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13 and scared of my period
I'm 13 and just got my period, but I do swimming 5 times a week and scared of using pads and tampons. don't want to tell my parents and im so stressed I just want it to stop I need help.
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Well you can't stop your period, it's going to come every month until you're like in your 40's. There's no reason to be afraid of it, almost every woman goes through it.
I'm not gonna lie, it's not fun. Cramps hurt, bloating sucks.
There's no reason to be afraid of using pads and tampons. I've heard of girls being afraid of using tampons but not pads. Pads don't go inside of you or anything.
Tampons will take some getting used to though, nothing to be afraid of though.
Just talk to your mom and she'll go through and explain things.
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The being scared is fear and as humans we fear changes, it makes us uncomfortable so its normal to experience fear. We also fear that which we do not understand. And the solution to that is to educate ourselves.
Of course it will feel awkward discussing something so personal the first time, but remember, mom is a female too and also has had a period for years and it is a natural thing to her.
No one is going to appreciate you missing on swimming that often if your part of a team, or doing nothing and bleeding into the water. That is a possibility of spreading germs.
So you are stuck with having to learn to use something. A tampon is going to be the best easiest to use for a beginner. You may be tight and small but you can always start with the smaller tampon and the ones in plastic applicators glide in more easily. The vagina when a female is not aroused/making love, is only about 3, 4 inches long. So you need to push it is as far as it can go becuase otherwise, I as learned as a teen, I didnt put it in far enough so about a quarter of it was really sticking out which is pretty uncomfortable. You feel it, like something is in the way when you sit or walk. If your vagina is too dry for the applicator you might want to try a personal lubricant on it like KY jelly or some other. If you're 13, you probably don't have your own money to spend on this kind of stuff so you will need to let mom know.
There are other options too for periods now but I am not sure if they are in the pharmacys or must be ordered on line but I am giving you a video that discusses them all.
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First of all there is no reason to be scared of your period. Your menstrual cycle is a natural bodily function of women, something you and you mom both share. As a shared bodily function between you and your mom there is no reason to be afraid to speak to you mom over any concerns you have with your period. Your mom knows you better than any of us who are complete strangers and can better help you with any problem or concern you may have, like this one.
With the invention of the Tampon women have been able to lead a more active lifestyle during their period. This includes the ability to swim while having their period. Prior to then you would have had to stop swimming during your period and other activities as well.
I'm sure mom knows of your love of swimming. She is probably waiting for you to come and ask her about how you can continue to swim when you are having your period. Why is mom waiting for you to come to her. Because she was once your age and remembers how embarrassed she was and doesn't want to embarrass you.
We are in different times now. We all know that your period is non sexual or not sexual which ever you prefer. It has nothing to do with sex and everything to do with reproduction which is the end result of se but not part of it.
If you want to swim during your period you are going to have to learn how to use a Tampon. Being male I can't tell you much more than that. I do know at first it may be awkward and a little painful it may even feel funny inside you. These are all things mom and you can talk about as mom's in general have a much better knowledge than a guy like me would.
So remember this is not sex. Talk with mom their is nothing to be scared about or embarrassed about.
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