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Yesteray i freaked out. I asked him to hang out tomorrow and hes like im busy the next three days for christmas parties with the family. Then i asked him i theres time before the parties and thats where he drew the line. He told me that i was pushing the boundaries that he was giving me a chance to hang out even though he really didnt want to but i had pushed the boundaries and now he doesnt even think he wants to hang out anymore. And then he told me to stop thinkin. ABout myself for once especially before i speak. And he ust plain left. He didnt reply and didnt look at the messages i sent him telling im sorry. Im scared that this was te last straw for him. I dont know what to do i hate myself right now for messing ip my last chance. Whats happening.. And what can i do.. (link)
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Just give him space. You already knew that you guys were on edge, so trying to push him for more just makes it worse.
So just don't talk to him, don't keep messaging him. Just give him time off and do other things to keep your mind off him for the time being.
You'll probably be able to talk to him eventually, but not anytime soon without pissing him off again.
No guy wants a girlfriend who is pushy. So you're not making yourself look good at all and you're not respecting how he feels and you are only caring about how you feel and what you want, not what he wants.
So right now, you need to be respectful and give him his space.
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Its just like we go to different schools andi dont even see him around my neighborhood much because he is pretty far. I dont know its just he once told me that he doesnt care if we talk or not because he can just easily ignore me... And especially with that girl he laid his head on makes me feel insecure and possesive. And i know that when that girl asked him out to homecoming with her his best friends helped her. Because they were all in a group of friends from 9th grade to 12th. So irs like maybe his friends are supporting her instead of convincing him to look at the rbight side of things with me.. I never even met his friends because my parents didnt let me go out much too.. Its been three months already what if not talking to him makes him think that ive trying to move on and that hed be happy tha im not there to annoy him. Im just scared im sorry i didnt take your advice of the nocontatc thing but its winter break too so i wanted to take advantage of the free time to see him to see if theres hope or anything.. Its just i dont know sorry im just desperate i guess. Like i can survive without him if i dont think about it but i just miss him and his love that he once held for me and how i was able to make him happy in his bad times. I dont understand how he isnt feelings like how i feel. I mean like i opened ip to him about my darkest secret and he told me his too and we comforted each other and he told me he would never break up with me as long asi try to keep our relationship together he will try too. I just dont know whats going on. He seems like his living his life with friends and even that girls flirting and even her comfort. I dont know its just why isnt he feeling like he lost someone that loves him an that wants to build a better relationship.. Three months have passed already and i don t know what to do! (link)
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If he doesn't want to be with you, there is nothing you can do about it. It really sucks that people don't always feel the same way we do.
It's normal to feel insecure and upset about the other girl. But I really didn't understand the whole, "What if not talking to him makes him think that I've been trying to move on and that he'd be happy that I'm not there to annoy him." Wouldn't anyone be happy that they're not there to annoy them?
Feelings change. You can't make people feel certain things for you. I think this might be one of the, "Don't be sad that it's over, smile because it happened" kind of situation.
Even if things don't work out between the two of you, be grateful that you had this experience with him.
I know you love him and want him back, but talking to him more with push him away and want to talk to the other girl. So give yourself more space from him.
Go out with your friends, have a good time, and he'll be jealous that you're happy without him. And hey, you might even meet a guy who's ten times better than a guy who doesn't even know what he wants. You don't want to waste your time with people like that.
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Ive been keeping my contact with him at a minimum.. I dont know its hard to go with the full no contact method because i think hes moved on or well trying to.. I asked him to go hang out with me yesterday and he asked me why do you want to go on saturday we have the entire winter break. Doe that mean he's okay with going out with me? Because a bit after that i said how its important and he disagreed saying that its important to me not him. /: i dont know. UGH its like i want him back... Or at least see him and see if theres any hope left if theres any feelings left for me eithin him because of how i previously mentioned that in person he is a more different person. In person he is more attentive and like the last two times we hung out he kissed me and we came intimate so idk i hope that it may happen again and that i can finally ask him to be mines once again. Is this a good choice? Ive waited like three months and its painful /: its like weve been theough so much together what can i do to rekindle our love and his addiction for me? (link)
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I'm still gonna go with waiting. I know that it sucks and it's so hard to resist even talking to him. I totally get it but you need to show him that you're worth it. Right now, all you are showing him is that you can't handle being alone and that he can have you any time he wanted. In fact, he can be intimate with you without even having the relationship.
