you clean them after each use, because this could be the reason why they make your eyelashes go clumpy and stick, even after they're 100% dry.
Also, how old is your mascara? I've always noticed mascara tends to dry out a bit after around 6 weeks, so if it's older than that - that could be the problem, too.
Lastly, if you still have trouble with them sticking etc after you've applied the mascara and curled them again, try an eyelash comb to separate your lashes and remove any excess.

so theres this guy that i met at my friends house about a month ago, he is friends with my friends brother. hes one year younger than me but whatever. we met about a month ago at her house, it was fun we all just watched movies in the basement and slept over. I found out he liked me a week later, i liked him too. we talked online and then a month later which was last weekend i saw him at her house again, before i went though he told me he wanted to do stuff with me. we didnt end up doing anything because we were never alone. he likes this girl who lives an hour away who is a junior..its kind of weird.. but anyways,
on wednesday i got an IM from him and we were just kidding around about how it was funny that he took my phone and i kept on trying to get it from him. then he told me that i "wanted it" and he was being serious. and then he told me i should of given him a handjob and he was going to feel me up. and i said he could feel me up because i dont know, i still like him. so then he said, okay next time ill feel you up and you give me a handjob k? and okay i know this is really bad but i said okay. only because..i dont know..i want him to still like me..and i feel like if i said no he wouldnt be talking to me anymore..so i just okay. without even thinking about it..:[ and then all he wanted to talk about was getting his handjob and feeling me up and how i was going to do it and all of this stuff. and where we would do it. and then he asked what my bra size was and i dont know. it was getting annoying..he asked me if i would suck it and i told him no im sorry but i dont want to. and he said, okay im fine with a handjob:] ugh..i dont think i want to do that. first of all, we arent even going out. second of all, ive only seen him twice. third of all, he likes someone else. fourth of all, he told me he doesnt know if he likes me and he is split between me and someone else and that if i do these things with him he might be with me. fifth of all, my worst fear, is him telling all of his friends about it. and he used to go to my school, so im afraid word would get out that i did that to him and people would think im a slut...i told him not to tell ANYONE and he said yeah i promise dont worry. but for some reason i just dont believe that..at all..i sort of want to give him one because i like him and i just dont know..im also really afraid that now if i dont, hell be really let down and mad and never talk to me again. im stuck. he thinks im going to give him one..and i dont know if i want to..its a lose lose situation i mean if i dont, ill be let down by him and he wont talk to me..if i do, im afraid hell tell people..but then again maybe he wont? i have no idea. and also, thursday night he was litterally begging me for a half hour for me to send a picture of my upper chest for him. i said no i dont think its a good idea incase people find out and he just kept on saying no please im trustworthy please come on i promise i wont please. and then after i said no in the nicest way possible at least 20 times, he asked me if he could use his mouth feeling me up and i just said yeah i mean i guess and he said he would. then he texted me and told me how big he was and asked if i liked it. ugh i just feel like such a slut if i gave him a handjob. its gonna end badly, i just know it. and also this would be my first time giving one..and he knows that too..ugh i dont know what to do..i like him, a lot, and im afraid...ugh im just so afraid. someone please help me.

The good thing is, you know it's wrong and you're simply finding a way out of the mess you have partly created!
Quite simly, next time you guys talk, no doubt he will bring up the sexual side of things and you can just say;
"I've changed my mind. I don't want to do anything with someone I'm not dating"
No ifs, no buts.
and if he doesn't like it, it just goes to show what an idiot he really is and that you should:
just
stop
talking
to
him.
He's OBVIOUSLY going to use you and noone deserves to be treated like that.
He's bad news. Don't get yourself involved.
Find someone who will like you for YOU. Not what you can give them.

hi im 15/f and im a freshman at my school. last year i dated this guy kyle and hes now 14/m and is in 8th grade.. but we dated and fought then made up for about 4 months then we started seeing other people. i hooked up and did some things with this one guy trying to get over kyle. but it just made me miss him more so i decided to try again with him and he asked if i didnt anything with anyone els i told him what i had did and he holds it againts me all the time. but we broke up again and didnt talk at all untill a month ago. and thats when i fell head over heels for him once again.now were dateing and spending every weeknd together we havent done much witch is awsome. but we havent bc hes still mad that i did things with another guy. weve been dateing for 2 weeks so far and its great but it seems like he cant get over i did things wiht another guy. so i was woundering how can i make him stop holding it against me and start trusting me more?

Short and to the point:
Trust comes with time. You can't rush it.
He'll get over it eventually.
You should try to make him see that it was all in the past and HE is your future, so to focus on that.

ugh, okay so. im 17/f. lesbian, ha.
ive had sex with one guy, once, like two years ago.

my girlfriend and i have been dating for 10 months and i bleed when we have sex! ugh. its gross and i feel weird. i dont know why i do. this is kinda awkward for me to be saying this, ha.. buuuut she only uses two fingers.. and shes not like a giant with man hands. we dont use strap ons or dildos or anything..
and i dont bleed every single time.
but alot of the time i do..

does anyone know why?!

She's either going a little too rough or her finger nails are getting in the way.
If you're sure it's neither, and it happens alot (like yours does), get yourself to a doc, as there may be an underlying problem.

lets say I want to make one of those coupon booklet things for my boyfriend for valentines day. what are some things I can put in it? like kiss,hug, and wut else. were an innocent couple if you know what I mean. like no sex related stuff like that please and thankyou in advance! =) o and im 16 and he's 17

How about things like:
Massage (can still be innocent!)
Cook him dinner/take him to a meal
Movie/game (or whatever he is interested in) night
Do a chore for him (if he has a car - wash it for example)

Basically, just little favours! I'm sure he'd appreciate them.

