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hi im 15/f and im a freshman at my school. last year i dated this guy kyle and hes now 14/m and is in 8th grade.. but we dated and fought then made up for about 4 months then we started seeing other people. i hooked up and did some things with this one guy trying to get over kyle. but it just made me miss him more so i decided to try again with him and he asked if i didnt anything with anyone els i told him what i had did and he holds it againts me all the time. but we broke up again and didnt talk at all untill a month ago. and thats when i fell head over heels for him once again.now were dateing and spending every weeknd together we havent done much witch is awsome. but we havent bc hes still mad that i did things with another guy. weve been dateing for 2 weeks so far and its great but it seems like he cant get over i did things wiht another guy. so i was woundering how can i make him stop holding it against me and start trusting me more?
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The first thing you need to realize is that guys really DO mature slower than girls. You are dating a younger guy, so that will always be difficult in the teenage years. I know from my past that guys who are younger are more apt to get jealous and act crazy about stuff that can't be helped. They haven't reached the maturity level of understanding yet that is needed for a decent relationship.
You're 15, so you shouldn't worry about not "doing stuff" with this guy. Yes, people do do things when they are this young sometimes even though they shouldn't, but you should just be happy to be with him. You don't have to do anything with him to be happy with him.
Second, you and this boy weren't even going out when you did these things, so it's really none of his business what you did. He's probably just having a hard time thinking of you with another guy, which is how guys of all ages are. Usually when you're with them they want you for themselves and that's all they see.
If you continue to date him, all you can do is tell him that obviously he's the only guy you want to be with or you would be with that guy. Explain to him that you don't spend all this time with him for nothing, and that it's not about to change. And assure him that the past is the past and there's nothing to change it, so he should be happy he has you now and the two of you could be happier if he let it go.
Good luck!
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Short and to the point:
Trust comes with time. You can't rush it.
He'll get over it eventually.
You should try to make him see that it was all in the past and HE is your future, so to focus on that.
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