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Pregnancy Sex
Typically I don't ask for advice but I just don't know what to do. My fiance doesn't want to have sex with me because he's too afraid of hurting our baby. It's very frustrating and I just don't know what I can do to change his mind.
Any advice will be helpful at this point. Thankyou in advance.
katexoanne
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Tell him "It's okay, you have a tiny penis. There's no way you could hurt our baby with that."
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"Can sex harm my baby?
No, not directly. Your baby is fully protected by the amniotic sac (a thin-walled bag that holds the fetus and surrounding fluid) and the strong muscles of the uterus. There's also a thick mucus plug that seals the cervix and helps guard against infection. The penis does not come into contact with the fetus during sex."
Sex does not hurt an unborn child and is safe during all of the pregnancy. Infact, there are Pro's for you, such as relieving stress. I once remember watching a show which stated the rocking motions of sex can actually soothe the baby.
If you're not in any pain, are at a risk of miscarriage or your pregnancy isn't running normally and as it should be, there's no reason for you not to engage in sex.
I think your fiance would benefit best by talking to your doc, or whoever is checking on your pregnancy (assuming someone is). They'll explain to him that unless there's any problems, sex will be okay.
You could also show him some websites, such as
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which is where I got the quote from above.
If nothing seems to pursuade him, you shouldn't push him. Although you are the pregnant one, it's a stressful time for him, too.
Hope everything works out well for you both.
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The bigger the deal you make about it, the worse it will become. He has a valid reason for not being worried about having sex, so don't blow it out of proportion or take it personally. If you were to tell him you didn't want to have sex because of the baby, you wouldn't want him to pressure you. If you were to have him accompany you to a doctor's visit the doctor will be able to reassure him. Also, keep in mind, the less interested you are the more interested he will become.
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He can't. It's simply not possible. The baby is protected in your uterus in an amniotic sack. There's no way he'll poke it in the eye or something silly like that. He can't kill it, injure it etc. no matter how rigorous, passionate, even rough sex is.
What you need to do is talk to your ob/gyn or family doctor about your sex life being non-existent because he's terrified it will hurt the baby. Any doctor can set him straight, birthing class, good book on pregnancy. It's fine to have intercourse until the 8th month usually.
If you can get a good book on sex or pregnancy that explains this to him or use Google and find a solid resource online that's all it will take. There's even books out there for pregnant women on positions and making things easier. Get him to talk to your doctor. It should solve a lot of problems.
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