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I can never eat breakfast- one because I'm a bit lazy because I'm tired and two because I'm not a big fan of it, but I know it's unhealthy not to eat it and I know you can gain weight from not eating it because then you pig out at lunch and the rest of the day. Any suggestions [besides fruit] and please note that I'm on a tight scheduale and don't have alot of time to eat or prepare it [no cereal suggestions, please]

same thing with me..just grab a nutri grain..something snack size and quick!
xO LiSa*

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Well, I'm not exactly sure how to put this, because I doubt this question has been asked on here before. I have this boyfriend, and its a long distance relationship, I live in Oklahoma, and he lives in New York,I've known him for more than a year, and we met online, yes, this sounds unbelievably stupid of me, but trust me, I am not a girl who falls for a guy quickly. So, I've met his parents over the phone, seen his family on web camera, and hes sent lots of pictures. So, after we fell in love, now, to give some background, I've never felt this much in love before, I waited a year to start talking about personal things. We started getting, well, really really close. You know, we started to talk about sex, and whether we were virgins or not, and then, it got farther. It took me a while to get into it, but we started to talk a little dirty over the phone, I felt it was wrong because I'm only 15, but I went through with it because my other 4 sisters had been like this with guys at a young age. Not that I wanted to be like them, the main reason was I really loved him, and it truly felt right. But, lets just say that it went farther, farther than any of my sisters have went on the phone, I know its pathetic to freak out about going far on a phone with a guy, but heres the point. I am thinking that my family knows, which is really bad. My sister had made some rude comment mentioning it, and my mom was talking to me about it. She was saying that it one thing to be talking nasty things on the phone, but any farther than that is to the point where any of me or my sisters should not ever be able to talk that guy again. I love my boyfriend so much, I cry and get horrible chills at night, thinking hes going to be taken away from me, so I made a decision to stop talking this way on the phone. But, I have 2 questions.

1-Do you think people suspect or know?

2- Do you think doing this with him was wrong? And can anyone give me some advice what to do?

Also, I've already told myself that I won't go down the path of having sex at 15, I truly think that this was a better way to express our hormones, and if we met, we would continue expressing it this way until we were old enough. Please make note of that.


Sorry for the length of this question, but ratings are promised to you.



~*Carissa*~

By what your family has said I figure that they already know. Also, i learned this in sex-ed..you shouldn't lead a guy on about having sex when you are not because then he gets horny and sperm builds up and if he doesnt get it out of his system its called blue-balls and i hear its really painful.Just try to keep the conversations clean.
xO LiSa*

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Hey. This will probly sound really really stupid, but here goes. How can I make it less embarrassing shopping for underwear... like thongs with my mom???? please help!!

i can understand how that would be emberassing, but just think..wouldn't it be wierder if you didnt wear underwear?everyone has to buy that kind of stuff and if you don't like the fact your mom is shopping with you just tell her it makes you uncomfortable and maybe she can look at a different part of the store while you look for underwear.

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I havn't worn my retainer for a LONG TIME, about 2 years, and my bottom teeth have moved, just the 4 in the frontish, and well, i was wondering, if i started using my retainer now...and delt with the pain, would my teeth move back into place??

i'm afraid not...this happened to me but i didn't wear mine for 2 weeks and you didn't wear yours for 2 years..big difference!!i had to get a new one made so i think you should talk to your orthodotis (sp?) about it.

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Does anyone know of a place (online or a store) that you can get dog tags (the necklaces) with your initials inprinted on them?

Thanks!

basically any pet store (they have a machine) even the walmart in my town has one. they aren't your typical silver ones..they have shapes and colors..bones...hearts..circles..

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ok im confused at school i get made fun of alot because im smart. well normally i just bottle it up and dont do anything because im weak but what i have noticed is sometimes i will get so pissed off that if anyone who hasnt even done anything to me so much as slightly bothers me i blow up at them. i guess i just want to know how can i channel my anger more so at the ppl who piss me off because i hate blowin up at my friends but i cant blow up at the ppl that make fun of me cause im weak as shit and im just confused i dont know wut to do can someone please help me..

to the people that bug you..just say 'if making fun of me gives you confidence, then go ahead you stupid loser' don't get sooo mad at them because if you show you're angry it makes them want to do it more. Just say smart remarks to get them to leave you alone.

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ok well im a 13 yr old female and i had my FIRST period on the 7th and now i am having it again on the 28 and i dont no if this is normal please help me and i am a virgin so i no im not pregnat



thx 4 ur help i ll hate 5's to EVERY1!

don't worry..if you got your period that definetly means your not pregnant. my sex ed teacher told us how periods at our age aren't going to come at a steady pace, so your alright. Don't worry about it it's normal.
xO LiSa*

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hi, i'm new to this subject, how often do you recommend changing a tampon? and is it okay for ppl who just got their 'aunt flow' visit for the first time recently to wear them? thanks

take it out every 4 hours other whys you can get some kind of disease. i never wore a tapon but they are good for if you are going swimming with your period

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this guys keeps calling me prude. i just dont want to waste my first kiss on someone i dont care about. do you think i should just kiss someone and get it over with or just keep waiting for the perfect moment and the perfect guy. i am 14 years old. please help.

