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I'm Jack/Jamie.

I'm 28 years old. I graduated from Michigan State University with my Bachelor of Science in Chemistry. GO GREEN! Now I'm a high school chemistry teacher in New York City living with my husband in a small studio apartment we pay way too much money for.

I've been on this site for 14 years as of March 23, 2020.
You may have seen me as CuxMiBeckNow7, but I've since shortened my name.


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--Jack

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what are the books called that have like the really graphic descriptions of sex. like "he slowly slid his hand up her leg" ect ect

Pornographic novels, Erotica, Dirty Novels, Dirty Books, Sex Novels...

The list goes on, any of those will work.

--Jack
(17/m)

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I like to rent t.v series' at the movie store. I need some suggestions on what to start next. My favorites are The Wire, Jericho, Weeds, My Name is Earl, The Deadliest Catch. so if anyone can suggest some that are like any of those that would be great thanks!

I agree with LOST and Heroes.

Try Smallville, too. It's about Superman growing up, and it's pretty good.

Chuck might be something you would like.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Hi, i found a baby iguana on my back porch, and i want to keep him but i feel bad about it. it says that iguana parents leave the baby and never return, so i figured it is ok since he has no one to go back to. should i keep him or not? and i was wondering if i let him go will he come back (like cats) to my house or just leave and not come back?

It's possible that someone lost their pet iguana. I would make posters and put them up around your neighborhood and your town, advertising that you've found an iguana.

It could be wild, and if you don't get anyone to say it's theirs, then you'll probably never know.

Like someone said, you should go to a pet store and ask what to do with an iguana as a pet, like how to take care of it and whatnot.

--Jack
(17/m)

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hey everyone, i was just wondering if i could possibly get some opinions on something i was looking into doing. What would you think about getting white converse, regular shoe ones without the high top, and get some fabric markers (gold, silver, etc) and to get someone artistic decorate both of the shoes completely in metalic colors, with my name too. ? any ideas, or opinions appreciated

My friend Rachael actually does this type of stuff.

If you get a friend to do it for you, make sure to pay them, or take them out to lunch or something to show you appreciate them. =]

I definitely think you should do it.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Is there a good way to lose weight in the face and neck? cuz I have a really chubby face and neck. any advice?

chubby cheeks 21/f

What darkside said may or may not work.

But, I would think that if you found ways to stretch out your neck and your cheeks, it might change the fat to muscle.

So if you roll your head in circles [slowly], you would stretch your neck muscles.

And for your cheeks, if you really open your mouth wide when you talk, it may be weird, but it will get them stretching and whatnot.

--Jack
(17/m)

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Me and my boyfriend have been together 7 months. I'm 15 and he's 16.
And you know them kinda like 'promise rings' guys would give to their girlfriends? Well, I was thinking I could get my boyfriend something similar for our 1 year (I know its quite far away but I do need to save up some money xD). So, I know he wouldn't wear a ring even if I got him one. So is there anything cute like a 'promise ring' I could get him?
He wears necklaces sometimes, he dresses kinda indie-ish I guess, skinny jeans etc. but apart from that he don't really wear jewelry. So I'm not sure what I could get that would go with his style..
Any suggestions?
Thanks :)

You very well could get him a necklace, or maybe a ring. I know you said he doesn't wear jewelry, but I was the same way until I got my class ring, which is important to me. If the "promise ring" idea is important to him, he might wear a ring, as long as it's a male ring, and not a female ring.

But, I haven't really heard of a guy wearing a promise ring. If he wears necklaces sometimes, maybe you could put the ring on the end of a chain?

If you don't want to get him something concrete, you could write him a "promise poem" or take him on a "promise picnic". I know it sounds lame, but if you make the promise, it doesn't matter if there's a ring to represent it or not.

--Jack
(17/m)

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okay i have a couple questions:
15f almost 16:
1. how do you know when you have had an orgasm? im not sexually active but i masterbate; and i feel like i have had an orgasm but im not sure.

2. is it normal when you are masterbating, to get to a point where you feel amazing and then your vagina pulses and then shortly after you feel like you were fufilled and done with masterbating?

If you're reaching a point where you are "fulfilled", then you may have reached orgasm.

But it's hard for most girls to reach it, especially at your age.

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--Jack
(17/m)

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does the term "mutual masturbation" usually refer to both people doing it to each other at the same time or to themselves side by side?

It can be both, but it usually is the first option, where they "help" each other out.

--Jack
(17/m)

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when you're giving a guy a hand job, do you use your other hand to cover the tip when he ejaculates? what do you do to not get it everywhere?

You should probably use a condom, like LM said.

It will catch the ejaculate.

--Jack
(17/m)

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PLEASE HELP
i need to watch episode 7 and 8 of season 7 on degrassi, their called "we got the beat" and "jesse's girl"
online in usa free please

I was going to give surfthechannel.com.

If that doesn't work, try hulu.com, but that really only has recent stuff.

Maybe try the-n.com because they might have it up.

--Jack
(17/m)

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16/f

Does junior yr in highschool fly by quick? Or does it take longer to get through?

It went by super quick for me.

But you'll most likely have to take the ACT, which might make it seem longer.

But it went by quickly for me, so you should try to enjoy it while it lasts, and keep up your grades =].

--Jack
(17/m)

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so every year for a trip i make a new pillow case.
i take a white pillow case and draw on it with sharpie, they come out really cool. i put all these love quotes on it with my name in the middle last year. and the year before that, i put song lyrics on it.
any ideas?!

