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Hey everyone, I'm 14 year's old, and im pregnant. My family is broke, and struggling for money. My father just lost his job, and has less than 400 dollars in the bank. And im against adoption and abortion, i have no idea what to do. I live in Salt Lake City, Utah. I dont have a job, and i have no idea how i can get one at my age. And to top everything all together, I haven't told my parent's... i dont know what to do. Can they make me give up my baby? Please help, and soon.
thanks in advance (link)
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tell your parents about this, they might be mad at you for awhile but it will eventually blow over. You are a minor so yes they have the right too choose adoption for you which is probably what you should do for your sake and the baby.
1. You don't have a job and even if you try to find a job this doesn't mean a job that pays minimum wage.
2. You need health benefits for this baby, It will require visits to the doctors
3. Diapers, Crib, Formula, Clothes, Stroller, Car seat etc. Can you afford all of this?...
4. Many young people these days who are pregnant "think" they are ready to raise a baby this DOES NOT mean ask Mommy and Daddy to raise YOUR child for you after all this baby is your responsibility not theirs.
Think about this...You are 14 years old. You are not ready for motherhood just yet
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15/f
(Sorry, it's long. The last paragraph has the actual question--the first paragraph is just the backround story)
Okay, I know I'm kind of young to be saying this but about two years ago I fell in love. Not teenage girl crush type of love, the real love. I fell in love with my best friend. We were friends since I was nine and he was ten. When I turned 13 we started growing feelings towards each other. Last year, on my 14th birthday, he asked me to be his g/f and, of course, I was ecstatic and said yes. We fell in love. I couldn't go one day (literally) without hearing his voice. He was my whole life. He was everything too me. I knew he was the one, there was (is) no life or happiness without him. Last year on the first day of summer, he gave me a promise ring and told me that no matter what I would be his love. I was so happy with him. I felt like my life was complete before it even started. I turned 15 and things were going great until he told me he was moving to new york. I couldn't stop crying. Every second I could spend with him was precious. Finally, he moved and I felt like my life was temporarily over (I knew he would come back for me someday). On september 22 I got a really sweet email. I had to leave so I didn't have time to reply. The next night, I went back to my emailing list to reply when I saw an email from his brother. I opened it first.
He died, Sep. 23 at approximatly 9:23 PM. It felt like my heart stopped beating. I thought Every one told me things would get better, time heals everything. Things have gotten better, externally. But internally, it finds worse every second without him. Like I'm falling and every one that's around me is just watching. I don't know what to do. I've been on a few dates but there is no guy that I am attracted to. It's not that they aren't attractive, but they aren't him. What do I do? I don't want to tell anyone because I don't want to stop hurting emotionally--the pain is the only thing I have left--but I want to be able to like a guy or even just form some kind of relationship with a guy. Can anyone please help me? (link)
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Honestly, I wouldn't really be convinced if his brother wrote you an email saying your boyfriend died...It sounds a bit weird to me. I would be more convinced if I heard it from his parents. I would try replying to the email that he left you and wait to see if he responds. :/
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hello. i am 15/f.
