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How to open up to my best friend
Ive been going thru depression and I used to tell my best friend every thing and lately I've been so distant with her and it's been hard for me to explain how I feel.. How can I start being able to open up again? And how do I start it? And how can I say sorry for being so distant?
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Are you going to counseling or therapy of some sorts? That will help.
You can just talk to her and tell her that you've just been going through a lot and you're sorry about being distant.
You can even write a note and just let her know through that and explain that things will get better because you are seeking help for your depression.
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Definitely with nnaattalie, depression does make us intoverted, and look only within ourselves. It can shut us off to the world around us, almost completely in the darkest periods. It's partly a 'protection mechanism' that tries to help, by closing us down to any more negative influences. A sort of de-sensitisation. But of course it shuts out the good vibes too, if I might describe them as such. The difficulty explaining how you feel, or even understanding it yourself is sadly all part of depression too. Distant, detached, confused, protecting yourself from any more hurt...all part of the kit. This best friend is one of your 'get out of jail cards'. And isn't depression just like being 'locked in' too? So make the effort, whatever it takes. Say sorry by all means, but qualified with a 'please let me try and explain' dialogue. She won't be a magic 'instant-fix' of course. It might be a long hard road back. But you WILL get back. And It'll be that little bit easier with a friend, and your best friend at that, beside you. And who knows, one day you might find the roles reversed, and need to be there for her? Your clever, inbuilt human nature is directing you towards her right now, isn't it? That's why you posted the question. And it's directed you right here for a little guidance as well! Listen to that inner self, and go with it. Best wishes for a brighter new year mate.
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If this person is truly your friend they will understand. I would say just try to genuinely connect with your friend. Let them know that you're going through a tough time and that the distance you have put between each other is purely the result of your depression and nothing personal. Let them know you still care for them and hope that they will care enough to help you out.
At first, may not be easy to open up as you once did before. That's okay, it will take time to rebuild your friendship. The first step is reconnecting, and the rest will follow. Just have faith in your friend and be there for them as well.
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