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Mother/Daughter and Stepdad/Daughter
I live with both my mother and stepdad and I love both of them very much, but I have a much stronger relationship with my mother than my stepdad, and he doesn't do anything about it. Does this mean anything?
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I don't see why it would mean anything.
I've noticed that it's more common for girls to be closer to their mother than their father, or stepfather in your case. Like the boys being closer to their dads than their mothers.
So really I don't think it means anything.
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By stronger relationship, I assume you mean amount of time spent together, one on one not in family events.
Not feeling really close to someone could be a couple different reasons, all perfectly natural and nothing to be concerned about.
It could be you feel drawn more to a certain personality type which doesnt mean he's a bad person, your and his personalitys dont click as easily as yours and moms.
Also, a young teen and college age girl (which I assume you are), can be drawn more to another close female, mom, during the years of puberty and through those of dating and falling in love. Its more about having someone who can relate to what you are going through which is a big thing right then.
If you feel like you can be doing something more, then try seeking him out around the house when he's by himself, ask if he doesnt mind company at the time cus he may need to concentrate on what he's doing. But if he accepts, just sit and chatter away telling him about whats going on in your life, any hopes and dreams and then ask him to tell you stories about himself at your age...what were his hopes and dreams. People like to tell stories about themselves. You don't have to do anything special together, just have those talks, like I did with my dad. It made me feel very close to him. I could tell he enjoyed it too. It gave him a chance to tell me of some observations hes made about me and to compliment and encourage me.
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No, not really. He may feel that you do not want a stronger relationship with him that what you have with him. If you want a stronger relationship with him I believe you will have to take the lead and show him a stronger or fuller type of daughter love than you have been.
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