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what can unrequited love do to a man, and how does he usually react towards the object of his love? (link)
Well every man is different. There's no single generalization on which to use for comparison.


i have sex wid my gf but i eject my sperm on her belly so is der any chance for her pregnency?
but her hymen is not break so is she can be pregnen? (link)
You dont need to 'break' the hymen for her to get pregnant. All that needs to happen is for a single sperm cell that is living, to enter the vagina. This is all that is needed for pregnancy.

If you ejaculate on her belly, the only way she can get pregnant, is if the semen dribbles down into her vagina. This of course is very possible.

Also, the penis releases pre-cum which is a natural lubrication ejected by the penis during intercourse. This does contain sperm cells. So if you had sex without a condom on, then she could still get pregnant, even if you did not ejaculate inside of her.

Next time, wear a condom. Or use some sort of birth control! If you can't, then don't have sex!


if a girl gives her partner a hand job, and her partner releases sperm on her hand, and then fingers herself can she get pregnant ? (link)
The chances are that the sperm will die. When it hits the air, the atmosphere and make-up of the air will probably kill it.

Key word being 'PROBABLY'!
There may be a chance of pregnancy. Take a test to be sure.


what does PEC stand for (link)
It really depends on the context:

PEC Professional Education Center
PEC Prince Edward County
PEC Proposta de Emenda à Constituição (politics, Brazil)
PEC Piedmont Environmental Council (Virginia)
PEC Punjab Engineering College (Chandigarh, India)
PEC Predicted Environmental Concentration
PEC PharmacoEconomic Center (US DoD)
PEC Periodic Error Correction
PEC Personal Effects Coverage (Insurance)
PEC Placements Épargne Canada (Canada investment savings)
PEC Perfect Electric Conductor
PEC Pulsed Eddy Current (inspection tool)
PEC President's Export Council
PEC Physical Education Center (Emory University)
PEC Plain English Campaign
PEC Primary Energy Consumption
PEC Progress Energy Carolinas, Inc.
PEC Protestant Episcopal Church
PEC Photoelectrochemistry
PEC Pondicherry Engineering College (Pondicherry, India)
PEC Polyelectrolyte Complex
PEC Program Element Code
PEC Petroleum Energy Center (Japan)
PEC Peace Education Commission
PEC Proximity–Effect Correction
PEC Polymer Engineering Center
PEC Proposal Evaluation Committee
PEC Probable Effect Concentration (toxicology)
PEC Professional Engineers in Construction (division of NSPE)
PEC Product Engineering Center
PEC Pearson Education Canada
PEC Professional Engineering Consultants, Inc.
PEC Palestinian Energy and Environment Research Center
PEC Personal Equipment Connector
PEC Professional Electrical Contractor
PEC Product Engineering Code
PEC Priesthood Executive Committee
PEC Potential Energy Curve
PEC Parallel Earth Conductor
PEC Philippine Electrical Code
PEC Pure Entertainment Company
PEC Public Education Coalition
PEC Project Entropia Cent (gaming, MMORPG)
PEC Preferred Equity Certificate
PEC Professional Eligibility Certificate
PEC Program Execution Client
PEC Passive Experiment Carrier (MEEP, NASA)
PEC Philippine Episcopal Church
PEC Program Evaluation Center
PEC Programas de Concurrencia
PEC Passive Equipment Cabinet
PEC Physical Endurance Course (various organizations)
PEC Public Education Council (Australia)
PEC Professional Engineering Corporation (Fairfax, Virginia)
PEC Profiling E. coli Chromosome
PEC Propeller Electronic Controller (aviation)
PEC Production Equipment Code
PEC Plant Equipment Code
PEC Program/Erase Controller (computer memory)
PEC Photo Electronics Corp
PEC Pulchowk Engineering College (Kathmandu, Nepal)
PEC Protective Electronic Circuit (electronics)
PEC Power Electronics Council
PEC Part Evaluation Cycle
PEC Product Equipment Code (Nortel)
PEC Prion Expert Committee (Japan)
PEC Primary Equipment Custodian
PEC Previously Enjoyed Companion
PEC Pre-Employment Check (background investigation)
PEC Pentagon Episcopal Community
PEC Printed Electrical Circuit
PEC Physics Emotion Cognition (software agent traits)
PEC Parmelee Enterprises Corporation
PEC PEOC3S Executive Committee
PEC Pulse Envelope Correlation
PEC Promotion and Education Committee
PEC Platform Evaluation Confidence
PEC Progressive Educational Complex (Karachi, Pakistan)
PEC Point, Evidence, Comment (writing format)
PEC Primitive Episcopal Church
PEC Passive Equipment Center
PEC Passive Equipment Console
PEC Personal Exposure Concentration (chemicals)
PEC Parramatta Education Centre (Australia)
PEC Presidential Exploratory Committee (politics)
PEC Patient Education Concepts (Houston, TX)
PEC Palmer Events Center (Austin, TX)
PEC Photoelectric Cell
PEC Private Equity Conference (various organizations)
PEC Pacific Energy Center
PEC Parent Engagement Center (Fresno, CA)
PEC Pan-European Crossing
PEC Pakistan Engineering Council
PEC Persistent Elite Creation (gaming)
PEC Priority Existing Chemical
PEC Professional Ethics Committee (various organizations)
PEC Planning and Environment Committee (various locations)
PEC Petrohawk Energy Corporation (various locations)
PEC Personalized Electronic Catalogue
PEC Primary Eye Care (various organizations)


