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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!




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Ok im 13 gunna be 14 and i ahve a bf of ova 9 months and my mom doesnt let me do n e thing like evn if his mom iz there or n e thing i mean come on its like she iz tryn amake my life hell i have been goin to his foot-ball practices a lot lately like every night so i called my mom and asked her if i could go tonight and she sed NO!! so surprizing!! u kno cuz we r goin bra shoppin. WOW bundles of flippin fun!!! but n e wayz she was all like o yea when your sisters were your age they only gut to see there bf'z a couple times a week i was like come on man i go and watch him practice then i leave cuz i usually go wid my friend and i leave b 4 he iz dun so i juss watch him iz not like i get to talk to him and chill wid him and stuff like that!!! it makes me so........... MAD!!! i mean when my sista dannielle was 14 she went to her bf'z house when they had only been goin out for a month i mean come on i am almost 14 and i have been goin out wid my bf for ova 9 months so dont u think that when i turn 14 she should definatley let me go ova hiz house i mean hiz mom will be home n stuff man she makes me so mad some times!!!!! do u think she iz doin this on perpose??? and do u think it iz fair????? sry so long

your mom just probably watches too much tv and thinks your gonna be influenced by other people and turn out into a fast ass little whore, like so many 13 and 14 yr olds out there. you cant be mad at her for being over protective. and maybe bra shopping, isnt fun to you, but maybe it is important to her, cuz its some womanly quality time you guys can spend together. i bet you never thought of it that way, but thats okay. and just talk to your mom and let her know, that you are only 14 and you are not gonan go out and do something stupid, that you are not that type of girl. you have respect for yourself.

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theres this guy that has liked me for quite some time now, i even got in a fight with him b/c he liked me during the time he had a g/f and i told his girlfriend to ler her know and he denied it. Now theyve been broken up for quite a few months now and he lieks me, and im starting to liek him. him and i ahve said some hurtful things to eachother but now we're over it, we've matured and nwo we tslk to eachother again. my best friend still cant believe that i would even be friends with him after some thigns that he's said. she tells me that i shouldnt give him a chance. but i want to. what do i do? my best friend practically hates him. please help..i rate good!!!

who cares if your friend doesnt like him. she probably really does, and is acting like that cuz she dont want you to have him. and if she really doesnt like him, then oh well, she dont have to. he wont be her man he will be yours. so if you like him just go for him. dont worry about your friend, im sure she wouldnt be worrying about you when she likes a boy.

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A lot of people say this "proactiv" solution works. It is always being advertised on tv and online. I am so ready to order it, but then I stop and think,..like hello? it's from the infomerical! And do they have it available at stores, so I'll know it really does work?

im not usre if they have it at stores. but i do know that it works cuz it cleared my friend up quick.

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I like this guy, I don't know him that well but he is really cute and is in my honors class so he is smart too. From what i hear, some other girls like him too. We haven't really had a conversation since i've only been in school now for 1 week. I don't know if i should tell him that i think he is hott like some of the other girls, or just look for a guy that isn't in everyones mind.

If i do tell him, how should i say it or bring it up in a conversation.

if i were you i wouldnt go after a guy that all the girls like. unless you like that kind of drama. but if you do decie to approach him, just tell him you are interested in him and ask him if he would like to chill one of these days.

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Ok my bf duznt like my bestest friend and neither duz his friend and it iz hard cuz my friend talks shyt bout my bf then i oviously stick up for him then when my bf talks shyt bout my best friend i stick up for her and im sick of bbein stuck in the middle it aint a nice position to be in i mean im not gunna like not be friends wid her juss bcuz my bf duznt like her and im DEFINATLEY not gunna liek break up wid my bf cuz my best friend dont like him it juss really sux and all my friend duz iz complain bout me alwaiiz talkin bout himn shyt but wat duz she excpect im flippin IN LOVE wid him and i can NEVER get him off my mind!!!! so how can i get them to not like talk bout each otha n try n get along n shyt like dat??????? sry so long

okay well its good that you know that you should still be your friends friend, and you should still be with your bf. if i were you i would just try to talk less about my bf around my friend since i know she isnt particularly crazy about him, and same goes for when you speak about your friend around your bf. and if they start to talk about eachother around you, just simply be like, look shes not you friend, or hes not your bf, so you dont have to like him/her but i do. so stop putting me in the middle, and just leave it alone.