okay so there is this guy who i have a crush on. we are kinda friends. we talk a lot on facebook and we just started texting. i talk to him a bit at school, but rarely because we barely see each other. he is a senior so he had early leave. i see him right before he leaves the school to drive home. so you know everytime i see him i walk all the way up to the door that leads to the senior's parking lot and i give him a hug goodbye. the other day i saw him at the beginning of school and he gave me a hug. i was surprised because i am the one who usually gives hugs... so there is a play going on at my school and he texts me to come see the play so i can hangout with him a bit. i told him i didn't have a ride and he should come pick me up. he told me that he wished but he couldn't leave the school. so the guy i am crushing on, his name is jack, has a good friend named steve that has a crush on me. jack knows that i am not interested in steve cuz steve does pot and i don't like guys like that and jack knows that. so i am in school walking jack to the entrance to the parking lot and i was going to give him a hug but he was walking so it would be hard to just stop him for a hug so i decided not to but i think he noticed i wanted one because he leaned his arm on my shoulder. but then i notice he was walking faster than me but he slowed down for my pace. i thought that was wierd. and we both have facebooks and he answered a question that was asking if he ever had a crush on me, he answered yes. so i text him on monday night and i say "HAHA YOU HAD A CRUSH ON ME!:P" and he just answers back "HAHAHAH XD" so i told him i was making brownies and bringing some to school the next day and i asked him if i saw him would he want one. and he said "if you see me, then sure :p" but i saw him yesterday and i asked him if he wanted a brownie and he just says "no" and walks away. i dont know. maybe i am just sensitive. maybe he just acts that way all the time? we made plans to go to the movies the week before and we planned on going together the weekend that just passed. so on that day i text him "hey are you busy?" he answers "yeah. :0 por quee?" and i text him "MOVIES" (but in spanish). and he goes "what movie?" and i told him "didn't we agree on xxx" and he goes "oh yeahhh :p" so i go "hmm". he texts back "hmmm". i ask him "unless you want to see something else". and he goes "no i dont care :p". so i ask him "so we going are what?". and he texts back "not today :/". i think he has a crush on me. but i am getting confused. maybe he is kinda backing off a bit because of steve? (link)
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it sounds like he has a crush on you yes. if this guy is 18 though remember it is illegal for him to date a minor and can get into big trouble if he were to ever have a relationship with you. Also keep in mind that if he is a senior he probably has plans to attend college after graduation which means he will be going to another school and most people who attend college barley have time for relationships with someone that isn't out of high school only because they are on two different schedules and in college the studying always gets in the way
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Which is better? Which is more common? (link)
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Circumcised I believe is the most common I have also dated a Jewish guy and he was circumcised. (In Judaism circumcision is usually a spiritual thing) Also, Men who are not circumcised should also be up on cleaning themselves frequently.
Lusinggrip101 is somewhat correct..
According to Wiki...
Jewish law states that circumcision is a 'mitzva aseh ("positive commandment" to perform an act) and is obligatory for Jewish-born males and for non-circumcised Jewish male converts. It is only postponed or abrogated in the case of threat to the life or health of the child.[33] It is usually performed by a mohel on the eighth day after birth in a ceremony called a Brit milah (or Bris milah, colloquially simply bris), which means "Covenant of circumcision" in Hebrew. It is considered of such religious importance that the body of an uncircumcised Jewish male will sometimes be circumcised before burial.[34]
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I want to have a pet. I'm not talking about cats or dogs though. I would like a small pet that can be kept in a cage. My parents are divorced and I spend one weekend a month with my dad and would want to take the pet with me.
I'd like a fairly intelligent pet. Something that isn't too smelly would be nice. I have heard things about Chinchillas being cute but I have read plenty of times that they are very fragile. I don't want a fragile pet. Cute isn't REALLY important though.
I can do a few hours of maintenance a day with the pet so if it needs walks or playtime that is just fine with me. A friendly animal would be nice...something that could get used to being held sometimes.
My best friend suggested getting a rat but I'm not sure. What would you suggest? (link)
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RECOMMENDED:
Hamster: Easy to clean and don't require a ton of attention also easy to travel with.
Rats are also good traveling pets, I also had a rat myself and it wasn't that hard to keep up with but I also want to point out that Rats also can have a nasty odor and will need frequent cage cleaning
NOT RECOMMEND:
Chinchillas: are cute and not only fragile but they are extremely messy and they do not like to be held a lot of the time.
Bunnies: are a cute too but I owned 5 at one time and they are extremely messy and can be hard to keep up with and do not like loud noises which could be a problem if you plan on traveling with it.
Ferret: Ferrets are great pets but require a lot of attention, frequent baths, walks, and their cage needs a lot of cleaning. They also sleep during the day and play at a night. Unless you are fully committed to all of that this pet is not recommended.
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Where do I begin?
Story of my life:
was born in the philippines, we were wealthy back home. with a single mom, working as a part time nurse, and a full time manager of a computer company. She left all of this to go to Canada to work as a nanny so she could sponsor me so I could come to Canada and have a better life.