Ever since I was around 11 years of age, I've been masturbating (I'm a female!) with bathwater and etc. Yet when I hit around 16 to my current age it almost seems insatiable. I probably masturbate at least two to three times a day...

Is there a way to cure this or get over it? Make the urges stop coming?

I'm a virgin as well if that helps. (link)
This isn't really a disease where you can cure yourself. Masturbation is completely normal and healthy. 2-3 times a day is not bad. Urges are natural.

Of course, if it interferes with your daily life e.g. you don't see friends as you are masturbating and so on, then its a problem. This is helped by having therapy, and is nothing to be embarrassed about.

Hope I helped :)


Ok so I asked for advice before and I explained I was seeing a man who is with someone with a child and I told him how I feel and he told me he feels same but he can't leave his partner right now but he is gonna plz someone help I actually love him and as much as I wanna cut him out I can't x (link)
If he cannot leave his partner now, then when?! I think it's a front for saying "I don't want to leave my partner, but I still want to be intimate with you". He want his cake, and wishes to eat said cake also.

You however, have to be strong here! You need to weigh up to consequences!

Do you want to have the man that you think you 'love'. He will not leave his partner and his child, and will carry on playing around with you. In the event that he does leave his partner and child, you will be responsible for the break up of a family. And what is to say he won't cheat on you with someone else? I mean, he did it to his partner. I'm sure he loves her. AND he has a child. Why not to you?


You seem to be trying to justify what he is doing, by changing the situation in your mind:

"he can't leave his partner right now but he is gonna" --Why can he not leave his partner now? He is going to? Why? How? When?

"I actually love him" --you may think you love him, but do you really? If your relationship has been purely sexual, what will be the situation when you two are together and the sex isn't as often?

What I am saying is, this will not work. As hard as it may be to cut him out, it needs to be done. We all have to make hard decisions, but a few weeks/months down the line you will realise what you did was right.

I don't know your age, but if you are old enough to have an affair, you must be old enough to recognise your responsibility. One that is undeniable.

Before you make a decision though, think about it rationally. Does he ACTUALLY love you? Do you love him? REALLY? Are you sure its just not a case of wanting what you can't have? Think about it as an outsider looking in.

Good luck.



is it possible to get pregnant when the penis is just brought near the vigna r when it just touches the vigna? (link)
Fortunately, I don't think any member of advicenators was watching in on this moment of idiocy, and so no-one will really know how much of the penis touches the vagina, whether there was semen at the end of the penis, whether it made full contact and so on.

Technically, it is possible. Even if a few hundred sperm cells found their way in, and one got to the egg and fertilised it...you have a baby on your hands.

In practice though, its probably not likely. If the penis just touched the outside of the vagina, the air would have probably killed all the cells. Even if a few made it in, they probably wouldn't have gotten to the egg.