I know it's hard to just go with no contact at all with him. If you think that he's moved on or is trying to move on, then contacting him and trying to get him back will most likely make him move on faster.
Some relationships need long breaks like that to realize how much they miss each other. He won't miss you when you're talking to him, trying to hang out with him, and being intimate with him.
You can't make someone love you. But this advice will probably be the closest you can get to possibly grabbing his attention again.
-Don't talk to him, no contact at all. If he contacts you, awesome, keep the conversation short.
-Dress your best. Whenever you might run into him, wear something that makes you feel and look good. Nothing too revealing or tight. Something that has the mixture of sweet and sexy and cute and classy.
-If you wear make up, make it look extra nice. Don't overdo it though or cake it on. Make it look natural and pretty.
If you give it time, things should be better than how it is now.
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at my son's and daughter's school they have swimming in PE from 8th grade to at least 10th grade in high school and the boys and girls have it together. I though this was bad enough. Wouldn't this make people feel uncomfortable? And cause distractions and goofing off among everybody? Not to mention young boys will be around with no shirts on which I think is inappropriate for young girls to be around of. My son has some stretch marks and now he has to stand half naked in front of all those girls and this will give them a chance to humiliate or tease him.
but now I find out that the teacher is also a young female that is probably about 23 or 24. I remember meeting her because she taught his health class as well. I do not feel comfortable with my son having a teacher that young and a person that young being in charge of a class that includes young boys 15-16 years old in swimming costumes.
My son keeps saying he does not care, but he is young and may not realize how wrong this is.
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I think the most "action" you'll be able to take is just pulling your son out of the class. I mean they're not going to fire the teacher or cancel the class or something because nowadays, this kind of thing is normal.
Honestly, I can see where you're coming from but like I said, times have changed and you'll either have to accept it or shelter your child.
I mean even if they had regular PE, girls would still see the guys with their shirts off.
Like one of the other advisers had said, taking him out of the class probably won't do him any good. I think it's better to teach him how to handle being teased rather than trying to avoid it altogether because kids get teased about anything and everything.
As for the teacher being young, that shouldn't be a problem. The boys will probably be attracted to her but usually the younger the teachers are, the more strict they are. I've found the the older ones are more lenient. So it's better for him to have a younger teacher, believe me.
If your son mentions having a problem with it and he doesn't like it, then pull him out of the class. But if he's fine with it, just let him take the class and enjoy it.
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Okay, so all of a sudden this week, my friend stopped talking to me. I texted him yesterday and he said that he was just feeling sad. I asked him what was wrong and he wouldn't tell me. He didn't feel like talking about it and I respected that. I was cool with it all until I texted him and he told me to **** off and to stop texting him. I can't help feel that I did something wrong, but he's like my best friend and i don't know what I could've done to make him mad. I feel like I did something wrong, at least that's how he's treating it. Though, I don't remember doing anything that could've upset him. I'm really worried about him and I don't know what to do. I stopped texting him but I'm so confused and worried. :/ (link)
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Well you obviously didn't do anything wrong and he's just going through a hard time and not thinking about other peoples feelings.
I was like that awhile ago. I almost made my friend cry when she was checking up on me because I was just so absorbed in how I was feeling and just took it out on her.
Do you see him in person? If so, then maybe just talk to him then and let him know that you're sorry if you did anything to make him angry with you and you just wanted to let him know that you're there for him if he ever needs you.
If you won't see him in person any time soon, just send him a text saying the same thing. If he answers angry again just don't text him.
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Is it okay for a girl to give a guy her number without him asking? If it depends, what does it depend on? Is it creepy to just come out of the blue with it, or is there a specific way to do it? (link)
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It's totally fine for a girl to give a guy her number. Times have changed and you'll actually find it common that it happens a lot.
Although, I'd go with your best judgment on how to give it to him and when it's the right time to give it to him.
I wouldn't say it's creepy to just come out of the blue and give it to him. I mean it's a blunt way to tell someone you're interested. If that's your personality, then go for it.
I'd probably talk to him for a little while, become closer to him and then exchange numbers by saying something like, "We should catch up, here's my number" Or "What's your number?". Just go with whatever feels natural.
