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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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18/F
Well, telling the whole story could potentially take a while, so I'll do my best to summarize. There's this guy--let's call him Bob--and he and I have been really good friends basically since we met. I always kind of had a crush on him, but he always had a girlfriend. Then his gf turned out to be a lying bitch, and they broke up, and wonder of wonders, he asked me out. Of course, I said yes. We dated for five months total, and we had a really great relationship. We never really argued, we got along great, I loved him more than anything. He was even talking about us potentially getting married one day.

Well, he had this really close female friend--we'll call her Mary. After we'd been dating for about three months, he realized he had feelings for her, and broke up with me. It only lasted for about two days and then he came back to me, saying he'd made a huge mistake, didn't want to lose me, etc. I took him back, and he promised me it wasn't going to happen again.

Of course, it did. He broke up with me, and he's been going out with Mary ever since. Now, I don't know what to do. He's my best friend, and I don't want to change that. But I still can't help but have feelings for him. I guess you could say he was my "first love," and I'm having issues getting over the whole thing. I still get jealous just about every time I see Mary, or anyone mentions her, or anything. It's been months, and I know I should be over it by now--and it doesn't hurt as bad as it used to, but I just can't seem to stop being bothered entirely.

What should I do? Any advice would be vastly appreciated. Thanks. =)

Start dating again, or occupy yourself with a sport or a job; if you don't do those/have one already. =)

But like I've said before, time heals everything.

how can i stay more relaxed at school? usually i feel kinda tense, unless for like when classes start/end, in gym, lunch... er... yea like that. like even in homeroom when i walk in sometimes i feel like theres attention on me, especially if i was late. like today i was late because of my bus so it wasnt really my fault and i couldnt have prevented it. so i try to get there early when like nobodys there when i feel comfy. but then sometimes i start to feel kinda twitchy, especially when nobody is talking and its like quiet.. and maybe like the teacher is just talking, and i may not be around my friends in the class. ughh i'd like to be more comfy.. im not exactly sure why i feel like.. i guess it would be anxious.

I would see a doctor about that.

I spent the night at two of my best friend's houses two nights ago. We were talking about our secrets and I didn't really have any, so they started saying there's. After saying a few, one of them asked the other if they could tell me "the secret." She started freaking out and was saying how I would think she was a freak and stuff. They finally told me and the secret was that they used to cut themselves. I feel so bad because I didn't know about it, so I couldn't help them in any way. One of them is extremely sensitive and the guy who caused her to start doing that is moving into her neighborhood, so it's possible she could continue cutting. If she does, what are some signs? I know like wearing long sleeve shirts all the time and stuff, but are there any others? Like just the way they act or something?

She'll wear long sleeves a lot, even if it's really hot outside. Sometimes she won't be in school [that's if it gets too severe], and she'll hide things from you. If you ask her what's going on, she'll lie & say she's fine. And she'll seem really distant.

how soon can you get pregnacy symptoms ?

About a month after sex, or maybe a little sooner. Take a pregnancy test to make sure though before you scare yourself.

This might seem gross but ever since i was a little girl I've had discharge and now its gotten really bad and I have a bad gross odor to it
I've had the odor since 6 maybe or even before that and I'm 14 now.
I'm afraid to douche just because I'm really uncomfortable with it and I think I should go to the gynecoligist now that I'm over 13 but I guess I've been a little self conscious about it but it something it really wrong with me I should go

Could this be an infection or a serious problem?

Discharge is normal, you're always gonna get it. Just douche if you'd like, & wash yourself for a longer time than usual. =) But don't worry about it. And if you're uncomfortable about going to the gynocologist because you're scared it might be a man, then you can ask for a woman. =)

I was just wondering how long after someone fingers you, if your a virgin, would u bleed. It happened last night and I started bleeding today. We never had sex but is this possible or could it be something like an early period? Thanx

It's probably an early period since you would've bled the moment he did it. Nothing to worry about.

