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How to get a girlfriend
So, I'm in college and yesterday I turned 19. I was hanging out in the library between classes and this girl that I've been talking to came in and sat near me. We talked a little, and before I left I finally asked her out on a date (set for Friday). She said yes and I was really happy. I thought it was like a birthday present from God or something cheesy.
So, today (the day after my birthday, obviously) I go on my Facebook. I see that she has sent me a message about how she only wants to be friends with me and didn't mean to give me the wrong impression. I feel like I couldn't get a girlfriend to save my life though. I've never had one and have never even kissed a girl. I'm sure it sounds pathetic.
If you're a nice guy who girls don't like because your nice, how can you change that? What am I doing wrong?
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awww you aint doing anything wrong, you need to keep telling yourself that! Some girls (not all girls) prefer bad guys. i wouldn't say i prefer bad guys or nice guys, i like an "inbetween" i think that aslong as you don't come across clingy, you shouldn't have a problem. i have friends who love nice guys, especially if they've had bad experiences with bad guys. you're a rare kind of a guy because nice guys are hard to find! you will meet someone who loves you for who you are, don't change! we don't need anymore bad guys! as corny as it sounds - just be yourself! <3 good luck
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Honestly i don't know why most girls like the "bad boys"! I always ask my friends this and they say they just like the idea of it. But the idea of the person isn't all to the person. In my opinion, nice guys are amazing. I love them! haha, Anywho. Do you have confidence in yourself? Maybe you could try revamping your look a little, and do what makes you happy. When I see a guy who's driven to become something and is confident in who he is,then that shows the guys real boyfriend material. Your doing everything right, you just need some extra push to get you out into the dating world. It's this blind image some girls have,that the bad boy is the better guy(girls like risk and stuff, but who says nice guys can't be risky,ey? XD) Well,it really doesn't matter what you are, as long as your happy and confident with who you are. Just keep thinking there's someone for everyone. Trust me, tons of girls love nice guys ! Someone will come along, or you know what? Why don't you try making the move first ;)? Even if its just a smile or a "hey" to a girl who catches your eye in the hall! Just try it, make small changes. Don't just try to find a girl, you want to get to know them and connect with them,obviously. If theres a spark you'll know and if not, then they're missing out,don't beat yourself up over it. But really, the first step is to talk to them! You're not pathetic, your probably just a guy who beats himself up over the little things XD. Let loose and have fun, if someone comes to join you on the way then thats perfect! If not, well, at least your having fun :P. All in time, you'll find the person you've been waiting for. Anyways i feel like I'm rambling..like I always do ! Happy belated birthday by the way! hope I helped :]
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girls are weird. most of us want a bad boy who we need to fix. someone who we can imagine a future with but somewhere deep inside of us we know it wont last. so unless your a problem child we wont like you- but your the type of guy whom is going to be great for a girl whose ready to settle down and when you do find someone it will be fanfabulous!!! everything happens in perfect timimg so sit back, relax and enjoy being young because today is the best day in your life
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You aren't doing anything wrong it might be that this girl just isn't the one for you. That doesn't mean you will not find a girlfriend. Keep talking to her, If she wants to be friends than be her friend for all we know later down the line things could change and she could start to develop feelings for you. *girls are funny that way sometimes* I did not get my first boyfriend until I was 18 years old so no you don't sound pathetic at all. Dating is not a competition to who gets who first and who kisses who. It will come when the time is right
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Honestly ?? Nothing your not doing anything wrong guy.The best thing about women is that just like guys they have diffent taste. You might feel kindah bad for the way she told you but you got to give her props for telling you this early. Every girl wants a nice guy...yeah they do as to why they go for the bad one? i have no clue but i can say this to you dont give up focus on your goals and learn, learn and learn. learn to cook, clean, laudry, learn to take care of yourself, learn as much as possible women love men that will teach them many many new things they love it when a man can cook and i dont meanpenut butter and jelly i mean cook, and they admire men for being able to take care of themselves. There is a girl out there you just got to be carefull YOU dont end up with a bad one. Seems like you have a desire to love and the desire to be loyal again just be careful and as i alwasy advice girls/guys set your mind apart. Write down in your journal what you do not want in a girl/woman and read it over and over and over until you remember the list by hard so that when you meet a girl you wont easily fall in love instead you will be able to find the girl you feel that you cannot live life with out , dont go hopeless or desperate thats when the wrong girl will comealong and could make your life a living .. well you get the idea. I hope this helps
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