So its not impossible. Just improbable.

Take a pregnancy test, and make sure such idiotic behaviour does not occur again.


what could cause a man to carry a grudge towards a female acquaintance for 4 years, when he did not even explain to her what she did to hurt him?

Why does he seem to sabotage her and outcast her on top of it? Why does it take him so long to move pas things and just let her know what she did? (link)
Well only the person knows about that really. The best option is to clearly speak to him in a calm and reasonable way, however uncomfortable it may make you feel.

So do speak to him, and see what he has to say. Try and resolve the issue at hand, because only he really knows what the problem is (if any).


I want to get a drawing tablet for my laptop just so I can get into drawing and editing. I've found a few nice ones online, but I'm indecisive. Just because I'm not quite sure what brand would be better, and what size would be best. Any and all help thank you! (link)
Hello,

Its hard to help exactly as we don't know if you have a PC or MAC, or your budget etc.

Your best option would be to check amazon, where many people would review the product and you can get a general idea of the product itself.

Also, CNET.com is a good resource for reviews of technology etc. Heres a search for 'drawing tablet' on their website:

http://www.cnet.com/1770-5_1-0.html?query=drawing+tablet&tag=srch



Any website you can find that enables users to review a product will be useful.

Alternatively, if you have an electrical store near you, pop by and see if someone can advise you? Keep in mind that they will be trying to make a sale however.

Hope I helped :)


19/F; This is my first year in college and I am assigned a research paper 6-8 pages long in APA format about Childhood. I can pick any topic within childhood, so I picked Toddlers. I figured it would be something with a lot of information about; I was wrong. I've look in books, internet, and even articles. I can't find anything.


Can you guys help me with a website that I might have overlooked, or maybe a topic within childhood that would have more information and interesting?

I'm not going to copy and paste; I just need some ideas, and facts; so I can use a work sited page.


Thank you so so so so much! (link)
What exactly is it that you wish to study? Behavioural changes?

Toddlers, I would have thought, would have been a topic with alot of research done. Of course there is the infamous "terrible two" period of behavioural changes leading to the child being 'bad'.

Other ideas you can look at is the period of 0-24months maybe? In the period of 2 years, the child starts to walk, talk, etc and so that may be fascinating to look at.

Another fascinating time period can be puberty and leading up to it. This period not only brings on behavioural changes, but also physical changes (which can affect the child behaviour).

If you want to narrow in on something, how about focusing on precocious puberty? Its puberty that occurs as early as 2 years old! Now this would be interesting: focusing on how this affects the child directly, and how the reaction from their peers affects them. Because this is so rare (1 in 5000-10000 occurance), there is quite a bit of research done into it.

In regards to resources, have you tried to widen your google searches? e.g. "behavioural changes toddler" would be a good search entry as it includes only key words.

Have you found any reports on the issue? Even if you find one, you can look at their bibliography/foot notes and see what books and sources were used.

Have you asked library staff to search on their database for you? Maybe they have something which you've missed. Also, don't search just for the toddler period, but books on the whole childhood or life period may contain a bit of information about toddlers.

Have you searched for research on the APA website? When I tried searching for 'toddlers', nothing came up. I did search 'children' which gave a wealth of information. I don't know how much would be of use to you however. I'll paste a link at the end of my answer.

Also, maybe you could ask your teacher to see if they can recommend any resources?

Finally, look for journals on the issue, which contain informative reports and articles. Google "psychology journal" and go from there? You may find them online, or you may find them in large libraries.

The link to the APA search:

http://search.apa.org/search?limited=true§ion=topics&query=children



Hope I helped, and good luck! :)


I usually perceive this offensive odor when i have sex and I went for a medical examination where the result indicated a profuse growth of Escherichia coli. The recommendation I got was to buy Levofloxacin tablets which I have completed its dosage but my boyfriend still complains of the odor every time we have sex. Please i need a lasting cure of this infection. This infection refuses to be totally cured. (link)
Well if its an infection, the way to cure it is to have anti-biotics.