ok well im 15 n its so sad n embarassing but ive never had a boyfriend or done any thing with a guy. in grade 8 i used 2 hang out with other ppl but we kinda grew apart n now i have new friends. so last year (grade 9) my new friends asked how many boyfriends i had and i came clean and said none. i no that u dont like fakes but i lied and i said i had 1 before but we only went out for a week and i dont really count that as having a boyfriend. well my friends arent geeks or anything and 2 make it more embarassing for me they always have a boyfriend and theyve all had sex before. outside of skool i dont have a lot of friends and i dont go to parties because my mom is wierd like that so i cant meet guys that way. also my confidence is really bad since i think im so ugly and im not really fat but i have a bit of fat on my stomach. also i dont like attention drawn to myself so i dont dress like i want to so that people will pay attention to me. my eyebrows arent really bad but i dont get them waxed so they are a little on the bushy side. i always think that if i fix those things that guys would like me but i never do.well srry this is so long of a problem but i would really appreciate help and thanks in advance

Boys, sex & popularity aren't everything. Save yourself for when you're ready, be happy with being single & having no bf drama, and coolness because you've made a "home run" doesn't last long.

well i had sex with this kid in janurary without a condom for like 2 mins and he pretty much just laid there with it in and he didnt cum and like last week i had sex with my boyfriend and the condom broke and he cumed inside me and if im pregnate whoses baby would it mostly likely be ? i had my period in janurary and it was normal and i had my period on the 25 of feb. for like three days but it was heavy and that was like right after i had sex with my boyfriend

If you were pregnant, it'd probably be your boyfriend's since he came in you, but then again, there's always pre cum, so who knows who's baby it is?

Next time use a condom.

its kinda weird that i have my own advice cloumn here but yet have more problems then half the ppl here... anyway...

my best friend who ive known since i was like 0 is a year younger then me and this is her freshamn year and shes messing her entire life up shes sneaking out all the time and having UNPROTECTED sex with a boy shes not even dating and who is 17 and whos using her and she knows it but wont stop and shes hanging out with the wrong ppl and her parents favor her older sister and shes just ruining everything for herslef shes a georgous girl and was validvictorian in 8th grade and has everything good going for her and is throwing it all out the window ive talked to her numerous times about all this and she says shes gonna change but doesnt and im just afraid shes gonna end up pregnany with a mixed baby and ruin her life forever PLEASE HELP ME thanks in advance!

Tell her parents. They might favor her sister but that doesn't mean they could give a lesser fuck about her. Tell them & save her. Or suggest to a counselor that your friend needs help. She obviously does.

I had this boyfriend Timothy for about 4 months.
he was a great boyfriend. I broke up with him one time, because my friends didnt like him at all, and i love my friends to death. but, we got back together about a month after and we went out for another month, until this "incident."
he was on a bus with his friends and my two friends allison and shante sat on his lap and started making out with him. he didnt even tell me it happened. the girls did! i cursed him out and i was really mad at him for a while, but eventually i forgave him and the girls. i still like him alot, and he said he likes me so much and wants to go out with me again, but i can't. i like him alot, but i cant risk being hurt again. i miss him holding me and the way he tickled me and kissed me, but, i still can't give him another chance. what should i do about it? should i be friends with benefits? should i give him another chance?

If you really like him, give him another chance, but if it happens again, then dump him.

13/f. you can see my ribs but im overweight. like from the bottom of my ribs and up i look pretty much anorexic i hate it i cant lift anything and from bottom of my ribs down i am very big and overweight all fat no muscle. my stomach is most of my problem. but my ass is small but all fat and my legs are just plain big. so what exercises do i do. the docter says its bad but no duh she said to exercise but how. plz help me

Exercise:

Do sit ups/crunches.
Run, walk & jog.
Do pushups, and pull ups if it's possible.
Jump rope, and do jumping jacks.
Lift weights.
Swim.

Diet:
Drink 8 glasses of water a day.
Drink 4 glasses of milk a day.
Drink lots of OJ.
Eat healthy things like granola, fruits, veggies.
Eat meat & bread.

Things to stay away from:
Stay away from sweets/sodas.
No cookies, no fast food, no cupcakes or chips.
No juices high in sugar.
No ice cream.