4 years after her hard work working in Canada with a minimum wage as nanny, all her hard work payed off as I am now living in Canada all thanks to her.
3 years later when i went to Highschool, in my first year I met this girl online that lives in California. We both fell in love with each other so we both decided to work out a long distance relationship. We would visit each other every summer and sometimes christmas if it was possible. 4 years have now passed and I hve now graduated from Highschool. Going to university
Me and my gf decide that we should go and live in California when i get my degree, because she is not really fond of the canadian cold winter and the lack of any little left of culture that canada has to offer compared to America.
Now my problem is this,I dont know how to leave my mom in 4 years when I get my degree. She is clueless tthat I have plans on moving to californa in four years. Idont know how to tell her, i know she will disapprove and I also know with my heart that I want to live with my gf in the states, get married ther and have a family.
what should i do?
this is my question. (link)
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In my opinion?
I think you should stay with your mother, Almost all long distant relationships never work out. I know you say now you are in love but god only knows were life takes us in the next four years. Four years is a long time away to be giving thoughts to now of how you will tell your mother about moving to California. If you and your girlfriend are dead set on what you want to do in life than go for it but remember make sure you put a lot of thought into this and think good and hard about it. You are still young and if you move to California to be with this woman know you are possibly taking a big risk. I would stay with your mother in Canada because like I always say there are many many fish in the sea and I'm sure there will be another girl to come along. However, If you want to move to California to be with this girl than go for it but I sure hope you have a backup plan if something goes wrong.
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Okay, here it goes! So, I have been seeing this guy a little over a month now, and the last time I talked to him was last tuesday after we had spent the night together again. I guess I consider him to be my boyfriend.
Well, I have tried to call him but he won't answer his phone. I drove down to his place and his truck is there so I know he must be home. I emailed him a couple of times now and he hasn't emailed me back. It's pretty frustrating.
Should I go ahead and move on or try and wait on him? We did have sex each time we saw each other since we started dating. My friend said maybe he used me but I don't know. I've been used in the past and the guy did end up completely ignoring me. Do you think this is what has happened? What should I do? (link)
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I know you probably don't want to hear this but yes it sounds like you were used for sex. I don't want to offend you but I think for the future you might want to wait a few months before having sex with your partner. I agree with the person below me though I would get yourself tested to make sure you are on the safe side. Should you wait for him? No, this guy sounds like a complete jerk. There are better guys out there that will treat you the way you should be treated.
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I'm 18 now, but my parents and I have stopped getting along so well since I was about 15. I miss it terribly.
They always say they're so good to me because they're always giving me things (it's true). I really do appreciate those things but I want more than material things from them. I want to feel loved. I want hugs and kisses and long talks about school and boys.
I'm always a little depressed over this. I know sometimes I give them a bit of an attitude because of this frustration. I want to explain to them that I need more than things bought for me. I want to develop a good relationship with them again.
How do I explain this to my parents? (link)
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Sit down and talk to them, Tell your parents that you have something that has been bothering you for a long time and you really need to talk about it. Then start the conversation off by "Mom, Dad..lately I have been feeling depressed because I feel like we our relationship and communication is not as strong as it used to be" etc. Then explain to them what you want to change. Basically everything you said above is pretty much what you need to tell them.
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So, I'm in college and yesterday I turned 19. I was hanging out in the library between classes and this girl that I've been talking to came in and sat near me. We talked a little, and before I left I finally asked her out on a date (set for Friday). She said yes and I was really happy. I thought it was like a birthday present from God or something cheesy.
So, today (the day after my birthday, obviously) I go on my Facebook. I see that she has sent me a message about how she only wants to be friends with me and didn't mean to give me the wrong impression. I feel like I couldn't get a girlfriend to save my life though. I've never had one and have never even kissed a girl. I'm sure it sounds pathetic.