Did you complete the course completely? If so, go to the doctor again and see if they give you something stronger.

If you didn't complete the course, then you're virtually screwed. I assume you did however.

So yes, go to the doctor again and see what they say, in the hope of being prescribed a stronger anti-biotic.

Also, drink plenty of water to flush out any toxins, wash regularly and thoroughly and do plenty of exercise. The usual culprits of course.

Hope I helped :)


Hey 13/F. My friend went out with this guy and they broke up . Then he asked me out so I said yes coz I like him but when he went out with my friend he cheated on her with a nother girl how do I know he is not cheating with me. And I don't wanna ask him thanx (link)
You really don't know that he wont. The chances are that he will.

And have you spoken to your friend about how she feels about you going out with him? Keep in mind that you could lose your friends over this, and then lose this boy too if he cheats.

Its best if you don't get involved:

1. You are too young anyway. Enjoy being a child first.

2. He has cheated on your friend, and will probably cheat on you.

3. I doubt your friend will be too happy about you going out with him. You may lose a very good friend/s over this.


Hi I am new to all this so I don't really no how works but I'm lookin for advice I'm sorta having an affair with someone he has a partner and a child I'm the single one but is he just using me or is there something there I have feelings for him but can't work out if he does me plz help xx (link)
Hello. Welcome to Advicenators. I hope you enjoy your stay. Bathrooms are located to your right. I joke.

Seriously though, stop this. You are involved with a man who has a partner, and a child. If you feel that he doesn't have feelings for you, then let it go. Its unfair to his partner, and (most importantly), the child.

You should surely be mature enough to realise that an affair is a devastating thing. This (I assume) is purely sexual, as you say you're not sure he has feelings for you. I assume he meets you for sex, and not just to watch the sunset and talk about your futures together.

You can have a sexual relationship with anyone. Pick someone who you like, who is single, and does not have children.

You are clearly not in love also. You feel he is using you, you only have 'feelings' for him, and you 'can't work out if he does' you. So it's not too late to be selfless and let this relationship end. You simply are starting to like him, and that's if it has moved on from lust.

And whether he is using you is a matter for you to decide? Do you talk? Do you share your emotions? Do you do anything except for having 'intimate relations' ? If no, then he probably is using you.

So do think about this, and once you have, make the right decision by ending it.

Hope I helped :)


P.S. Below, you will see a ratings scale. Feel free to rate answers depending on how useful you think they are. 1 is 'abusive', 3 is 'neither helpful nor unhelpful', and 5 is 'excellent'. 2 and 4 obviously take their own place.


What are cute nicknames for my boyfriend? (link)
I'm going to give you advice, and I think most people on this site will agree with it.

Nicknames are not someone we can create for you, especially for someone you have a relationship with. Nicknames are personal and spontaneous. Without knowing you, your boyfriend, and every single aspect of your relationship, it would be impossible.

If you cannot think of a nickname, then leave it. The success of a relationship does not depend on what cheesy name you call your other when in each others company.

A nickname should not be thought of, but instead be natural.

That is all.


im 17 and my bf is 19 we have been together since i was 15 and we really want a baby right now, but i cant seem to get pregnant. idk what i should do, i know we can do it, we are both cery responsible and he has a full time job and im finishing school. but i cant get pregnant, idk if maybe my body is just doing the right thing and not letting me get pregnent but i really want a baby. more than anything in the world i want a lil baby girl (or boy) idc what i get. (link)
Why do you want to get pregnant? Children are not supposed to have children. It takes a mature adult to do so. If you cannot see that being a 17 year old mother is irresponsible, then you are not mature enough to have a child. You're finishing school, but how about college?

Is your boyfriends job stable? Does it pay well? It will have to be very stable, and very well paying to raise a child properly. Do you have your own place? If not, then it obviously isn't time. If you do (which I doubt), are there good schools in the area? Will you be able to afford your extra expenses as well as the rent? Insurance? Furniture? etc?

And how strong is your relationship? You may think its fine (as you have been together for 2 years), but that's not enough time! People usually move in together to test the water, then get married after a few years, then decide to have a child when they are stable enough to. To do so before is extremely, EXTREMELY, unfair to the child.