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Me and my boyfriend just got together today, and we met on Facebook. We barely know each other, well some what, but anyways, he told me "I love you" and it hasn't been a day yet, so what do I do? (link)
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You might want to clarify what he meant by "I love you". I guess some people can mean it in different ways. I had a past boyfriend who said "I love you" two weeks into our relationship and he meant it in the "I'm in love with you" type of way. That freaked me out and was way too early in the relationship to say that.
If he meant it that he loves you like he's in love with you, explain that it's only been a day and you're not comfortable with that yet, you're moving too fast, ect.
I mean there are guys you'll meet who are genuinely good guys who just say things in the wrong timing. But there are also guys who tell a girl they love them too early just to get in their pants or they'll say it because they're lonely and don't really mean it but just wants that kind of attention from a girl.
So be careful, explain you're not comfortable with that and you guys still need to get to know each other better.
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I'm 15 and there is this boy that I like at school, we're not together or anything though.
Anyway, I bought Christmas presents for a few of the boys in my english class (including him), spending just over £2 on each of them (they all got the same thing). The next day he gave me a present back (even though I'd said he didn't have to) and it was a £10 box of chocolates. I feel bad that he's spent so much more than I did and also treated me differently to other people (he didn't buy anyone else a present..).
I'm not really sure what to do now or whether I should suggest that we maybe meet up at some point in the Christmas holidays? We're both quite shy people so I don't want to make anything awkward.
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You don't need to feel bad about him getting something that was more expensive than what you got him. It's honestly the thought that counts, not how much money was spent on it, plus it's just chocolates, not hundreds on jewelry so don't feel bad, feel happy.
But since you like him, you should definitely suggest that you guys should hang out some time over the holiday. It'll only be awkward if you make it awkward so just go talk to him and then near the end of the conversation just tell him that you guys should hang out over Christmas break.
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i have 1000 + tumblr followers, but i know i need to get rid of it, it's ruining my life ! how to find the courage to delete my account. (link)
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Well it's more about self control. It sucks that social media can do that to people. It's best you write down your reasons to delete it, then just delete it. Don't try to talk yourself out of it.
I mean you can even give yourself an award if you do it..like go get pizza or something.
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My boyfriend and I have been officially been together a year. On and off before for two years.. He ordered me a pair of Swarovski earrings I wanted and let me pick a few presents myself with his credit card.. We haven't had the best relationship a lot of fighting etc.. He told me he got me another present that I am going to shit myself when I see it those were the exact words.. And that it was small.. His mom told me she saw it and she was so surprised coming from him and it really came from the heart.... I'm so confused first thing I thought was a ring but I don't know... What else really comes from the heart and I'd shit myself when I see it?? (link)
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It does sound like a ring. But who knows, maybe it's something completely different. Maybe he got you a small expensive necklace? Or even a promise ring.
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hello there---
over the summer i met this guy lets call him J. At first i was dating my now ex boyfriend so i didnt pay much attention to J until later on in July. He made me feel like the most beautiful and wanted person in the whole world. So much so that i even invited him over my home.
I met J online, over tumblr through a video game and we video chat regularly. I knew what he looked like, not who he was. He claimed he loved me, I thought he was nuts. That is until i developed strong feelings for him. As of now we are dating, long distance, about six hours away from each other.
My mother knows who he his, but not KNOW who he is... if that makes sense. She claims I dont know him, that he is a rapist, etc etc.. the man still lives with his parents, i've seen him four times. Any sex we have had was of my free will.
My whole family actually has no idea we are dating. Simply due to the fact that i met him online. I see him in secret whenever he travels north. His family knows about me and they love me without knowing me because their son is happy. Why cant my parents be the same?
18/f, J is 23/m, my mother is 44, father is 50 (link)
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Well honestly, do you blame her?
I'm pretty sure your mother loves you and wants you happy. If I had a daughter, I would feel the same way. I'd probably not jump the gun and start calling the guy a rapist but I can see where she's coming from. It's only because dating someone that you've met online can be a dangerous thing, you know that.
I think it's easier for a guy to tell his family he's seeing a girl that he's met online. At least every couple I knew that met online, the guys family always seemed accepting of it. There's usually more men on the internet looking to prey on women that women looking to prey on men so that's probably why his family is more accepting of it.
So I think the best way to handle it is to have your family meet him. At least your parents. Seeing a guy in secret just sucks and it'll screw up your relationship with your family and possibly his relationship with your family when he could have a better chance of getting to know your parents.
