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Question about choosing between my love for my mother or for my girlfriend.
Where do I begin?
Story of my life:
was born in the philippines, we were wealthy back home. with a single mom, working as a part time nurse, and a full time manager of a computer company. She left all of this to go to Canada to work as a nanny so she could sponsor me so I could come to Canada and have a better life.
4 years after her hard work working in Canada with a minimum wage as nanny, all her hard work payed off as I am now living in Canada all thanks to her.
3 years later when i went to Highschool, in my first year I met this girl online that lives in California. We both fell in love with each other so we both decided to work out a long distance relationship. We would visit each other every summer and sometimes christmas if it was possible. 4 years have now passed and I hve now graduated from Highschool. Going to university
Me and my gf decide that we should go and live in California when i get my degree, because she is not really fond of the canadian cold winter and the lack of any little left of culture that canada has to offer compared to America.
Now my problem is this,I dont know how to leave my mom in 4 years when I get my degree. She is clueless tthat I have plans on moving to californa in four years. Idont know how to tell her, i know she will disapprove and I also know with my heart that I want to live with my gf in the states, get married ther and have a family.
what should i do?
this is my question.
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dont tell her... at least not yet. sure you have plans to move, but plans change as do people. maybe in four years either you or your bff will be married or a job that you want opens up somewhere thats not california. so as of right now i wouldnt say anything to her. wait and see where the road takes you
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In my opinion?
I think you should stay with your mother, Almost all long distant relationships never work out. I know you say now you are in love but god only knows were life takes us in the next four years. Four years is a long time away to be giving thoughts to now of how you will tell your mother about moving to California. If you and your girlfriend are dead set on what you want to do in life than go for it but remember make sure you put a lot of thought into this and think good and hard about it. You are still young and if you move to California to be with this woman know you are possibly taking a big risk. I would stay with your mother in Canada because like I always say there are many many fish in the sea and I'm sure there will be another girl to come along. However, If you want to move to California to be with this girl than go for it but I sure hope you have a backup plan if something goes wrong.
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