Other tips:
Don't eat or exercise right before bed. If you eat before bed, you're gonna get energy & you can't have energy & go to bed. Don't drink anything caffeinated & go to bed. If you do that, you're basically not gonna be able to sleep. Don't exercise right before bed because then you're body won't be relaxed, and you won't be able to rest.

Try to do all that, and that should help. Also, don't become discouraged if you gain weight since muscle weighs more than fat does. =)

uhh how long is a guys penis when he's 16?

The average for a guys penis is 6-6.5 inches. It depends on the guy though. Not every guy has the same size penis. Some guys are normal sized, some guys are big, & some are small. Some are just right.

Ok I've been on the Depo shot for a while now and just recently my boyfriend came in me. So what's the chance that I could get pregnant .

There's not a high chance. The pill is like 99.9% effective. I doubt you'll be in the unlucky 1 percent. If you're scared, take the morning after pill. It's effective for 72hrs after sex.

But my friend told me about Depo. She said she gained 60lbs on it. It could be her hormones, but I'm not sure. If you don't want that happening, talk to your doctor. =)

If best friends fight, and they've never fought before, does that mean they've stopped loving each other?
People have been coming up to my friend and me and saying 'sorry to hear you two are fighting.' Is it normal to fight? We're not really, but there was an issue involving the guy she's with making up stuff about me. I talked to her about it and this whole dramatic thing started.
Can we fix this? I told you, we've never fought, ever, in our three years of friendship.
What can we do?

Fights are needed in any relationship to keep them healthy & strong, but too much fighting can be bad.

Anyways, talk to her about it calmly & try to resolve it with her.

what would count as mental or emotional abuse from parents?

When they make you feel less of a person, or they make you feel bad a lot. Neglect, or putting you down a lot. Things like that.

when you have sex is it really necessary to be on the pill and have the guy wear a condom? or is it safe enough to just have a condom

It's better to have both. Just in case the condom breaks or whatever, you still have some sort of protection from pregnancy. =)

hey
(sorry if this is in the wrong cat.) i write poems all the time and i also write other things, does anyboday know any sites where you can go and enter your poem or story thing for like a competion or anything..
but also something that is free and i dont have to download anything
thanks in advance

www.poetry.com

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my boyfriend and i are good together, and not much can come between us... except for my best friend. my best friend is a guy. and my boyfriends quite and is kinda emo. he gets upset easliy, and when he does he just listens to music. and then when he does that durring lunch. i lean towards my best friend, and we arent touchie, like we joke around, like try to pick each others noses (yes we are 9th graders) and my boyfriend always gets pissed. and is like you were all over him. im kinda temped to break up with him, but i love him. and i dont know. would you like to give some adivce.. ? please

He has the right to be jealous. My boyfriend's jealous of my close friend & I. My close friend is also a guy. I told my boyfriend that me & my friend are JUST FRIENDS and that's it. We have no interest in each other, and we're just super close. I also told him I see my friend as a brother figure more than a boyfriend figure. Let him know that, and if he still gets jealous, then I'd let him go. Jealousy is healthy for a relationship, and sometimes it's okay, but too much of it can make you feel crowded.

my best friend, hes amazing, loud, hiper, HOTT (!), and depressed. and i cant help but have feelings for him, i mean im a horney girl (lol). but i miss him, he was admitted to the phsc ward in a hospitale. and i havent talked to him in 3 days. and i need to talk to him sooooo badly. but like he knows my number, and i know that there is a pay phone there. but i know he has like really bad depression and i know he gets embarrassed easily, and i know he likes me. and he dosent know i know hes in there. but his mom told me (and his mom told him to call me). and i know he has feelings for me. do you think hes embarrassed? what do you think i should do?

Yeah, he's embarassed. Guys don't like showing emotion or looking weak because their whole life they've been told that things like that, & crying aren't manly so they hardly ever show emotion. Anyways, go visit him, and when he gets out of there, ask him out! You like him, he likes you, go for it. =)

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