Forget him, if he's gunna go around name calling he's way too imature for you.A kiss is something that should be special.Especially your first kiss.I say, save that kiss for a guy that's worth it and not someone who doesn't have respect for you.

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At school I sometimes feel I am too mean. I joke a lot but lately I have been feeling like the jokes are too mean. I don't want people to be insecure about themselves around me. If my friends and I joke around I'll say something a bit harsh and I'll feel like I hurt the person's feelings. Even if I say "Oh, but that joke doesn't work because you're skinny," or something I still feel bad.

Now, don't get me wrong. I am not a mean or horrible person. I am very caring and kind. I just feel I can sometimes get too witty and make a rude, unkind joke. Can someone just help me try and be less mean? Thank you.

This happens to me all the time.I try not to say something unless I thought it through.I know you said you tried that, but that's the only solution. If I'm going to make a blonde joke, I make sure there are no blonde people around who will get offended. Just be aware of your surrondings and things won't be so bad.

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I can't take this anymore! I'm suppose to be going on a cruise with my cousin and we really don't get along! We just got into another fight because she thinks that she is better than me! Don't tell me to "talk to her and tell her how you feel!" She always thinks that she knows more than me..maybe because she's older?? Also, if she can't get her way, she automatically gets pissed at me...I rate high if you don't give me crappy advice..

Don't talk to her..yell at her..get your anger out..say 'i'm sick of you pushing me around!' everytime she talks to you say 'yeah, sure, ok' in a sarcastic way. Eventually she will get annoyed and maybe realize she needs to change and let you speak because you don't care what she has to say anymore
xO LiSa*

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Ok, here goes...background, I'm 30, recently separated and getting divorced. I had not had much of any social life while married, long story and part of the reason for the divorce..anyway, to help meet new people I posted a personal on a website, I met and started emailing with someone, we went to talking on the phone, we've been talking for a few weeks now, at first if I asked about getting together she gently passed the question, then we made plans to get together, she didn't show but called. She has said she was and is scared when it comes to guys in general, she has said she really likes me, and I like her, we talk for hours, but I again asked her out and she just said she's really nervous...I don't know if she wants to date, or if I'm wasting my time. I'm not in a hurry, but at the same time if we like each other, why have we not gotten together, we know alot about each other and it seems mutual, but...DOES SHE WANT TO DATE?? I don't want to pressure her, but she even told me if I don't push her we won't ever get together because she's nervous/scared...What do I do?

Tell her, it's just not the same talking to someone without being able to see who you're talking to. Plan an evening. Say 'Would you like to come to [resturant name] and then a movie in the evening' If she keeps passing up these offers, let her know there's no reason to be nervous around you. Also, let her know how you want to see her and don't like how your relationship isn't getting anywhere.

xO LiSa*

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Hi im vanessa. im 14 years old and i am in 8th grade in ohio. My qwestion is that i dont really have any frends in my school. school will be over in 3 monthes so im kinda happy. all my friends go to the other school acadamies so i see them on the weekends. i dread going to school without friends. sicne the year is almost over should i just try to get through it? i will be seeing my other friends from the other school in my secondary school (highschool) so i am excited. Help?

I know, it used to suck walking through school without a friend. Try to be more friendly, that will get people to talk to you.Say 'hey cute shirt'(unless you have uniforms) lol or comment on their hair. Seriously, don't be afraid, everyone likes a compliment and you'll be sure to recieve a smile. At lunch, sit with someone who doesn't look too busy and wants someone to talk to. Just because you're not going to have school soon doesn't mean you won't need friends for the summer. You still have time to make friends and this summer won't be so boring because you'll have places to go and people to see.

xO LiSa*

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im petrified of dying,evry time i think about it i have butterflys in my stomach and i feel sick. i usally think about it wen im about to go to bed then i carnt sleep.how can i stop feeling so scared of dying?i dont wana see a therepyst.is this normal?
16/f

It's normal. Think of it this way, if you spend all your time worrying, how are you going to have time to enjoy the life that you are given. I wouldn't worry about things like that because as long as you make the best of your life thats all that counts.

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i got a message on here from one of my old friends but i dont know who it is. it said that i can get all my friends back if i am willing to change. i dont know what to do. do i change and get my friends back? or stay the same and have no firends? what would you do if you were in this situation?
plz help!!!!
-MUCH LOVE- &hearts

Well, what is it that they want you to change? If it's how you dress or your style:there's no need to change. If it's your personality and they think you are sometimes cruel, annoying,etc. then yes, try to make a change.Drop one in my inbox and i'll be glad to help you.

