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My best friend is using me!
I have a best friend who always is wanting things from me. My boyfriend told me last night that he thinks she tricks me into it! Last week she said to me, "Can I spend the night at your house this weekend?" and I was really excited and got the OK from my mom. I thought we would have an awesome time, but the entire night she used my computer! The next day I was going job hunting and she said she'd like to tag along for support--but then she started picking up applications for herself and she already has a job! I thought it was kind of messed up.
I don't know though. This week she wanted to spend the night again so we could go dress shopping for the dance coming up. The week before last she wanted to spend the night so we could go to a football game. I feel like all she wants is rides and things bought for her because my mom buys her things if she spends the night (Mom bought her dress AND the football game tickets) and we have plans the next day.
We always give her rides all the time, everywhere, and pay for everything! It's making me really upset. My boyfriend feels that she is tricking me into things by pretending she wants to spend time with me by spending the night at my house but has different reasons by it.
So, last night, I stopped answering my phone when she called. I'm just so sick and tired of hearing how bad she feels about this, that, and the other and her never asking how I am or listening to me when I feel bad. I logged onto my MySpace this morning and she sent me a message saying, "I was so happy it was the weekend...now I can't remember why..." What's that suppose to mean? Is she finally getting the hint that she is spoiled and I can't put up with that crap? What do I do now?
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Talk to her about it. I had a best friend who always wanted to borrow money I didnt have many friends I was a teen mom and it seemed her and I just clicked as friends so I always let her. I moved to a diifferent state with my dad and she still continued to ask me for money. So finally i got mad and told her i wasnt bank. she calls only when she wants something or to tell me something when no one else will anwser their phones. you dont need a friend like that first talk to her and tell her how you feel if she gets offensive then forget. you can make plenty of friends.
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Talk to her about it. Tell her that how you feel. She's never going to get the picture if you don't tell her what's up. She may be a spoiled brat who's also a skilled freeloader, but she's not psychic. The only way she'll understand your point of view is if you open your mouth & tell her what's up.
Don't tell her in a text, online, on the phone, etc. Tell her face to face. It'd be cowardly of you to do it anyway else. It may be easier to resort to technology to tell someone something, but it's the coward's way out and despite everything she's done, you owe it to her.
When you tell her about your feelings, tell her that things have to change & quick or the friendship will end. You need to stick by what you say because if you let it happen over & over with no consequence, she'll keep doing it because nothing's being done. So, if you tell her to quit it & she doesn't, end the friendship.
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doesn't sound like a true friend if you ask me. a real friend does not take advantage of people and this is exactly what she is doing. DON'T let her do it anymore tell her that she can NOT stay overnight anymore and that if she wants a ride to take a bus. The more you feed into it the more she is going to do it because she has gotten away with it in the past. Step up to the plate and tell her where she stands and let her know that you will not tolerate it and if she tries to get sympathy out of you or even gets mad than you know that is what she wanted all along. You don't need a friend like that tell her to feed her habit off of someone eles
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