If you're a nice guy who girls don't like because your nice, how can you change that? What am I doing wrong? (link)
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You aren't doing anything wrong it might be that this girl just isn't the one for you. That doesn't mean you will not find a girlfriend. Keep talking to her, If she wants to be friends than be her friend for all we know later down the line things could change and she could start to develop feelings for you. *girls are funny that way sometimes* I did not get my first boyfriend until I was 18 years old so no you don't sound pathetic at all. Dating is not a competition to who gets who first and who kisses who. It will come when the time is right
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i live in florida and have a book i wrote (my first)
where do i go to get it published or who can i contact?
thanks! (link)
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Sometimes when you get a book at a library or something there will be information about the publisher on the first page you contact them. I'm pretty sure they will want a little bit of money to publish it though
Good luck
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15-F
So this girl text harassed me on Saturday.
She got my number from another girl and started texting me saying I was a
Poser.
Bitch.
Effed up.
Two faced.
I locked every one of her texts and I replied to every one but like three with 'K.'
No today, Tuesday, she was talking to a few people I know and I walked by with a friend, she says to the group of people
"God I want to beat the shit out of her"
Ect, ect. So I have a few witnesses.
Now tomorrow I'm going to my school principal about her.
What kind of trouble could she get in? (link)
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I had almost the same exact problem with someone over a year ago only it was an adult and not 15 year old. The first thing is if she text you DO NOT reply back if you do you only give her what she wants. When she sends you a nasty text she is expecting you to read them get mad and say something back. What you could do is try calling the company or going to the company of the cell phone and get her number blocked. If you have a trakphone (Prepaid) then you will not be able to block out her number. If she is making threats about you, You can go to the principal but the most she will get is a verbal warning to knock it off because she has not done anything to you yet. The truth is though her saying she wants to beat you up is more than likely just all talk. If she makes a threat to you just laugh it off and walk away if you show no reaction than sooner or later she will get bored with you and move on. As far as the texting goes you might want to try getting a hold of the company and have it block her number if it becomes something very serious you could report it too the cops but that is the last thing I recommend. Do you know who her mother is? You could also say something to her. Will you be a snitch? NO you will not be. The daughter is making threats too you and sending out nasty text messages than yes the mother should know about it after all if I doing something like that I certainly wouldn't want my mother finding out because we all know what the consequences are when our own parents give us punishment.
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Sorry, gross question! Is there anyway to get rid of the smell down there? Usually I get a B.O smell, even a couple hours after showering. Help me?! (link)
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the truth is everyone sweats down there and when we sweat it makes the odor stronger and become more of a foul smell. Like potato suggested you might want to trim the hair also you can try using baby powder after you take a shower I even know some people (Like me for instant) that use spray on deodorant haha kinda weird but it works. Also try using pantyliners
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I saw on a commercial a long time ago that having so many glasses of milk a day can really help you lose weight. I assumed that drinking milk helps you lose weight then.
Well, I just read on another site that if you drink too many glasses of milk a day then you gain weight. Now, I'm really confused. One thing is saying that milk makes you lose weight while another one says milk makes you gain weight.
What is true?
Why? (link)
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I'm not really sure if this is true or not but whole milk is thicker than skim milk, 1 percent milk etc. so I would imagine it could be true. Skim milk is not as thick as whole milk. so I guess it depends on what type of milk you drink and how much of an intake you put in your body.
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I have a best friend who always is wanting things from me. My boyfriend told me last night that he thinks she tricks me into it! Last week she said to me, "Can I spend the night at your house this weekend?" and I was really excited and got the OK from my mom. I thought we would have an awesome time, but the entire night she used my computer! The next day I was going job hunting and she said she'd like to tag along for support--but then she started picking up applications for herself and she already has a job! I thought it was kind of messed up.
I don't know though. This week she wanted to spend the night again so we could go dress shopping for the dance coming up. The week before last she wanted to spend the night so we could go to a football game. I feel like all she wants is rides and things bought for her because my mom buys her things if she spends the night (Mom bought her dress AND the football game tickets) and we have plans the next day.
We always give her rides all the time, everywhere, and pay for everything! It's making me really upset. My boyfriend feels that she is tricking me into things by pretending she wants to spend time with me by spending the night at my house but has different reasons by it.
