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How do I tell my parents how I feel about our relationship?
I'm 18 now, but my parents and I have stopped getting along so well since I was about 15. I miss it terribly.
They always say they're so good to me because they're always giving me things (it's true). I really do appreciate those things but I want more than material things from them. I want to feel loved. I want hugs and kisses and long talks about school and boys.
I'm always a little depressed over this. I know sometimes I give them a bit of an attitude because of this frustration. I want to explain to them that I need more than things bought for me. I want to develop a good relationship with them again.
How do I explain this to my parents?
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i can relate to you so much!....exactly how you just said it over here...tell this to them :)....tell them straight up how you feel. don't sugar coat it, just say exactly how you feel. tell them " i miss you so much, i miss being able to come to you guys about anything, everything, feeling loved, and this has made me so deppressed, and thats why i'm always giving you guys so much attitude, i appreciate everything you do, but i need you emotionally too etc." just anything....this worked for me..i hope it can work for you if you try :D
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I think you should just sit down with them and tell them what you think. Tell them what you just said here.
And you can also be more open to them. Like just gradually bring up what's happening in your life. First bring up something small, such as what you did at school...then if you keep talking, you'll eventually talk about more things.
And do some fun activities with them during the weekend. Just surprisingly be like "let's do something for the weekend"...you could start out with something small, like going to a cool restaurant...and maybe eventually you and your parents will be doing more bonding.
Just show them you care about them and that even though you appreciate the things they give, show them that your parents and their love are more important to you than any THING they give.
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That's exactly how it was for me. Still dealing with it but it went to a further extent than that. But that's another story. Just sit down and talk to them. Tell them exactly what you told us here. My parents were always wondering why I don't talk to them anymore. They always complained, "we give you everything!" But obviously, what I wanted wasn't "stuff" it was just to feel wanted by them. So just sit down and talk to them and let them know how you feel about this.
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Sit down and talk to them, Tell your parents that you have something that has been bothering you for a long time and you really need to talk about it. Then start the conversation off by "Mom, Dad..lately I have been feeling depressed because I feel like we our relationship and communication is not as strong as it used to be" etc. Then explain to them what you want to change. Basically everything you said above is pretty much what you need to tell them.
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