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Why do I not have any ambition?
I'm 19 and female, by the way.
I simply don't care about going to college or having a good job (now or in the future). I'm sure I can make due plenty well enough with any job. I don't have a "dream job" or any sort of future goal on what I'd like to do with my life.
I keep blowing my money on make-up and new clothes. I don't ever really see anything that I absolutely need and I realize that. I just keep doing the same thing over and over. I mean, I get by and that's just fine with me.
I don't care if I live with my parents or not. They've suggested getting me an apartment so I could start my life apart from them and I don't really care either way. I'm just sort-of waiting on them to make the decision.
I don't really care if I end up having kids in the future. I like to take around but marriage seems awfully serious right now. I'm sure I could deal with either of those situations so it isn't a worry of mine, really.
What is wrong with me? Everybody else seems to not be like this...my friends think I'm strange. Am I? Why don't I have goals?
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Sometimes people feel like they don't have ambition because they havn't found what they love to do. Isn't that where dreams and goals come form? From a desire to do something or get it done?
I just think you havn't found what you like or dislike to do.
I would suggest possibly taking some classes at a community college or where ever you can and learn something new. It might spark some interests.
Also, thinik about your job. In the future when ou are living on your own, you will have to pay for a whole lot more than make-up. things like toliet paper and food add up. So maybe you can try to either work your way up the ladder and work hard or find a job that has benefits.
Another thing that might help is talking to your parents about what steps they took when they got out of high school. They might have been like you.
There is still time to figure things out, but it might help if you went to college and such. There are many, many things people learn about themselces when they are on their own and at college.
Best of luck!
Don't have your parents make a decision for you, make your own. It coudl be hard, but take the first step and the rest of teh walk will be eaiser.
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Not to sound nasty or anything, but the reason you have no ambition is because you have no reason to.
You don't need to make more than minimum wage, because you're working for pocket money. You don't have rent or other bills to pay. Of course minimum wage is fine!
You haven't figured out what you want to do for school (or if you want to go at all) so you don't have a savings plan in place, so there's nothing else to spend your money on.
You're stalled. That's why you have no ambition. Nothing has booted you into "living" mode.
You need a stimulus right now before you'll have a change of heart. Whether it's suddenly discovering a passion that you want to pursue, or your parents kicking you out of the house, something needs to happen to you. Here's the thing; you don't HAVE to make any decisions about the future right now. You're still young. You have time to think about it.
In the meantime, start saving. Put away %50 (because you don't need any more than %50 for fun money) of your income in a high interest account so that you can use it when you need it; whether that money goes towards university, a down payment on a house, or even starting your own business!
Start looking at what you enjoy. Do you really enjoy your job? Can you see yourself doing it forever? What can you see yourself doing? What makes you happy?
Do you want to live with your parents forever? Will they let you? Once you've moved out on your own, you'll find out that life is hard on minimum wage. A one bedroom apartment in my city is about $750 per month. That doesn't account for phone bills, food, and other necessities!
As for relationships, you should be dating around in this phase of your life. No sense in picking a life mate when you haven't got the rest of your life organized yet! Figure out what you want. THEN you can go looking for it, whenever that is.
Me? I'm 22 years old. I'm engaged, own a house with my fiance. I work part time, and I'm a full time engineering student paying my own way through school. We are dirt poor but debt-free. I've got an abundance of ambition :D But that's what I wanted. I can tell you, though, that it's incredibly rewarding. With great responsibility comes great freedom; a lesson my parents tried for years to teach me.
You sound like a smart woman. Just a woman who doesn't know what she wants yet. You'll find your stimulus... run with it when it comes! Till then, prepare for that eventuality.
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