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Ok so this boy came round my house today and gave me a Christmas present and told me he loves me. And he thinks we are dating when we are not because I already have a boyfriend. so I have to keep lying to the boy so I don't hurt his feelings and I my boyfriend. but I am so confused on whether I should just go out with none of them because everyone is saying my boyfriend doesn't care about me and the boy does. it's just really stressing me out and I don't know what to do anymore..... (link)
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Well, you're leading this boy on because you have a boyfriend so it's wrong to do that. You need to be honest with him.
If you're with your boyfriend and you don't want to be with him, then break up with him.
Don't listen to what other people say. It's none of their business who you date. So if you don't want to be with your boyfriend, don't be with him. But don't keep lying to this other boy.
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I was in his neighborhood earlier today and i asked him the day earlier if he was busy tomorrow cause i made a lpt of dog biscuits and wantedto give some to his dog and if bpossible if we can hang out. He said idk yet so im guessing replying to the if he was busy sort of thing. Then i was in front of his house because the entire morning he didnt text me back so i thought might as well drop off the cookies if hes not home since i cane all the way there. And after a while he texted becaxk pretty much im summarizong as you cant just drop by someones house without telling them and expect to be let in im helping my parents around the house right now and dropping pff things isnt stayin outside and waiting t be let in but instead to drop off the stuff and leave. /: was i doing something stupid... Honestly i just wanted to see him one last time to see if i could like know what he thinks in person cause like o said things were dofferent in person. Should i ask to hang out again? Idk its like witer break right now and i want to see him once at least this break for sure because once school starys i lose my chances because of schoolwork and etc. (link)
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No, you shouldn't ask him to hang out again.
You shouldn't even talk to him, you shouldn't try to find random excuses to see him or hang out with him.
He's going to think you're obsessed with him and he's obviously not interested in hanging out with you. It sucks, it really does, but you're setting yourself up for heartbreak over and over again and ruining your future chances with him.
Leave the rest of this break for yourself and taking care of yourself. Don't text him, message him or do anything with him.
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I'm an eighteen year old female who thinks she might have depression. I hate that word it's thrown around like an explanation to everyone else's problems when they're feeling low. That's why I don't want to speak to anyone I know about it the would either dismiss it because it's so thrown around plus I don't want to say I might have it if I haven't. I've been to Iapt in the past, I had a difficult upbringing and the doctor showed me how to deal with future situations, but it hasn't helped. It was my birthday yesterday but until I got tipsy I couldn't enjoy myself, everyone had made such an effort but I just wanted to cry. They asked me what I wanted to do after and everyone had different requirements and I iust had to snap and ask them to decide because I felt like I couldn't cope having to make a decision like that the problem was too difficult. I feel so tired lately I don't have the energy to enjoy anything I'm so tired and fed up I any face things, even spending time with my family I love them so much but I just feel so tired and fed up I go to be alone, then my boyfriend jokes he doesn't care but I can't dealt with it it upsets me straight away and f we have an argument I have to walk away or I'm hysterical and it hurts so much. I have random irrational thoughts of hurt or jealously which I don't act on but I feel like a bad person for having them, what is wrong with me? Sometimes I get so fed up with all the problems and endless list of jobs to do I can't cope is think about how I'd feel if something happened to me I love my family I hate my Friends at college now I'm meant I be relaxing but I'm tired and fed up what do I do? (link)
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Like adviceman said, none of us are doctors so we can't tell you whether you have depression or not.
You should just simply go see a doctor. Because there are different types of depression, and depression can also be a symptom of other things so that's why you need to see a doctor. Not only that, if you do have depression or something else, then you can get on the right medication and things will get better.
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I live with both my mother and stepdad and I love both of them very much, but I have a much stronger relationship with my mother than my stepdad, and he doesn't do anything about it. Does this mean anything? (link)
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I don't see why it would mean anything.
I've noticed that it's more common for girls to be closer to their mother than their father, or stepfather in your case. Like the boys being closer to their dads than their mothers.
So really I don't think it means anything.
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I'm 13 and just got my period, but I do swimming 5 times a week and scared of using pads and tampons. don't want to tell my parents and im so stressed I just want it to stop I need help.
