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ok im confused at school i get made fun of alot because im smart. well normally i just bottle it up and dont do anything because im weak but what i have noticed is sometimes i will get so pissed off that if anyone who hasnt even done anything to me so much as slightly bothers me i blow up at them. i guess i just want to know how can i channel my anger more so at the ppl who piss me off because i hate blowin up at my friends but i cant blow up at the ppl that make fun of me cause im weak as shit and im just confused i dont know wut to do can someone please help me..
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Out of all the things in the world to get made fun of, they chose your intelligence. People make fun of others because they're jealous; and in your case, they want to be as smart as you. Don't get mad that they make fun of you, at least you have your priorities straight.
Take getting teased about being smart a compliment. Intelligence gets you into good colleges, and gets you farther in life than not being smart ever will.
If you have anger, write it down. Whoever it may be towards, just write it down. You can read it and laugh about it later, and think about how much of an idiot those people were. Wait until you get older, they'll regret it and you'll be happier that they made fun of you instead of you making wrong choices.
♥ Summer
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I get teased a lot at school too. I get mad at my friends who say the slightest thing of mean things and I blow up too. I suggest that after you blow up at your friends, definitly apologize and tell them that sometimes that happens to you. Try asking your friends for help. Are they with you when kids tease you?
I hope I helped!
let me know how it goes
*good luck*
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you blow up at people who dont do anything to you..because your holding your anger in.So if the people who bother you..do it again..tell them to STOP or say "im sick of you bothering me'" or something. You will feel more releived and happy..so you wont blow up and innocent people. These losers who make fun of you for smarts..tell them your happy your smart because smart people go far in life..get in a good college..and have a good future. So tell them making fun of you for being smart is pretty dumb because smarts get you far in this country.
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If students are being assaulted at school, and the school system is aware of it and does nothing, the parents need to take action. If the school system blows off the parents, then it's time to take legal action. Usually the threat of legal action will be enough, especially if heavy hitters are involved (like the ACLU). I don't care how good the test scores are, if students are being assaulted as part of their school day the school system is negligent. What you described happening to that girl isn't harassment, it's assault. I don't have enough details on what's happening to you, but I'm guessing it's assault as well.
If your parents are dismissive, try talking to other kids who are targets. Hopefully someone's parent will be brave enough to speak up for you. If not, perhaps if several of you carry around little recorders and then anonymously send the tapes to both the school board and a local paper, something will get done when they realize your not just being melodramatic.
The best survival tactic I can give is to move in groups.
* When the bully comes up and starts picking on one of you, allow that person to shrink back into the group and try to have two people replace him/her in front of the bully. It will force the bully to change targets. Keep this up, that way no one gets the full force of the attack, and hopefully it will delay or reduce the number of punches thrown.
* Don't be silent. Everyone in the group can file a complaint every single time an incident occurs. Encourage your friends to keep a journal of incidences too. If nothing else, after you graduate, you all turn in your notebooks as testimony that something needs to be done to shape up that school.
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with the exception of rainbowcherrie, who had such good advice on handling anger that I will skip advising you on that, I don't think the previous answers were horribly helpful, so I'm gonna give it a go.
Are you being teased only with words, or is there any physical contact going on? For instance, is someone always bumping you into the wall, pinching you, taking your pencils and throwing them in the street, sending spitballs at you, etc. If there is any sort of physical contact going on, you need to talk to an authority figure and see what they can do about it. You don't have to be beaten to a pulp before they should do something.
I know that "just words" is a bit dismissive. Words are powerful, and can hurt. If you are not in danger of being punched, expand your vocabulary enough to insult them back without them knowing what you said, or practice witty comebacks to their usual insults. If you are in danger of being punched, don't egg them on, but talk to an authority figure about what can be done to insure your safety at school.
You may have better luck if you talk to your parents first, and have them be the ones who talk to the authorities at school.
Also, it may be helpful to know that once you get through school and get off to college and/or work, things will be very different. People with a purpose (like building a plane, or balancing ledgers, or making artwork) interact civilly with each other because they have that common goal and realize that they need to work together.
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People who make fun of you are just jealous because they are stupid...((i mean that like they arent as smart as you))...and they are insecure! GET STRONG!!!! Control your anger man! Get something you can squeese like a squishy ball type thing that controls you anger by squeezing it. And if you can blow up at your friends......THEN BLOW UP AT THE OTHA PPL! lol asHleyx3
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dont let people making fun of you for being smart bother you. use it to your advantage. im reletively smart in my chemistry class and the first few weeks the guys in front of me made fun of me because i knew how to do the stuff and got a's on the tests without trying. but after a while they were begging me to help them with it. dont take it out on your friends. thats a big no-no. if they dont deserve the heat, dont give it to them. and if that doesnt work and you do need to chanel your anger, play a sport, work out, do something. go buy a punching bag and set it up in your room or go out and run for a while. just getting the exercise will calm you down. :)
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Hey! i know what thats like. try to tell them to leave you alone and if they really bug you just remind them you will be making lots of money while they are flipping burgers =]!...also what grade are you in? sometimes it gets better as you get older. try to defend yourself or talk to a friend to get out your anger. if someone is REALLY harassing you tell a teacher or guidance councelor.
hope that helps
<3 rememberxforever
P.S: KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!
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It's always easier to blow up at someone you care for. You know what the reaction will be and you know they will love you anyway!
You are smarter than they are so just ignore them as best you can. Stupid people are always loud and obnoxious but most people don't pay any attention to them. They are just to stupid to bother about okay?
I think if you got angry at them it would just give them encouragment.I remember when I was in middle school I had just moved to a new school. There was this boy who decided it would be a hoot to tell everyone I had cooties! Being me I decided if I had them I might as well share. So the next time he started in I said 'yes I do here ya want some of them?' I kept after him for a bit but ya know what, never got teased about anything again. Try to handle it with a sense of humor.
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to the people that bug you..just say 'if making fun of me gives you confidence, then go ahead you stupid loser' don't get sooo mad at them because if you show you're angry it makes them want to do it more. Just say smart remarks to get them to leave you alone.
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I dont see why people would wanna make fun of you because you are smart. The world is becoming a strage place these days. Well if I was you I would find someone to talk to about it such as a friend an adult you trust or a school cons. Good luck I hope things get better for you
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First off, if people make fun of you then you should talk to an adult. You shouldn't have to put up with that treatment, tell a teacher, parent, any trusted adult to get the teasing stopped. That will probably stop you getting so angry in the first place. I used to self harm when I was frustrated or angry, here are some of the things I was told to do as an alternative.
- Write something. It sounds stupid but that doesn't matter. Write whatever you like, it doesn't have to be serious, it could just be a list of your feelings, an angry poem or even a song. Anything to just release all the tension inside you.
- Scream. Seriously, this is the best way to get all the anger out of you. If it isn't convenient to do it outloud, do it into a pillow or cushion.
- Use a stress ball or punch something. Imagine that the thing you are punching/squeezing is the person who's made you angry. That is always fun.
- Draw. Anything. Just grab a pen or pencil and put everything you feel into a picture. It doesn't have to be good, it just has to be what you feel.
- Listen to the heaviest music you have on full volume and dance to it. This is strangly calming.
If you aren't in a place where you can do most of the suggestions above, just walk away and count to ten, taking deep breaths in between each number. It might not calm you down instantly but it should help.
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