So, last night, I stopped answering my phone when she called. I'm just so sick and tired of hearing how bad she feels about this, that, and the other and her never asking how I am or listening to me when I feel bad. I logged onto my MySpace this morning and she sent me a message saying, "I was so happy it was the weekend...now I can't remember why..." What's that suppose to mean? Is she finally getting the hint that she is spoiled and I can't put up with that crap? What do I do now? (link)
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doesn't sound like a true friend if you ask me. a real friend does not take advantage of people and this is exactly what she is doing. DON'T let her do it anymore tell her that she can NOT stay overnight anymore and that if she wants a ride to take a bus. The more you feed into it the more she is going to do it because she has gotten away with it in the past. Step up to the plate and tell her where she stands and let her know that you will not tolerate it and if she tries to get sympathy out of you or even gets mad than you know that is what she wanted all along. You don't need a friend like that tell her to feed her habit off of someone eles
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I am 26 now and didn't lose my virginity until I was 23 years old. I lost my virginity to a stripper from a nightclub I had been visiting. Since then I have been to 4 different female escort services though. I used condoms every time I went to an escort and we did have full penetration sex, but with the first girl I did not use a condom (I didn't really expect it to happen).
I have also received oral sex without a condom on and have given oral sex without barrier protection. These were also from the escort girls though. I think the escort services probably STD tested their girls on a fairly regular basis though, right?
I later had sex with a girl that was about 35 years old. We both got drunk at a party and their was no condom used. We engaged in full penetrative sex and oral sex. There is a high probability that she has been with many, many people because of her overall demeanor, but I don't know her from anyone and I couldn't tell you anything more about her to save my life.
About a year ago I took a trip to Las Vegas. I have low self esteem but was wanting to have sex so I actually picked up a couple prostitutes while I was in town. I am pretty sure that the second one I picked up was on some sort of drug because she was extremely eager to get her money and the others weren't as jumpy and strange.
I'm guessing that I probably have something, but not sure what. I was to afraid to get tested because I know that if I was positive for HIV or AIDS my life would be useless. I have a very nice job that pays well and I have no idea how I've stayed out of the drug scene. I am almost afraid that finding out I have an STD will push me to drugs because I will have to stop paying for sex. I could never get girlfriends so I turned to whores, I guess. I know that I was playing Russian Roulette every time I slept with these girls, but I felt I had no choice since I am unattractive, boring, have no sense of humor, etc.
1. What are the chances that I actually have HIV?
2. What are the chances that I have at least some type of STD?
3. What are the chances of have an incurable STD like Herpes? (link)
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I would get yourself tested.
Out of all people escorts have a high risk of STD "there job pretty much says it all" To be honest with you having sex with an escort and no condom probably wasn't the smartest choice. An escorts job is to be a whore...and god only knows how many people they have been with. Also if you ever decide to go to a club or whatever again keep in mind that escorts will do just about ANYTHING to get money.
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What should I use to clean my new flat screen television screen? (link)
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If it's just dusty you can use a duster, If it needs a good cleaning put windex on a paper towel than wipe it down but dont' spray the screen.
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Today I found out that my boyfriend of 6 months had broken up with me for some other whore. I asked who this lucky lady was and he would not reply. I went home from school early and crying my eyes out and in a way looking forward to my mom there to comfort me in this difficult time. but as i walked in the door i noticed my ex. boyfriends car parked out side, in exitement i was thinking he might be here to talk to me about "us" but when i looked around the house no one was home. so i was on my way to my room sadly because me and he had, had sex in there so many times, but as i walked in i saw my boyfriend and my mom having sex no i cant sleep in there any more. (link)
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omg I'm so sorry :(
first of all i just wanted to say if your boyfriend is a minor than I would go to the cops. this is not only disturbing of your mom to do but why would she hurt you like that? and in your own room?! sweetie he just isn't worth it your boyfriend has got some mental issues to be doing something like that with your mom. this isn't your fault this is your mom and your boyfriend that hasn't got there tools on right. i don't blame you for not being able to sleep in the room anymore I wouldn't either after I saw something like that. I wouldn't talk to your mom about it only because honestly I don't think she would care..I mean she didn't care about your feelings when she did what she did. Go to the cops sweetie this is not right
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my ex has been playing these games with me for a year and half now (ever since he broke up with me)
how do i get it so hes chasing me instead of me chasing him?