You could put short poems or haikus?

Those would be a lot of fun.

What about sayings or things that go on Fortune cookies or something?

Send me an inbox question if you want specific suggestions. =]

--Jack
(17/m)

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do u have ur belly button periced

Do I have my belly button pierced?

Heck no! That's gross.

Plus, I'm a guy, and guys don't normally do that.

--Jack
(17/m)

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me: 14/F
him: 15/M

Okay. So I'm like super nervous to hang out with this boy. Here's what happened. I met him a few months ago and we swapped numbers, yadayadayada. Anyway, for like a month we just didn't text, and then a few weeks ago we started again, I don't know, we just did. Well, we really got to know eachother for the first time because I never see him (he is a year older and goes to a diferent school) and well, I think I really like him. He started to call me and we would talk on the phone at night, and then he asked me on a date... And I said yes.

Well now here's the tricky part. See, first off, he IS a year older, and quite a bit more experienced than me. He has made out, and I've never even been kissed. He wants to kiss on our date, but, well I just don't know... Also, I am totally scared that it is going to be so awkward. Because, I can't really remember very wonderfully what he looks like. I could recognize him if I saw him (I think!?), but I don't know if he remembers me that well. He says he does, but what if he doesn't? What if he thinks I'm like super ugly and stuff? Plus, since this is pretty much our first time meeting in person, I just think it is going to be so awkward...

Any advice? Tips? Something to calm me down? Kissing tips would be great, advice on how to make the date less awkward or what to do on a first date because I am SOOO new at this... Plus, what do I do if I he starts moving too fast? Help!?

PS: We are going to see a movie if that helps

Seeing a movie will take a lot of the pressure off of you to kiss and whatnot, even though people like to make out at the movies or whatever.

Anyway. So what if he thinks you're ugly. He likes your personality enough to go on a date with you, so I think that should matter for something.

Your first time meeting in person will only be awkward if you make it awkward. So don't. It's as simple as that.

Something to calm you down? Just go with the flow. Be yourself, and don't change yourself to impress him. He already likes you, at least it seems that way, so just act like you normally do.

Kissing tips? I have a lot from a previous question found here: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=542507. But, my main advice is to go with the flow and don't shove your tongue down their throat because it's uncomfortable for the other person.

If he starts "moving too fast?" Well, talk to him and tell him what you're comfortable with, and let him know you'll tell him if things are too fast for you. He should be understanding since you're not experienced with kissing or anything. But definitely don't do anything you aren't comfortable with.

Best of luck!

--Jack
(17/m)

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what does it mean when a guy calls a girl really "cool"? does it just mean cool as in "hanging out", as friends?

"Cool" means that the guy either just really enjoys being around you, or he may like you.

Guys develop crushes so easily. If he talks to you a lot, that's a starting sign that he might like you.

But as for now, I would just take it as that he likes to be around you.

--Jack
(17/m)

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For my tattoo, I'd like piano keys across my shoulders and a quote either above or below them. So far I found two beautiful quotes. Shakespeare's "If music is the food of love; play on." and Henry Ward Beecher's "Of all the music that reached farthest into heaven, 'twas the beating of a loving heart." Both have music and love, which is what I wanted since I am in love and love playing piano, but I just cannot pick!

I like the first one, because for one, it's shorter, and two, it makes more sense than the second one.

Plus, Shakespeare is more known than Beecher.

--Jack
(17/m)

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When performing foreplay with the clothes on, can you get pregnant??

The only way to become pregnant is if sperm enters the vagina, by getting near it, or actually inside of it.

If that doesn't happen, then you can't get pregnant.

If he touches sperm and fingers you, or you do that, then you risk pregnancy.

--Jack
(17/m)

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This is driving me insane. The guilt is unbarable. I knew it was wrong and I did it anyways. The worst part about it is I can't stop. I tell myself I'm going to, then I find myself doing it again. I'm scared to get help. I mean, if they knew what I was doing, I thought they'd be able to keep it secret. I can't tell anyone. Instead I just wanna die. My secret will come with me, and I'll never have to worry about doing THAT again. Should I die? I'll at least see my mom...

No you shouldn't die. I don't know what your secret is, but nothing is so bad that you have to kill yourself.

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

I'm sure if you talk with a friend or a counselor, you could work out your problem. Everyone has problems and secrets; it's part of life.

--Jack
(17/m)

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why do dogs lick people?

Dogs and cats lick people because our skin is salty and they like the taste.

They also lick you if they really like you, because my pets lick me all the time. =]

And it's also a way of remembering who you are, if they remember the taste, smell, and sight of you.

--Jack
(17/m)

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hey you answered my question about how i've been hanging out with my ex ..okay so i'm going away on vacation to ocean city august 7th-11th (aug 11th 2008 was the day we started dating so it would be our 1 year, just throwing that out there) and i asked him if he wanted to hang out august 7th and he said yes and marked it on his calender, so hes free those days. i want to invite him to go with me but i don't really know how to bring it up...i also don't know if i should find out if he wants to start the relationship before i ask him to go on vacation or during vacation. and how should i go about asking him? i don't wanna come on too strong to be desperate you know? thanks lotss.

Tell him everything you just told me.

That's the best way to do it and to ask him to come. The more direct, but not like with force (if you understand), you are, the less desperate you'll come off.

Just ask him.

Thanks for inboxing me.

--Jack
(17/m)

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