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ok there is this boy i like his name is justin. and we go to highschool together, and im kinda new and dont know anyone. but ok, so i like him, like i cant say yahhh im so madly inlove with him but i like him. and we are both freshmen, yesterday we were in this room and it was his class and my class and i was in there and he whispered something in his friends ear and then he pointed at my feet and goes them are some sweet shoes i like ur shoes, and i smiled and said thank u and then he walkd round the corner and so did i then after that he just like glanced at me like a few times. and then yesterday night my friend calld him and he said heyy did u see that girl with the pink n black on and he goes yeah and he goes well she likes u a lil, and he goes well i got a girl friend, and then my friend goes oh..and then he goes well mayb u should talk to her and then he goes yeah ill talk to her. and then today at lunch he has my 2nd lunch i seen him and he saw me, and he usually sits at a table with all his friends but for some odd reason his friends and him were all standin where i was standing and i was like..ok..and me n my friend were talkn and she knows i like him, and her friend overheard and went up to him and goes heyy and he goes hey and she goes can i talk to u then she pulled him aside and asked him if he had a girlfriend and he sai yeah and she goes how long have yall been going out and he said a year and a month, and she goes ohhh ok..and then he lookd at me n smiled and i smiled back...and so i was wondering how do iknow he likes me, and does he even like me, and if so what should i do...cuz i have his number and i have no clue what to do..or what to say! cuz im like really quite at school cuz i dont know anyone, but goosh how do i know...please help!

thankx for reading your eyes out!

look if hes been with his girl for a year and a month, you shouldnt try to get between them. thats just wrong. and if he does like you, he will let you know and he would probably leave his girl. but dont go breaking them up. let him do it hisself. that is so wrong.

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what is the average size for a male erected penis?

2 sizes too smal.... hey! looks like you make the cut! :)

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I have my senior portrait appointment in a few hours and i dunno what to wear. I'm not on any sports teams or anything. So anyone who has already go them done what did you wear?

wear something nice. like a little formal but not too formal. make sure your hair looks nice and isnt all frizzy or sticking up either. i hate when i take a pic and my hair looks a fuckin reck.

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has anybody been watching the news?? hurricane charlie... is it gunna b near miami?? i really dont think were prepare for a hurricane at my house... i dont think my dad wants to worry about getting ready for it cuz when we do it ends up not hitting us... wut do i do?? i have a dog that is only an outside dog. i think mayb we might b able to put him in the garage but its really hot in there. does anybody have any ideas for any of this?? charlie is already a catagory 1.

let me know when its near pa... i wanna get struck by lightening or blown to kansas. that would be fun.

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i feel like my friends at school might not be the right friends to be hanging out with but i dont know many other people there beacause i'm new. what should i do to find good friends?

join a team or after school club and meet some people who are interested in the same things you are.

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I have really thick hair and i can wear it down there is only one way i can... if i hairspray it when its wet. other than that it poofs out. and if i sraighten it then it looks bad. i am alsoo constantly pukking it back into a pony tail. what are some cute ways i can wear my hair that it isnt too much of a hassle?

wear it high up in a messy bun, thats what i do. or try using oil sheen or pink lotion when you straighten it. also if you get layers cut into it it will thin it out and you might be abel to do more things to it. you can also try getting a relaxer. that might help alot.

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Hey i have a dog and Our family loves him to death. He is an outside dog but we take care of him very well. The problem is that whenever i invite a friend over it seems like they think i abuse my dog and they ask me tons of questions what should i do so that i feel more confedine and not get scared when friends are coming over or when i invite a friend over?

who cares what they think? you know you dont beat your dog, so fuck it.