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15/f. i moved into a brand new house, and my bedroom is white walls with light beige carpet. Everything so far in my room is red - red bedspread, curtains, lampshades, etc. I want to know what color i should paint my walls cause white is so boring. But i'm not allowed to paint them red cause thats way too much red! i was wondering if hot pink was a good color since its a shade of red, but my mom says that won't match. so can anyone think of a color? Thanks.

orange!!!or yellow!!!here's go to this link and look at some colors...http://www.freewebs.com/baby_bliss_web/color%20chart.htm

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Lately, I've been feeling REALLY lonely. How do I tell my parents that, I don't want to be here anymore? I'm tired of my friends, I'm tired of my family, and I'm tired with the people around. I do hang out with good people who make good decisions--I'm not tired about that. But I don't feel completely happy with them. I sometimes feel a little left out, and I do blame myself for not being more "in the loop". But I don't have that many things in common with them. My parents are also good people. They give me the things I need and have brought me up pretty well. They really are good parents. I'm just sick of living here and being lonely. I feel like theres no one around. I recently just lost my "best friend". She was great, but I did realize that she wasn't exactly the kind of person I want to be friends with (she constantly reassured herself by making fun of other people, she was REALLY competitive @ EVERYTHING, etc.). Is there anything I can do, or anyone I can talk to, or IM? (Theres a lot of other things I'm upset about) Is there anyone who's been in a state of depression or anything? Because I seriously need to talk to someone.

I can relate. Last year I cried at least twice a month because I moved the year before and everything was so much differente.This year, since I'm going to a different middle school I made tons of friends and everything worked out better.Next year, I'll be in high school,a whole new adventure. but change isn't always bad.Try to be more outgoing and fun, sometimes I feel left out but try to make your way in.

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ok umm im going to this kids house i just met and hes cool and i have bin talking too himALOT and his friends and everything and he wants me too go too his house after easter and sleep over but hes not sure if i can bring a friend and people are saying thats not a good idea cause they think i dont no him thaat well but like he is really nice and he would never ever do that and his mom is one of my teachers and i dont no she wont find out cause we are gong too his dads house and i dont no he are going to smoke and drink and i dont no what too do?

Sleepovers aren't something you do with the oppisite sex....if there is drinking and drugs involved don't go. There are a whole lot of risks with this situation but if you're willing to put yourself in a dangerous situation go, but I would advise you didn't.

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okay at the end of the year we have a 8th grade dance..and this guy asked me to it just as friends and i said yes because we've always been pretty close..but i found out that he flashed girls twice in the same day..@ school! soo yeah it just disgusted me and i don't want to go with him anymore..but i don't know what to tell him. and thats where the problem enlies.
i rate good. unless your a dumbass about what you write back. thanks.

tell him that you thought what he did was immature and until he proves he's mature you aren't going anywhere especially in public with him..yeah kinda harsh, but at least he'll get the point.

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I feel like the worst person in the world. On March 17 me and my boyfriend of 3 years got into a huuuge fight because he cheated on me. Our relationship was sooo good and we always got told that we were the role model for couples, well anyways..we got into a huge fight and we said things that we didnt mean and I told him that I wish he wasnt in my life and he would just die because I hated him so much, those were my exact words. Later that night at 11:26 I got a phone call from his sister (we were really close, she was like a little sister to me) she was crying really hard and she told me that she had found him in his room laying on the floor, dead. I didnt even know what to do with myself. He had taken a gun to his head. She read me a note that he left and it said "I'm so sorry, I love you so much" thats all it said, and he had the date that we started going out until forever carved into his arm. That night when my parents found out they tried to comfort me and all that but I just didnt want to be around anyone. I went to my room and I cut myself so bad and my mom walked in and stopped me and just held me and I cried for hours, with my wrists bleeding, and I fell asleep crying in my moms arms. I'm getting help now. I went to his funeral and it was the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life, I fell to the floor when I went up to his casket at the wake and his mom had to pick me up and just hold me while we cried. I go to his house all the time and talk to his family and just tell them how sorry I am and we talk about all of our memories. I havent slept since the night it happened, and I havent been to school, the doctors say I probably wont go to school for about another month, I might be homeschooled. I can't even look at myself anymore. I can't beleive those hateful words were the last words I ever got to tell the love of my life. I'm sorry it is really long but does anyone have any advice on how to help me get through this?

I got chills just reading this. Hurting yourself and bringing yourself down won't bring him back. He made the choice to cheat on you and you were only reacting because you were in shock. I know it's so incredibly hard, but you have to move on with your life. Focus on your plans for the future..job options..etc..It's alright to think of him, but please don't get all worked up over this because unfortunatley people can't just come back.

xO LiSa(

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