he dated another girl and came back to me and i had him chasing me for like a month this summer, but somehow im again in the vulnerable hurtful position
how do i get him to chase me again?
or how do i tell him without sounding childish that this isnt going to work
its obviously not going to workout because if it was, we had a year and a half to get back together. weve had this whole summer to get back together also when he dumped his new girlfriend who he dated for a month for me. but we never got back together.
whenver i try to talk to him about it, i feel kinda like i sound childish/dumb?
but all i want to do is tell him how i feel. like listen, i dont understand what we're doing here you know? i dont get why we continue talking
how do i tell him how i feel without sounding too upfront/childish or obsessed?
beacuse i dont want to fall hard again (like i think i am now) and then him go and date another girl and break my heart again
we've talked once about things a little bit and he said he still has a lot of feelings for me, but hes not sure what he wants. but thats all weve talked about (link)
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mkay..?
if you don't want to seem like your obsessed I suggest you to grow up and move on and stop waiting to be chased by some guy that obviously isn't into you. Not only does that sound desperate but childish as well stop wasting your time I'm sure you aren't as blonde as your words.
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I'm only 16 years old ,I as well have a 6 year old sister.
My mom is a drug attitic and was sober for 4 monthes after a 9 month relapse,which was the worst time of life for me.
Recently she began using again,she yells at me for NO reason,throws my stuff,tells me all this bad negative stuff and doesn't understand how much it hurts me .She usually goes in the middle of the night to get drugs and it wakes me up and I end up crying all night .She never cleans the house when shes on drugs and leaves it to me to do.She blames everything on me and just thinks everything is my fault and she promises all the time that shes done and she lies about it and covers it up with some story.I'm such a happy girl,I've never smoked and never done drugs and I don't need this negativity in my life.My father used to be a drug attitic as well but he doesn't yell at me or blame me ,he understands me...yet he just doesn't do anything.He lives with his mother now,so I can't turn to him.
She's gotten close to hurting me before ,but she hasn't...yet im scared.
She thinks that when shes on drugs,that she's no different from when she's not on them.Obviously thats false.I sometimes pack my stuff and stay at a friends house,but sometimes she threatens that If i dont come home,she won't give me money for things like food,clothes,etc. So I end up coming home,even though I just wanna stay out with my friends.
Please help!,im trapped and alone (link)
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I think you should try Intervention? They help people with problems with drug and alcohol.
http://www.aetv.com/intervention/index.jsp
Also, If your mom doesn't get help concidering you and your sister are minors it COULD only be a matter of time before the state steps in. If the intervention doesn't do anything for you than I would try going to a family member talk to them about putting your mother into treatment.
ADDED: I also found this...
Intervention™ works with treatment and recovery centers throughout the United States and Canada. For each episode, a licensed therapist recommends treatments and facilities based on the specific needs of the addicts who participate.
We provide these links solely for our viewers' information. A&E Television Networks does not endorse or control any treatment facility, and we are not responsible for any content, services, products, or materials provided by or associated with the facilities whose web sites are linked to here.
If you are struggling with an addiction and need help, call 1-800-662-HELP.
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There is a new show on Nickalodeon called the troop and I wanna know how i can find Nicholas Purcell's email address.He plays Jake on the show. He is so hot! PLease tell me and find the REAL one. Thank you very much. Or how do i find his cell number or AIM. (link)
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Um...more than likey you will not find his email address, AIM or cell phone number on the internet. If you find one, more than likey it's just someone trying to be "Nicholas Purcell" also if he is a celebrity he probably already has a girlfriend I think it would be a bit creepy if someone I didn't know tried to call or email me.. o.0
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