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Should I give him another chance?
There was a guy I liked for a really long time. To me, he seemed like the ideal partner, except for a few minor things. I wanted to take things slowly and get to know him as a friend first before I outright told him I had feelings for him. Soon after, he started talking to another girl and I began to lose my grip on him. I became frustrated and eventually I started to give up hope. Him and the girl (who happened to be a friend of mine) were seemingly happy. All of a sudden, she decided to call the relationship off and he was surprised, as if he didn't see it coming. She learned of my feelings for him that night and told both of us that we should try now and that she would step aside and let us be. He was confused and so was I but I did admit to him that yes, I did like him but I know he needs time to heal before he can move on. During that week or so, we became closer, started talking more. I noticed during that time, he started becoming distant and the next thing I new, he was trying to get back with the girl. She came out and told me (yet she continued to talk to him as well). I was a bit devastated that this would happen but then again, it should have been that much of a shock too. He just jumped from one to the next. I was upset at him and he told me he was very sorry for what he did. He said that I've always been there for him while we were friends and he didn't mean to hurt me. I told him that I can still be your friend but nothing more. I'm hurt and I need to get over you. And I have been trying to do so. Later, the girl finally called it quits with him afterwards and he was upset. She told me and also went on a rant saying that all she cares about is her education and she just wants to move forward in life with it. Next thing I know, she's talking to someone else and is heads over heels for him. That made him angry more than anything. During this time, I've been there for him, tried to talk to him to make him feel better. Lots of other mini-drama-related issues have occurred and I've been the one to help him. Occasionally, I asked myself, why am I still willing to help him? Do I still have feelings for him? Throughout our conversations, he asked me why do I still care about how he feels, why do I listen to him and if I ever screwed up any chance between us? I told him honestly, I still have feelings for you but with everything that has happened, things are a lot more complicated. He said he understands. He also said that if he didn't have a chance, he wanted to fly out of the country for a while and do his own thing for a little (don't worry, it's understandable and nothing extreme-lot more details but this is the basic info). If he leaves, then it ruins all chances but if he stays, then there is always a possibility. I'm just wondering, giving everything that has happened, if its a good idea. I realized afterwards that the girl isn't my friend, she is a manipulator. She realized that if she didn't want to be with him, then no one else close to her should. I realized this because they recently became close again and she decided to tell me a little afterwards. He wanted to come talk to me and tell me he was sorry but he still had feelings for her but she came out and told me he's not a good person, he's a liar and he's playing both of us. (If you called it off, then why are you still talking to him and why are you mad that he's talking to me too) Anyway, the new guy she is with now tells me he has no attachment to her, not yet at least, even though she claims to be in love. Not my business to tell her anything because I have known the guy she is with for years. But I guess my question is, should I give him a chance still?
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I don't think so, this boy sounds quite clingy and may be an emotional break up waiting to happen. But go with your heart. Im not going to tell you what t do. Best of luck xx
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