So sit down and talk to her mom. Explain that you understand why she's so upset about it, but you really do care about him and you would like her to at least meet him and then decide on how she feels about the situation.
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My first real boyfriend, I met when I was 19yo, and he was 22. He was my first everything, although I wanted to wait til marriage. We dated for a year and a half, until my 21st bday where I can tell we were not on the same page. I put those thoughts aside, and within the next month or so things were weird between us, but nothing was said about it. I found messages and texts, and even pics sent between the two and he broke up with me. It's been two months since the breakup and I found out from close sources of his, that he's been cheating on me for a while. Today, it's been 3 months since the breakup, and he is dating that girl he cheated on me with. It hurts so bad, I just don't know what to do. I want to move on, but a piece of me is just so scared and feels so betrayed. I thought I was strong enough to move on, but every day seems to hurt even more. Seeing their picture together finalized how he was a horrible person to do that to me. I've always done everything for him and it just seems like he took advantage of that. How do I move on when it feels like theres a knife in my heart? (link)
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Wow he sucks.
It will take awhile for you to move on. It will be hard. I mean you cared about this guy a lot, he was your first real boyfriend and you put so much effort into him for a very long time. He'll probably end up cheating on this girl anyways. Even then, he's a jerk and she's stupid to be with a guy who cheats on his girlfriend. If she didn't know, their relationship is just starting out with a lie.
So keep your head up. You deserve a man so much better than him. My best advice would be to cut all possible contact with him. If you haven't deleted his number, do it. If you're friends with him on Facebook or any other social media site, unfriend him, unfollow him, ect. Anything you have that he ever gave you, get rid of it. There's no need for you to see his face on your screen or see things in your house that remind you of him.
Break ups are also a good time to improve yourself. It makes you want to throw it in their face that you're doing ten times better without them. Go start a new hobby, exercise, go out with friends, meet new people, focus on you and forget about him.
It'll take time, but you'll move on eventually.
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i like a guy named josh and he likes me too. we dated last year secretly and only my family knew and a few friends from school. i broke up with him and he cried allday and i got sent to the councilers office. he also got in trouble by his mom for having a girlfriend.when i wanted to come over to hang out with his sister. he would end up in his pastor with me trying to kiss me but i wouldnt let him. he tried to kiss me on the bus but i wouldnt let him.!!! i really kliked him and this year hes at a differant school because hes a special ED kid he gets in to trouble a lot theres a problem his sister is dating my older brother.i really like him and i want him to touch me without telling him.!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Why without you telling him? Communication is important in any relationship and it's not gonna happen unless you tell him. I'm pretty sure he can't read minds. Besides that, you can let him kiss you and eventually move to that.
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Hello everyone! I've got a very simple question: What are your favorite book(s)? If you don't have a favorite, what are some you really enjoy? (I need new things to read.) (link)
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I don't know your type of style so I'm not sure whether you'd like these or not.
I like reading Ellen Hopkins books. She has books for teenagers and for adults and I like her writing style. You should look into them.
I also like the classics like Alice and Wonderland.
Jane Eyre and other books like that are nice. If you're into this type, also look into the Grace Livingston Hill Collections.
I also like the Pretty Little Liars series but that's because I'm watching the show.
Those are a few different styles. Hopefully this helped a little bit.
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I'm a seventeen year old girl. I'm just a bit curious about this. You see there's this guy that since two years ago likes to bother me a lot - not in a really mean sort of way. He gives me nicknames acting as if I'll bother me but they're nothing like "four eyes" or anything like that. He still does it but not to a high extent as he used to - which was what bothered me quite a lot. He even bothered me about supposedly "liking" my sister. I played along thougg I did make it clear that I wasn't going to let guys near my little sis. I think my friends once started trying to hint something becuase they mentioned the fact that my sister is almost like an identical copy of me. I don't really have any experience with boys in that matter - I have boys as friends, just never had a boyfriends - and can't really tell. Just wondering if he actually does have a crush on me - I'll let it be clear that I don't like him that way. (link)
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It's hard to tell. He might just be the type of guy who sees you as a friend and likes to tease you. But of course, there is the 50/50 chance that he likes you.
If he makes a move or gets flirty with you, then you just need to respond the opposite. Nothing mean or anything, but nothing to make him think that you're interested too. You'll see girls leading guys on all the time. It's good that you want to make it clear that you don't see him that way. If he straight up tells you that he likes you, then just say that you just see him as a friend.
