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I think I'm too mean.
At school I sometimes feel I am too mean. I joke a lot but lately I have been feeling like the jokes are too mean. I don't want people to be insecure about themselves around me. If my friends and I joke around I'll say something a bit harsh and I'll feel like I hurt the person's feelings. Even if I say "Oh, but that joke doesn't work because you're skinny," or something I still feel bad.
Now, don't get me wrong. I am not a mean or horrible person. I am very caring and kind. I just feel I can sometimes get too witty and make a rude, unkind joke. Can someone just help me try and be less mean? Thank you.
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It is just the way your sense of humor is.I'd be willing to bet that you've almost always had it, and that your friends know how you are! If you think someone was over sensitive about something you said just tell them, you know I'm kidding and hope for the best.
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That's happened to me before. What I do is say 'sorry' right after I say something mean, it saves a lot of talking behind my back people might want to do later.
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First step, if you have said something that you think offended or hurt someone apologize immediately, thier response to your apology may let you know if you did go too far.
Second step, it takes 2 weeks to make a habit, to help you think and avoid slipping, if a joke comes to mind, take a deep breath, this will make you pause and think, you will really have to pay close attention to this the first couple of weeks to make it work, but after you get used to it you should be better able to avoid slips
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This happens to me all the time.I try not to say something unless I thought it through.I know you said you tried that, but that's the only solution. If I'm going to make a blonde joke, I make sure there are no blonde people around who will get offended. Just be aware of your surrondings and things won't be so bad.
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just joke around, but always make sure you watch wat you say..a witty person is always fun, but if they take it over the top people tend to get pissed off. So when you feel like ur about to go over the top just stop making jokes....and whatch what your about to say....once you've done that for a while...you'll get used to it and not have to worry about what your gunna say...
good luck
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I know exactly how you feel. I am a very sarcastic person and I feel like sometimes it may hurt others feelings. But thats just the way I am. It really depends on who your talking to. If your best friend really knows you, then she should know that your just jokin around with her~ as for those others that think your bein "too mean" who cares? Having an attitude is tough, trust me I know. I always want to speak my mind on every little situation, even when my opinion isnt asked for. Being witty is a good thing. Its good to be clever; just not all the time. Try to be a little less aggressive in a conversation, and not make as many clever comments, because sometimes that can be very intimidating, and may make you come off as a bitch, even though thats not how you really are! Hope this helped!
♥Emily
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hey i hope this helps maybe you should try and put yourself in there position because it sounds like to me you dont mean it when you say that kind of stuff. So think before you say something cuz it might hurt there feelings. feedback please and good luck-KaYyLa
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Just watch yourself. Like when your about to say something catch your self and dont say it. It works! Think about what your gonna say before you say it...:)
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