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Well you can't stop your period, it's going to come every month until you're like in your 40's. There's no reason to be afraid of it, almost every woman goes through it.
I'm not gonna lie, it's not fun. Cramps hurt, bloating sucks.
There's no reason to be afraid of using pads and tampons. I've heard of girls being afraid of using tampons but not pads. Pads don't go inside of you or anything.
Tampons will take some getting used to though, nothing to be afraid of though.
Just talk to your mom and she'll go through and explain things.
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I was raped at the age of 6. No one knows about this and I want it to remain that way. I am now 24 and engaged to be married to an amazing person and I need to fake my virginity for my wedding day. Please help. (link)
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There is no reason to fake virginity. You can't fake virginity. No one can actually tell if you're a virgin or not.
The hymen doesn't break, it stretches so if you haven't had sex in awhile, it'll be tight.
Plus, honesty is the best thing in relationships so I don't see a reason to hide your past when being raped wasn't your choice.
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I need to lose weight! What you should pay more attention - fitness or food? Thanks (link)
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You need to pay attention to both. You'll lose weight by focusing on what you eat and how you exercise.
So you need to cut out food that's not good for you and eat healthy foods. Like cut out chips, soda, sugar, ect. Make sure you eat enough too.
Then of course you should exercise. Don't over exercise, but exercise enough to build muscle and lose fat.
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Hello I'm in the 8th grade and last fall I was visiting my cousin who lives in another town from me and we were playing kickball at the park down the street from his house. There was a group of girls by the swings and the ball ended up hitting one in the head. She was really mad about it and said she would "kick our ass" if it happened again. She didn't get along as it is with my cousin so We laughed and started yelling back at her and threw the ball at her again. Then that's when she came at me and threw me down and was a full on fight which I ended up getting beat up pretty bad.
Thankfully Her friends and my cousin convinced her to stop after a few minutes even though she was mad and wanted to beat me more because her jeans got stained and wrecked from the fight. I felt so scared dejected, and worried on the way back
To my cousins house because I didn't want my dad to know what happen so we told him I crashed my bike into a tree.
Now this is my problem, the girl doesn't Know me.I'm on the school basketball team and we are playing the school were my cousin goes to, and I found out the girl is a cheerleader for that school! I'm worried and scared that when she sees me she is gonna tell everyone that she beat me up and all my teammates and especially worried my dad is gonna find out because he goes to all my games! I'm also afraid if I deny it she will want to fight me again after the game or something to prove it. Thats something I don't. Want to go through again, and what will people think if they know I'm afraid of a girl? I could always think of a reason to miss The game but we play them a couple more times as well? My dad would wonder why ever time we play them I come up with a reason to not play. My coaches too! Any advise would be great.
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Well at least you have a lesson learned. You really shouldn't try to egg people on because you have no idea who they are, what they're capable of, ect. It was pretty immature of you guys to laugh and throw the ball back again. Of course, she shouldn't have beat you up even if you all deserved it.
So as for right now, you're just going to have to face up to it. It makes you more of a chicken to back out of games because a girl is going to be there. If she says something to you, or wants to fight again, just say you won't fight a girl or something like that.
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I'm from the Philippines and I'm 13. Sorry If I have some grammatical errors.Sometimes in school I just feel like I'm no one. No one ever talks to me unless it's really important. I can't understand. I tried my best for them to notice me, but they don't. I have a few friends, but I they aren't just the friends that can really 'understand' me.
So let me describe myself. I'm pretty (others say) but I'm short and chubby, I can draw well (one of the best in my class I think), I can play the guitar and piano,and I'm an honor student. I think I have a good attitude, but sometimes I'm just shy. I also love books and I'm in different 'fandoms' like I'm a Directioner, a Swiftie, and fans of fiction books like Harry Potter and Percy Jackson. I'm really not the girly girl, I don't like girly fashion like others do.
I just can't understand. Are they avoiding me because I'm shy? Or is it because I'm chubby? Or because I don't like fashion?