I know this isn't the advice you were seeking, but its the only advice I can give you. Stay in school, get a proper job, mature, think about the responsibility, stop being selfish, and then think about it again when you have the financial and emotional means to do so.


If my hubby is sad or scared or upset he wants me to hold him and calls me mommy. We've been married for almost 13 years and we don't have any children. Is it normal for him to act like this ? He's 35 years old almost 36. (link)
This doesn't seem normal. There's nothing wrong with seeking comfort from a loved one when one is scared or upset, but obviously the 'mommy' thing is odd.

The most obvious reason for this behaviour is that he seeks the comfort from you, which a mother provides. Was his mother absent during the time he was growing up? Any other mother issues you can think of?

I think you should talk to him about this. It may seem uncomfortable, but if you can't talk to your partner, who can you talk to? Stay calm and reasonable, as he may be embarrassed. Just speak to him about it, ask him if there's any particular reason he does it. Maybe he doesn't even realise he does it?

But the next step would be to seek professional help. I doubt it's anything major, but someone like a therapist can definitely help to put his mind at ease, and divulge in his inner psyche to help him, to help himself.


Hope I helped :)


Does anyone know if it's safe to wash with power balance bracelets on. Will water or soap cause damage to them at all? (link)
Upon researching the internet, it seems that you can. Its made of surgical grade silicone (and so waterproof), and people that own it say they use it when swimming.

On the official website, under the FAQ, one question is "can my band get wet?". They answer with "yes." that's all! I don't know if they mean that it is physically possible for it to get wet, or it is okay if it gets wet.

I suppose the best way to know is to contact them directly. Here's the contact page:

http://www.powerbalance.com/contacts

Hope I helped :)


My natural hair color is light ash brown

I died my hair about 3 years ago to a dark brown with red tones. A few months ago I decided to go back to my natural color, so I went to a salon and they professionally lifted my hair color and currently it is a Light Brown but still has some red/brassy tones.. I'm looking to get rid of those tones and make it more ashy color.

To do that, I have been dying my hair every 8 weeks to a light ash brown and it works.. but I'm just sick of always dying my hair.

I did some research and I found this:

http://www.sallybeauty.com/Red-Gold-Corrector-Plus/ARDELL20,default,pd.html?cgid=Hair05-07

should i buy this and put it in my shampoo? according to some reviews, thats what people did and it helped them get rid of those red/gold tones. Or should I put it in a light ash brown hair dye? (link)
Hello.

I have never used this product. The reviews seem mixed on it. It seems to be okay, but I usually advise people to avoid such products. It can damage your hair, and can't possibly be good.

What I advise is to wash your hair with Head + Shoulders. Apparently, its amazing for lifting out hair colour. So do try that before you use this stuff in your hair. Wash it a couple times or so, maybe daily for a week? And see how it works.

If it fails, then obviously try something else e.g. the product above.

Hope I helped :)


Hey there! well I follow some celebrities on Twitter, and a lot of them have the blue verification mark on their profiles, but on two or three don't. I have looked for all the signs to see if these celbrities are the real thing and it seems like they are defintly the real people, but I was just wondering do all of the real celebrites on twitter have the blue verification mark? or can some be the real thing and not have the mark? becuase i have been wanting to know so badly!! please help thankss!(: (link)
Not all real celebrities have the blue tick. One of the reasons for this is that it would be impossible for twitter to know who is classed as a celebrity. It would be easy for big hollywood movie stars, but harder for example with local celebrities, or members of bands.

So yes, not all celebrities have the blue verification mark. At one point, you could apply to have the Verification mark by your name. I suppose they had too many people asking for it, because they stopped. Now they just allocate it, as and when they find someone.

Hope I helped :)


Well,I do think that English Phonetic Pronunciation is not one of your skills,let me explain something:the word ''abuse'' as a noun,finishes with a voiceless sound,that is to say, an 's' and not with the voiced one 'z'..:),only the verb finishes with the voiced 'z',do you know its allophonic trancription though?the one I commented on was the noun,not the verb fella..:( (link)
Take it up with the Oxford English dictionary.




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