But really, it's a 50/50 chance so it's quite hard to tell because some guys do like to tease the girls they like but also some just like to tease their friends.
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Well my friend just told me that today he laid hi head on this girls lap. That girl was the one who tried to get him to leave me when we were still together and before i read your advice i freaked and messaged him. I asked him if his streess has gone down by anything and he sai that it'll nevver go down because his life will always be super stressful. And then after saying i thiught soem of it will go down if i stopped talking to you and he told me that it doesnt work like that then had to go because he has a speech tomorrow and told me talk agai. Later or whatever. Idk what that means at all. Should i keep with the no contact rule for a month? The thing is that when we meet in person he isnt as cold to me and typically i think that he still thinks of me as his girlfriend when we see each other in person the difficult thin i getting him to agree to go. What should i do now D: (link)
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Yeah, I'd just give him space. If he's talking to another girl, he's probably just really confused. I think if you guys stop talking, he has more time to think with a clear head.
You might even find yourself doing new things and being a happier person without him, he'll notice and probably regret letting you go because you can end up happy without him.
It's a good thing that he's not cold to you and is still friendly with you in person. So as long as you keep it on good terms, smile when you see him but don't talk, things should be ok.
After about a month goes by, start talking to him a little bit, but not a lot. If you cut the conversation short by saying you've gotta go do this or that, he'll know you have a life outside of him. Then maybe the next week talk again, keeping it casual and then you can eventually find out where you two stand.
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So 2 weeks ago I started speaking to this girl on facebook and twice in person for little bit. she knows i like her and i caught her few times staring at me but recently i found out she has boyfriend because i ask her over facebook message how's her revison going for exams and what she did on weekend . . . .in reply she said she was working most of the time then was out for dinner with her bf. i told her i was gutted that she's not single. she replied back again but totally ignored the part i said i'm gutted shes not single.
so i was wondering if she wants me to stop speaking to her or just to see how i react? i mean there's no sign of her bf what so ever. no picture on facebook or anything (link)
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I wouldn't say she wants you to stop speaking to her. I really don't know why you'd get that conclusion unless she's acting short and doesn't seem like she wants to talk to you.
If I told a guy that I was working then had dinner with my bf, I wouldn't just say it to get a reaction if that was the truth of what I did. If the guy told me he was upset that I wasn't single, I'd probably ignore it too. It's uncomfortable and she probably just wants to pretend that you didn't say that so she can continue talking to you without it being weird.
If a guy told me they were interested in me and I had a boyfriend, it just wouldn't be ok for me to continue talking to them.
As for no sign of her boyfriend being on facebook, that could be for different reasons. Who knows why really. Maybe she just doesn't want to share her relationships on Facebook, who knows.
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As a baptist faith. What do they think of suicide? (link)
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Are you asking what the Baptist faith thinks of suicide?
Just that it's not good and you shouldn't kill yourself lol? Anything any normal person would think. But in all seriousness, it's not a "they're going to hell because taking your life is a sin" type of thing. Baptists believe that once you accept Jesus as your savior, you're going to heaven. So no matter what sin you commit, you can still go to heaven.
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In the beginning of this college semester, I became friends with a handicapped student. He is very sweet and I am glad we became friends; we get along very well. But my question is that I gave him my cell phone number recently and he seemed quite interested and proud that I gave it to him. I gave my number to another male friend that I had met, but he didn't have the same reaction. Does this mean anything? (link)
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It could mean something, but it also might not. It's really not something to just jump to and assume.
What kind of handicap does he have?
Maybe he just feels good that a girl even bothered to give him her number because he doesn't get that a lot?
Honestly, I wouldn't really know but that would be my best guess. So it could be a 50/50 chance that he likes you.
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I love hiking, but I am terrified of snakes, and my friend knows this... so she was telling me that if i wrap myself in some sort of insulation when i'm outside hiking that the snakes will stay away from me. She had no reason behind this.. so I don't believe her, lol. Is this true? (link)
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My dad walks with a stick whenever he goes for walks. We live on a dirt road so there are snakes everywhere.
I doubt they'll bother coming near you but it's best to carry a big walking stick. My dad pretty much carries it because he doesn't want our dogs to get bit by one.
So just walk with the stick and they'll hear it hitting the ground each step you take so they'll back off.
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