I also hate it when they compare me to my sister. She's a year older than me and she's pretty to. We are exactly the same except I'm into fandoms and books and she's into girly things and love stories. I can say she's kinda popular in our school and my classmates adore her. I can't understand why they don't act like that when it comes to me. Not that I'm jealous, but sometimes they don't treat me as me. When others see me they're all like "You're Anna's(not her real name) sister right?"
I tried to be into these girly things, love, etc. But I just can't. I don't really like those stuff.
Sorry if this is kind of confusing. >.< So what can I do to have friends? To make them notice me as I am? Should I change? Please. I need advice. (link)
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Everybody likes different things, has different styles, ect.
I'm just gonna take a guess and say that they don't really talk to you as much because you are shy. Mostly the outgoing people are the ones you make friends easier.
It's suck when people compare you to your siblings. When I was a junior in high school, my younger brother was a freshman and he was much more outgoing so the younger people knew me as "Jack's sister".
It really didn't bother me but I still get what you mean.
So anyways, don't change who you are, just meet people who are interested in the same things you are.
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Do other people see my username when I'm logged in and I ask a question? (link)
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Only the level 2 moderators can. Regular users can't.
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If a gal sees her period on dec 2nd 2013, if she sees her period 27th of the same month,is it normal (link)
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It's pretty normal. I've had that happen a few times.
If you seem to be having problems with it or you're concerned then go see your gynecologist.
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I am a nice person but I have acne, I'm really skinny, have a long neck, a flat chest, a flat butt, huge hands, fat fingers, really small wrists (I can fit in my baby bracelet), and I'm over all ugly. My best friend though is pretty, is big were she needs to be and all the boys like her. Is there something wrong with me? I wear makeup every day to "cover the ugly" but some how it just breaks through. I'm not asking for people to feel sorry for me I just want to know what I'm doing wrong (link)
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You're not doing anything wrong besides being insecure.
Obviously a lot of girls are insecure about how they look, but it really shouldn't be that way. You should learn to love yourself and the confidence will show.
I've seen lots of questions like these where girls are best friends with a pretty girl and they compare themselves to her.
So no, you're not doing anything wrong besides not liking yourself and finding all your flaws. Nobody is perfect and everybody has things they'd like to change but at one point you're going to have to accept yourself and learn to love yourself.
You'll find that even the girls who aren't considered the prettiest of girls can actually get boys because of their confidence.
So my advice is to work on loving yourself.
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I was texting my boyfriend last night and I asked him why he hadn't been talking to me much. He downright told me that he wasn't sexually attracted to me because of my weight. What should I do? Should I break up with him? (link)
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Yeah, he's not worth it and love isn't about looks. Why would he even date you if he wasn't attracted to you? And whatever the answer is, it's extremely immature of him to stop talking you because he's not sexually attracted to you.
It's true that guys have different preferences in girls. Some like smaller girls, some like bigger girls but to stop talking to you because of how you look is extremely immature and he doesn't sound like a great boyfriend so you should break up with him and find someone who will love all of you.
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If any can get pragnent if boy shooted all his cum on the mouth of vigana after having full sex (link)
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Yes, there is a possibility. The best thing to do is for the girl to take a pregnancy test a couple weeks after they had sex. If it comes out positive, then see a doctor.
If she decides to continue having sex, she needs to get on birth control and use condoms.
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Hey. I'm kinda worried about my mum because I was standing next to her and she told me she suddenly couldn't see me standing next to her because her sight was just black. She just can't see the sides. Everything else is fine. :(
Has someone experienced this before? Thanks! (link)
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There could be many reasons why her vision is not so well. So we'd just be guessing and if we guess wrong and it's something far worse, then that will just screw everything up.
So she needs to go to a doctor and see what's going on. She can either go to an eye doctor or the family doctor to see what's going on and how they can help her.
Better to be safe than sorry.
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Hes still not replying... Im scared that this reall is the last time hed talk to me. And i just hate myself for always doing everything wrong... How long do i have to wait? Because i really want him to talk to me even for a little bit. (link)
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Give him space. You're going to make it ten times worse if you keep messaging him.
He'll talk to you eventually, but not if you keep trying to talk to him. If anything, it'll make him block your number or block your facebook, ect.
It's better to wait now and have him talk to you more in the long run rather than annoy the crap out of him and get him to talk to you for only 2 minutes then cut you out completely.
