|
need a boyfriend
ok well im 15 n its so sad n embarassing but ive never had a boyfriend or done any thing with a guy. in grade 8 i used 2 hang out with other ppl but we kinda grew apart n now i have new friends. so last year (grade 9) my new friends asked how many boyfriends i had and i came clean and said none. i no that u dont like fakes but i lied and i said i had 1 before but we only went out for a week and i dont really count that as having a boyfriend. well my friends arent geeks or anything and 2 make it more embarassing for me they always have a boyfriend and theyve all had sex before. outside of skool i dont have a lot of friends and i dont go to parties because my mom is wierd like that so i cant meet guys that way. also my confidence is really bad since i think im so ugly and im not really fat but i have a bit of fat on my stomach. also i dont like attention drawn to myself so i dont dress like i want to so that people will pay attention to me. my eyebrows arent really bad but i dont get them waxed so they are a little on the bushy side. i always think that if i fix those things that guys would like me but i never do.well srry this is so long of a problem but i would really appreciate help and thanks in advance
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
You don't need to rush into anything. Just because you're 15 doesn't meant that you should of already had a boyfriend by now. A lot of people don't date that young anyways. Just because your friends have boyfriends and already had sex doensn't mean you should. I know that you know better than that and what they do is their decision. Try hanging out with your friends outside of school. That way you would meet more people and talk to more guys. If you find a cute guy that you're interested in, take it slow. There's no need for you to make him your boyfriend right away or to kiss him all that. Just be flirty and get to know him. Have fun with guys but just be classy about it. I'm going to be honest with you. Looks do matter but they shouldn't be worrying about it constantly. I'm sure that you're not ugly and such but if you want to look better and feel more confident, do it for YOURSELF,.. not because you want guys to like you. Get your eyebrows waxed if you really want to. Just do it because you want to feel better about yourself. Be confident with who you are and don't try to change yourself. You'll get a boyfriend and meet a right guy when you're ready. Trust me :]
]
there's nothing wrong with you, trust me. I didn't have a bf for a really long time after most people so i know what you're going through. wait for the guy that doesnt care what you look like but likes you for your personality. trust me, its so much easier to be with someone you don't have to impress. don't dress slutty to get attention... no one likes that. every guy i know disses the girls with slutty picture on their myspace or girls that dress with theyre cleavage all over the place.... yes they get guys but not good ones at all. you don't need to go to parties to meet them... or trashed to get with them... just stay the way you are. be yourself and don't freak out that you don't have a bf yet... it's not a race. all those girls that had sex before are probably going to regret it later. i've been 2 high school and most of the people i know - both guys & girls- are virgins! i'm not a geek that hangs out with nerdy kids either so really, theres no rush. having a bf that isnt meant for you or being in a crappy relationship is not half as fun as being single. just hang with the guys you know or with some of your girls and invite a few guys over. it's not a "party", just hang out. i doubt you are ugly so just be happy with yourself and guys will learn to appreciate who you are. <3
]
hiii.
well gurl its normal a lot of gurls havent had a boyfriend by 15. actually one of my best friends hasnt had one. but she happy.. i think you should just let it happen when its time. your prince charmin will come. Friends can be a really big influence but you dont have to be or act like them. if there your friends they will lisen and just let you be you. good luck. And know theres a guy for you out there. =D you dont have to go to parties to find a guy. actually sometime you end up with the person you least expect to be with. that happen to me. i hope i helped atleast a little.
]
I had the similar problem so don't worry about it all. I can relate to you. Maybe I have it worse because I am not even allow to date until I graduate high school but like that has stopped me :D
Well first of all, about that boyfriend thing, don't worry about it. You are seriously going to find a guy when you least expect it. As to me it has always happened like that. I had never ever dated when I was in middle school. I started the whole "dating scene" when I got into high school. Nothing wrong with that. So you have to let that one come in its own way. Unless you make your self go out of your way to befriend with guys. I didn't before because I was shy and self esteem was down to bottom (i still have pretty low self esteem) but now I introduce myself to guys and whatever because I have found out that guys aren't any different than girls when it comes to making them your new friend. Also more importantly, they are less gossipy and more trustworthy than girls. Now I have more guy friends than girls which I am glad. Also they can help you to be more comfortable around new guys.
Lastly, you don't have to meet guys at parties. I don't get out much neither (in parties because i am not allow to go due to strict parent) but now I don't really care because I have met so many awesome dudes pretty much everywhere.
Such as mall (that's one of the best place)
Wal mart
Events going on in your town or something
If you have more question let me know and hope this helped :D
]
well dont worry about having a boyfriend or doing anything with guys trust me you got time girl. Most people just make up stuff they do with guys to make them sound like they have experience. All you need is some confidence thats what it sounds like. Guys love girls who are confident in themselves and know who they are. Start talking to a guy you think is attractive, put yourself out there. Trust me guys are shy too. Make some guy friends. No guy wants a girl who brags about how many times she's had sex anyway, they only use those types of girls. Confidence is key, soon as i got that i got boys, i have them begging on their knees for me infact.
GOOD LUCK,
Brittni
]
Boys, sex & popularity aren't everything. Save yourself for when you're ready, be happy with being single & having no bf drama, and coolness because you've made a "home run" doesn't last long.
]
More Questions: |