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does ne1 no who sings the song nuck if you buck?

i sing that song. aint i the shit?

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ok. well i live here in a town called fresno. fresno is a town of really down to earth, cool people. most people aren't really wealthy, which means theres hardly any stuck up snobby people etc.

well.. now im moving to the town next to fresno, called clovis. and clovis is a really nice town. home to people living in MILLION dollar homes. a lot of wealthy people living in that town. so.. theres definetly gonna be snobby rich b**tches there.. and i dont mix well with those kinds of people. meaning, i dont like them lol.

i dont totally have anything aginst them tho, thats just not the type of people i like to hang with or be around..

so of coarse. im going to the school there called buchanan. so like.. im really worried that im not going to make friends because i dont care for rich snobbs which is mainly what the school is made of.

WHAT DO I DO??? how do i make friends..

love, manda

you cant just go judgeing those rich snobs. you might actually get to know some of them and they be the shit. i say just give em a chnace.

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i love my mom honestly i do, but she doesnt trust me....with anything!! not with my computer, phone or even with just my friends!! (especially the guy ones). how can i get her to just trust me?

your mom is just probably scared that you willl be influenced by all the shit that teens your age do. she probably see tv and sees that 13 yr old girls are being fast ass whores, and guy are taking advantage of them. and so many young people are doing drugs and drinking. shes being over protective, cuz she cares about you. just tell her, look mom, you can trust me, im not gonna out and be a crack head or pot head, or a drunken whore. when im on the computer or phone i dont talk about whos doing who and who im gonna do or where the big party is with all the boose and shit. and when im hanging around boys i dont be standing there like a hootchie like come and get it, im giving it away. let her know you are not a fuckin dummy, and you are not trying to live the fast life and ruin yourself.

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i knew this guy for a couple of months and we really seemed to become great friends. we even had some type of conection. but a few months ago he just stopped talking to me. i thought we were friends, and then he just left. hes never on the computer and i dont know his new phone number. and his nephew wont tell me anything! how do i get ahold of him how can i get him back?!

maybe hes avoiding you. maybe he doeant like you anymore. the next time you see him ask him what the hell is up? why does it seem like you dont wanna be my friend anymore. see what he says and take it from there.

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I have had this problem for about 4 years now. My whole body except my stomache is in good shape and I like the way it is and the size. Only problem is my stomache makes me look like im pregnant. I'm 5'3'' and weigh 130-135. I'll try to eat healthy but then at nighttime I'll get so hunfry and want food that I end up getting something to eat like an icecream or sumthing. I know its bad but I don't know how to get over the cravings. Any help on how ot get over the cravings and how to get just my tummy toned. I know your going to say run and crunched but they dont see to help

its probably not the cravings. you just need to work your abs out. try doing crunches. 100 in the morning and 100 at night. but you have to stick with them, the changes dont happen over night.

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im going to a new school and i have a friend there that hangs out with a lot of guys. for some reason im really shy around guys so, what do i do???

how do i break the barrier of being shy towards them?

HELP!!

just get some confidence and be yourself. thast all it is to it. just cuz they are guys dont mean they are like supernatural aliens and shit. you dont have to feel strange around them. just be yourself.

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okay i have 2 best friends and i have a extra ticket to go too carowinds and i dont know who too take!! one is a girl ive had for 3 years and one is a boy ive had for a year and i love them too death

umm.. this is a hard one. if you really cant pick either of them i suggest you dont pick any. try taking someone else. but if you really have to pick... then just do something logical like roll a dice or something or rock paper scissors. lol! I'm sorry, i really dont know... this is a hard one.

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I really want to be popular. Not popular as in "hello, im stuck up and im better than everybody." I wanna be popular as in BE FRIENDS WITH EVERYONE! i dont know how to start a conversation with strangers. any suggestions on how i can achieve this?

join a team or some after school clubs and meet some people.

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