Also, just for fun, why not leave some blank and let him fill them in? :)

is it ok to have sex with more then 3 poeole at the same time?

Whatever floats your boat. Just remember the risks.

okay so i was using a nut cracker to crack some nuts and you know how you have to put your hand over it so the shell wont fly everywhere? well i put my hand over it and it pinched my hand it hurt and it started to bleed to it didnt break my skin it kinda just bleed under my skin. Well this happened like 4 days ago and well now it's a dried up blood dark red color spot on my hand. So now im wondering is this thing going to go away? because i dont want it to stay on my hand it's gross looking. i mean it's under the kin so i cant pick at it.But yeah so im just wondering if it will go away soon? like will itabsorb back into my body? lol

thanks in advance!

It's a blood blister. It doesn't sound like a bad one, either. Sometimes, they can pop (if there's a bubble) and cause quite a bit of pain. If there is a little bubble, don't pop it - it can just cause infection. If there isn't a bubble, don't worry about it and it will just disappear on it's own. I've had my fair share of pinches and got quite a few of them. :)

my boyfriend used to finger me for how many times, ang im wondering if im still virgin? am i?

You should know that you only AREN'T a virgin when a PENIS enters your vagina.

i love wearing lipgloss when im around my bf cuz it makes my lips look fuller but then when he kisses me it gets all over his lips too and thats just weird lol is there any lipgloss that you know of that will stay on my lips? haha thanks in advance

Ditch the gloss and use lip balm. No matter what, lip gloss will always come off. Why? Because it's slippery..
Lip balm will still leave your lips looking, feeling and tasting nice.
If it doesn't give you the effect of fuller lips, there's lipsticks and balms for that, too. Have a look around and see which one you like best.

Good luck!

Typically I don't ask for advice but I just don't know what to do. My fiance doesn't want to have sex with me because he's too afraid of hurting our baby. It's very frustrating and I just don't know what I can do to change his mind.

Any advice will be helpful at this point. Thankyou in advance.

katexoanne

"Can sex harm my baby?

No, not directly. Your baby is fully protected by the amniotic sac (a thin-walled bag that holds the fetus and surrounding fluid) and the strong muscles of the uterus. There's also a thick mucus plug that seals the cervix and helps guard against infection. The penis does not come into contact with the fetus during sex."

Sex does not hurt an unborn child and is safe during all of the pregnancy. Infact, there are Pro's for you, such as relieving stress. I once remember watching a show which stated the rocking motions of sex can actually soothe the baby.
If you're not in any pain, are at a risk of miscarriage or your pregnancy isn't running normally and as it should be, there's no reason for you not to engage in sex.

I think your fiance would benefit best by talking to your doc, or whoever is checking on your pregnancy (assuming someone is). They'll explain to him that unless there's any problems, sex will be okay.
You could also show him some websites, such as
http://kidshealth.org/parent/pregnancy_newborn/pregnancy/sex_pregnancy.html
which is where I got the quote from above.

If nothing seems to pursuade him, you shouldn't push him. Although you are the pregnant one, it's a stressful time for him, too.

Hope everything works out well for you both.

Is it normal when a guy when having sex like his penis comes out of the vagina? and how often does it happen because i had sex the other night and his penis kept coming out of me and he had to put it in...it happened like 4 or 5 times...is that normal?

It just happens sometimes, could be a few reasons for it, from wetness, losing his erection, going too fast and losing focus..
Don't worry about it. If it happens alot, try different positions.

My ex is acting really weird to me since i dumped him he wont even talk to me and didnt want to dump him i was presured in to doing it. I still love him but he wont even talk to me or say hello at least once he is taking it really hard and so am i i wont to be friends or more then friends but he wont talk to me so how can i.

wat can i do to get him back?

sighnd confused-mess

It's natural for him to do this. You dumped him so he's trying to get over you - and the best way to go about that is to break all contact.
If you want him back, just tell him straight, in any way you can, whether it's in person/txt/phone/etc.
and HE will decide where to go from there.
but if he says no or still ignores you, don't hassle him and just let him be - if you two are meant to be, then some way, you will find your way back to each other.

ok so i was texing this kid and all of a sudden he goes ^o^. and i was like wtf if that? and he said "its you" i dont get it? is it like a face?what emotion is that supposed to show?.....retarded?
thanks, haha

Hopefully he meant it as a face of joy,
^ ^ are the eyes
o is the open mouth

just like ^_^ etc.

you know how when you cry alot your eyes get all puffy? well, ive been crying alot lately and i just want to know if theres any way to make my eyes less puffy so its not so obvious that ive been crying. Please answer soon.

Eye masks (you know, those things with the gel inside, which you put in the fridge first to make them cold? If not, spoons will work just as well), putting a slice of cold cucumber over each eye, eye gel (you might not have this since it's more for older people).. basically anything cold that will reduce swelling.

eyeliner.
okay maybe theres something wrong with my eyes? my eyeliner ALWAYS smears.. ive bought over 10 brands inculding one that always looks GREAT on my cusin and hers NEVER smears.. maybe i have a naturally oily eye or something? why else could the bottom part of my eye smear so god damn much.

Pencil eyeliner will always smudge at some point. Do you use kohl eyeliner? If so, change to a harder one.
You could also try dusting loose powder onto your face and under your eyes before you apply the eyeliner, just to soak up any moisture if there is any.
I only use pencil eyeliner on the inside part on the bottom of my eye. I use liquid eyeliner for the rest - you can get more detail, too.

how do you give a blowjob and a hondjob?

We don't offer advice like that here, since minors use the site.

Those istes will give you a better explanation anyway.
Or, even better - why don't you ask your boy how he likes it.

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