I know you realize by doing these things it'll just push him away, that's all it's been doing, it hasn't progressed you guys any further. It'll make him think the other girl that talks to him is more enjoyable because she doesn't try to make him get together.
I know it's hard, but be patient and don't try talking to him for a few weeks.
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Okay so the boy I like asked for my number the other day and that evening we texted for about 3 hours. Anyway, I'm not sure whether to text him again - I haven't seen him since we last texted so there's not really anything for me to text about :/ I don't know if he'll be expecting me to text though because he started the conversation before. (link)
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If you want to text him, then text him. I agree with MsAdvicenator, just keep it light. Something like, "Hey, whats up", "Just wanted to say hi", things like that. If he seems like he's interested in texting again, then just keep the conversation going like how your day went, just anything in general.
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Ive been going thru depression and I used to tell my best friend every thing and lately I've been so distant with her and it's been hard for me to explain how I feel.. How can I start being able to open up again? And how do I start it? And how can I say sorry for being so distant? (link)
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Are you going to counseling or therapy of some sorts? That will help.
You can just talk to her and tell her that you've just been going through a lot and you're sorry about being distant.
You can even write a note and just let her know through that and explain that things will get better because you are seeking help for your depression.
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so me and my bf been going out for about a month now and were both 15 and he's close to 16. he is really nice and respectful and never had a gf before and we talk on the phone a lot we don't really talk about sex and I tried to start it off by saying what are you wearing but it got to nowhere or he didn't know what I was trying to do and we only kissed before. with my ex's we loved to talk about sex and loved to make out but my bf is different. in need help or tips on how to get him to talk about sex with me and how to get him a little horny. he's a boy so he must have a little freaky side to him. I don't want to have sex cuz I don't think we both ready, but I like to still have a fun with him like making out, talking about sex and let im know its ok to touch me in some places. like they say everyone has a freaky side it just takes the right person to bring it out can anyone help me with any advices please.
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Most of the time it's easy to talk to your boyfriend about it because if you guys have a good relationship, you can talk about anything. Since it's only been a month, you can just try being direct about it.
But I also agree with adviceman. You could ask him about his values and such to see how he feels on the subject. Maybe he doesn't want to do more than just kissing. So you can start from there and see what he says.
Probably not a good idea to talk about sex yet since it's only been a month and you don't want to have sex yet and that would just give him the wrong idea and make him think you're going to eventually give it to him.
So just talk to him and be honest.
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there is this tutor I work with in the tutoring lab in college. She's great and a wonderful person to be around with. She is about 28 and I am 22 and she is engaged,
One thing I forgot to mention before is that I noticed about her is that she was very touchy feely. , like patting me on the back or shoulder.
My class ended a few months ago but I saw her around campus when I was going to meet up with a friend recently and chatted with her
now I find myself going out of my way to that location just so I can hopefully see her and talk to her again. Last week I went and sat there for about half an hour (I had nothing else to do though so I wasn't skipping anything) I just get this extremely good feeling when talking to her or seeing her. Is this creepy?
someone responded this
"You better watch what you're doing or you could end up on the wrong side of her boyfriend and that could result in you with a sore face.
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But this makes no sense, if her boyfriend came after me and attacked me for no reason that would be assault and I can probably press charges
I recently ran into this girl again. She was in the math lab, I went in and started chatting to her and she seemed happy to see me and happy to chat. I get this extremely good feeling whenever I see her or talk to her. I can't explain it
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You've asked this question a few times before. The answers aren't going to change.
Yes, it is wrong. Since you aren't hoping to run into her just because you see her as a friend, it's disrespectful. You're interested in her but she's engaged so that's why it's wrong. You may not be doing anything physically wrong by waiting around hoping to talk to her, but it still is morally wrong and disrespectful.
You're pretty much setting yourself up for heartbreak and I really don't see a point for hoping to run into her when you know absolutely nothing will happen between you two.
It's fine that she is happy to see you. She only sees you as a friend. It doesn't matter why she is touchy feely, it might just be her personality and it's something that you shouldn't read into.
Just stop trying to see her, stop stalking her, and stop reading into this.
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